Books I recommend – November 2015

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Once a month we share what we’ve been reading for What’s on Your Nightstand. Here are the books I recommend from my November reading.

BOOKS I RECOMMEND

1. Go Set a Watchman
by Harper Lee

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I didn’t enjoy this novel as much as To Kill a Mockingbird (I did a quick reread last month). This one starts with Scout at 26 years old returning to Maycomb to visit Atticus. It was too heavy in philosophical and confusing conversations for me, much through the words of Dr. Finch (Uncle Jack), and too light in plot (although it had great potential). Then it was over before it ended.

But still. It’s worth reading.

Uncle Jack: “Remember this also: it’s always easy to look back and see what we were, yesterday, ten years ago. It is hard to see what we are. If you can master that trick, you’ll get along.”

2. True Worshipers
Seeking What Matters to God
by Bob Kauflin

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My book review here

A very encouraging book about worshipping God, approached from many different angles. Bob Kauflin writes clearly and passionately with a God-honoring attitude throughout. It’s not all about singing either, although if you’re interested in hearing more about worship and singing, chapter 7 is excellent in answering questions about singing styles and song choices, etc.

3. Accidental Saints
Finding God in All the Wrong People
by Nadia Bolz-Weber

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My book review here

This isn’t for everyone. But if you like to think about how God works in unconventional people (and well, isn’t that all of us to some degree?), this book will give you many examples of real-life people who’ve come to know God outside of our traditional venues.

4. Permission Granted
Take the Bible into Your Own Hands
by Jennifer Grace Bird

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Another book that isn’t for everyone. But if you find it beneficial to question yourself from time to time about why you interpret scripture a certain way, this book is for you. The author isn’t pushy; she’s not trying to convince you to come to her way of thinking, but she does encourage you to think for yourself and at least hold space open for new thoughts.

5. The Time Paradox
The New Psychology of Time That Will Change Your Life
by Philip G. Zimbardo, John Boyd

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Everybody has a personal time zone, an internal time perspective that you live by, usually unconsciously:

  • Past-negative
  • Past-positive
  • Present-fatalistic
  • Present-hedonistic
  • Future
  • Franscendental-future.

Drs. Zimbardo and Boyd share years of research on the optimal blend of time perspective that leads to the most contented lives. I read this book 7 years ago (my original book review here), but reread it for my year of Now, and it’s just as intriguing the second time around. Excellent!

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What are you reading this month? Please share here.

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This homeless man believes. Can you believe, too?

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Now his eyes are really lighting up.

Lunch is almost over, served by beautiful Methodists who volunteer for this rotation spot in November every year. The line is tapering off, mainly only stragglers remain, stuffing extra hot dogs in their backpacks or in plastic bags for their afternoon back on the road.

Susan has finished eating. She is waiting on Cowboy to walk together back to their tent.

But Cowboy is still talking. We’ve been chatting for several minutes about this, about that.

Yet now it’s taking a turn. I can feel it. I lean in closer for what’s about to come.

Cowboy takes me back to 2004. He didn’t know where to go next, so he prays to God and flips a coin. Heads: he goes to Huntsville. Tails: he goes to Gadsden. (Thank you, God, for heads.)

As we stand here together now as friends for several years, I listen to more of what Cowboy tells me.

What Cowboy tells me is how good God has been and how God continues to guide him. 

Really?

I know chunks of Cowboy’s story. I know after living homeless in Huntsville for several years, he and Susan finally got into housing a year ago, praise God.

But I also know they’re now homeless again after a guest spent the night in their apartment with a pet, a non-negotiable in their housing complex.

Yet Cowboy keeps smiling today and tells me more about God.

With excitement, he says this is next: he’s going to build a chapel in the camp. His homeless camp. The one that’s called the jungle because it’s so rough.

He says he’s learned to be careful about what he asks because he knows God will answer. God always has given him what he wants, he says, this man who lives homeless in the jungle.

And he’s asking God to help him build a chapel to minister to others who live alongside him.

His chapel will be outlined with the slats of pallets that make their way into homeless camps. He has strips of red carpet to use on the inside. He wants to build a pulpit. He’s already picked out the site.

You really see all this, Cowboy?

Yes, he tells me, he really does.

So I believe him. Because I know he’s right: God is that big.

Cowboy has purpose. His life has meaning. And because of that, he puts up with more inconveniences and discomforts than I can ever, ever, ever imagine.

And he continues to dream and plan and minister, right where he is, just as he is, disabilities and handicaps and limitations included.

What about us? When we believe there is meaning behind it, aren’t we more content, too? Even when things don’t go our way, don’t we keep moving forward if we’re on a mission? When we believe there is purpose, don’t we trust God to overcome the barriers?

We do when we believe. If we believe.

Believe that each of our lives has meaning. That God wastes nothing.

  • No experience is wasted.
  • No pain is wasted.
  • No connection is wasted.

And not a single person is wasted.

God knows how to use it all. He can place every piece together to create something fruitful, something to help us love each other better.

That’s what Cowboy is doing.

He’s taking the raw materials he’s found and the skills he’s honed and the faith he’s grown, and he’s dedicating them to God for a higher purpose: to love other people.

It’s the grand purpose for each of us: To embrace the love God gives us, and lavish it back on others. Whatever our circumstances. In plenty or hunger. In abundance or need. It’s living proof of the truth of Philippians 4:11-13.

We just need to believe.

  • Believe there is purpose.
  • Believe there is good.
  • Believe there is God.

If Cowboy can do it, so can we.

Thank you, Cowboy. My time with you is never wasted.

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Who is teaching you contentment? Who shows you real faith? Please share in the comments.

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Accidental Saints by Nadia Bolz-Weber {Book review}

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I wonder if Ann Voskamp and Nadia Bolz-Weber have ever met.

Because they meet in my world. I wonder if their two books fight it out each night on my nightstand.

Reading Voskamp’s One Thousand Gifts at the same time as Bolz-Weber’s Accidental Saints: Finding God in All the Wrong People is tricky. One is a homeschooling, pig farming mom with six kids in Canada. The other is a Lutheran pastor who ministers to drug addicts and prostitutes in Denver. One writes with flowery, poetic words, and the other is as raw as a sailor.

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But I think they would be friends in real life.

Because they both preach the same message: Believe that God is good and that you are loved. They’ve seen it, experienced it, and now share it with others.

I finished both books last week. One Thousand Gifts was a re-read for a group study I’m participating in. But Accidental Saints was new to me (although Bolz-Weber is not—she also authored Pastrix).

Accidental Saints is a mix of contemporary stories and Bible stories to help us see that we’re all more alike than we are different, a mix of good and bad, but a beautiful family in God nonetheless.

God uses all of his adopted children. We are all broken. All lame. Like the name of the church Nadia pastors, we all belong to the House for All Sinners and Saints.

“In the kingdom of God, we need not cultivate a persona to hide the lame, poor, blind, or crippled parts of us. The unflattering photos. The parts that have nothing to offer, that must rely on others for help.

In other words, the uncool parts of us are exactly what Jesus invites to sit and eat around his table.”

So Bolz-Weber doesn’t clean things up to show us only her good side. While I might prefer more editing on her word choices, they don’t deter me from her truths. She may not look or sound like our preachers, but she’s able to reach and love people that we can’t reach, with our untatted arms and our proper dialects.

“Never once did Jesus scan the room for the best example of holy living and send that person out to tell others about him. He always sent stumblers and sinners. I find that comforting.”

For those who say, Why, I never! about Bolz-Weber, I say others say that about us, too, for different reasons. We just tune it out. Whoever feels holy enough to cast the first stone, go ahead. But I don’t.

“Wanting to get at this idea that God meets us first under the oak tree, when our feet are dirty, not just after we have managed to clean them up, House for All Sinners and Saints has the practice of both foot washing and bleach kit assembly on Maundy Thursday. We sing ‘Take, O, Take Me As I Am’ as we assemble bleach, tourniquets, and condoms into kits for outreach workers, through an underground needle exchange program, to hand to IV drug users on the streets of Denver. This is not a quaint ‘service project.’ It is a radical statement that we believe in grace.

I love hearing about the good that God is doing through Bolz-Weber and the people she pastors. They take their faith seriously.

And they take it outside their walls to where pain is and where healing is needed and where many “church people” are afraid to go.

“We were continuing a practice started on our first Good Friday together where, after the liturgy, we gather together at a site where an act of brutal violence had taken place in our city and there we pray and lay down tulips, tulips that had been handed to those entering our Good Friday liturgy a couple of hours earlier. …We bring the holy things of the church onto the holy streets of the city because on some level, the violence and despair of Good Friday is still a human reality.”

As she states over and over in her book, she doesn’t do love perfectly. Who does? But to seek to do it with intention and with grace is admirable.

It’s my practice to welcome new people to the church by making sure they know that House for all Sinners and Saints will, at some point, let them down. That I will say or do something stupid and disappoint them. And then I encourage them to decide before that happens if they will stick around after it happens. If they leave, I tell them, they will miss the way that God’s grace comes in and fills in the cracks left behind by our brokenness. And that’s too beautiful to miss.”

Like Ann in her poetic writings, Nadia shows us in her blunt writings that if God can work through her weaknesses, let him work through ours, too. In all things, let’s thank him for what he’s doing.

Then we become something that can bear light, the brightness of which is not diminished, even when divided and borrowed.”

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Have you ever met an “accidental saint,” someone you least expected to see Christ in? Haven’t we all been that person? Please share in the comments.

My thanks to Blogging for Books
for the review copy of Accidental Saints


Who are you avoiding?

One more conversation

It’s raining, so we stay inside.

We wait for others to trickle into Manna House on the first Saturday morning of each month for Outdoor Church.

Walter’s feet hurt. He pulls up a folding chair, and I sit in one nearby. We’ve known each other for over three years now, but much of his life is still a mystery to me.

I ask him if he has children. Yes, he says. But he doesn’t see them much, even though they live fairly close. He’s tried calling—over and over—but they rarely want to talk.

Walter doesn’t have a car so he can’t drive to their homes (although he is quite proud of his bicycle).

Although I lack details, I assume his past damaged his relationship with the kids, the family.

I didn’t know him back then. I don’t know if he was a good father, a bad father, or even a father at all to his kids when they were growing up.

All I know is now.

And what I see now is a dad who wants to talk to his children.

I wish we all could talk to each other.

We probably all have silent relationships somewhere. Relationships that perhaps once were full. Close. Caring.

But through time or distance or weakness or pride or circumstances, the conversations either gradually faded away or abruptly stopped all at once.

The silence that remains reaches deep. The avoidance weighs heavy.

I wonder if death will take Walter before he can reunite with his kids. I pray not. I hope he still has enough years left—and that his kids have enough heart left—to repair their broken relationship.

Because all relationships—even cracked ones, even ones separated by death—are eternal.

  • Who aren’t we talking to while we still have breath?
  • Who do we need to forgive?
  • Who do we need to ask forgiveness from?

Do we have it in us to say hello?

“If you’ve got it in you, get along with everybody” (Romans 12:18, The Message).

If we could have one more conversation with the person we’re avoiding, what would we say?
Can we try?
Will we?

[Click here if you can’t see the Adele video, “Hello”]

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Do you have a relationship you’d like to repair before it’s too late? Please share in the comments.

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What do true worshipers do?

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You’re a worshiper. I’m a worshiper.

There’s no question about that. The questions are:

  • What are we worshiping?
  • What kind of worshipers are we?
  • What worship matters to God?

TRUE WORSHIPERS MATTER

Bob Kauflin addresses these concerns in his new book, True Worshipers: Seeking What Matters to God.

“The worship of God matters. . . . There is nothing more foundational to our relationship with God and to our lives as Christians.”

I’ve been following Kauflin’s work for several years, so I know he’s the real deal. He’s a pastor, worship leader, blogger at WorshipMatters, and director of Sovereign Grace Music. And he’s now the author of two wonderful books.

I recommend his first book Worship Matters for growing in your personal worship of God.

And now I also recommend this second book, True Worshiperswhere Kauflin lays out why our worship matters to God—and why it matters to us.

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TRUE WORSHIPERS RECEIVE

Kauflin starts off strong: “It takes God to worship God.”

Our first responsibility as Christians is not to give to God but to receive from him. . . .when it comes to being a true worshiper, receiving from God is our calling from first to last.”

God both invites us and enables us to worship him. Worship is our response to his initiative.

“We come to God by grace or we don’t come at all. We come by receiving a gift, not by doing a deed. We don’t create worship; we respond to what we’ve received in Jesus Christ—eternal life.”

TRUE WORSHIPERS EXALT

True worship requires humility on our part. Without it, our worship takes a wrong turn, exalting things other than God as we seek our own satisfaction elsewhere, i.e., idolatry

Exalting God shows that we remember he exists, and that we value him.

When we love something, we attach worth to it. We’re saying to others, ‘This is worthy of my thoughts, time, labors, and affections.’ Loving God persuades others that God is desirable, good, and satisfying. Loving God is distinct from loving things about God. It’s the difference between Bible knowledge that leads to pride and that which leads to praise.”

TRUE WORSHIPERS GATHER

While, yes, we can (and should!) worship God when we’re home alone (and at work, at play), there’s something unique about gathering with family to worship God together.

Kauflin enumerates these benefits we receive when we worship in community:

  • Remembering and rehearsing the gospel
  • Receiving God’s Word together
  • Mutual serving and caring
  • A greater awareness of God’s presence
  • Demonstrating our unity in the gospel
  • Sharing the sacraments
  • A greater display of God’s glory

Kauflin goes on to explain more actions that true worshipers do: They edify, sing, encounter God, and anticipate eternity. To be counted among the worshipers of God, “there can be no higher purpose . . . and there can be no greater joy.”

May we each be numbered among that group of true worshipers.

MORE QUOTES

“The critical question is not Do I have a voice? but Do I have a song?”

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“Worship is a gift we receive before it’s a task we perform.”

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“It brings no glory to God if we claim deep affection for God while harboring ill will toward people.”

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“It should be clear by now that if we haven’t come to receive, we won’t have anything to give. This isn’t self-centered Christianity. It’s acknowledging that we have no resources in ourselves, and that from him, through him, and to him are all things (Rom. 11:35–36).”

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“We meet together as redeemed saints to remind each other whose we are, how we got here, and why it matters.”

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“There’s no context or group on earth quite like the gathering of God’s people. God has uniquely designed the church for true worshipers to experience, enjoy, and be edified by their common life in Christ. Every time we meet, God is eager and able to do more than we can ask or think according to the power at work within us (Eph. 3:20). There are no normal Sundays.

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Your thoughts on worship?

My thanks to Crossway
for the review copy of this book