Even This Will Change {Mantra 2}

Do you wish this moment would never end?

How about the next one?

There are some things I’d like to keep the same forever. But other things? I can’t wait for them to be over and done with, never to arrive again.

But regardless of whether I like or dislike the events of any particular hour or season, one thing is certain: they will change.

Even this will change.

Even this will change

The only thing that won’t change is God.

But even though God is unchangeable, my thoughts about God change.

What I think about God won’t be the same tomorrow as it is today. Hopefully I’ll continue to grow and learn more accurately about who God is. Our view of God when we were 5 years old was simplistic compared to when we turned 25, or 50, on and on.

But ourselves? We change. We won’t be exactly the same person tomorrow that we are today.

Our relationships? They change. Our circumstances? They change.

  • Notice the passing.
  • Accept the impermanence.
  • Appreciate little beginnings and endings every day.

You are on Day #2 of the series: “Find Your Mantra {28 Daily Mantras}”

Do you like change, or are you resistant to it? For me, it depends on what the change is. Please share in the comments.

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Just Show Up {Mantra 1}

This is one of my most tried-and-true mantras:

Just show up.

Never underestimate the power of your presence.

Telling myself all I need to do it “just show up” gives me just enough courage to put my body where it needs to be. Even if I feel ill-equipped to handle what I’m walking into, if I’ll just get myself there, I trust I’ll figure out the next step once I’m there.

  • When you are lacking in skills, still show up.
  • When you think you’re empty, show up anyway.
  • When you feel unprepared, just show up.  

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Putting your body where you want it to be has great power.

But showing up in mind and heart is also critical, wherever we are, whoever we’re with. Show up with your attention, with your compassion, with your love.

We don’t have to show up with the answers; just show up with ourselves.


You are on Day #1 of the series: “Find Your Mantra {28 Daily Mantras}”

Are you prone to not go if you don’t know what’s ahead? What prompts you to just show up anyway? Share in the comments.

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Introduction to the series

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On the Blog—January 2022

Here are brief summaries and links to posts on the blog, Lisa notes, in January 2022.

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10 Books I Recommend—January 2022

Think before you speak. Read before you think.
– Fran Lebowitz

Here are 10 books I recommend from what I finished reading in January.

[See previously recommended books here]

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Nonfiction

1. The Wisdom of Your Body
Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection Through Embodied Living
by Hillary L. McBride

The Wisdom of Your Body

If you fight with your body, this book can help break it up. Making peace with how we’re made heals us from the inside out. A ground-breaking book. 

[my review here of The Wisdom of Your Body]

2. Somebody’s Daughter
by Ashley C. Ford

Somebody's Daughter

Ashley’s father was sent to prison when she was a young girl. For years she wasn’t told why. But as she grew older, she was disturbed by what she discovered. This well-written and moving memoir takes you through Ashley’s relationship with her father and with her mother and life along the way.

3. Making Numbers Count
The Art and Science of Communicating Numbers
by Chip Heath and Karla Starr

Making Numbers Count

Chip Heath is one of my favorite authors because whatever topic he writes about, it’s guaranteed to be fascinating. 

This time it’s a very interesting look at our human relationship with numbers. How we can make it better. How we can better convey numbers to each other. How to make numbers more meaningful.

For example, I read this morning that astronauts in space lose 3 million red blood cells per second. Crazy! Until I read that even on earth we each lose 2 million red blood cells per second. The 3 million still sounds absurd, but put in context with the norm, it’s a little different.

This book is full of those type examples that you’ll never see the same again.

[my review here of Making Numbers Count]

4. Grieving Mindfully
A Compassionate and Spiritual Guide to Coping with Loss
by Sameet M. Kumar

Grieving Mindfully

Dealing with loss is a difficult journey. But finding meaning through it can guide you to healing.

“Grief is the transformation of feeling love into feeling loss. It is neither punishment nor weakness. It is the mystery of suffering—that being in pain ourselves can cause us to increase our love and compassion for others.”

“Your main task in acute grief is simply to feel, with radical acceptance, what you are feeling.”

5. The Divine Dance
The Trinity and Your Transformation
by Richard Rohr

The Divine Dance

Even though the Trinity can feel like a total mystery, there are certain things we can learn by studying it. One of the great takeaways for me in this book is more clearly understanding our invitation into the divine relationship between Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. And the divine relationship we can have between each other.

6. Love for Imperfect Things
How to Accept Yourself in a World Striving for Perfection
by Haemin Sunim

Love for Imperfect Things

This book is full of beautiful vignettes of life’s wisdom for compassion toward others and compassion toward ourselves.

“Sometimes we want to be told ‘I need you’ more than we do ‘I love you,’ because we want to feel that our lives have a purpose. So, be brave and say honestly, ‘I need you.'”

“Because I have experienced pain, I am able to embrace the pain of others. Because I have made mistakes, I am able to forgive others their mistakes. May my suffering become the seed of compassion.”

7. Constructive Wallowing
How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them
by Tina Gilbertson

Constructive Wallowing

While you, like me, may have often been told not to wallow in your emotions, this book says that if we’ll just feel our feelings when they arise (not necessarily act on them), they serve their purpose and move on. I found the information here very enlightening and helpful.

“Wallowing doesn’t mean you’re making yourself feel bad, or worse than you already do. It just means you’re consciously letting your emotions be exactly what they are, instead of minimizing them or pretending they’re not there when they SO are.”

“Contrary to popular opinion, the people who look like they’re holding it together are often the ones who’ve fallen apart.”

8. More Beautiful Than Before
How Suffering Transforms Us
by Steve Leder

More Beautiful Than Before

We all experience suffering. It may look different on each person. Rabbi Leder writes of the pain he’s felt and has witnessed in others. He uses it to draw meaning from suffering.

“Change, “It will never go away” to “It waxes and wanes.” “It will ruin my life” to “My life can still be full of purpose and meaning.” “I have nothing to look forward to” to “There is a lot I can still do and new things I will do that I have never done before. “I will never be happy again” to “There will be many things in the future that will bring me joy.” Live with faith in the future and in yourself—one hour at a time.”

“The most important things are said with the fewest words. I love you. I’m here. No. Yes. It’s a deal. He’s gone. It’s a girl. I was wrong.”

Fiction

9. How to Stop Time
by Matt Haig

How to Stop Time

This isn’t a time travel book per se, but it spans one person’s lifetime across many normal lifespans. It’s an intriguing premise done well. I don’t want to spoil it so that’s all I’ll say.

10. Wish You Were Here
by Jodi Picoult

Wish You Were Here

This novel hits close to home. It was written during and its setting is our current pandemic. The main character Diana is planning to travel abroad with her surgical resident boyfriend when the virus comes to New York City. The book takes a major plot twist halfway in. Very interesting.

Reading Now

  • Jesus and John Wayne
    How White Evangelicals Corrupted a Faith and Fractured a Nation
    by Kristin Kobes du Mez
  • Atlas of the Heart
    Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience
    by Brené Brown
  • All the White Friends I Couldn’t Keep
    Hope—And Hard Pills to Swallow—About Fighting for Black Lives
    by Andre Henry
  • The Book of Joy
    Lasting Happiness in a Changing World
    by the Dalai Lama XIV and Desmond Tutu
  • Good Enough
    40ish Devotionals for a Life of Imperfection
    by Kate Bowler
  • The Grieving Brain
    The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss
    by Mary-Frances O’Connor
  • Wholehearted Faith
    by Rachel Held Evans with Jeff Chu
  • Fall in Love, Have Children, Stay Put, Save the Planet, Be Happy
    by Frank Schaeffer

What good book are YOU reading this month? Please share in the comments.

MORE READING

More books I recommend


Find Your Mantra {28 Daily Mantras}…Table of Contents

Looking for a mantra to anchor your day? Here are 28 daily mantras in this Table of Contents.

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Introduction to the Series 

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Day 1: Just show up
Never underestimate the power of your presence. Telling yourself to “just show up” can give you enough courage to put your body where it needs to be.

Day 2: Even this will change 
Don’t get too settled here with the way things are, whether good or bad. Even this will change.

Day 3: See Everything. Forgive Much. Judge Little. 
Everyone deserves to be seen, and to be given grace, because none of us knows the other’s full story. 

Day 4: That’s interesting. Tell me more. 
When you get stuck in a conversation, practice saying, “That’s interesting. Tell me more.”

Day 5: Bad things happen to everyone. So do good things. 
Do you think bad things happen only to you? They happen to everyone. But so do good things.

Day 6: I don’t know
Unless we can say “I don’t know” more often, we may never know. There’s always more we don’t know than what we do know.

Day 7: Empathize with the hurt 
Empathize with the hurt that needs healing. Sometimes that’s what matters most.

Day 8: Tell something personal 
Sharing something personal can foster humility and bring us closer together.

Day 9: It is what it is 
Accepting “it is what it is” can better position us to receive healing and to grow forward. 

Day 10: Is it true? Is it helpful? Is it kind? 
Do your words pass this test: true, helpful, kind? Without these, your words may just be noise.

Day 11: Take one step 
Sometimes taking just one step is enough for now. What one step can you take today?

Day 12: Presume goodwill 
When possible, give each other the benefit of the doubt. Presume goodwill. It’s better for everyone.

Day 13: Focus on the highest good 
What is your ultimate goal for today? Focus on the highest good, not just the practical surface goal.

Day 14: You don’t have to finish today 
Give yourself permission to stop for the day if your project isn’t time-sensitive. You don’t have to finish today.

Day 15: Oh, well. So what? 
Do we have to take everything so seriously? Maybe we should say more often, “Oh, well. So what?”

Day 16: Make the memories good 
Today’s experiences become tomorrow’s memories. As much as it depends on you, make the memories good.

Day 17: Don’t believe everything you think 
Listen to what you say to yourself. But don’t believe everything you think.

Day 18: This is not the end
Life never truly ends. It just changes into something else. This is not the end.

Day 19: You are never alone
The presence of another person (and of God) is a true gift. You are never alone.

Day 20: The greatest of these is love 
Faith and hope are things within us. But love is something we give outside us. The greatest of these is love.

Day 21: Say yes to this moment 
The small individual moments are actually the biggest moments of all. Say yes to this moment.

Day 22: Love matters more
Love no matter where. Love no matter how. Love no matter what. Love matters more.

Day 23: Whatever happens, we’ll handle it
We’ll never be abandoned without resources of some sort. Depend on that. Whatever happens, we’ll handle it.

Day 24: They don’t have to understand
We will be misunderstood. If we let it, it can be an opportunity to grow in humility. They don’t have to understand.

Day 25: Why do you ask?
Instead of giving an answer, sometimes the best response to a question is: “Why do you ask?”

Day 26: Let go or be dragged   
Learn when it’s time to release. Learn what it’s time to release. 

Day 27: End well 
If you want to make the memory good, aim to end well.

Day 28: This. Here. Now. 
It’s good to use our imaginations. But it’s also important to stay grounded in this, here, now.


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What If Your Word of the Year Isn’t Working?
—Grace & Truth Linkup

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Should I Have Chosen This Word?

What if your One Word seems to backfire?

Have you ever felt that your life leaped out of control with your word instead of becoming more peaceful and calming?

After choosing Breath in 2010 as my One Word, my father was diagnosed with lung cancer. And died by Valentine’s Day.

Then seven months later in the same year, after several years with Alzheimer’s already, my mother also took her last breath and joined my dad in Heaven.

I wasn’t sure I should have chosen Breath.

Seeing both my parents lose their capacity to breathe in the same year felt like too much.

Featured Post—Word of the Year Dilemma

Maybe that’s why Lauren’s honesty really resonates with me this week as our featured post.

Lauren chose Trust in 2021. While she gleaned much from it and grew in her relationship with God through it, she also wondered if she learned her lessons from it.

But is still wondering about our word maybe the sign of a good one?

Our words are often signposts pointing us to our need for more of God, more of love.

At the end of every year, I make a list of things I learned from my words. From Breath I learned that inhales and exhales work best in balance, and to not take even breathing for granted.

Yet I also learn at the end of each year I have more questions about my word (and maybe about life) than when I began.

Maybe that’s how God is growing us.

The more we know, the more we realize we don’t know. And the more we want to know. About life and beauty and goodness and God.

I don’t regret that I chose Breath in 2010. It left me hungry for more Spirit.

As I wrestle with Release as my word this year, I have a strong hunch I’ll see it differently in December than I see it now in January.

At least that’s what I hope.

Read all of Lauren’s post at her blog, then add your own blog links below.

“WORD OF THE YEAR DILEMMA”


If you feel like your word may not be prompting change yet, hold on. The year is just beginning. God still has a lot of time left with it. 

I’m starting a #Write28Days series on Tuesday, February 1: Find Your Mantra {28 Daily Mantras}. But I’m realizing I don’t even have a mantra for my word RELEASE. Hmm…if you have any ideas, pass them along! I do have a verse though: “God arms me with strength. His perfect way sets me free.” 2 Samuel 22:33 (GW)

For Lauren’s new 2022 word REST, I’d offer the mantra I’ll share on February 14 (and one of my personal favorites): “You don’t have to finish today.” I find much freedom (and rest) in the reminder I don’t have to get everything done today. It’s okay.

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