9 Enneagram Types with 9 Fears and Desires {Enneagram Series #3}

Discover the nine types of the Enneagram, including the nine core fears and core desires associated with each type.

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Welcome to this series on how to practice the Enneagram for spiritual growth. Find the series introduction and index here.

  • Every Monday-Friday in February—a different aspect of the Enneagram and a spiritual exercise to practice
  • Every Saturday—a summary
  • Every Sunday—a quote graphic

Below are the nine Enneagram numbers or types. (Note: “numbers” and “types” are used interchangeably when talking about the Enneagram).

Included also are brief descriptions of the core fears and core desires associated with each number (more later in the series).

As the series progresses, discover which number best fits you. Then you can tap into the spiritual growth track that suits you best.

More Than a Number

The Enneagram (pronounced ANY-a-gram) includes nine basic personality types. But that doesn’t mean there are only nine types of people in the world. God made no two people exactly alike.

But we’re not all totally different either. We have more in common with some people than we do with others. Some think or feel or act more like we do than others.

Two general guidelines when working with the Enneagram:

1. No one IS a number.

We identify with the traits of a number, but we aren’t a number. Even though we say it this way as shorthand—“I’m a 5 or she’s a 2”—no one is a number.

To be more accurate, we’d say, “I identify most with the Fives, and she identifies most with the Twos. But frankly, that’s too wordy so we shorten it to, “I’m a 5, and she’s a 2. 

Just keep it in mind. We don’t want to become a label or put one on anybody else.

2. You include ALL the numbers.

And secondly, nobody is a 100% pure type. Even if a type’s description seems to totally capture your personality, you are still more than that one type.

We identify most closely with one type. But we contain traits of ALL nine types. We’re a whole person, not 1/9 of a person. We lean heaviest in certain directions, which is our dominant number, but all the types are in us.

Nine Enneagram Types with Fears and Desires

As you read through each name, remember this:

The Enneagram is about WHY you do what you do, not just WHAT you do.

Ask yourself:

  • Are there any numbers I automatically rule out?
  • Which two or three numbers best fit me?
  • More importantly, which numbers describe my inner motivations for my behaviors? Look at the core fears and core desires.

The following labels, fears, and desires are combined from multiple sources (including Your Enneagram Coach) to give you a fuller picture of each type. Read tomorrow’s post #4 for complete descriptions of each type.

Type 1—Perfectionist

Other Names: Reformer. Improver. Moral Perfectionist. Machine.
Core Fear: Being wrong, bad, inappropriate, imperfect
Core Desire: Having integrity, being good, right, balanced

Type 2—Helper

Other Names: Giver. Supportive Advisor. Parent.
Core Fear: Being unloved, unwanted, needy
Core Desire: Being loved, appreciated

Type 3—Performer

Other Names: Successful Achiever. Winner.
Core Fear: Failing to appear successful, being exposed as incompetent
Core Desire: Being admired, successful, valued

Type 4—Individualist

Other Names: Romantic. Tortured Artist.
Core Fear: Being without identity, misunderstood, flawed, inadequate
Core Desire: Being authentic, unique, special

Type 5—Investigator

Other Names: Observer. Investigative Thinker. Detective.
Core Fear: Being helpless, incompetent, without resources
Core Desire: Being independent, competent, knowledgeable

Type 6—Loyalist

Other Names: Questioner. Loyal Guardian. Oracle.
Core Fear: Being unprepared, afraid, being blamed, without support
Core Desire: Security, guidance, having help

Type 7—Enthusiast

Other Names: Epicure. Entertaining Optimist. Party.
Core Fear: Missing out, being deprived, trapped, bored
Core Desire: Fun, happiness, freedom, contentment

Type 8—Challenger

Other Names: Boss. Protector. Protective Challenger. Dragon.
Core Fear: Weakness, vulnerability, being controlled
Core Desire: Being in control, protecting self and others

Type 9—Peacemaker

Other Names: Peaceful Mediator. Wallflower.
Core Fear: Conflict, feeling shut out, losing connection
Core Desire: Peace, stability

For more helping in identifying your type, read Enneagram Series #4 on February 4. On Series #5, get links to free and paid Enneagram tests.

Spiritual Practice #1: Find God by Paying Attention to People

“Spirit is an invisible force made visible in all life.”
– Maya Angelou

The spiritual practice for today is to:

Pay attention to personalities

Look around for people with traits similar to yours. Look for people who are different.

Each person is made in God’s image. Each person reflects something of his nature.

Find God in the people around you, both in similarities and differences.

Who did you last talk or text with? (Check your phone now, it’s okay.) How do you see God in that person? Can you let them know that? How do you see God in yourself?

What benefits do you see in people being alike? In being different? What appears to be a disadvantage to you? Do you struggle to give grace for that?

Pray for clarity in seeing individuals as unique, yet related. Thank God for including us all in the same human family, each liked and loved by God exactly as he made us.

Recognizing our Enneagram types can help us also like and love each other more authentically. Giving and receiving love among ourselves is one way to give and receive love from God.


  • Which Enneagram type(s) do you most relate to?
  • Which type(s) do you have the hardest time relating to?
  • Who has most shown you God this week? How?

Please share in the comments.

See the Enneagram Series Index here

Enneagram for Spiritual Growth

Previous: You Are God’s Masterpiece {Series #2}

Next: 3 Ways to Find YOUR Enneagram Number + 9 Healing Attitudes to Accept It {Series #4} 


You Are a Masterpiece {Enneagram Series #2}

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True Identity

“What Is the Enneagram? It exposes nine ways we lie to ourselves about who we think we are, nine ways we can come clean about those illusions, and nine ways we can find our way back to God.”
– Christopher Heuertz, The Sacred Enneagram

When you find a tool that helps you solidify your true identity, use it. But don’t overvalue the tool as the end; allow it to be your means.


You are on Day 2 of the series: “The Enneagram for Spiritual Growth: 20 Ways to Practice the Enneagram.” Get a graphic here each Sunday of the series.

Enneagram for Spiritual Growth

Previous: 20 Ways to Practice the Enneagram for Spiritual Growth {Series Index}

Next: 9 Enneagram Types with 9 Fears and Desires {Series #3} 


5 Links, Books, and Things I Love – February 2020

Every month I share my list of favorite 5’s.

5 Things I Love Feb 2020

  • 5 interesting things online
  • 5 articles about words, books, or podcasts
  • 5 pictures of things I love
  • 5 things on the blog

What are you enjoying this month?

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5 Things Around the Web

It’s 2020 and We’re in the Future

Does 2020 sound futuristic to you, too? See these fascinating timelines. It puts time into perspective. “When World War 2 started, the Civil War felt as far away to Americans as WW2 feels to us now. If World War 2 were starting today, World War 1 would feel about as far back to us as 9/11.”

For the Love of Faith

In her latest For the Love Podcast Series 24, Jen Hatmaker interviews favorite faith leaders over the years. I love hearing their combined wisdom and love for Jesus. This week’s episode 5 is with Eugene Cho, the founder of Quest Church and the non-profit One Day’s Wages.

The Economics of All-You-Can-Eat Buffets

Do you get your money’s worth when you eat at a buffet? Interesting article on how to out-eat the price (I don’t recommend trying it), and how restaurants make money with buffets.

Why Killer Whales—and Humans—Evolved Menopause

Now that I’m a grandma, my body understands why God didn’t intend for us to keep having our own babies at this age. “Menopause meant a reduction in competition for resources between grandmas and their daughters.”

A Personal Hair Loss Story

Do you know anyone with alopecia? I love the vulnerability and courage of Rep. Ayanna Pressley in this video as she reveals, for the first time, her gorgeous bald head as a result of alopecia.

Rep Ayanna Pressley's Hair Loss Story

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5 Things with Words and Books

The Most Checked-Out Books of All Time from the New York Public Library

How many of these books have you checked out or read? Not from the New York Public Library, but I’ve checked out (or bought) all 10 of these books, too.

More Americans Visited the Library in 2019 Than the Movies

As an avid library lover, this makes me happy to hear. “Visiting the library remains the most common cultural activity Americans engage in, by far.” The average was 10.5 trips. Did you visit the library more or less times? (Definitely more for me.)

The 6 Must-Read Nonfiction Books of Winter 2020

I actually have one of these books on my nightstand right now from my library, You’re Not Listening. These books are the winter finalists for the Next Big Idea Club.

The Most Loved and Hated Classic Novels According to Goodreads Users

I’d definitely keep Heart of Darkness on the bad list. Would you change anything on this list?

How to Read More Than One Book at a Time + 6 Books I Recommend

If you read multiple books at a time, you’ll understand where I’m coming from. Plus I share 6 books I recommend from what I finished reading in January.

Books I Recommend January 2020

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5 Things I Love

#Write28Days Challenge

Anita Ojeda is doing her annual blogging (or Instagram) challenge again this February. It’s not too late to sign up if you’re interested. It pushes me to be so consistent in my writing (this year I’m writing about 20 Ways to Practice the Enneagram). I enjoy discovering new bloggers along the way and things they write about.

Co-Hosting a Link-Up

I absolutely love participating in link-ups, but I’ve never hosted one. Beginning Friday, February 14, I’m joining the lovely team of Grace & Truth to co-host their weekly link-up here at my blog. I hope you’ll join me here if you’re a blogger, too. It’s a great way to make friends in the Christian blogging community and see how God is working in each other’s lives.

She’s Already 2?!!!

We’ve now been grandparents for two years. Unbelievable how quick and how much fun it’s been. The most-loved gift at the party? The singing card.

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And Already 3 Months?

If you know how to stop time, please let me know. Our youngest granddaughter is already rolling over and chatting with us.

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Homeschool Moms

As a retired homeschool mom of pre-K through high school, I relate. This makes me laugh.

Homeschool Moms

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5 Things on the Blog

Put Your Body in Position 

I wanted to pray for my friend. But did I have to go up front to do it? Sometimes you have to put your body where your heart is. 

5 Scriptures for Making Decisions

You need to make a decision, but you’re stuck. What next? Here are five principles from scripture to help.

Your Personality Isn’t a Box. It’s a Gift (Introduction to Enneagram Series)

Your personality type isn’t a box that binds you. Learn how to use it as a gift from God.

4 Things You Can Give Away Outside the Church Walls

What can you give away? Here are 4 things you can give outside of your church for intentional spiritual growth.

Should You Stop Moving On? Linger a Bit

Is faster always better? Or do we need to stop moving so quickly? Linger a bit instead. Here are two ways to slow down in 2020.

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What was a highlight from your January? What are you looking forward to in February? Please share in the comments.

previous Links and Books


20 Ways to Practice the Enneagram for Spiritual Growth {Series Index}

How can you practice the Enneagram for spiritual growth? Discover 20 ways to use the Enneagram in this series. Don’t just learn about it; use it.

“When you learn about your type—the good and the bad—this knowledge can serve as your guardrail. It’s much easier to keep from falling off the edge of the road if your eyes are wide open and the path is lit.
– Anne Bogel, Reading People

Enneagram for Spiritual Growth

Daily Series on the Enneagram

The Enneagram (pronounced ANY-a-gram) is a personality typing system. It’s been gaining in popularity every year.

  • But what exactly is the Enneagram?
  • Is it compatible with religious beliefs?
  • How do you find your Enneagram type/number?

And most importantly for this series:

  • How can you use the Enneagram for spiritual growth, regardless of your faith?

Below is the index for 29 posts looking at different angles of the Enneagram and a different spiritual practice.

Take a deeper look into:

  • How to identify your type
  • Spiritual practices for each type
  • Online resources
  • Subtypes and wings
  • Relationships between types
  • Heart, head, and gut triads
  • Stress and health directions
  • and much more

Don’t just learn about the Enneagram. Use it to grow your healthiest self.

Enneagram Test

Learn more about and get links for Enneagram tests at #5, both free and paid. But if you want to take a test to get started now, here’s a link to the free version of the RHETI Enneagram test. It only takes a few minutes.

Just hold your results lightly. Most tests are not very accurate. But they can narrow down the possibilities for your number.

(Tip: If you’re a female in the United States, don’t be surprised if you score artificially high as a type 2, the Helper. Keep reading before you decide for sure.)

A better way to determine your number (but it takes more time) is to read descriptions of each type and see which fits you best. Here’s a short summary.

Index

1. Introduction (this page)
2. You Are a Masterpiece
3. 9 Enneagram Types with 9 Fears and Desires
4. 3 Ways to Find YOUR Enneagram Number + 9 Healing Attitudes to Accept It
5. 5 Enneagram Tests to Determine Your Type
6. Who Has Your Enneagram Number? Numbers of Famous People and People in the Bible
7. Where Did the Enneagram Come From? What Does the Symbol Mean?
8. Your First Impression of the Enneagram and Week 1 in Summary
9. A Hidden Gift in Each Enneagram Number
10. What Are Enneagram Wings? Your Invitation to Abundance
11. What Is My Enneagram Wing? Extra Names for Subtypes
12. Be a Healthy Number – Lines, Arrows, and Letting Go on the Enneagram
13. Favorite Books on the Enneagram
14. Podcasts, Music, and Other Resources on the Enneagram
15. On Your Mind Before Bed and Week 2 in Summary
16. You See Differently
17. Are You a Thinker, Feeler, or Doer? Triads & 3 Practices
18. What’s Your Connection Style? Prayer Practices for Each Enneagram Number
19. Is Your Social Style Annoying? 9 Ways We Manipulate Each Other
20. What’s Your Coping Style? Choose Your Response
21. 3 Survival Strategies – Subtypes of the Enneagram
22. Each Type on Their Day Off and Week 3 in Summary
23. The Most Important Thing About You
24. Shine a Light on 9 Ways We Lose Our Way
25. Which Enneagram Types Go Best Together?
26. Improve Your Relationships with Other Numbers on the Enneagram
27. A Wake-Up Call for Each Number on the Enneagram
28. Your Cheat Sheet: Summary for Enneagram Types
29. Don’t Make Me and Week 4 in Summary


What’s your Enneagram type? Do you have a favorite resource on the Enneagram? Please share in the comments.


On the Blog – January 2020

Here are brief summaries and links to blog posts from January 2020.

On the Blog 2020-01

Your Personality Is the Gift, Not the Box {Enneagram Series Coming}

Is Your Personality Limiting?

It’s not that I don’t want to.

It’s just that I can’t.

Do you ever feel that way?

We all have limitations. Some physical, some emotional, some mental. We can strength train and practice free throws and scrimmage with the best basketball players, but it’s highly unlikely any of us will ever play in the NBA, for instance.

Our personalities can feel like a limitation at times, too. As an introvert, I periodically need a break from people. I need to recharge in solitude, in time alone with God, if I want to function in optimal ways.

But does my personality lock me into a box?

Step Out of the Box

We’re different from each other. Every one of us. No two are exactly alike.

Some of our friends are homebodies. Some are constantly on the go. Some want their outsides to look perfect. Some want to go deeper instead.

There’s no perfect system for categorizing our circle of friends or ourselves. Nor would we want one.

But there are healthy ways to examine behaviors, motives, and spiritual paths. Specifically our own.

When we know ourselves better, we are more open to God at work in our lives. And we interact with more grace toward those around us.

Anne Bogel puts it this way in Reading People:

“Understanding our personalities makes it significantly easier to change the things within our grasp. . . . I’ve found that understanding my personality helps me step out of the box I’m trapped in. When I understand myself, I can get out of my own way.”

Learning to understand myself and others is one reason I like the Enneagram.

The Enneagram (pronounced ANY-a-gram) is one tool among many to open previously-closed windows to our souls. It allows space for the Holy Spirit to breathe fresh air into our relationships with God, with our loved ones, and with ourselves.

It unlocks the box and lets our personalities come home.

Daily Series on the Enneagram

Enneagram soon

If you want to learn more about yourself through the Enneagram, too, join me daily in February. We’ll examine twenty ways to practice the Enneagram for spiritual growth. (I’m participating with Anita Ojeda’s blogging challenge, #Write28Days.)

Whether you’re already familiar with the Enneagram or if this is your first time hearing about it, we’ll walk step-by-step through nine basic personality types, honing our understanding of ourselves, and preparing room for God to continue transforming us into his image of love and goodness.

I’m not a professional, but I will share what I’ve learned from the professionals and what I’ve seen and experienced. God can fill in the gaps. He designed each of us uniquely, so he knows best how to guide us.

The series will include:

  • How to identify your type
  • Spiritual practices for each type
  • Online resources
  • Subtypes and wings
  • Relationships between types
  • Heart, head, and gut triads
  • Stress and health directions
  • and much more

Our personality type doesn’t have to be a binding limitation. We can learn to work with it, not against it. It can be a gift, if we use it as God designed it for us.

“Learning to see ourselves for who we truly are is a gift of grace. The Enneagram helps us do just that.”
– Christopher Heuertz, The Sacred Enneagram

Practice the Enneagram Together

Here are four ways to follow the Enneagram series. I hope you’ll add your comments, questions, and experiences along the way.

1. Sign up here to get the Enneagram series via email.
Each post comes to your inbox. (If you already subscribe to the blog, do nothing. It’ll come to you.)

2. Bookmark the index page(not active until Saturday, February 1)
This link will take you to the index page for the series, beginning February 1.

3. Subscribe in your favorite news reader.
Feedly is my favorite. I do all my blog reading there.

4. Join me on Facebook.
I’ll link the daily post on my LisaNotes FB page.

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What’s your Enneagram type? Do you have a favorite personality system—Myers-Briggs, five love languages, Keirsey Temperaments, DISC, etc.?  Please share in the comments.