5 Links I Love—November 2020

I’m sharing 5 things I love over 5 days this week. Every month I share my list of favorite 5’s.

What are you enjoying this month?

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5 Links I Love

Who Is Better at Wearing Mask? Women or Men?

Research suggests it’s women. They are better at wearing masks as well as taking other measures to stop the spread of Covid-19.

Random, Granular Tips for Christian Bloggers

If you’re a Christian blogger, you’ll likely find some goodies in this article by Tim Challies, including the advice to ignore most of the rules. “As Christians, our main concern should always be loving others and doing what is beneficial to them.”

One Way to Calm an Anxious Mind: Notice When You’re Doing OK

“When our mind goes into the future, we worry and plan. When our mind goes into the past, we resent and regret. Threads of fear are woven into the mental tapestries of past and future.

“Look again at this thin slice of time that is the present. In this moment, are you basically OK? Are you breathing? Is your heart beating? Is your mind working?”

How to Reach Out in the Time of Covid

We may have to stay physically distant, but we don’t have to stay socially distant. Good tips here, including: 

• Ask for advice
• Never accept the first answer

How Does Your COVID-19 Risk Tolerance Compare to Others?

Take this interactive quiz to see how you handle these situations compared to other people: Going to the movies, taking a flight and eating at an indoor restaurant.



5 Reasons to Read Nonfiction Books + 5 Favorite Books to Read in 2020

The librarian finally handed over the two books that I had put on hold months ago. I’ve been patiently waiting for both of them. One is nonfiction, White Fragility. The other is fiction, Transcendent Kingdom.

The librarian was especially excited about the novel. She asked me if I’d read the author’s first novel, Homegoing. I hadn’t. She said they both were SO good.

I loved her enthusiasm.

I know many readers who are excited about novels. I’m glad.

I love novels too. I want to read the best of the best.

But my true love? Nonfiction books.

Many don’t understand that. They assume that fiction books are more interesting because they’re not limited to the facts; novels can be about anything, limited only by the author’s imagination.

But as the saying goes, truth is often stranger than fiction.

And nonfiction books have much to offer. Different things. Important things.

5 Reasons to Read Nonfiction

Some studies say that women read more fiction than nonfiction (reverse for men), but I read more nonfiction (although I love both).

Here are 5 reasons I enjoy reading nonfiction books. And 5 books I read this year that I can recommend under each reason.

1. LEARN ABOUT THE PAST TO UNDERSTAND THE PRESENT

This year has been particularly jarring in the United States for a variety of reasons, including our increased awareness of racial disparities. I’ve been reading many books (and having conversations) about it to better understand it.

But I also wanted to read a history book on racism to get a fuller picture of the past, to better understand what brought us to this point. Books about the past can enlighten us about where we are now.

One such history book I recommend highly is:

Stamped from the Beginning
The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America

by Ibram X. Kendi

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It enlightened me on things I didn’t learn in history class because they weren’t taught there. It is a challenging book (both in length and in scope) but exercising your brain is another benefit of nonfiction.

2. BE INSPIRED BY OTHER PEOPLE’S LIVES

While we can certainly be inspired by great heroes in novels, there’s something special about a real person’s account of their actual story. (I’m even more inspired by a movie if I know it is based on a true story. You, too?)

Hearing how other people make sense of life helps me survive it better myself.

One book I recommend in this category is by W. Lee Warren, a practicing brain surgeon who treats patients with a fatal type of brain cancer, glioblastoma.

I’ve Seen the End of You
A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know
by W. Lee Warren, MD

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Warren’s stories about his journey as a neurosurgeon and about the lives of his patients inspire me to live better, do better, believe better.

3. LEARN SOMETHING NEWLY DISCOVERED OR NEW TO YOU

Nonfiction books are where many researchers pour out their discoveries. I’ve learned that the more I know, the more I know I don’t know. And the more I am in awe of God who does know all.

You can learn the latest and most current news through nonfiction, as well as learn how to do or improve on things new to you, whether cooking or computer skills or how to build a house.

Five of the more popular nonfiction categories are: food, history, memoir, politics, and self-help. But there is no end to the available categories. You can find a book on anything and everything.

One area I love learning about is how we think and why we do what we do. Here’s a book I recommend in that category.

Thinking, Fast and Slow
by Daniel Kahneman

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Kahneman’s book on the two ways we think is a fascinating read about our brain and our behavior.

4. CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE

We often read fiction books to lighten our mood or transport us to a different place. But nonfiction books can do that, too. They can make us laugh or cry or be amazed. And they do it based on factual information.

One of my favorite daily books I read every morning is this one by Bob Goff.

Live in Grace, Walk in Love
A 365-Day Journey
by Bob Goff

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Goff starts each day’s devotional with a Bible verse then shares a personal story to weave a direct application to our own lives. This little book gets my day started on a positive note.

5. EXPAND YOUR PERSPECTIVE

There are no end to the number of books to grow in spirituality and expand your faith and worldview.

These are some of my favorite types of books because they reach down to the deepest parts of my beliefs about God and work their way out through my actions.

A favorite book I read this year in this category is by one of my favorite authors, Barbara Brown Taylor.

Holy Envy
Finding God in the Faith of Others

by Barbara Brown Taylor

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Taylor writes from her own Christian perspective, sharing how she grew in her own faith by learning from believers of all faiths.

Just Keep Reading

After I finish a book, I sometimes know immediately how important it’s been. Other times I don’t realize it long after the fact.

It may not have taught me a particular skill or informed me of previously unknown facts.

But if it challenged my thinking or prompted new growth or encouraged me to love deeper, even if I forgot the actual words I read, it was worth reading it. 

Books can change us.

I hope books have done that for you, too, fiction or nonfiction.

Keep learning. Keep growing. Keep reading.


More here on:

3 Reasons You Don’t Read Nonfiction (And Why You Should Anyway)

What’s the latest nonfiction book you’ve read? What encourages or discourages you to read nonfiction? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.

 

I’m sharing 5 things I love over 5 days this week. Every month I share my list of favorite 5’s.


On the Blog—October 2020

Here are brief summaries and links to blog posts from October 2020.

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Can You Wait 5 More Minutes?
—Grace & Truth Linkup

When the Temptation Comes

It happened again last night.

I woke up around 11:45 pm. I only slept for 90 minutes and I’m already awake? Not good. Sigh.

I know the best thing to do. Relax, meditate on memorized scripture, pray. 

But sometimes I lack the self-discipline for that.

An immediate temptation instead?

Put in my earbuds, find a non-engaging podcast to listen to on my phone, and let it derail my brain into nothingness. It can take awhile to work. And sometimes the podcast topic is too interesting after all, and it keeps me awake. Or if I forget to set the sleep timer to turn the podcast off, it wakes me back up later.

Sometimes I suspect the whole process of trying to get back to sleep can actually keep me awake.

But listening to podcasts is just so tempting. And so easy. I don’t like waiting for sleep to come on its own good time.

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Wait 5 More Minutes

It’s hard to wait for things we want. We’re accustomed to instant gratification. Amazon has spoiled us with “buy now.” Google gives us prompt answers to our queries. Apple music lets me hear my favorite song immediately.

It’s uncomfortable to sit in uncertainty. The in-between makes us antsy. We’d rather forge ahead with the quick thing than wait patiently for the right thing.

So when I’m tempted to jump in too quickly, I trick myself with this: Just wait 5 more minutes.

  • Instead of sending off the angry email in the heat of the moment, wait 5 minutes.
  • Instead of getting the 3rd slice of pizza because I’m still hungry, wait 5 minutes.
  • And instead of immediately reaching for the podcast when I can’t sleep, just give it at least 5 minutes. Relax my muscles, recite scripture in my head, and watch my breathing.

God can do a lot when we give him 5 minutes. When we turn off the urgency. When we release our grip on getting relief now.

Our emotions might shift. We might find something better to do in the delay. We might discover a better solution. We might find we can hold off even longer. The problem may even resolve on its own.

And if it doesn’t? Well, maybe we need another 5 minutes. Or maybe this time we just give in to the podcast to lull us back to sleep.

Either way, we don’t always need willpower to get through hour after hour.

Maybe we just need willpower for 5 more minutes.

Sometimes in the 5 minute delay, I actually fall asleep.

And stay asleep.

For much longer than 5 minutes.

Featured Post—Do This for 5 Minutes

Donna Bucher suggests a 5-minute bedtime ritual to clear our minds. Try using a night journal to unload your thoughts and quiet your mind before sleep.

“Writing down your thoughts at bedtime brings an end to the day. It draws a line between today and tomorrow. It gives you a new, fresh day upon waking and keeps today from spilling over into tomorrow.”

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Using a Night Journal For a Quiet Mind at Bedtime

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God Personalizes Your Gifts

She may have thought the worst had already happened.

Her husband had died. In the male-dominated Jewish culture, women were economically dependent upon male relatives.

At least she still had her son.

Then the unthinkable occurred: her only son also died. Would this double loss be her end?

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Who Was She?

Who was this woman from Nain, Israel? We don’t know her name; Luke didn’t record it (Luke 7:11-17). While he told more stories about women than the other three gospel writers, he only relayed names of ten women in stories where they had parts to play. Ten others with roles remain unnamed.

Did these unnamed women not matter as much?

Do you not matter as much when you’re not acknowledged by name?

No and no. They mattered. You matter.

Grace in Her Story

The widow in Luke 7 was on the road to her son’s funeral. Her final gift was to follow his dead body to its burial outside the city gates. Many were with her, helping her grieve and carry her son.

But unbeknownst to her, her crowd was about to intersect the path of another crowd, being led by Jesus.

She was about to discover resurrection. And it would be personal.

Jesus saw her. He talked to her. He told her not to cry. Even though she didn’t ask for His help (Jesus had yet to raise the dead—Jairus’s daughter and Lazarus were yet to come), He was about to give her a magnificent gift of grace anyway.

He touched the coffin. Everyone froze. Then talking directly to the dead son, Jesus said, “Wake up!”

And the dead man sat up and talked.

The crowd was awed. They’d personally witnessed a visit from God. They spread the news everywhere of their experience.

Grace in Your Story

Even today, Jesus still sees. Even when you don’t know what to ask for, He knows exactly what you need.

It might not be a physical resurrection. That’s not always the best gift anyway.

On the day my mother died of Alzheimer’s, I wouldn’t have wanted her to return to that body. God blessed me instead with other gifts of grace—personalized for my family—to help us heal.

He graces you with resurrection in still other ways. Maybe with a restoration of hope. A friend to share your pain. An open door to something new.

While His salvation gift may look the same for all, His other gifts of grace are unique, personalized just for you.

  • To fit your personality
  • To favor your circumstances
  • To fill your holes

God Is Personal

So maybe it’s on purpose that the widow wasn’t named. Maybe you’re supposed to fill your own name in the blank. And watch for how God will intersect your path, showing up with monogrammed gifts just for you.

There’s nothing impersonal about God. If you think there is, you have the wrong view of Him.

He is good, He is generous, and He is personal.

He knows everyone by name and by need. Including you.

That’s a gift of grace worth celebrating.

“And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. To our God and Father be glory forever and ever. Amen.”
Philippians 4:19-20


What gifts of grace have you received after a loss?

How has God blessed you in a unique way, perfect just for you? Please share in the comments.

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7 Books I Recommend—October 2020

Read books that are relevant to what you want to achieve and reading will never seem boring.
—James Clear

It took me a long time to finish some of these books! But it was worth it. It just goes to show you: reading just a few pages a day will eventually get you through even the longest of books. Just keep at it.

Here are 7 books I recommend from those I finally finished reading in October. See all my recommended books here.

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Nonfiction

1. “Why Are All The Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?”
A Psychologist Explains the Development of Racial Identity
by Beverly Daniel Tatum

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And it’s not just kids. I often notice Whites sitting with Whites, and Blacks sitting with Blacks in all kinds of social settings. Why? This book helps us understand. Originally written several years ago, it’s been updated and is as relevant as ever.

2. How to Be an Antiracist
by Ibram X. Kendi

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Hardly anyone thinks they are racist. But Ibram X. Kendi shows us otherwise. He defines racism and antiracism in terms we can understand. And helps us understand what we can do to change. He also shares much of his own personal journey. 

3. Stamped from the Beginning
The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America
by Ibram X. Kendi

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This is a much longer book by Ibram X. Kendi about the history of racism in the United States. It is eye-opening to learn how much of American history we have omitted because it makes us uncomfortable. Well-researched and documented, if you can stick with this one, you will likely learn lots of new things. I did.

4. Hood Feminism
Notes from the Women That a Movement Forgot
by Mike Kendall

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Whether you call yourself a feminist or not, this book is another eye-opener from the Black female perspective. Mikki Kendall shares from her own experience as well as her research about our modern culture’s effects on women of color.

5. Compassion (&) Conviction
The AND Campaign’s Guide to Faithful Civic Engagement
by Justin Giboney, Michael Wear, Chris Butler

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We don’t have to choose between social justice and Christianity. There is room for both. The AND Campaign is working hard to bring Christians together to engage and witness within the culture in positive ways. Politics, in various ways, affects everyone. Instead of withdrawing from it, we can learn to engage it responsibly and lovingly.

6. The Listening Life
Embracing Attentiveness in a World of Distraction
by Adam S. McHugh

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As God listens to us, we should learn to listen more to Him and to each other. Adam McHugh writes with a gentle touch but a strong message to help us improve how we listen, building healthier relationships and more loving bonds.

Fiction

7. One by One
by Ruth Ware

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I read all of Ruth Ware’s novels. They catch me off guard with their plot twists. This one is about a tech company’s retreat at a ski resort in the French Alps. And then an avalanche occurs.

Reading Now

  • Too Much Information
    Understanding What You Dont Want to Know
    by Cass R. Sunstein
  • The Color of Compromise
    The Truth about the American Church’s Complicity in Racism
    by Jemar Tisby
  • Furious Hours
    Murder, Fraud, and the Last Trial of Harper Lee
    by Casey Cep
  • A Month of Sundays
    Thirty-One Days of Wrestling with Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John
    by Eugene H. Peterson
  • Always a Guest
    Speaking of Faith Far from Home
    by Barbara Brown Taylor
  • The Store
    by James Patterson

What good book are YOU reading this month? Please share in the comments.

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