On the Blog—December 2020

Here are brief summaries and links to blog posts from December 2020.

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7 Books I Recommend—December 2020

Many people, myself among them, feel better at the mere sight of a book.
—Jane Smiley

Sorry for two book posts in one week (my favorite 10 books of 2020 is here). But I didn’t want to miss giving you my December book recommendations. 

Below are 7 books I recommend from those I finished reading in December. See all my recommended books here.

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Nonfiction

1. Always a Guest
Speaking of Faith Far from Home
by Barbara Brown Taylor

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Barbara Taylor Brown gets to me. She puts things in ways that I didn’t think about, but immediately recognize. This book is a thoughtful compilation of some of her sermons.

[My book review here of Always a Guest]

2. Uncomfortable Conversations With a Black Man
by Emmanuel Acho

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Have you seen his videos with the same name? Look on YouTube and watch one or two. They are excellent. So is this book.

3. Searching for Certainty
Finding God in the Disruptions of Life
by Shelly Miller

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“In fear, we can miss the obvious—that your uncertainty is God’s opportunity to reveal his great love for you.” Unfortunately, Shelly died this fall in the prime of her life to a quick illness. I only knew Shelly through her blog through the years, but to those who knew her in person, her loss is especially heavy, and her words even more important. I’ll read this book again as part of my One Word 2021, Uncertainty.

4. How to Fight Racism
Courageous Christianity and the Journey Toward Racial Justice
by Jemar Tisby

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Having just finished Jemar’s The Color of Compromise, I had to read his followup book for his practical suggestions on how to move towards racial equity. He writes from a Christian perspective (but you don’t have to be a believer to benefit from the book). It’s a helpful one.

5. The Worry Cure
Seven Steps to Stop Worry from Stopping You
by Robert L. Leahy

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This book contains a lot of CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) steps to apply to many different types of worries. It’s one of the more helpful books I’ve read about worrying.

6. A Promised Land
by Barack Obama

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This book is long, and it only covers President Obama’s first four years in office, but it’s so well-written and the stories are so engaging that it’s worth the length. I didn’t always get the nitty-gritty policy stuff, but I loved the stories about his family life and the behind-the-scenes White House stuff. 

7. Why Don’t They Get It?
Overcoming Bias In Others
by Brian D. McLaren

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This short e-book is dense with information on multiples types of biases that we all fall prey to. I’m going to work back through it in 2021 to see which ones trip me up. Brian gives lots of examples from Jesus’s teachings to back up his material. The accompanying podcast series, Learning How to See, is also helpful. 

Reading Now

  • Total Meditation
    Practices in Living the Awakened Life
    by Deepak Chopra
  • Attention!
    The Power of Simple Decisions in a Distracted World
    by Rob Hatch
  • The Lazy Genius Way
    Embrace What Matters, Ditch What Doesn’t, and Get Stuff Done
    by Kendra Adachi
  • Charitable Writing
    Cultivating Virtue Through Our Words
    by Richard Hughes Gibson
  • 40 Days of Grace
    by Paul David Tripp
  • Such a Fun Age
    by Kiley Reid

What good book are YOU reading this month? Please share in the comments.

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More books I recommend


3 Steps to Choose One Word of the Year
—Take another lap around the globe

If you’re looking for accountability for your One Word journey, !

If you’re looking for even more ideas, see 7 Tips for Choosing Your One Word. 

3 steps to choose one word of the year

Have you decided on One Word of the Year? Or do you make New Year’s Resolutions? Or neither?

I haven’t made a list of resolutions the past few years, but I have chosen One Word since 2010.

Let us know in the comments if you’ve chosen a word, and how certain you are of it.

If you want help in choosing a word, below are three suggestions I’ve shared in the past.

If you want to join our One Word group to help each other stay accountable, sign up here to get a monthly email reminder and questions to engage with your word. We’ll meet here every month and in our Facebook group.

3 Steps to Choose One Word

Get ready for another lap around the globe.

Using the acronym LAP, here are 3 steps to help you decide on One Word.

1. L—Listen

Pay attention. Your word may already be at work in you, doing new things, preparing you for new things.

Are you hearing repetitive messages on a specific theme? Does a particular song touch you deeply? Have you been drawn to a certain book or scripture?

Your word can come through any of these avenues. Listen for its message. Stay present to your wisdom. It’s not something you sweat over, but something you notice and receive.

Accept what comes without having to understand it fully. More will be revealed when the time is right.

One word is simple, yet flexible in the directions it can move you through.

2. A—Abbreviate

Narrow your focus. It’s better to give your full attention to one main word or concept than be distracted by a hundred little resolutions.

Be most attentive to one thing at a time. This thing. At this time. With this person.

Your One Word choice doesn’t have to be profound or complex. Keep it simple and relevant to this season of your life.

It’s a step, not the complete journey.

When you welcome whatever comes in this day—accepting it as your reality for now—you are present to the gifts around you. Once you accept this moment, allow yourself to be guided into what to do next.

3. P—Plan

Think of a few concrete things you can DO to help you live out your One Word. Are there ways you can practice it?

Come up with a few ideas for how to use your word.

Yet at the same time, also release expectations of where your One Word will take you. Let go of a specific outcome you may have in mind. Your journey will shift as the year goes along.

Plan for the future, but hold your plans loosely.

We can’t predict how our words will work. But we can honor our intentions to use them wisely.

Let your word become embeded into your life one relationship at a time, one day at a time, one situation at a time.


Do you make yearly resolutions? What’s your One Word for this year? Share your thoughts in the comments.


Favorite 10 Books of 2020

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This is a hard task each year: deciding on my favorite books. But it’s also a fun task. Without intentionally looking back, I can forget about some of the great reads I was given in a year.

Here are 10 of my favorite books, followed by another 10 (which could as easily be followed by another 10, on and on).

1. Holy Envy
Finding God in the Faith of Others
by Barbara Brown Taylor

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Taylor chronicles her journey of teaching a college course on different world religions and what can be gained from each, while remaining rooted in her own faith of Christianity.

2. I’ve Seen the End of You
A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know
by W. Lee Warren

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Dr. Warren shares stories about his journey as a neurosurgeon and about the lives of his patients with brain cancer that inspire him to live better, do better, believe better.

[My review here of I’ve Seen the End of You]

3. Lies We Believe About God
by William Paul Young

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Young helps destroy some of the things we think we know about God but that aren’t true.

4. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed
by Lori Gottlieb

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Gottlieb, a therapist, decides she needs a therapist after a breakup. She writes here about her own journey with therapy as well as things she learns from her patients.

5. Stamped from the Beginning
The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America
by Ibram X. Kendi

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Kendi teaches us lots of things we didn’t learn in history class about racism in the United States. This is an eye-opening book, well-researched and documented.

6. The Truth about Us
The Very Good News about How Very Bad We Are
by Brant Hansen

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We’re not as good as we like to think we are. But God has us covered anyway. Hansen’s writing is personal, liberating, and inspiring.

[My review here of The Truth About Us]

7. The Worry Cure
Seven Steps to Stop Worry from Stopping You
by Robert L. Leahy

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This is actually a helpful book about worrying. It’s broken down into seven practical steps and can be applied to many different types of worries.

8. Thinking, Fast and Slow
by Daniel Kahneman

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Kahneman explains the two ways we think: System 1, the intuitive level, and System 2, the more logical level. This is fascinating information about our brain and our behavior.

9. Uncomfortable Conversations with a Black Man
by Emmanuel Acho

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Acho answers the uncomfortable questions that white people often have about race issues, but are too embarrassed to ask. If you’ve seen his videos, you’ll feel like you’re talking to a friend in this book. 

10. Upstream
The Quest to Solve Problems Before They Happen
by Dan Heath

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Heath explains why it’s better to prevent a problem before it happens than have to clean it up afterwards.

Bonus: 10 More Favorite Books

These ten books are also very good, too. I hated to leave them out. 

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What book would you include in your top 10 list of 2020? Share in the comments.


Leave Room for Some Dignity
+ Quotes from "Always a Guest"

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I understand why we like to watch these video clips. They make us feel good (if we’re on the giving side). They inspire us to go and do likewise. And that’s well and good, too.

But they also make me cringe.

Here’s how they usually go:

{Sad music} Enter poor person. Probably a single mom. Working two jobs to meet the bills. One more disaster happens. She’s out of food. Out of hope.

{Uplifting music} Enter Christian people. Cue the smiles. Bags of groceries. They give single mom a hug and tell her they just want to spread the love of Jesus to her.

{Happy music} Single mom cries and says she was so desperate. But now she’s so blessed. So grateful. She thanks Christian people for their goodness.

But something about these clips makes me feel we’re stripping dignity away from the person who has needs. And putting a halo on the God-people who have the goods.

I understand that those with much are to give to those with less. And give God the glory for it.

But I’m not sure that’s always what happens when we film it for show.

I think Barbara Brown Taylor gets what I mean. In her newest book, Always a Guest, she says this:

“If you have ever been on the receiving end of such charity, you know that the hand that gives is always higher than the hand that receives. Think about it. Would you rather answer the door to find a group of good people bearing gifts for your needy family (with their own need for you to praise their goodness all over their faces), or would you rather know the fields where you are welcome to go at the end of the day with your own baskets to gather your own food for your own family, so that they rejoice to see you coming through the door instead of some well-meaning strangers?”

Taylor says that when we give, God doesn’t require us to stand around to be seen or thanked. Not that anything is wrong with being thanked. But that’s not the point of it.

Maybe that’s why God said to not glean all the harvest from your field, but remember a foreigner is coming up behind you, so leave a sheaf for them to pick up. Leave a bit of their humanity to salvage. Yes, give them a hand, but don’t keep your hand out for the resulting praise.

Taylor says a lot more in this book. And she usually says it in a way that other people don’t. That’s one reason I read her books. She helps me see things differently. And usually clearer, even while leaving me less certain about it.

As she says,

“Trust is never entirely logical. Faith never makes perfect sense.” 

Quotes from Always a Guest

Here are some other quotes I gleaned from the harvest in Always a Guest:

DON’T SHOVE MARY BACK INTO THE CLOSET

“For reasons that are complex and often unsatisfying, Mary is not nearly as important to Protestants as she is to Catholic and Orthodox Christians. Advent is really the only time she shows up in most Protestant churches, chiefly to hold the baby Jesus in the Christmas pageant and then go back into the closet with Joseph and the shepherds until next year.”

STAY IN THE ROOM

“When people figure out that unity is about more than agreeing with each other and reconciliation has more to do with staying in the room than with winning—then remarkable things can happen.”

USE IT FOR LOVE

“For the God who loves it all has given it all to you to love as well.”

THINGS YOU NO LONGER HAVE TO DO

“The only reason we have the slightest idea what genuine love looks like is because we have been loved that way, by God and by one another. That’s what saves us over and over, so that there are all sorts of things we never have to do again.

  • We don’t have to avenge ourselves.
  • We don’t have to take matters into our own hands.
  • We don’t have to get even.
  • We don’t have to punish our enemies.
  • We don’t have to appear wiser than we are.
  • We don’t have to shield ourselves from joy or sorrow.
  • We don’t have to fear strangers.
  • We don’t have to lock our hearts.”

HAUL OUT YOUR BEST DISHES

“Freeing them, we are freed. Feeding them, we are fed. When we get it deep down in our bones that there is only one feast, set for all God’s people, we will haul all our best dishes out of the church and set them before the world.”

DON’T JUST TEACH THE GOSPEL; EMBODY IT

“God has entrusted us with the teaching of the gospel—and more than that—with its embodiment, which includes protecting the vulnerable bodies all around us every day. The good news is that we have everything we need to do that: the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, the love of God, and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit.”


My thanks to Net Galley and Westminster John
Knox Press for the review copy of Always a Guest


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