Connect Your Dots – A New Bible Memory Challenge, #Write28Days, and Hope

New Challenges

The beginning of the year can bring extra challenges.

Fitness challenges. New Year’s Resolutions. Yearly goals.

They can overwhelm even those of us who appreciate a good plan.

How do we decide which goals to meet? Even the options between good, better, and best are enough to drown us.

What if we used a kids’ activity to help us?

Connect the Dots.

Remember these drawings? The sneaky goal was to help us learn to count: draw a line from 1 to 2 to 3 to 4.

But the larger life goal is this:

Connecting the dots helps us discover the big picture.

See how you can connect the dots in your life to find the bigger picture

Dots for Me

These are three dots popping up for me this winter.

1. Fitness Challenge

My niece Amanda shared a faith/food/fitness challenge, The Little Way, with our family at the first of the year. I joined in. Today is Day 17 of 30 Days with Revelation Wellness. It encourages us to hope in little changes, that even they can make a difference.

Little Way Revelation Wellness-2

2. Bible Memory

A new Bible memory challenge begins next week at Do Not Depart in Philippians. And because it’s my thing, I definitely want to participate fully in it. It will progress at a slow pace over the next few months. (If this interests you, I’d love for you to join, too!) Memorizing in the moment increases my hope both now and later.

Click to sign up for the #Philippians1 Bible Memory Challenge

3. Writing Challenge

And finally, beginning February 1 Anita starts the #write28days blogging challenge. I always enjoyed the #write31days so much and now that they’ve ended, I’m grateful Anita is picking up the baton. I’ll be sharing 28 verses/songs/snippets on hope.

write28days

I’m choosing each of these challenges because I want to do them. Thankfully they’re all staggered in time, go at different paces, and involve different areas of my life.

Connect the Dots

But how do they connect?

When possible, we like our lives to be integrated. Connected. Whole.

I’ve discovered the connection in my dots: It’s my One Word for 2019, Hope.

I’ve been looking for ways to practice hope, not just think about it.

And if Jesus is my living Hope, I want ways to practice Jesus, not just think about him.

So these three challenges, these dots of fitness, scripture memory, and writing, are each connected to each other through my commitment to hope this year. I love when God brings things into alignment.

Hope Happens

Based on the work of C.R. Snyder, Brene Brown says in The Gifts of Imperfection that hope happens when we do these three things:

  • We have the ability to set realistic goals (I know where I want to go).
  • We are able to figure out how to achieve those goals, including staying flexible (I know how to get there, I’m persistent, and I can tolerate disappointment and try again).
  • We believe in ourselves (I can do this!).

My three dots check all three boxes.

Yet even with that, none of my three dots are end-goals in themselves.

My hope through them is not for weight loss or memory improvement or better writing skills (although if those things happen, I won’t object).

Nor for perfection. And maybe not even for completion (we’ll see).

These challenges are just points of connection for hope. They are useful to help me see the bigger picture, the larger-than-life Hope, a more accurate view of Jesus.

What are the dots in your life? Do you see a theme running through them? Is there a connection waiting to be made?

Even as we connect the visible dots of today, we still won’t uncover the whole grand picture until later. It’s too big to see at a glance.

But in the meantime, today’s dots are enough. They keep us moving forward. They stir us toward progress. To faith. To hope.

Follow your dots.

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Do you see a thread running through your life in this season? Please share in the comments.

  • If you want to join the memory challenge, get all the details here. Or ask any questions in the comments. Once you sign up, we’ll send you links to download the resources to help you memorize easier.

Click to sign up for the #Philippians1 Bible Memory Challenge


What If You Have to Go Backward to Go Forward?

One of the rules of Candy Land is that young players can ignore the backward cards. They might not can handle it. But older players?

When our Candy Land cards kept sending Jeff and I backward instead of forward toward King Kandy, we tried to model healthy adult behavior of accepting our backward movements as fine with us. (It wasn’t too hard.)

But the real test comes in everyday life.

Read it all here: What If Progress Means Going Backward?

Go backward to move forward

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I’m writing today at Do Not Depart for our #NewCreations series. Will you join me there?

 


Resist and Persist – An Important Book for Our Times

What role should people of faith be playing in the fight for equality? Erin Wathen lays it out plainly in "Resist and Persist."

“Our brothers and sisters in the activist community have been telling us the same thing for years about our niceness. Our commitment to being nice, to just getting along, is literally costing lives. They were right then. And they’re right now.”
– Erin Wathen

Women are inching their way toward equality, but haven’t yet arrived. There’s much room left for progress.

“We use slang terms for female genitalia when we want to imply weakness…. Use that word as a symbol of aggression toward women, and it is ‘just locker room talk.’ Use it in reference to a man to imply that he’s weak, and it’s suddenly the worst insult imaginable, as though weakness is so inherent to femaleness that all you need to do is conjure up the image of our body parts and you can effectively make another man worthless. If you use that word as an insult to men, what does that say about how you value women?”

Erin Wathen in Resist and Persist points out that specifically the voice of the church should get louder in calling for more equality.

This book is a moving collection of many different ways that faith can advance the fight for equality for the good of all. Not just for women. Men also benefit when women are empowered. “Good news for women is good news for everyone.”

As Wathen clarifies, women’s issues aren’t only about women; they are humanitarian issues.

“These are matters the church is called to address directly: — poverty — racism — access to health care — family leave and healthy family life — human trafficking — sexual assault and domestic violence, just to name a few.

But all of these issues have one thing in common: none of them should be partisan or controversial. They are not women’s issues; they are humanitarian issues. They are systemic and societal issues that affect all of us—men and women alike.”

Wathen calls for churches to to break free of only “pink ghetto” ministries for women. She suggests that people with privilege learn to amplify the voices of those with less privilege. She says we shouldn’t only make room for others at our table, but we should also show up at theirs.

“But sometimes I wince at the implication that ‘we’ are the ones with the power to invite—with the ownership of the table that entitles us to extend an invitation. I wonder if, rather than finding ways of making room at our table, we would do better to support and lift up what women in other circles are already doing. Then it’s no longer about inviting them to our show, but showing up for theirs.”

This book goes deep in exposing our wounds. It will make you uncomfortable in places.

But it doesn’t leave us there. Wathen shows us how we can use our words as healing properties to move the conversations forward in healthy directions.

“Calling in is more nuanced than calling out. It is constructive. It offers the offending person a way forward without having to put them on the defensive. It puts the onus on them to dig a little deeper, to think more critically about the statement they just made. ‘Hey, Jesus, even dogs get the bread crumbs.'”

This is everyone’s fight. “Women, get other women’s backs. Men, step in more often.”

I highly recommend this book for anyone who wants to raise their awareness of the systemic issues of inequality in our culture, and who wants to find hope for its improvement, both within our faith communities and outside of them.

“This is about the systemic silencing of literally half of the world—and half of the body of Christ—and it is far past time we ended it, together.”

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My thanks to Net Galley
for the review copy


Hope for Later – But Also Right Now

Hope blesses now

Break an Arm

I remember crashing down. The snow wasn’t soft enough. The ice was too hard.

I braced with my left arm.

And my arm snapped.

It hurt. Badly. [See the story here.]

But the pain from a broken arm went beyond physical.

It was my thoughts about the future that also caused suffering.

My One Word 2019

That happened years ago. But I think about it still.

Almost every year when I am searching for my One Word for the year, one word repeatedly makes it on my preliminary list: hope.

But each year, something else overpowers it. And perhaps rightly so. For those years.

But for 2019, my cynicism and pessimism towards the political and cultural divides in America have made “hope” stand out as the only correct choice.

Because even though I eventually gain it back, I can too easily give up hope.

Just like when I broke my arm. I too easily gave up hope.

What hurt the most were thoughts of losing future abilities to play the piano, to type, to use my left arm for anything meaningful. I was worried about the possibility of unimagined losses for a lifetime, not just that my arm would be useless for the next few weeks.

Hope Is Now

When I become hopeless about the future, I also lose my peace and joy in the present.

Hope brings more than just confidence about the future, more than just trust in God’s grace around the corner.

Hope also is grace for today.

I want joy in the now that comes from confidence in God down the road.

It’s right now that I gain peace when I hope.

These present benefits of hope are the ones I want to claim.

Hope on Hand

So with the Spirit’s guidance—a route I can’t fully predict or plot on a calendar—I want to call hope to mind more often in 2019. As a spiritual discipline. As a deliberate practice.

Each month as I hold hope for myself, my friends, our world, I want to cling to hope personified, the person and deity of Jesus. To learn from him. To let him hold my hand.

“I will not be shaken with the Lord at my right hand.”
Psalm 16:8

I know he’s at my left hand, too.

As it turned out, my broken left arm healed fine. Maybe a tad more crooked upon close examination, but it’s as functional as before the break.

So for 2019, this will be my theme:

“But this I call to mind,
and therefore I have hope:
The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
his mercies never come to an end.”
Lamentations 3:21-22

Hope is not only for later. It blesses me right now.

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Do you have one word or phrase for 2019? Does hope come easily to you? Or like me, do you have to work at it? Please share in the comments.

Hope 2019

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5 Links, Books, and Things I Love – January 2019

Happy New Year! What are you looking forward to in 2019? What was a highlight of your December 2018?

1 Second Everyday


[If you can’t see the 1 Second Everyday video, click here]

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5 Things Around the Web

•  A Simple Message on One Man’s Door Is Inspiring Thousands
By Tracy Kornet

We’ve listened to Patrick Mead’s sermons for years. He’s a one-of-a-kind minister. Now that his father has Alzheimer’s, we’re also following that journey. Last month Patrick had to place his dad in a care facility. I love what he wrote for his dad’s door because “he’s not just the new guy in Room 14.”

father's story

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•  How Often Did You Use Cash Last Week? 
By William Thornton

I rarely use cash. But I always want to have some on hand. When’s the last time you used cash? More Americans are going a week without using cash.

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•  Here’s How America Uses Its Land
By Dave Merrill and Lauren Leatherby

I love great graphics. These maps of the United States show lots of different and easy-to-visualize statistics about how we use our land.

land use

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•  The 1 Question to Ask Yourself This New Year
By Nicole Leatherman

It’s only three letters, but it’s a big question, especially as you set intentions and goals for 2019.

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•  Package Deliveries

If you spent any of December awaiting package deliveries, you’ll relate to this, too.

Package Tracking

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5 Things with Books and Words

•  All the Words You Couldn’t Pronounce in 2018
By Christina Maxouris

I either mispronounced many of these myself, or avoided them altogether because I knew I wouldn’t say them right.

pronounce words

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•  The Bigger, Badder 2019 Book Tracking Spreadsheet 
By Rachel Manwill

Do you keep track of the books you read each year? I use GoodReads to keep track during the year, then download it into an excel spreadsheet at year-end so I can rank them. The method here seems pretty intense, but also quite useful.

book tracking

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•  12 Books That Every Leader Should Read: Updated for 2018
By Bob Sutton

Two of these are my favorites: Made to Stick and Quiet. Do you see any you want to read? Maybe this year I’ll tackle Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman.

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•  Talking Tech – Podcast

I love short podcasts. This one is about 5 minutes or less every day. It typically highlights one aspect of technology per episode: what’s the best way to save digital photos; how to cut the cord; video streaming options; etc.

talking tech

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•  Top 10 Books I Recommend from 2018
Here are my favorite 10 books from 2018, from a variety of genres: biography, memoir, politics, psychology, and religion & spirituality. I recommend them to you, too.

Top 10 Books of 2018

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5 Things I Love

•  God Connects

Our dear friends Adam and Amber are moving to Greece next week. They’ll be serving Syrian refugees. When Adam went to buy new tennis shoes for the trip, he met Chris working there. They connected. A few days later—moving day—Chris showed up all day to help Adam. God connections are strong ones.

woods

Tony, Chris, Adam, Jeff

 

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• Puzzle Mania

I don’t understand it. I become totally absorbed working jigsaw puzzles. It’s been a few years since I allowed myself the luxury. But this year I’ve indulged my craving during the Christmas break. And loving every second of it.

christmas puzzle

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• Through a Child’s Eyes

We loved, loved, loved celebrating our granddaughter’s first Christmas together. And this month? She’ll turn 1. Already!

candy cane

santa

baby jesus

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• Family Photos

We had a beautiful day for our whole family to get a photo together this year. I treasure these moments.

family christmas 2018

And it’s our yearly tradition to get a siblings picture with my brother and two sisters. I’m glad this year was no exception.

Siblings

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• Christmas with the Church

More traditions are to attend Christmas services with our youngest daughter Jenna and her in-laws (love them!); to help give away gifts to moms at Manna House; to celebrate with our own church.

highlands christmas

manna christmas

rock christmas

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5 Things on the Blog

•  2-Year Bible Reading Plan {Updated}
Instead of 1 year, take 2 years to read the Bible. Get the plan here.

•  8 Lessons to Learn from 2018
What did you learn from 2018? Here are 8 life lessons you can apply in 2019.

•  When Giving Takes the Fun out of Christmas
Are you looking for that perfect gift? Is it taking away your joy, your Jesus, this Christmas? Try these 3 things instead.

•  When the Bad Thing Does NOT Happen
She heard the shots. And saw the shooter. When something bad happens, it gets our attention. But when it doesn’t? Do we notice?

•  Keep Out? Not Always
The writing on the wall said keep out. But there was more to the story. Isn’t there always?

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What was a highlight from your December? What are you looking forward to in January? Please share in the comments.

previous Links and Books


On the Blog – December 2018