Ask one more question

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Gary with his Bible

“Before you go, can I ask one more question?”

I was hoping Gary wouldn’t mind. Even though we’d only met an hour earlier, he’d already shared so much personal information about his life. This final question should be an easy one. And I really wanted to hear his answer.

Earlier, my first question had come without much thought. He’d left himself wide open for it, reading his Bible as he waited for the food we were preparing to serve him and the other homeless men and women at this King’s Banquet.

I’d first asked, “So what are you reading?” 

That was all it took.

Gary opened up. He had been reading from the Old Testament book of Isaiah (a toughie for me), but he flipped back and forth to other related passages, giving clear explanations for each. His Bible was heavily colored with highlighters and ink.

I asked, “Are you a student?”

No, he said he was actually a teacher. A Bible teacher. (My bad. I’m still learning: Never make assumptions about people, homeless or otherwise.)

I asked him if he’d always known Jesus, even as a child, and again he answered no.

He used to be a witch.

Oh.

So I asked, “What changed that?”

He said he’d walked through the desert.

He told me about his journey on the road from Texas to San Francisco. About his friend and about LSD. Then about reading his Bible for a whole year. And about finding truth.

And finding Jesus.

His life was new. He learned, then taught at a Bible school for eight years in California. He was recently released from the position after they decided he was too mystical to teach there.

He said he was big into spiritual warfare. He flipped to underlined verses and margin notes he’d scribbled around Ephesians 6. We talked about wearing the armor of God and what each piece meant and how important it was.

Then lunch was ready and our conversation ended.

But we weren’t quite finished. I barely caught Gary after lunch as he was leaving to catch the bus back to wherever (and eventually back to family in North Carolina, he was hoping).

I had one final question, if he had time for it:

“Hey Gary, would you share with me your favorite Bible verse?”

I knew it’d tell me the most about Gary. The truths we treasure the greatest, reveal our greatest treasures.

“It’s Matthew 24:13. And he quoted it,

“But the one who stands firm to the end will be saved.”

That’s what Gary was most about. Just standing in Jesus. Against the devil’s schemes. Firm to the end (Ephesians 6:11-13).

I don’t know all the warfare that’s come against Gary. Or what comes against him still.

And I don’t know if our paths will ever cross in the future. Sometimes one intersection is all we get, and this may have been ours.

But at that junction and for that moment, hearing that answer from Gary about what counts most, may have been enough for a lifetime.

So Gary, wherever you are tonight, I pray you’re doing what matters the most. Stand firm, my brother. To the end.

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Why Bible verse is special to you and why?

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Links, books, and other things I love – February 2016

1 SECOND EVERYDAY – January edition

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AROUND THE WEB

7 Ways to Fight Distraction During Prayer
I can easily wander off in my mind when I intend to be in a one-on-one conversation with God.

• Even Facebook Can’t Help You Have More than 150 Friends
Can the internet help us maintain more friendships? Interesting article.

How to Decide What to Blog About
Amy Lynn Andrews has a way of simplifying things. These 5 tips help us think about what others might want to read on our blogs.

Self-Compassion Quiz
My February focus for my One Word “Welcome” is self-compassion. Here’s a quiz to measure how self-compassionate you are.

• Be Kind to Yourself
Dolly shared this song with me when I was being hard on myself last month. It’s beautiful. Hope you enjoy it too.

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ON READING

14 Signs You Were Born to Be a Reader
I relate to several of these, especially #7.

SparkNotes
I used to think CliffsNotes and SparkNotes were just for students writing term papers who didn’t want to read the book. But I find myself turning to them again and again as an adult reader to help me understand books that have complicated plots or characters. It helps me enjoy the stories so much more.

Books I recommend from January reading

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Currently reading:

  1. The Two Towers (The Lord of the Rings, #2) (J.R.R. Tolkien)
  2. How to Love (Thich Nhat Hanh)
  3. Walden (Henry David Thoreau)
  4. Christianity After Religion (Diana Butler Bass)
  5. A Return to Love (Marianne Williamson)
  6. The Path of Centering Prayer (David Frenette)

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THINGS I LOVE

• A surprise gift!
I had no idea this was coming—Jenna and her boyfriend Trey took my One Word for 2016, “Welcome,” and created this amazing sign that I’ve put on my wall. I love everything about it, including their font choices, how they oriented the words, and that they included my exact phrasing.

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My nose is red and eyes are watery from crying—this gift caught me totally off-guard

• Seeing Morgan 2 weekends in a row!
Our oldest daughter came down to help vacuum and wash dishes and keep me company the day after my gall bladder surgery two weeks ago. Then the next week we got to see her again when she returned for a funeral. I love any moments we can get with her.

• My baby girl Jenna turns 21

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Trey and Jenna on her birthday eve

• Fresh flowers

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A perk of having surgery, thanks to Fran and friends from Manna House

• This is how to eat a cake

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Our godson enjoying his 1-yr-old birthday party

• Centering Prayer Retreat
Last year I attended an introductory silent Centering Prayer retreat at a nearby monastery. So this year I signed up for the intensive weekend. I expect it to be challenging, but I’m looking forward to my time alone with God.

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ON THE BLOG

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What are you looking forward to in February? Please share in the comments.

Linking at Leigh Kramer’s
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How to Raise a Godly Child

We were gathered around our friends’ dinner table when the question was asked:

What advice would you give on how to raise a godly child?

We all had raised or were still raising kids. So we threw out answers: always listen when your kids need to talk; don’t show if you’re shocked; be kind; etc.

But as I looked around the table, I knew our answers were only partially right. Because among us sat a mom who had done all the “right” things, yet one of her children is struggling as he transitions from adolescence to adulthood.

Had this mom and dad messed up?

No. Definitely not.

Ultimately we can’t take too much credit nor too much blame for how our kids turn out.

While we can influence them, we can’t make anyone godly, just like we can’t make ourselves godly.

It’s a job for God himself.

The best we can do is pray for help in becoming godly parents.

And even then, the desired outcome for our kids is no sure thing.

Emma is a young girl who volunteers regularly at House of the Harvest. A few weeks ago she took it another step further. She got permission from her school principal to put collection cans in the classrooms so other kids could donate change to buy food for those who needed it.

Last Saturday she turned in over $100 that she and her fellow elementary students had collected. Her initiative and love for others at such a young age amazes me.

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Emma donating to Adam the money she collected from school

But when I look at her, I see others behind her: her mother and grandmother also volunteer regularly, at multiple places and in many ways.

The daughter is doing what she sees modeled before her.

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A few of the regular volunteers (including Emma, her mom, & grandma) at House of the Harvest

  • If we want to raise a child that cares about the poor, then we need to care about the poor.
  • If we want them to be kind to others, then we show kindness to others (including to them).
  • If we want them to love Jesus, then we start by loving Jesus ourselves.

Does that guarantee a godly child?

Unfortunately, no.

If we plant the seeds and water the plants and fertilize the soil, we still can’t make anything grow.

True growth takes supernatural powers that we lack.

But we can help by allowing God to change us.

Not only for the good of our children. But for the good of ourselves. For the good of others. And to the glory and by the grace of God.

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What advice would you give on how to raise a godly child? Please share in the comments.


On the blog – January 2016


Your advice + The Guest House

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When I whined on Monday about my pain and lack of self-compassion, you all gave such wonderful advice in the comments. Thank you.

Your words are worth repeating.

I release them back into the world for others. Read and use them when you need extra grace yourself.

Here are a few of your wisdom treasures. . . .

“God won’t leave you bedraggled at the door.”

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“‘Oh yes, let her in. I did.’ – Jesus”

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“Be gentle with yourself.”

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“Me, too.”

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“Give yourself grace to rest.”

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“Receive His love in new ways.”

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“Don’t judge yourself quickly.”

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“Your value to the Lord and His Kingdom has never been measured by what you do, how you look, or how you handle what life hands you.”

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“You are no less precious or valuable in the midst of your pain and recovery.”

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“Give yourself time to heal, which is more than the physical.

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Amen.

In a conversation on Tuesday with my niece Danielle, she mentioned “The Guest House,” a poem by Rumi, not knowing how perfect it was for my One Word “Welcome.” It is insightful and lovely. May it bless you like it blesses me.

The Guest House

translation by Coleman Barks

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

— Jellaludin Rumi

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How welcoming are you to you? Please share in the comments.

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Books I Recommend – January 2016

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BOOKS I RECOMMEND

1. 10-Minute Digital Declutter
The Simple Habit to Eliminate Overwhelm from Technology, Social Media, and Online Distractions
by S.J. Scott and Barrie Davenport

[my full review of 10-Minute Digital Declutter]

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Excellent guide to cleaning up our computers, phones, inboxes, and all things digital. It’s helped me get my digital photos finally reorganized this month.

2. Better Than Before
Mastering the Habits of Our Everyday Lives
by Gretchen Rubin

[my full review of Better Than Before]

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Another great book for practically organizing our daily lives in the best way possible. Includes many how-to’s as well as why’s.

3. The Irrational Season
(Crosswalks Journals, #3)
by Madeleine L’Engle

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This memoir from the author of the A Wrinkle in Time series takes us through L’Engle’s seasons of life in relation to seasons in the liturgical year. This is the January selection for the Red Couch Book Club. Join the conversation on Facebook here.

4. Son
(The Giver Quartet, #4)
by Lois Lowry

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Finally it all comes together. Beginning with The Giver, then Gathering Blue, and Messenger, this final book in the quartet ties up the loose ends. I enjoyed this series and recommend it for young adult reading.

5. Dirty Faith
Bringing the Love of Christ to the Least of These
by David Z. Nowell

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If you don’t mind getting your toes stepped on, this book will convict you to get out there and get messy in other people’s lives. A great read to encourage us to practice our faith even when it’s hard.

CURRENTLY READING

  • An Abundance of Katherines
    by John Green
  • The Path of Centering Prayer: Deepening Your Experience of God
    by David Frenette
  • The Fellowship of the Rings (The Lord of the Rings, #1)
    by J.R.R. Tolkien
  • A Return to Love
    by Marianne Williamson
  • When You Reach Me
    by Rebecca Stead

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What are you reading this month? Please share here.

Related:

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My books on Goodreads
Previous reading lists