Made Like God

The incense is strong. The colors are vivid. My friend Lauren and I take off our shoes and walk barefooted upstairs to the center room in the Hindu temple.

Here we see the idols, decorated deities, with signs explaining who is who.

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Some gods resemble humans. One, a monkey; another, an elephant. They await their worshipers to offer gifts of flowers or food or money. A table displays gods representing the sun, moon, and planets.

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A young priest approaches us and kindly attempts explanations. Originally from India, he served in Memphis at the Hindu temple for five years. He is on loan here in Alabama for one month. His accent is thick, his English is broken.

We communicate enough to know there is much we can’t understand.

A devout Hindu woman enters. She picks up a song book and sits cross-legged on the floor, facing one of the gods. She raises her voice with great beauty and foreign tongue.

I don’t understand the words. But I understand her intent. She is worshiping.

Lauren and I continue gazing at the intricate carvings and bright colors and jewels used to depict and adorn the gods, in stark contrast to the metal money boxes placed around them.

For a price, you can sponsor a puja, a religious ceremony offering a gift to the god and in turn receive its blessing.

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The priest returns to us. He has gifts. He offers us each an apple and an orange. “For you,” he says.

We’re uncertain what to do. We accept his gift and say, “Thank you.”

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The Hindu woman has stopped singing. The priest walks near her. He speaks words we don’t understand, but we assume he is giving her a blessing.

He takes something to the statue, then returns to the woman with more words and motions.

There is much about other religions I do not understand.
Admittedly, there is much about my own I do not understand.

But I do understand I am created in the image of my God (Genesis 1:27) (and while I try not to reverse the order, at times I still do).

I understand that my God came down in my form—a human—and lived like me.

He became like me so I could become like him.

He ate, played, slept, walked, prayed. He felt the sting of winter’s wind and the pain of sharp objects and the heaviness of sorrow.

Lauren and I walk downstairs, put on our shoes, and walk out toward the light. Away from the temple. Away from the gods enshrined there.

Our God walks with us. In us. We are his priests (Revelation 1:6). We are his temple (1 Corinthians 6:19).

He is our gift. We receive his blessings.

We worship in thanks. In ways we understand.

And with Spirit, even deeper, for being made in his image.

But you are God’s chosen and special people. You are a group of royal priests and a holy nation. God has brought you out of darkness into his marvelous light. Now you must tell all the wonderful things that he has done.
1 Peter 2:9 (CEV)

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We are each created in his image . . . thoughts? Please share in the comments.

Revised from the archives, originally posted here


Books I Recommend – February 2016

Books I Recommend February 2016

BOOKS I RECOMMEND

1. Christianity After Religion
The End of Church and the Birth of a New Spiritual Awakening
by Diana Butler Bass

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“Awakening is not a miracle we receive; it is actually something we can do….What do you do to participate in awakening? Perform faith. Display the kingdom in all that you do. Anticipate the reign of God in spiritual practices. Act up and act out for God’s love.”

This is an excellent and intriguing look at the current state of Christianity and the rising trend of spirituality over religion. I highly recommend this book for a continued conversation about belonging, behaving, and believing.

2. George
by Alex Gino

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The main character George wants to play the part of Charlotte in their class play of Charlotte’s Web, but the teacher says a boy can’t take that roll. This is a challenging but important young adult novel about transgenderism. It’s my “Middle Grade Novel” pick from the Read Harder Challenge 2016 and well as for the category of “Book by or about a person that identifies as transgender.”

3. When You Reach Me
by Rebecca Stead

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This 2010 Newbery Medal winner is about 6th grader Miranda and a series of anonymous letters she’s receiving in 1978 in her home in New York. It’s a fun and easy to read mystery (and includes a few A Wrinkle in Time references). I enjoyed it.

4. An Abundance of Katherines
by John Green

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Maybe the geniuses don’t have it so good after all. This novel by the author of The Fault in Their Stars is a coming-of-age novel about the intelligent Colin and his crush on girls named Katherines.

5. No Mud, No Lotus
The Art of Transforming Suffering
by Thich Nhat Hanh

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“When we learn to acknowledge, embrace, and understand our suffering, we suffer much less.”

We each have our trials in life. We can’t escape them. But we can be transformed through them. In this book Hanh talks about facing our suffering without being overwhelmed by it.

6. How to Love
(Mindfulness Essentials, #3)

by Thich Nhat Hanh

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“In the beginning of a relationship, your love may include only you and the other person. But if you practice true love, very soon that love will grow and include all of us.”

I’ve fallen in love with the wisdom of Thich Nhat Hanh (I read three of his books this month—they’re short and practical). This book centers on the different ways to love, as well as meditative practices to expand our capacity for love.

7. The Art of Communicating
by Thich Nhat Hanh

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“If your partner says something untrue, don’t interrupt and say, ‘No, no, you’re wrong. That wasn’t my intention.’ Let him speak out. He’s just trying to speak out the difficulty. If you interrupt, he will lose his inspiration to speak, and he will not tell you everything. You have plenty of time. You may even take a number of days to look deeply, in order to skillfully tell him about his wrong perception when he can hear it.”

How do we understand others and become understood ourselves? Hanh has practical recommendations, including these 6 statements to say when we don’t know what to say.

8. How to Meditate
A Practical Guide to Making Friends with Your Mind
by Pema Chodron

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“Meditation gives us the opportunity to have an open, compassionate attentiveness to whatever is going on.”

For Lent I’m attempting to do Centering Prayer everyday, so this book was a beautiful reminder to keep coming back to the present moment, and for me, to be more welcoming of God in the present moment.

[see quotes from How to Meditate here]

9. The Fellowship of the Ring
(The Lord of the Rings, #1)
by J.R.R. Tolkien

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I didn’t expect to enjoy it so much, after starting the trilogy when I was younger and finding it too confusing. But I decided to give it a try again as an adult for my 2016 Reading Challenges. And now I can’t get enough. I’m currently reading The Two Towers, and am already looking forward to the third book.

CURRENTLY READING

  • Habits of Grace
    Enjoying Jesus through the Spiritual Disciplines
    by David Mathis
  • Breaking Busy
    How to Find Peace and Purpose in a World of Crazy
    by Alli Worthington
  • Reliving the Passion
    Meditations on the Suffering, Death, and the Resurrection of Jesus as Recorded in Mark
    by Walter Wangerin Jr.
  • The Two Towers
    (The Lord of the Rings, #2)
    by J.R.R. Tolkien
  • Walden
    by Henry David Thoreau
  • A Return to Love
    by Marianne Williamson
  • The Path of Centering Prayer
    Deepening Your Experience of God
    by David Frenette
  • The Marriage of Opposites
    by Alice Hoffman

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What are you reading this month? Please share here.

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My books on Goodreads
Previous reading lists


Who will be your divine encounter?

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DQ was sitting at the table with Violet, one of my long-time friends. DQ looked young, maybe early 20s. He was new to me. I wanted to know his story.

Those seated around the beautiful tables this past Saturday afternoon were special guests for the annual King’s Banquet. They were from our homeless community and nearby housing projects, here by request to be treated to a delicious catered meal, to be shown the love of Jesus, and to embraced by grace in friendship.

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DQ said he was born in the Bronx, but was adopted by a Christian woman and she raised him in a small town in Alabama. He said she worries about him, always wanting to know when he’s coming home to visit. “In March,” he said, “I keep telling her I’ll see her then.”

How did he end up in north Alabama? Work brought him here.

But what brought him to homelessness? I didn’t want to ask directly, but I wondered.

What I could ask was this: What’s been the hardest thing about living outside? We had already talked about the spiders and bugs, that he preferred cold weather over hot weather, and that rain was a huge trouble-maker.

But his answer about the hardest thing surprised me: being outside of society.

Even though he had made friends in the homeless community (without them, he said he wouldn’t have survived), he still felt lonely.

I asked if the lady on his other side, who darted in and out of our conversation, who in general seemed to be more out than in, was his girlfriend. He looked at her, then back at me, and said no. She’s more like his street mom.

She smiled at that. I said it’s good they have each other, that she can show him around, and that he can help protect her in the camps. But he laughed and said no, she didn’t need his protection.

The music began so I let him get back to his meal, but I shook his hand and said I was glad our paths crossed, and that I hoped our paths would cross again sometimes in the future. He said likewise and we parted ways.

After the event, Jeff and I left in our car to take a friend home, then headed toward the public library to check out books.

While we waited for our light to turn green, a young man on foot was crossing the road in the intersection ahead.

It was my new friend DQ, toting his to-go plate from the banquet meal and the small gift bag everyone had been given.

While I’d hoped to see him again, I hadn’t really expected it would be so soon. I tried to catch his eye but he was concentrating straight on.

We drove on to the library. But as we were walking out, guess who was walking in?

DQ.

I told him, “I had a feeling we’d meet again.”

He laughed and said, “But I didn’t think it would be within 20 minutes.”

We waved goodbye and each went our separate ways once again.

Will I see him again later? Only God knows that.

The thing I know is this:

If God wants our paths to cross with someone, they will cross.

I’m learning it more and more, and appreciating the mystery of it with greater and deeper delight.

God wants us to be in community.

Loneliness isn’t part of God’s plan for us. Regardless of the circles we live in, God has the power to intersect any of our circles, any time, in any way, with other circles.

  • We don’t have to understand the encounters.
  • We don’t have to manipulate the circumstances.
  • We just need to be aware of and appreciate them.

Whether it’s one encounter in a lifetime or three times in one day, God places the right people in our paths for his purposes.

Maybe it’s someone we see every week, or someone we haven’t seen in years, or someone we’ve never met before and will never see again.

Each intersection with another human being is a delightful surprise, an encounter that is intentionally and divinely orchestrated.

I pray that DQ finds healthy ways to erase his loneliness in the weeks to come. I pray that he does go visit his mama in Birmingham in March. I pray that he eventually makes it back to New York to visit his birth mom like he wants to.

And I pray that the community of the Father, Son, and Spirit will combine with the community of God’s people to create multiple intersections in DQ’s life.

Cross our paths, Lord. Open our eyes to see and stretch our hearts to embrace those outside of our normal circles.

Please keep arranging our sacred encounters.

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Have you had a divine encounter lately? Who do you expect to see this week outside of your normal circle? Please share in the comments.

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How to Meditate

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Quick Instructions for Meditating:

  • Set a timer for 20 minutes (choose your length)
  • Sit still
  • Ding!
  • Get up

It’s really not complicated, right?

So why do we resist it? Why are there so many books about it? Why do we have so many questions? Eyes opened or closed? Sitting on a cushion or chair? Music or silence? Mantra or word? Long or short? Together or alone?

Perhaps we resist it because we intuitively question its value.

After all, it feels like we’re doing nothing.

If we’re going to give our time to something, we want it to count. We want to get it right. We want it to do something.

When I first began doing centering prayer (a Christian form of meditation), I joined a group; I read books; I asked questions.

The group was invaluable. The books provided motivation. My questions were answered. (I’m currently reading The Path of Centering Prayer by David Frenette, a book I highly recommend if you’re interested in learning more.)

But this problem remained: actually doing it.

Because when I did do it, I often felt like I had failed.

Why? Because I thought my mind had to shut down. And I could never succeed in stopping my thoughts.

Now I know that it’s okay that my thoughts never stop. The mind never will shut off. The goal isn’t to stop all thoughts. It’s just not to linger with them.

Instead, the objective of meditation through centering prayer is this:

Redirect thoughts to an intentional awareness of the love and presence of God, right here, right now.

That’s it.

Perhaps it really is simple after all.

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QUOTES ON MEDITATION

David Frenette, On letting go

“Learning to let go of thoughts in centering prayer by consenting to God teaches you how to let go of attachment to things in life by consenting to God.”

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Pema Chödrön, On staying put and dog training

“The steadfastness we develop in meditation is a willingness to stay. It may seem silly, but meditation actually isn’t too unlike training a dog! We learn to stay.

When you’re thinking about what you’re going to have for lunch, you ‘stay.’ When you’re worried about what’s going to happen on Monday, you ‘stay.’ It’s a very lighthearted, compassionate instruction.

It is like training the dog in the sense that you can train the dog with harshness and the dog will learn to stay, but if you train it by beating it and yelling at it, it will stay and it will be able to follow that command, but it will be extremely neurotic and scared.”

On attitude

Not struggling against what arises in your life is an act of friendliness.”

On staying present

“With meditation practice, slowly over time we find that we are more and more able to stay present in everything we do. We can even do it when we’re having a conversation: we stay mindful and present to the person speaking to us, rather than wandering off to what we need to add to our shopping list.”

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Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche, On passing thoughts

The towns and countryside that the traveler sees through a train window do not slow down the train, nor does the train affect them. Neither disturbs the other. This is how you should see the thoughts that pass through your mind when you meditate.”

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Father Thomas Keating, On detachment from thoughts

Centering prayer is not so much the absence of thoughts as detachment from them.  It is the opening of mind and heart, body and emotions—our whole being—to God, the Ultimate Mystery, beyond words, thoughts, and emotions—beyond, in other words, the psychological content of the present moment.

In centering prayer we do not deny or repress what is in our (conscious thinking process).  We simply accept the fact of whatever is there and go beyond it, not by effort, but by letting go of whatever is there.

On gentleness

“In centering prayer we withdraw our attention from the ordinary flow of thoughts.  We tend to identify ourselves with that flow.  But there is a deeper part of ourselves, the spiritual level.

Centering prayer opens our awareness to this deep level of our being…Practicing this prayer is not doing nothing.

It is a very gentle kind of activity.”

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Have you ever tried to meditate? Was it hard or easy for you? Please share in the comments.


Silence or solitude?

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“Just be quiet.”

That’s what I want to say to the world at times. It’s a noisy place out here. Dings and voices and music and words, words, words.

And thoughts. My brain is never mute. My mind races on and on.

So I sign up for another weekend of silence.

I walk into the monastery on a cold February night. The sisters here respect our silence. They quietly prepare our meals, arrange our bedding for the weekend, make space for us to wander their grounds.

But silence is one thing. And solitude is another.

We can be quiet in the middle of a crowd. And we can be noisy when we’re all alone.

In simple definitions:

Silence is not making noise.

Solitude is being alone because you want to be.

On this weekend, I want to welcome both.

But it’s not easy. For these two nights, solitude means I drive away from home to sleep in a room alone, eat my meals alone, walk the trails alone.

And silence requires even more sacrifice. It means more than not having a conversation with a neighbor. It also means:

  • Not opening the book I want to read
  • Not tuning in to the podcast I want to hear
  • Not texting or tweeting or turning on the TV

Alone. And quiet.

Yet not lonely. Nor deaf.

Activitist and contemplative Phileena Heuertz says,

“Practicing silence helps us develop the ability to listen and discern God’s voice and leading. In solitude, we learn to be present.”

So as I turn off the noise, I tune into God. His still, small voice is amplified in the silence and solitude. His presence is thick. His love is encircling.

I listen more closely. I look up more often. I breathe in more deeply.

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And then I drive home.

And I wonder how to maintain the silence and solitude out here.

It requires no monastery. I realize this.

But to find a time and place to quiet my thoughts and be alone with God, even if only a few minutes each day, requires some sacrifice, some intention, some motivation.

To listen more keenly and give God more of my full attention, I must . . .

  • close a door more often,
  • turn off my phone,
  • and say “no” to doing other things.

I’ve committed during Lent to more purposely pursue silence and solitude. It means fasting a little more—of time, of thoughts, of activity.

But fasting from noise to feast on God is a practice worth pursuing.

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For locals, Phileena Heuertz of Gravity is leading the annual Contemplative Outreach Conference on March 5 in Huntsville, Alabama. Topic: Awakening to Transformation Through Solitude, Silence, and Stillness.

Thanks to Linda and Maggie who led our Centering Prayer retreat and provided guided conversation during our group sessions (it wasn’t a 100% silent weekend).

Which is harder for you: to be silent or to be alone? Please share in the comments.

[If you don’t see Phileena’s video “Silence,” click here]


Loving someone with Alzheimer’s

4 ways to love someone with dementia or alzheimers

As my mother’s Alzheimer’s progressed and her dependence increased, Mama refused to acknowledge she needed help. For the first time ever, I saw her being rude to the girl we brought in to cut her hair, fire a caregiver we had hired to help around the house, and urge us to go back to our own homes because she didn’t need a “babysitter.”

The ways we were trying to love her were only making her more anxious. 

How do we love someone who is no longer the same? We have to change, too.

Here are 4 ways we can adapt to a loved one with dementia in ways that benefit them, from examples of how God loves us.

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I’m writing today at Do Not Depart. Will you join me there to read the rest?

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