Loving someone with Alzheimer’s
As my mother’s Alzheimer’s progressed and her dependence increased, Mama refused to acknowledge she needed help. For the first time ever, I saw her being rude to the girl we brought in to cut her hair, fire a caregiver we had hired to help around the house, and urge us to go back to our own homes because she didn’t need a “babysitter.”
The ways we were trying to love her were only making her more anxious.
How do we love someone who is no longer the same? We have to change, too.
Here are 4 ways we can adapt to a loved one with dementia in ways that benefit them, from examples of how God loves us.
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I’m writing today at Do Not Depart. Will you join me there to read the rest?
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Lisa, I didn’t realize your mother had dealt with Alzheimer’s. Bless you… I had two grandparents (one on each side of the family) who had Alzheimer’s, and I now have an aunt who is dealing with it. My parents also had a dear friend who lived near them. Over the years, I’ve watched as my parents gave such thoughtful care to loved ones, and I learned a lot from them. Your suggestions are great ones! I sent the Do Not Depart link to my Mom to see what, if anything, she might add. I couldn’t help but be impressed with the “stay in the moment” suggestion; it’s a great one no matter who we’re with! (Still learning that one…)
We started noticing my mom’s memory loss in her early 60s. 🙁 It was a sad thing to watch; I’m just thankful she is free of it now! I’m sorry you’ve had several people in your family who have dealt with it as well. It’s never easy on anybody. If you mom has anything to add, I would love to hear her advice! I’m sure she is full of wisdom from her own life experiences in caring for others.