When You Want to Pray WITH Others, Not Just FOR Others

Praying is personal.

When our friends are struggling, we pray for them. And they pray for us.

But how often do we pray with each other, not just for each other?

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Can praying with our friends be a better way to be a friend?

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+ 5 Tips for Praying Together
+ Downloadable Prayer Template

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We’re discussing how to be a better friend this month at Do Not Depart. Please join me there.

How to Pray WITH Your Friend, Not Just FOR Your Friend

And get your free prayer template, “Pray Together.”

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Holy Spirit – Still Active Today or Not?

“If little else of practical benefit comes to you who read this chapter, I pray that you will move forward in your Christian life and in whatever ministry God has given you with a newly found and biblically grounded confidence in the authority and power given to every believer in the name of Jesus.

Don’t live in fear of the devil and his minions. Stand firm.”
– Sam Storms

Stop or Go with Gifts?

Do you believe the Holy Spirit still works today in miraculous ways? Or instead do you believe he stopped moving supernaturally near the end of the first century?

Whichever view you hold, this book might interest you.

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Sam Storms (also the author of One Thing: Developing a Passion for the Beauty of God), in his newest book, Practicing the Power: Welcoming the Gifts of the Holy Spirit in Your Life, says this:

“I believe that one of the reasons why spiritual gifts are less frequent in certain seasons of church history than in others is due to the fact that people didn’t seek, pursue, or passionately and incessantly pray for these gifts. And often the reason they didn’t pray for them or ask for them is because they had a prior conviction or belief that they did not exist or were not available to them.

In other words, they had not because they asked not, and they asked not because they believed not!”

In other words: if you don’t think it will happen, it’s less likely to.

So chapter by chapter, gift by gift, Storms writes why he does believe that the Spirit still works through humans with special gifts.

I agree with him on many points, and disagree on others. My views are still in flux.

But whether you agree or not, you won’t feel pushed in this book. Storms writes with humility. He includes scriptures and personal experiences to back up his claims. The tone of the book is positive, not prideful for those who do believe or condemning for those who don’t.

Worship in the Spirit

I particularly enjoyed Chapter 12, “The Importance of Worship in the Spirit.” Storms doesn’t say worship itself is a gift of the Spirit. He does say worship can be awakened, sustained, and energized by the Spirit.

He differentiates between . . .

  • those whose greatest fear in worship is emotionalism and those whose greatest fear is intellectualism,
  • those who only sing about God and those who sing to God,
  • those who mostly cultivate fear and reverence and those who aim for joy and love.

I’ve worshiped in both types of churches. The differences are real. I have a preference. You likely have one, too. It’s not a right or wrong choice.

This happened yesterday at our church as part of Palm Sunday. I call this expression of worship a spiritual gift. It’s a gift I’ve not been given. But it’s one that moves me when others share it.

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Lists of Reasons

The book ends with two appendices, An Alternative Interpretation of 1 Corinthians 14:33-35, and Are Miraculous Gifts for Today, derived from Storms’ previous writings.

The latter appendix includes this list: “Twelve Bad Reasons for Being a Cessationist” (one who believes certain gifts have ceased, stopped). One of the reasons is:

“If signs, wonders, and miracles were essential in the physical presence of the Son of God, how much more essential are they now in his absence?

. . . In other words, if the glorious presence of the Son of God himself did not preclude the need for miraculous phenomena, how can we suggest that our possession of the Bible does?”

Storms follows that list with another list: “Twelve Good Reasons for Being a Continuationist” (one who believes that all the gifts of the Spirit continue to be given by God today).

This list includes reasons like #3, the extensive New Testament evidence of miraculous gifts among Christians who are not apostles, and #5, the fundamental continuity or spiritually organic relationships between the church in Acts and the church in subsequent centuries.

Read them for yourself in Practicing the Power to form your own conclusions.

Quotes

Here are a few quotes from selected chapters in Practicing the Power.

  • Chapter 1, Welcome the Spirit

Regarding embarrassing examples of faith healers on TV (or in person), Storms says, “I resolved in my heart that I would never justify my disobedience to God’s Word because of the abusive or embarrassing practices of others.”

“God is far more pleased with our obedience than he is with our success. Success is not something we ultimately control. I can’t guarantee that my prayers for the sick will result in healing. I can’t promise that my word to you will be spot-on accurate. But I can control whether or not I am willing to step out and take a risk. And the risk is worth it.”

  • Chapter 3, Praying

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“When God wants to bless us with a miraculous answer to our prayer, he will take the initiative to cultivate and build into our hearts the fulfillment of the condition he requires.”

  • Chapter 4, Fasting

“Fasting is about spiritual indulgence! It is not a giving up of food (or some activity) for its own sake. It is about giving up food for Christ’s sake.

We are always driven to fast because we hunger for something more than food.”

  • Chapter 5, Healing

“The primary reason God healed through Jesus prior to Pentecost was because he is a merciful, compassionate God. And the primary reason God continues to heal after Pentecost is because he is a merciful, compassionate God. God is no less merciful, no less compassionate, no less caring when it comes to the physical condition of his people after Pentecost than he was before Pentecost.”

  • Chapter 9, Deliverance

“Don’t ever think of yourself as at one end of a rope and Satan at the other, both of you struggling to overpower the other. No! You are in Christ who is over all. Satan is beneath you, in Christ’s name.”

  • Chapter 11, Ministry

“We are to pray, ‘Come, Holy Spirit,’ and be confident that he will, whether or not manifestations follow. If they do, we should not prevent them from occurring. But neither should we take steps to artificially induce them.”

Conclusion

I recommend this book be read with an open mind. You may or may not change your mind on anything you believe, but in the challenge, you’ll still learn and grow.

We likely can all agree on this prayer offered by Storms in his conclusion:

Pray yet again that God would increase your spiritual hunger pangs, that he would intensify your thirst for godly power, that he would never allow you to settle for the status quo.”

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Do you believe the Spirit is still active today, or that he now speaks only in the words of the Bible? Please share your thoughts in the comments.

My thanks to BookLook Bloggers
for the review copy of this book.


Don’t Stop Looking

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I couldn’t find one of my favorite books on prayer.

  • I looked on my “favorite books” shelf in my bedroom. Not there.
  • On my “recently read” shelf. Nope.
  • On the “retired-to-the-basement-but-too-loved-to-get-rid-of” shelf. Not there either. At least not the first time I looked.

But on the third look, it was there in the basement. On the shelf I had looked at twice earlier.

Do you ever do that? Look right over the thing you’re looking for?

I know I do that with God.

As I’m looking for peace, I sometimes look right over God. Or in my search for contentment, I’ll ponder truths about Jesus, instead of look at Jesus, who is present with me all the time.

With my book, I thought I remembered it with a white cover. So I looked for white.

But it was blue.

Only when I stopped looking for white and started looking for any color with the right title—the true words—did I find it.

Sometimes Jesus doesn’t look like I what I’m searching for either. If I’m not careful, I’ll look right over him.

But he is what I’m looking for. What I need. Every time. When I see him, he is life. He is healing. He makes me whole.

To continue discovering more about him, I hope I’ll never stop looking.

And finding.

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Does Jesus ever show up differently than what you expect? Please share in the comments.

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Links, Books, and Other Things I Love – April 2017

Here are favorites from March and what I’m looking forward to in April. We share once a month at Leigh’s.

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[If you can’t see the 1 Second Everyday video, click here]

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Around the Web

• You Probably Believe Some Learning Myths
by Anya Kamanetz
Take this quiz from NPR to see how well you understand what good learning looks like. “Ulrich Boser says, probably not very well. His new research on learning shows that the public is largely ignorant of, well, research on learning.”

• No, Stay At Home Moms Don’t ‘Waste’ Their Education
By Anna Mussmann
I officially used my accounting/finance degree for only a few years before I quit to stay home with my daughters. Was my education wasted? I’ve never thought so.

“Anyone who castigates a woman for failing to cash in on her degree reveals a complete misunderstanding of two things. 1. The nature and purpose of education, and 2. The actual needs of society.”

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• When You Need a More Creative Way to Pray
by Betsy de Cruz

Great post by Betsy on using prayer mapping to liven up your prayer life.

“Last year, I asked God to show me seven Big Things I could ask Him for. I made a list: Greater Faith, Healing, Joy, Anointing, Provision, a Life that Honors God, and Passion for Christ. I mapped these out on paper and included scriptures, song quotes, written out prayers, and specific requests.”

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• 9 Things That Are Still Great About Facebook
by Cheryl Magness

“With all of its problems, Facebook still has a lot going for it, and I for one am not willing to throw the baby out with the bathwater.”

• Google Has Finally Killed the CAPTCHA
by Rhett Jones
Yay! Anybody else glad that CAPTCHA is gone?

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On Books and Podcasts

• 5 Books I Recommend

Here are excellent books I recommend from what I finished reading in March.

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Books I’m Currently Reading

  1. Democracy in Black
    How Race Enslaves the American Soul
    by Eddie S. Glaude, Jr.
  2. The Naked Now
    Learning to See as the Mystics See
    by Richard Rohr
  3. Invisible Influence
    The Hidden Forces that Shape Behavior
    by Jonah Berger
  4. Practicing the Power
    Welcoming the Gifts of the Holy Spirit in Your Life

    by Sam Storms
  5. The Enneagram
    A Christian Perspective
    by Richard Rohr
  6. Grace Behind Bars
    An Unexpected Path to True Freedom
    by Dudley Mitchell

• Podcasts – 6 Podcast Episodes for Cultivating Compassion
by Sara Schairer

“Here are six podcast episodes that will open your heart and eyes to not only the power of compassion, but also the need for it. Watch how your own capacity for compassion grows.”

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My Favorite Podcasts This Month
These five episodes were particularly instructive to me.

  1. The RobCast
    Episode 145: The Importance of Boredom
    Do you pick up your phone when you have a spare second of boredom? What’s a different way to use that space?
  2. The World in Words
    How Christianese Became a Thing 
    If you understand these phrases, you might speak Christianese:
    too blessed to be stressed, spoke into my life, called to move, felt led to, ….
  3. Pass the Mic
    Truth’s Table & Pass the Mic Crossover
    A lively and godly conversation on males and females in the church.
  4. Hidden Brain
    Episode 65: Tunnel Vision
    “When you’re hungry, it can be hard to think of anything other than food. Explore the psychological phenomenon of scarcity and how it can affect our ability to see the big picture and cope with problems in our lives.”
  5. The Elite Advisor Blueprint
    Episode 18: Ian Cron on The 9 Personality Types
    Understandable information on the 9 Enneagram personality types, exploring why people think, feel and act the way they do.

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Things I Love

• My Bracket Won!

I usually lose. Jeff usually wins. I was dead last for most of NCAA March Madness this year, too. But thanks to Gonzaga’s continued wins and Kansas’ early loss, my basketball bracket won Saturday night in our group of 4 this year! So I get to choose where we all go out to eat, regardless of which team wins the championship Monday night.

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• Vacation with the 4 Corners

We had a fun girls’ getaway in Gulf Shores. Laughing, crying, talking. We did a StoryCorp interview one night about our friendship. I’ll treasure that for years to come.

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Kathy, Julie, Lisa, Alicia

• Spring Flowers

I don’t have much blooming yet, but this hardy tulip managed to come back again. It’s put in its time. The remaining tulips I planted years ago at my mailbox finally stopped returning. This lone survivor still stands.

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• Freedom Group

I only knew one lady in this group before February (that’s Jenna). But now we all know so much about each other. I’m loving getting to grow in Christ and in freedom with this group of sisters.

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On the Blog

• Do a Reframe
I needed a reframe. When we can only see one side of something, it’s time to flip it around.

• Hey, I Have a RIGHT to Complain! Oh, Really?
Excuses we use for complaining and how to counteract them

• 7 New Ways to Say I Love You
What words do you like to hear? We all love hearing, “I love you.” But sometimes we need to hear it said another way. To make it more personal.

• God’s Math of Little Things
It was just a little thing I saw. But maybe a lifetime of big love is really a lifetime of little loves all added together.

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What was one of your highlights from March? What are you looking forward to in April? Please share in the comments.

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On the Blog – March 2017


Do a Reframe

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Outer Life/Inner Life

Poor me.

I was sitting on the beach last Thursday with three of my closest friends. We’d driven to Gulf Shores on Wednesday to spend four uninterrupted days together, catching up on each other’s lives.

But it was windy. And it was cold. And I was growing miserable.

It’s easy to depend too much on our surroundings to make us happy. When they turn sour, we can, too. Our energy drains away. We focus on our discomfort. We have little positive to share.

As the sand storm blew fiercely around us and on top of us (y’all, sand was literally filling in the pages of my magazine), I finally decided to go up. Poolside. Surely it would be calmer.

But while it was less windy, it was also colder. I inwardly vowed, “I’ll never come back to the beach in March.”

Get a Reframe

I needed a reframe.

When we can only see one side of something, it’s time to flip it around.

“Reframing is changing your mental and emotional responses to people and events.”

I recently participated in a 21-day e-course, “Reframing.”

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It was designed to walk us through areas of our lives that need a new perspective, see other people and events as spiritual teachers, and become less judgmental. Topics included:

  • Reframing Negativity
  • Reframing Anger
  • Reframing Fear
  • Reframing Worry
  • Reframing Waiting

It challenged us to make a list of things that needed reframing. Then encouraged us to set an intention, and actively find new meanings behind events.

So I decided to reframe my Thursday afternoon.

I took my Kindle, a snack, and a jacket to the balcony of our condo. I poured myself a Diet Coke and read and ate. I was no longer on the beach, but I could still see the ocean, still hear the waves.

And joy returned. Despite the wind. Despite the temperature.

Receive New Gifts

I realize that reframing our situations are rarely that easy. Especially when circumstances are out of our control.

Our stories don’t unfold like we expect.

But instead of fighting against the differences, maybe we can open our hands a little wider, and receive the new gifts that God is giving us instead.

  • Pray for reframed attitudes.
  • Invite the Spirit to give us new perspectives.
  • Claim hope for God’s grace in the moment and grace in things to come.

On Friday morning?

You wouldn’t have called me a beach fashionista, but wearing a warm sweatshirt, a cap cinched tight on my head, and a beach towel wrapped around my legs, I sat on the beach with my friends with thankfulness, laughter, and grace reframed.

Poor me no longer.
Blessed me instead.

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What situation do you need to reframe? Please share in the comments.