What Your Reading List Says About You + 4 Books I Recommend

In the case of good books, the point is not to see how many of them you can get through, but rather how many can get through to you.
– Mortimer J. Adler

The Stories We Make Up

It was someone else’s receipt. His name was Mr. Brewer.

He left his library receipt in the library book, Because Internet, that I had just checked out. I eagerly looked at his list.

  • When you catch someone reading a book in public, do you strain to see what it is?
  • Do you glance at the titles on your friend’s bookshelves?
  • When fellow bloggers share their favorite books of the year, do you eagerly click the links?

I like seeing what books other people choose. I can make up personal stories when I see their reading choices. Do you do this, too?

Books on Mr. Brewer’s receipt included:

  • Because Internet—Mr. Brewer is curious about life. He’s an internet user and finds it interesting to learn why people communicate the way they do online. (Maybe he’s also an Enneagram 5 like me?)
  • German for Travelers—He likes to be prepared. He’s planning a trip to Germany (at least pre-coronavirus; his books were due 2/5/20). He doesn’t want to be caught by surprise in Germany, so he’s reading up on it here.
  • German at a Glance—He also wants to speak the language some. Say a few words. Maybe he already speaks it a little German but needs to brush up on it.
  • Easy Spanish-Step-by-Step—Mr. Brewer is certainly industrious. Maybe he’ll also journey over to Spain while he’s in Europe. Might as well learn a little Spanish, too.

There are alternate stories, of course. But this one satisfies me. I tore the receipt up.

And wondered what stories people make up about my reading choices. . . .

Here are books I recommend from May. See all my recommended books here. Draw your own conclusions about my personality by the books I favor.

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1. Upstream
The Quest to Solve Problems Before They Happen
by Dan Heath

Upstream

I would rather prevent a mess before it happens than have to clean it up afterward. This book explains SO many implications this simple concept has in our daily lives.

I’ll always read Dan Heath’s books. He’s an excellent nonfiction writer who includes lots of stories and facts with such clarity like none other. This book will make my top 10 list for 2020.

Read coronavirus implications from upstream and downstream thinking here. 

2. Thinking, Fast and Slow
by Daniel Kahneman

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Kahneman explains about the two ways we think: the intuitive level (he calls it System 1) and the more logical level (System 2). Understanding this about ourselves has long-lasting implications. Another top 10 book for the year.

I see this book referenced in many other books I read. Now I understand why. Even though it took me months to finish it (I read it slowly), it was worth it.

3. The Truth about Us
The Very Good News about How Very Bad We Are
by Brant Hansen

The Truth about Us

We all like to think we’re a good person, right? In a fun but serious way, this book steps on our prideful toes. It helps us understand that none of us are as good as we unrealistically think we are. But God has us covered anyway. It’s liberating. And inspiring.

I’ll be chewing on this book for a long time. And re-reading it, like I did Hansen’s Unoffendable. (Could I have finished three top 10 books for 2020 in this one month???) Full book review coming soon.

4. Braving the Wilderness
The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone
by Brené Brown

Braving the Wilderness

I first read this book three years ago. But I finished it again this month with my book club group. It’s worth mentioning again.

It’s as relevant as ever.

As we saw the country strongly divide over politics the past few years, we’re now seeing it divide again through differing reactions to the coronavirus fallout. Brené helps us understand how to stay connected to each other in the wilderness, even when we disagree.

Reading Now

  • Beartown
    by Fredrik Backman
  • Because Internet
    Understanding the New Rules of Language
    by Gretchen McCulloch
  • Write Better
    A Lifelong Editor on Craft, Art, and Spirituality

    by Andrew T. Le Peau
  • I’ve Seen the End of You
    A Neurosurgeon’s Look at Faith, Doubt, and the Things We Think We Know
    by W. Lee Warren
  • You’re a Miracle (and a Pain in the A**)
    Understanding the Hidden Forces That Make You You
    by Mike McHargue (Science Mike)
  • Fierce, Free, and Full of Fire
    The Guide to Being Glorious You
    by Jen Hatmaker

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What good book are YOU reading this month? What does it say about you? Do you like looking at other people’s bookshelves? Please share in the comments.

More books I recommend


When Prayers Outlive You—Grace & Truth Link-Up

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On Your List a Long Time

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Do you have something you’ve been asking from God for a very long time?

It’s likely we all do.

Sometimes we quit asking when we don’t see answers. But God’s patience outlasts ours. 

The prayers we once asked are never forgotten by God.

Our prayers don’t have expiration dates.

I’ve seen prayers answered this week that had been prayed for years. I can’t explain the timing now. But I recognize God’s fingerprints on the gift.

And I’m so grateful.

Even though there are some prayers we may never see answered in our lifetime, God still has them on file, in the forefront of his mind, waiting for his perfect timing.

I don’t understand how it works. I don’t understand how he works. Or when or where or why.

But I know that God does move. Sometimes at our invitation in the moment. We see the answer and cross the request off our list.

And other times God answers at our invitation from years ago. The request can remain even long after we’re gone.

Moral of the story: Keep making requests. 

Your prayers can outlive you. 

Our Featured Post

Our featured post this week is one you might relate to. Bev Rihtarchik wrote “Deathless Prayers” about praying for a stray child.

“His amazing strength is able to pursue my children long after my own is gone. Because of His faithfulness, the prayers I’ve placed before my Father’s throne will still be there, waiting to be answered in His perfect will and His perfect way.”

She quotes E.M. Bounds, “Prayers are deathless….Prayers outlive the lives of those that uttered them.”

I’m glad prayers are deathless.

Read all of Bev’s post here at her blog, Walking Well With God.

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Do you have ongoing prayers, too? Please share your thoughts in the comments.



Who Is With You?—Grace & Truth Link-Up

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Who Are You With?

Sometimes it’s who we’re with that matters more than where we are or what we’re doing.

If you’ve had to shelter at home the past two months, hopefully you’ve enjoyed the company of those around you (most of the time anyway!).

But there is one whose company we’re always in. And it’s always good. Even when we’re unaware of his presence.

Our Featured Post

Paris Renae wrote a beautiful post last week entitled, “I’m With Him.”

She reminds us that even when we yell, think bad thoughts, are jealous, etc., God has us covered. No condemnation. Just forgiveness.

Why? Because we’re with him, with Jesus.

Read it all here. 

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1. Share 1 or 2 of your most recent CHRISTIAN LIVING posts. (No DIY, crafts, recipes, or inappropriate articles.) All links are randomly sorted.

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Have you enjoyed you enjoy the company you’ve been quarantining with? Please share your thoughts in the comments. 


Stuck in the Middle? 3 Ways to Stay Strong

Being in the middle can feel abysmal.

Whether it’s from the pandemic or other circumstances . . .

  • Our strength wanes; we’re weak. 
  • Our supplies run out; we’re thirsty. 
  • Our optimism turns dark; we’re discouraged.

But our lack never takes God by surprise.

With God, we can do this. We are and will be blessed.

Even in the middle.

Read the rest here . . .

 3 Ways to Stay Strong When You’re Stuck in the Middle

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I’m writing today at Do Not Depart on Psalm 84.

Will you join me there?


What If You Hadn’t . . . Upstream and Downstream

If You Hadn’t?

  • What if you hadn’t buckled your seat belt?
  • What if you hadn’t kept your blood pressure under control?
  • What if you hadn’t had kids?

What if you hadn’t stayed home the past few weeks?

What didn't happen

We rarely know the answers to these kind of questions. The things we prevent from happening aren’t easily measured. These are upstream things.

It’s easier to measure downstream things . . . fires we put out, addictions we overcame, criminals we arrested.

As states reopen, either in phases or full-out, some are saying our stay-at-home efforts were in vain because the coronavirus didn’t get out of hand in our state.

True? Not true? How can we know?

We often undervalue what DIDN’T happen if we can’t measure it. We never know how many fires didn’t happen because someone practiced fire prevention.

We don’t know how many people didn’t get COVID-19 because of our staying at home. 

Work from Upstream 

Staying at home has been an upstream activity.

Dan Heath explains upstream activities in his excellent new book, Upstream: The Quest to Solve Problems Before They Happen. 

“Downstream actions react to problems once they’ve occurred; upstream efforts aim to prevent those problems from happening.”

By staying home, we prevented many health problems from occurring.

But we can’t prove that. Heath explains “the prophet’s dilemma“: it’s a prediction that prevents what it predicts from happening, a self-defeating prediction.

“What if Chicken Little’s warnings actually stopped the sky from falling? The Y2K bug was an example of the prophet’s dilemma. The warnings that the sky would fall triggered the very actions that kept the sky from falling. Maybe what society needs is a new generation of enlightened Chicken Littles.”

We often preach upstream principles to our children. We’d rather them say no to a dangerous behavior from the get-go instead of saying yes and dealing with consequences later.

It’s also what God does with us. He advises upstream behaviors for our benefit, to keep our lives wholesome and healthy and as problem-free as possible.

More Downstream to Come?

So now what will happen? With the silencing of Chicken Little’s voice, more businesses are opening again.

We’ll find out in a few weeks if the gamble was worth it.

And if there are more new cases and spikes in hospitalizations? We’ll have to do more downstream work of throwing life preservers.

“We can pay to fix problems once they happen, or we can pay in advance to prevent them.”

We’ll always need people around to do the downstream work. Things happen and we need rescues. God’s grace is the best downstream gift I know. Doctors and nurses are downstream gifts, too. 

“We will always want someone there to rescue us. The point is that our attention is grossly asymmetrical. We spend our lives consumed with problems that we might have avoided altogether.”

If I can avoid a problem or two altogether, I’d prefer that.

I plan on continuing coronavirus upstream actions awhile longer: staying home as much as possible, wearing a mask when I’m out, and practicing social-distancing.

I’ll try to be patient in the process. It can take awhile to see which fruit grows from either staying home or from going out.

“Downstream work is narrow and fast. Upstream is broad and slow(er).”

Taking an upstream approach isn’t always popular. Or easy. But it’s usually worth it.


Please share your thoughts in the comments.

Thanks to Net Galley
for the review copy of Upstream


So, What DO You Know?—Grace & Truth Link-Up

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Uncomfortable with Uncertainty

We haven’t canceled yet.

Our reservation is still on for June. But building sandcastles on Panama City Beach and playing in the Gulf waters with our kids and grandkids seems very iffy.

I realize, even in the best of times, we can’t accurately predict next month. People get sick. Work crunches happen. Unexpected scenarios pop up.

We learn to live with a little uncertainty.

But the uncertainty of these times? It’s maxed out. We can’t even predict when we’ll see pork chops at the grocery store again, not to mention who might catch the coronavirus and be quarantined, or worse, for two weeks.

I don’t like it. Uncertainty makes me anxious.

“Intolerance of uncertainty is the most important element in worry.” Yes, Robert Leahy, I agree.

So to calm my worries, I’m reminding myself more and more these days:

I don’t know, but God does.
I don’t know, but God does.
I don’t know, but God does.

I can’t demand certainty from anything in this life. God—as love and as goodness—is the only unchangeable thing I know.

Everything else? It’s subject to change, and mostly out of my control.

Whether we make footprints on the hot sand next month beside baby and toddler feet, or whether Jeff and I just take another lap around the neighborhood, alone, on a sticky Alabama evening, is unpredictable.

I just don’t know that. But God does.

That’s what I do know.

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Our Featured Post

Our featured post this month is by Karen Del Tatto.

How to Trust God in Times of Uncertainty

Karen gives us great advice, looking at what the Bible says about the future and showing us how to have faith in uncertain times.

“We may live in uncertain times, but for those who are in Christ Jesus, our future is certain and secure. If we can trust God with our eternal future, we can certainly trust Him with our lives here on earth.”

Read it all here. 

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1. Share 1 or 2 of your most recent CHRISTIAN LIVING posts. (No DIY, crafts, recipes, or inappropriate articles.) All links are randomly sorted.

2. Comment on 1 or 2 other links. Grace & Truth linkup encourages community.   

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MAREE DEE – Embracing the Unexpected
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HEATHER HART & VALERIE RIESE – Candidly Christian
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LAUREN SPARKS
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What plans have you had to cancel? What plans are you still holding loosely for the future? Please share your thoughts in the comments.