Here’s to the Healers

We passed the year anniversary of Stan’s death on March 15, 2020. It was one of the last days we could enter a restaurant to eat together, and the first day that in-person church was canceled.

We again wore Auburn colors, went to the cemetery after lunch, and celebrated Stan’s life.

We also remembered the lives of those who worked to spare his life.

And now in this deadly era of COVID-19, these nurses and doctors are again foremost in our minds.

May God bless those of you who are the healers in the wake of this new coronavirus. You are our heroes. You are God’s special servants.

And to the families of the healers? You deserve special blessings, too, for the sacrifices you are making. May God keep you all safe.

Why I’m Sad

I’m sad.

I didn’t like seeing Stan connected by tubes to bags on IV poles. I didn’t like that he needed round-the-clock care in ICU for week after long week. I didn’t like that the lights always needed to be on, that the machines always needed to beep, that the nurses always had to stick and measure.

I drove home from the hospital that last Friday morning, March 15, 2019, one final time of leaving Stan’s now quiet and empty Room 11 that he’d occupied for so long.

I opened my Lent prayer app to the prayer-of-the-day.

This is what God had planted for March 15.

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We Still Need People

Stan died in the early hours that Friday morning. Monday was his visitation. Tuesday was his funeral. Stan was the husband of Kathy, one of the Four Corners, one of my life-long best friends.

I’ve known Stan forever. First as my big brother’s friend, then as my own friend.

Those previous few months, I watched Stan breathe through one machine and watched his blood circulate through another. Modern medicine can seem quite miraculous.

But technological improvements alone still aren’t enough.

We still need people.

So now, even though I’m sad, I’m also grateful.

Here’s to the Healers

I applaud you who work with the sick and dying, you who are strong for the weak, you who stay up late and get up early so patients can have 24-hour medical attention.

The 6th floor medical staff in the Cardiac Care ICU at our hospital that took care of Stan (Anna, Taylor, Will, Des, Brandie, Leslie, Mallory, +) are more than phenomenal workers, they are phenomenal souls.

They know what to do with their school learning: they adjust levels and change out lines and read x-rays.

But they also know what to do with their emotional instincts: they offer genuine hope and they give generous care and they cry real tears.

They have more than skill. They have heart.

So here’s to the nurses, the doctors, the assistants, the caregivers: Keep doing what you do. Keep nurturing and protecting and tending to us when we’re sick, when we get better, and even when we die.

We need you. We pray for you. We love you.

Thank you for how you took care of Stan. And thank you for how you took care of us.

Here's to the healers

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Do you work in the medical field? Thank you! Have you had a good experience with your medical caregivers? Please share in the comments.

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Do You Need More? Or Less? Grace & Truth Link-Up

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More or Less

I’m not hoarding. I promise.

But yesterday I bought more Tylenol. More chicken. More bread.

But more isn’t always what I need.

As Joanne points out in our featured post this week, we need less of these things:

  • Less anxiety
  • Less hoarding
  • Less news

And more of these things:

  • More peace
  • More generosity
  • More Truth

Ultimately, Joanne reminds us that “We need less doubt and more confidence—confidence in the One.

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I encourage you to read Joanne’s entire post, “Less.” It’s short, but it’s rich.

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When Plans Are a Tossup, Live in Grace

As an introvert, I admit I’m happy some of my events are cancelled due to COVID-19 concerns, even though I hate that’s the reason.

It’s just that I love being at home.

But one event in particular that I do NOT want to be cancelled is A Night of Harmony with Bob Goff in a town near me in late April.

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Words of Love from Bob

If you’ve ever listened to Bob Goff in person or a podcast, or read through his books, you already know what a treasure he is. We especially need his enthusiasm, optimism, and faith in this time of fear.

But in any season, his words ring true and bring hope.

Listen to these quotes from his new 365-day devotion, Live in Grace, Walk in Love:

“Make your life about people and you won’t regret it.”

“It’s so much easier to love people with our intentions than to love them in real life.”

We forget Jesus didn’t ask us to have all the answers. He also doesn’t need us to be the hall monitors of other people’s conduct. He had a few strong words for the people who appointed themselves as protectors of truth. Jesus simply asked us to follow Him, not to monitor who everyone else is.”

“Love isn’t something we do, like a job. It’s someone we become, like Jesus.

“Loving God started to make more sense when I realized loving a God I couldn’t see was a lot like loving the people He made and put all around me.”

Plan to Love

My husband Jeff and I heard Bob Goff in person a year ago, also at A Night of Harmony. He radiated love and joy the second he walked out on the stage to speak. And that love and joy stuck with us for a long time afterwards.

I hope we don’t have to miss the opportunity to repeat that experience this year.

But even if the event gets canceled (it seems likely) and I can’t hear Bob Goff in person, I’m grateful to be reading Bob Goff’s words every day this year. Live in Grace, Walk in Love is a beautiful testament to what God wants each of us to do, wherever we are, whenever it is:

Commit to love. That is the best plan.


Have your read either of Bob Goff’s other books, Love Does or Everybody, Always (one of my Top 10 Books of 2018)? I highly recommend them, too!

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Is It Okay to Complain If It’s Only in My Head?

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“Whether you complain aloud or only in thought makes no difference.”
– Eckhart Tolle

I sometimes play mind tricks with myself. Such as, it’s okay to complain about somebody as long as it’s only to Jeff.

Or this one: it’s okay to complain, as long as I don’t say it out loud.

But is it? Really?

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When You Express It

We can’t help certain thoughts that pop into our head about someone else’s attitude or actions. And maybe it’s for a legitimate reason because they truly are irritating and egotistical.

But complaining is more than just having the thought. Complaining is expressing an attitude about it.

In this anxious time of coronavirus panic, complaining has come easier to me. I’m verbalizing my annoyance more frequently. 

In the best of times, I think I’m doing good if I keep these thoughts only to myself. And granted, that is better than saying every one of these thoughts out loud.

But should I even indulge them in my head? Are they doing me any good?

All Complaints Hurt Us

My inside-only complaints cause trouble, too.

(An exclusion is the “complaint” that states a wrong that needs to be addressed: “There’s a fly in my soup.” That’s okay. What’s not good is: “How dare you let a fly get in my soup!”)

The kind of complaining I’ve been doing is this: “What is wrong with these people buying up all the toilet paper at Publix? Don’t they know other people need some, too?”

It is labeling other people as greedy and selfish when I don’t know what their motivations are. Only God knows hearts. Maybe they actually are greedy and selfish (aren’t we all at times?).

But maybe they are just scared and panicked (again, aren’t we all at times?).

Either way, it doesn’t serve them OR me to judge them for it. Even if I’m quiet about it. 

I don’t have to take personal offense to their words or actions. I don’t have to set up an “I am right; they are wrong” mentality. I don’t have to defend my strong opinion on everything. 

As Tricia Goyer says in The Grumble-Free Year,

“It’s easy to see grumbling as a bad habit. It’s harder to see that it is an actual offense against God. Even if we don’t think so, it’s saying, God, you’ve failed me.”

I can remember that God’s favor is on me. He is for me. That is what I need. 

Accepting a situation (or a person) as is, without criticizing and complaining, is a strength, not a weakness. It doesn’t mean you approve. You still might need to act to make the situation better.

But stop the complaining.

Linger in Silence

My one word of the year is Linger. For the month of March, my Linger action step is Silence, i.e., Linger in the Silence. I’ve been choosing silence more instead of automatically turning on a podcast or even picking up a book as often (aghast!).

But I also need to choose lingering in the silence instead of complaining out loud.

And instead of complaining in my head.

Both are toxic. Both can lead to resentment and bitterness and grievances of “I can’t believe she did that to me!” outrage.

I still can’t control everything (anything?) that pops into my head, including negative people and annoying situations that cause me angst. But I can choose to be aware of these thoughts and stop feeding them.

By choosing to quiet them instead of encouraging them, I’ll create more peace in the world.

Not just peace on the outside, but peace inside my head, too.


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Running Low at the Grocery Store – Grace & Truth Link-Up

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Out of Toilet Paper

I legit needed to buy toilet paper. Not to hoard. Not to stockpile. But because we were almost out anyway.

But when I got to Walmart, the shelves were almost bare. There were still a few rolls left. But there were far less packages than there was empty space.

Ditto for the wipes I wanted to replace in my car. None on the shelves. On and on.

We’re all experiencing new things in this time of Coronovirus.

If we’re lucky, we’ll only be affected by self-quarantines and slightly inconvenienced by mundane things as fewer selections than we’re used to at the grocery store.

May we use these as wake-up calls to realign our priorities and perspectives in this season of uncertainty and fear and disruptions. God is still with us; we are still here for each other. That has not changed. That will not change. 

We may run low on supplies, but may we remain full of hope. God’s faithfulness and our love for each other, by his grace, will never run out.

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Last week Laurie linked a post with us at Grace & Truth about her own perspective shift at the grocery store. I think you’ll relate, too, like I did.

As she reminds us, let us each remind each other when we’re short on patience, for whatever the reason:

“Most people do not irritate us on purpose. . . . Gratitude, humility, and the ability to see life from others’ points of view lead to inner peace.”

Read Laurie’s post, “How I Achieved Inner Peace In the Checkout Line” at her blog, Meditations in Motion. You’ll be glad you did.

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When You Help the Helpers

It was Missions Fair Sunday at our church. I wanted to sign up for something but I didn’t feel qualified for anything.

My husband was excited about a relatively new ministry called PAR (Prepare and Respond). It is a faith-based disaster response group that formed in our north Alabama region after devastating tornadoes ripped through here in 2011. 

But I couldn’t use a chainsaw.

How could I be of any help to this group?

Help the Helpers

Despite misgivings that day, I signed my name anyway for the PAR group. When another set of tornadoes hit close to home not long afterward, I received an email from PAR to help.

What had I gotten myself into?

Read the rest here about “Helping the Helpers”


When we expand our idea of how we can work in a ministry, God may surprise us with opportunities we didn’t see coming.

Will you join me at Do Not Depart for the rest of the story? “Not Gifted for That Ministry? Help the Helpers”