Just not her.
Anybody but him.
Sometimes we just want to say no. No, God, don’t ask me to love that person. Bring me someone else that’s not as messy. Not as rude. Not as…well, unlovable.
But that’s the person we need to love the most, yes?
Often my attempts fail miserably when I try to love THAT person. But even our weakest efforts count for something.
And even if our shaky love never reaches that person enough to be felt or to change them, maybe we are changed in the effort.
“Find a way to love difficult people more, and you’ll be living the big life Jesus talked about. Go find someone you’ve been avoiding and give away extravagant love to them. You’ll learn more about God, your neighbor, your enemies, and your faith.”
– Bob Goff
Whether you have a messy person in your life right now or not, Bob Goff is a person who will inspire you to get out there and love people. Not because of who Bob is (well, maybe a little because of who Bob is; he’s stunning). And not because of who you are or they are. But be emboldened to love more because of who God is.
This is a beautifully motivating book by Bob, Everybody, Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People. It’s full of his amazing personal stories, his encounters with interesting people, and his experiences with God. If you’re ever down or feel the world is too dark, read this book. You’ll be encouraged again.
And the next time you ask yourself—Who am I to love?—here’s a phenomenal answer:
“Every time I wonder who I should love and for how long I should love them, God continues to whisper to me: Everybody, always.”
Quotes from Everybody, Always
I highlighted a gazillion lines from Everybody, Always. Here are a just a few from the many.
“What I had done is make it about me, yet again, and our lives will never be about Jesus if we keep making everything about us.”
“We don’t need to call everything we do ‘ministry.’ Just call it Tuesday. That’s what people who are becoming love do.”
“We can either keep track of all the good we’ve done or all the good God’s done. Only one will really matter to us.”
“What if we found out God’s big plan for our lives is that we wouldn’t spend so much of our time trying to figure out a big plan for our lives? Perhaps He just wants us to love Him and love each other.”
“Friendships can last a lifetime, but we make them three minutes at a time.”
“You don’t need to take all the steps, just the next one. God may not give us all the green lights we want, but I’m confident He gives us all the green lights He wants us to have at the time. Go with what you’ve got.”
“We’re not held back by what we don’t have, but what we don’t use.”
“I’ll say I am too busy to help someone in need, when it isn’t time I lack; it’s compassion.”
“People don’t grow where they’re planted; they grow where they’re loved.”
“Don’t worry about who’s in the Oval Office with the launch codes. Your oval office is a circle thirty feet around you. Go love the people in that circle. Fill it with difficult people, the ones you’ve been avoiding, the ones you disagree with, the ones who are hard to get along with. Go find a couple of witch doctors.”
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Do you have a difficult person in your life? Are they hard to love? Please share in the comments how you’re overcoming reluctance.
My thanks to Net Galley
for the review copy of this book
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