Get to the Point

What Are You Asking?

Was I asking the wrong question?

She wanted to see my Kindle. I turned it on and clicked to the children’s book I had downloaded from the library, Baby Farm Animals.

We got to this page. And I asked my 1-yr-old granddaughter: What are these?

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Her answer was always the same. She didn’t reply: Cats. Or even kittens.

She always answered: Meow-meow. Maybe it’s because she knew what my next question would be anyway:

Q: And what does the cat say?
A: Meow-meow.

So she cut to the chase.

Get to the Point

As an introvert, I like when people cut to the chase. I don’t always appreciate small talk. I prefer a quick journey straight to the point rather than waste time meandering in spirals.

And what is the point?

Ultimately, isn’t it love? We all want to be loved. And we all want someone to love.

Even when we don’t recognize it by name, we feel when we are being loved.

  • Love is when someone chooses to spend time with us.
  • Or gives us something we need. Maybe a physical gift; maybe a hug; maybe an ear.
  • Or speaks uplifting words we long to hear.

Love is the Point

Next, I pointed to myself and asked my granddaughter: Who am I? What’s my name?

She had yet to pronunciate my self-proclaimed grandmother name of “Granna.”

But I was fine with that. Maybe she was just cutting to the chase by giving me hugs. She blew me kisses. She’d get excited when she woke up from a nap and discovered I was still around.

We were both getting the point: I loved her and she loved me. Whether or not she could yet say my name.

Life is too short to miss the point.

  • Be direct.
  • Gather love around you every day.
  • Speak love lavishly to those you know.

Love is the point. It’s always the point.


What’s your love language? How do you show love to others? Please share in the comments.

revised from the archives


Instructions for “My Curiosity Walk”

Instructions

1. The first fourth of your walk:
Notice only what you feel, such as the air temperature, your muscles, your breath.

2. The second fourth of your walk:
Notice only what you see, such as the leaves on the trees, the airplane in the sky, the squirrel on the ground.

3. The third fourth of your walk:
Notice only what you hear, such as a car driving by, the slam of a front door, a robin’s song.

4. The fourth fourth of your walk:
Notice only what you’re thinking, such as why this is hard to do, what you will eat when you get home, what you wished you’d said in that conversation you wished you hadn’t had.

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My Turn

I begin the test again today.

I lace up my shoes. I put on my sunglasses. I walk out my front door.

1. What do I feel?
I feel the air is cooler in the shade, and my legs starting to hurt as I walk up the hill, and my quicker pace than yesterday’s pace.

2. What do I see?
I see that the neighbor sawed down three trees since my last walk and that another neighbor cut his grass . . .

but I also feel the heat of the sun on the back of my neck.

3. What do I hear?
I hear a lawnmower in the neighborhood across the street . . .

but I also see someone watering their lawn . . .

and I feel a pebble in my shoe.

4. What am I thinking?
. . . but I hear the teen driver revving his engine . . .

and I see the rabbit freeze in its tracks as I near . . .

and I feel the breeze picking up.

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My Grade

My walk is now over. I failed to keep my mind centered on only the proper task in each section. I couldn’t follow the instructions to the letter.

But I grade myself an A+ anyway. For feeling, for hearing, for walking, for noticing, all along the way.

It was an indulgent walk of curiosity, quite the prize. It is its own reward.

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Have you had a curiosity walk lately? Share your thoughts in the comments.

I’m experimenting with Curiosity this year, my One Word of 2024.

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6 Books I Recommend – October 2024

“Here’s to books, the cheapest vacation you can buy.”
– Charlaine Harris

Here are 5 nonfiction books and 1 novel I recommend from my recent reads. 

[See previously recommended books here]

FICTION

1. The Covenant of Water
by Abraham Verghese

The Covenant of Water

If you are patient with the slow start, this beautifully written, multi-generational family saga set in India is worth its 720 pages. It’s full of ups and downs, much of it centered around the Condition, a family curse involving water. I really grew attached to the characters, which happens when a long book is also a good book, which this one is. Now I know for myself: this book is worth the hype it’s receiving.  

NONFICTION

2. Good People
Stories From the Best of Humanity
by Gabriel Reilich, Lucia Knell

Good People

We all need to hear more uplifting stories, not just depressing news. This book is a series of personal stories from Upworthy readers, “the kindest place on the internet.” It reminds me of something I know but need to hear again — the world is actually full of wonderful people.

[See my review here of Good People]

3. Spiritual Bypassing
When Spirituality Disconnects Us from What Really Matters
by Robert Augustus Masters

Spiritual Bypassing

If you wonder whether you use religion in an unhealthy way, this book will help you explore that. Spiritual bypassing—using beliefs to avoid facing painful issues—is common but not necessarily healthy. I found this book to be valuable in questioning my own spiritual practices and highly recommend it for anyone else who seeks greater self-awareness in their spirituality.

4. Stand Your Ground
A Black Feminist Reckoning with America’s Gun Problem
by Roxane Gay

Stand Your Ground

Why do people choose to keep a gun at home? In this extended essay, Roxane Gay explains why she finally decided to buy a firearm after years of resistance. This book is a thoughtful reflection on her experiences with gun culture in America. I appreciate the nuance with which she discusses the highs and lows of gun ownership.

5. How Not to Be Afraid
Seven Ways to Live When Everything Seems Terrifying
by Gareth Higgins

How Not to Be Afraid

For those with anxiety, the world can often feel unsafe. This book offers seven fresh perspectives on fear, helping us put our own fears into a more appropriate context. I had several aha! moments while reading about Higgins’ own struggles and how he’s learning to reframe them.

6. Why We Remember
Unlocking Memory’s Power to Hold on to What Matters
by Charan Ranganath

Why We Remember

I often wonder why we remember certain things, forget other things, and how our memories shift over time. This book dives into the latest scientific research but is still easily accessible for the non-scientific reader to help us understand how memory really works. Even though some of the findings are unsettling—like how easily our memories can change over time—I found this material both fascinating and enlightening.

WHAT I’M READING NOW

  • The Life Impossible
    by Matt Haig
  • Wintering
    The Power of Rest and Retreat in Difficult Times
    by Katherine May
  • Lovely One: A Memoir
    by Ketanji Brown Jackson
  • The Violent Take It by Force
    The Christian Movement That Is Threatening Our Democracy
    by Matthew D. Taylor
  • Briefly Perfectly Human
    Making an Authentic Life by Getting Real About the End
    by Alua Arthur
  • Collateral Damage
    Changing the Conversation about Firearms and Faith
    by James E. Atwood
  • Hope in the Dark
    Untold Histories, Wild Possibilities
    by Rebecca Solnit

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What good book have you read lately? Please share in the comments.

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On the Blog – September 2024

Here are brief summaries and links to posts on the blog, Lisa notes, from September 2024.

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See previous months’ archives here


Share 4 Somethings – September 2024

For the 2024 edition of “Share 4 Somethings,” Jennifer asks us to share each month:

  1. Something loved and/or disliked
  2. Something accomplished
  3. Something improved upon and/or that needs improvement
  4. Something noticed

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Something Loved

  • CHERISHED FAMILY TIME AT THE BEACH 

Last week, we spent a blissful time at the beach with our youngest daughter and her family. The laughter of our grandson, the sound of waves, and the warmth of the sun were so wonderful. The only thing missing was our oldest daughter and her family. I wish they could have been with us, too. I try not to let what I don’t have take away my joy of what I do have. We can feel two things at once, right? Joy and sadness coexist in me.

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Something Accomplished

  • DOING ELECTION WORK

Every election feels monumental, but this U.S. Presidential election seems especially weighty. Last Tuesday our book club wrote postcards to encourage voters in Georgia to make a plan to get to the polls on November 5.

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Georgia is a swing state where each of their votes might make a difference in tilting the election one way or the other. Living in Alabama, the outcome is predictable, which makes my vote seem less impactful. Nonetheless I’ll still cast my vote on election day, and whether my candidates win or lose, I’ll know I did what I could.

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Something that Needs Improvement

  • CUT THE CORD OR NOT?

For the past few years, Jeff and I have toyed with the idea of dropping our AT&T U-Verse TV package because it seems too expensive. We already pay for a few extra services here and there in addition to it.

But this month when AT&T lost ESPN right as college football season was beginning, it felt like a breaking point (we have it back now though, War Eagle). Do we make the switch to YouTube TV, perhaps? Another carrier?

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I’m grateful for all the choices available to us, but sometimes I miss the simplicity of just turning on the TV and not having to decide between all the streaming options.

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Something Noticed

  • LAUGHING IN COMMUNITY

Earlier this month, Jeff and I went to see one of my favorite guys on Instagram, Landon Talks. If you’ve never heard of him, Landon is hilarious on Instagram, explaining all our quirky Southern sayings and traditions.

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Seeing him in person was everything I expected, but what surprised me was how much joy also came from laughing with everyone else in the room. There’s something healing about sharing that kind of experience with others. It was a reminder that I need more of those moments—where laughter brings people together in the best way.


What is something you are loving, accomplishing, improving, or noticing this month?

Share your thoughts in the comments.

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Good People: Restoring Faith in Humanity, One Story at a Time

“The truth is, the book of human decency continues to be written every day. Let’s all keep adding stories to it together.”
– from Good People by Gabriel Reilich and Lucia Knell

I’d Rather Be Wrong

Sometimes I want to be wrong.

A friend of mine was about to face a hard conversation at work. I had a hunch it would turn out bad. I hoped for good, but expected worse.

Unfortunately, I was right. The conversation was a disaster for her. Sadly, my prediction about her boss was correct this time.

Watching people mistreat another can shake my faith in humanity. That’s when I need reminders of better examples. So I picked out this book to review, Good People: Stories From the Best of Humanity, collated by Gabriel Reilich and Lucia Knell of Upworthy, an online gathering spot for uplifting stories.

The book gave me exactly what I needed—real-life stories from everyday people that showcase the small miracles of kindness and compassion that restore our hope in each other.

Stories of Kindness

The stories in Good People don’t revolve around world-changing events, but they hold an equally strong, albeit quiet, power for the individual at the heart of each story.

One story is written by a woman who loses her dog Milo in the woods. Many residents of the town come together, spending two days and nights to search for the lost pet, until at last Milo was found, safe and sound.

“I couldn’t believe how many kind and selfless people spent so many hours with no other motivation than helping a dog get home. For weeks after, people would stop us on the street because they recognized Milo and were happy to see him safe and healthy. See? Humans aren’t so bad after all.”

Another story describes a science teacher who shared her classroom and a sandwich every day with an unpopular student. Her compassion was a simple gesture, but it left a lifelong impact on the student.

“To this day, I look back on Mr. Wilkerson with gratitude. A sandwich provides one kind of nourishment; compassion provides another. And the latter, for me, meant everything. . . . Her random act of kindness was a gift in itself, reminding me that there are good people in the world—people who do kind things for other people just because they can.”

These small moments, whether a sandwich or a supportive word, showcase how everyday kindness can nourish both body and soul.

Lessons on Humanity

Throughout Good People, I constantly found recurring themes of empathy and human connection. As readers tell their stories, I was reminded that, despite the negative moments we witness or experience, there is also kindness waiting to be discovered.

Here are a few lessons that the writers learned from their individual stories:

  • Even when it feels like I’m completely alone, I’m not.
  • I learned the world isn’t necessarily a scary place. Kindness is there when I need it.
  • Just because I can’t see a way out doesn’t mean there isn’t one.
  • Live to give.
  • Mermaids may not exist in real life, but good people do. I’ll never stop believing in that.

Some stories are several pages long. Other stories are  simply a paragraph, like this one:

“I was in my first year of law school and driving home late at night, stressed after studying all day for finals. I was stopped at a traffic light, crying a bit, when a guy knocked on my passenger side window, holding out a bouquet of flowers. He was driving a florist delivery truck, noticed I was upset, and said he hoped the flowers would make me feel better. That was more than 30 years ago, and about once a week I think of him and wish him well.”
—Emily W.

But long or short, each story is meaningful. It showcases a human being’s kindness to another, their empathy, in real life situations, proof that at the base of each of us lies a strong foundation of goodness.

And when given the right opportunity, we are more than happy to pour out that goodness onto others. Or have it poured out onto us.

Keep Adding Your Stories

After a few days of hearing my friend’s unfortunate story unravel about the mistreatment by her boss, I dove back into more stories inside the pages of Good People.

It reminded me again that for every moment of disappointment, there are also many acts of goodness happening all around the world—someone helping a stranger, a community coming together, or simply a friend being present for another who needs them.

“Less than a month later, Dexter received a beautiful handwritten note that brought tears to my eyes. At the bottom, they had one request: Always remember that most people in the world are nice.”

This book is more than just a collection of inspiring stories—it shows us the innate beauty in fellow human beings. And it encourages us to go show kindness to other humans around us. That is powerful.

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More about Upworthy:

“Upworthy is a gathering place, online and off, for all those who champion the core belief that people are inherently good, and that we have more in common than not. Founded in 2012, it reaches 100 million people a month through various channels across social media, web, and email. Join us @upworthy on all platforms.”

Have you experienced a moment of kindness lately? Share your story in the comments—we’re still writing the story of human goodness.

HUMAN was my One Word of the Year in 2023. Good People reminded me of lessons I learned from it.

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My thanks to NetGalley for the
review copy of Good People