Share 4 Somethings – September 2024

For the 2024 edition of “Share 4 Somethings,” Jennifer asks us to share each month:

  1. Something loved and/or disliked
  2. Something accomplished
  3. Something improved upon and/or that needs improvement
  4. Something noticed

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Something Loved

  • CHERISHED FAMILY TIME AT THE BEACH 

Last week, we spent a blissful time at the beach with our youngest daughter and her family. The laughter of our grandson, the sound of waves, and the warmth of the sun were so wonderful. The only thing missing was our oldest daughter and her family. I wish they could have been with us, too. I try not to let what I don’t have take away my joy of what I do have. We can feel two things at once, right? Joy and sadness coexist in me.

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Something Accomplished

  • DOING ELECTION WORK

Every election feels monumental, but this U.S. Presidential election seems especially weighty. Last Tuesday our book club wrote postcards to encourage voters in Georgia to make a plan to get to the polls on November 5.

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Georgia is a swing state where each of their votes might make a difference in tilting the election one way or the other. Living in Alabama, the outcome is predictable, which makes my vote seem less impactful. Nonetheless I’ll still cast my vote on election day, and whether my candidates win or lose, I’ll know I did what I could.

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Something that Needs Improvement

  • CUT THE CORD OR NOT?

For the past few years, Jeff and I have toyed with the idea of dropping our AT&T U-Verse TV package because it seems too expensive. We already pay for a few extra services here and there in addition to it.

But this month when AT&T lost ESPN right as college football season was beginning, it felt like a breaking point (we have it back now though, War Eagle). Do we make the switch to YouTube TV, perhaps? Another carrier?

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I’m grateful for all the choices available to us, but sometimes I miss the simplicity of just turning on the TV and not having to decide between all the streaming options.

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Something Noticed

  • LAUGHING IN COMMUNITY

Earlier this month, Jeff and I went to see one of my favorite guys on Instagram, Landon Talks. If you’ve never heard of him, Landon is hilarious on Instagram, explaining all our quirky Southern sayings and traditions.

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Seeing him in person was everything I expected, but what surprised me was how much joy also came from laughing with everyone else in the room. There’s something healing about sharing that kind of experience with others. It was a reminder that I need more of those moments—where laughter brings people together in the best way.


What is something you are loving, accomplishing, improving, or noticing this month?

Share your thoughts in the comments.

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Good People: Restoring Faith in Humanity, One Story at a Time

“The truth is, the book of human decency continues to be written every day. Let’s all keep adding stories to it together.”
– from Good People by Gabriel Reilich and Lucia Knell

I’d Rather Be Wrong

Sometimes I want to be wrong.

A friend of mine was about to face a hard conversation at work. I had a hunch it would turn out bad. I hoped for good, but expected worse.

Unfortunately, I was right. The conversation was a disaster for her. Sadly, my prediction about her boss was correct this time.

Watching people mistreat another can shake my faith in humanity. That’s when I need reminders of better examples. So I picked out this book to review, Good People: Stories From the Best of Humanity, collated by Gabriel Reilich and Lucia Knell of Upworthy, an online gathering spot for uplifting stories.

The book gave me exactly what I needed—real-life stories from everyday people that showcase the small miracles of kindness and compassion that restore our hope in each other.

Stories of Kindness

The stories in Good People don’t revolve around world-changing events, but they hold an equally strong, albeit quiet, power for the individual at the heart of each story.

One story is written by a woman who loses her dog Milo in the woods. Many residents of the town come together, spending two days and nights to search for the lost pet, until at last Milo was found, safe and sound.

“I couldn’t believe how many kind and selfless people spent so many hours with no other motivation than helping a dog get home. For weeks after, people would stop us on the street because they recognized Milo and were happy to see him safe and healthy. See? Humans aren’t so bad after all.”

Another story describes a science teacher who shared her classroom and a sandwich every day with an unpopular student. Her compassion was a simple gesture, but it left a lifelong impact on the student.

“To this day, I look back on Mr. Wilkerson with gratitude. A sandwich provides one kind of nourishment; compassion provides another. And the latter, for me, meant everything. . . . Her random act of kindness was a gift in itself, reminding me that there are good people in the world—people who do kind things for other people just because they can.”

These small moments, whether a sandwich or a supportive word, showcase how everyday kindness can nourish both body and soul.

Lessons on Humanity

Throughout Good People, I constantly found recurring themes of empathy and human connection. As readers tell their stories, I was reminded that, despite the negative moments we witness or experience, there is also kindness waiting to be discovered.

Here are a few lessons that the writers learned from their individual stories:

  • Even when it feels like I’m completely alone, I’m not.
  • I learned the world isn’t necessarily a scary place. Kindness is there when I need it.
  • Just because I can’t see a way out doesn’t mean there isn’t one.
  • Live to give.
  • Mermaids may not exist in real life, but good people do. I’ll never stop believing in that.

Some stories are several pages long. Other stories are  simply a paragraph, like this one:

“I was in my first year of law school and driving home late at night, stressed after studying all day for finals. I was stopped at a traffic light, crying a bit, when a guy knocked on my passenger side window, holding out a bouquet of flowers. He was driving a florist delivery truck, noticed I was upset, and said he hoped the flowers would make me feel better. That was more than 30 years ago, and about once a week I think of him and wish him well.”
—Emily W.

But long or short, each story is meaningful. It showcases a human being’s kindness to another, their empathy, in real life situations, proof that at the base of each of us lies a strong foundation of goodness.

And when given the right opportunity, we are more than happy to pour out that goodness onto others. Or have it poured out onto us.

Keep Adding Your Stories

After a few days of hearing my friend’s unfortunate story unravel about the mistreatment by her boss, I dove back into more stories inside the pages of Good People.

It reminded me again that for every moment of disappointment, there are also many acts of goodness happening all around the world—someone helping a stranger, a community coming together, or simply a friend being present for another who needs them.

“Less than a month later, Dexter received a beautiful handwritten note that brought tears to my eyes. At the bottom, they had one request: Always remember that most people in the world are nice.

This book is more than just a collection of inspiring stories—it shows us the innate beauty in fellow human beings. And it encourages us to go show kindness to other humans around us. That is powerful.

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More about Upworthy:

“Upworthy is a gathering place, online and off, for all those who champion the core belief that people are inherently good, and that we have more in common than not. Founded in 2012, it reaches 100 million people a month through various channels across social media, web, and email. Join us @upworthy on all platforms.”

Have you experienced a moment of kindness lately? Share your story in the comments—we’re still writing the story of human goodness.

HUMAN was my One Word of the Year in 2023. Good People reminded me of lessons I learned from it.

Human One Word 2023 More Post

My thanks to NetGalley for the
review copy of Good People


Learn 2 or 3 New Facts About Your One Word of the Year
{One Word 2024 September Linkup}

Dive deeper into your One Word’s meaning and see if there are any new discoveries or perspectives that will enhance your journey.

Link all of your ONE WORD blog posts below. Share an update about your One Word in the comments.

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9 Months of Growth: Where Are You Now?

Can you believe you’ve already spent nine months with your One Word? Whether it’s been a smooth journey or one full of unexpected challenges, I hope this time has brought growth and insight for you.

But the year isn’t over yet. There’s still plenty of time to deepen your connection to your word in this last quarter of 2024.

A New Exploration of Your One Word

Here’s a fun exercise to take your One Word a little further: look up your word on Wikipedia or another resource and see what new information you can find. It doesn’t have to be a long search—just find 2-3 new facts about your word.

Once you’ve gathered new information, reflect on the following:

  • What surprised you?
  • Did this new information change your perspective?
  • Did it give you new ideas to practice or live out your word?

Using my One Word CURIOSITY, here are my answers:

  • Surprised me:
    I’ve always associated curiosity with the symbol of a magnifying glass. But according to Wikipedia, space and telescopes are also “quintessential symbols for curiosity.” 
  • Changed my perspective:
    Research shows that higher amounts of dopamine are released when a reward is unexpected rather than known. I don’t typically like surprises, but perhaps I should reconsider and more actively embrace curiosity and the excitement that comes with uncertainty (UNCERTAINTY was actually my One Word of the Year in 2021; it’s still not letting go of me).
  • New practice:
    Because I read that curiosity helps improve memory, I plan to pay more attention to new or unusual details in my experiences, especially when it’s something I want to remember better.

Share Your Insights

Whether what you discover confirms what you already knew or opens up something completely new, it’s valuable to reflect on how this impacts your journey. We would love to hear what you uncover!

Feel free to share your insights below in a comment, in our Facebook group here, or in a blog post.

We’re all on this journey together, and your discoveries might inspire someone else.

Join Our September Linkup

Our September linkup will stay open from Tuesday, September 24, until midnight on Tuesday, October 8. It’s the perfect time to connect with others, share your progress, and celebrate how far you’ve come with your word. Next month’s linkup will open on Thursday, October 24 (and on the 24th of each month for 2024).

Use this last quarter as an opportunity to fully embrace the power of your One Word.

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What new fact have you learned about your One Word this year? Share in the comments.

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Don’t Jump to Conclusions – Jump to Grace

Edward stood in the long line outside, waiting with the others to sign up for gifts for his kids.

He was young, maybe 25. Black hair, brown skin, dark eyes. His accent was Hispanic.

As he watched us, a group of white ladies, he noticed we were clearly struggling to communicate clearly with other Hispanic families in line. Between our spotty Spanish and their limited English, we weren’t bridging the communication gap very well.

So when it was my turn to sign up Edward, he offered me something unexpected. “I can speak both English and Spanish,” he said. “If you need me to help translate, I’m available.

Relieved, I immediately answered, “Yes, please!” I started asking him how to say this and that, grateful for his help. As he answered, he explained subtle differences between Guatemalan Spanish and Mexican Spanish.

His knowledge was fascinating. So I asked, “Where are you from?”, wondering which form of Spanish was his native tongue.

His answer caught me off guard.

I am an American.”

Oh. Of course. But it was too late—my incorrect assumption had already been blurted out.

We moved on, continuing to talk and work, but my mind kept circling back to that moment. Why had I asked where he was from? What assumptions had I made based on how he looked and sounded?

Finally, after my third or fourth trip to ask Edward a translation question, I couldn’t hold it in any longer. I apologized.

“I feel bad I asked where you were from. I just assumed you weren’t from here. I am so sorry.”

Edward just laughed. “I get that all the time,” he said.

But still I couldn’t shake the feeling of how quickly I’d made a judgment about him.

It’s so easy to jump to conclusions, whether about ethnicity or income or circumstances.

Just because someone doesn’t look like me or sound like me doesn’t mean that he’s not like me. Edward and I likely had more in common, both as American citizens and as human beings, than we had differences.

Maybe we all look a little different on our outsides so we’ll take a closer look at our insides.

  • To spot our similarities
  • To discover our distinctions
  • To practice our principles

I was thankful for Edward’s grace. He gave it freely. So I accepted it freely.

And I haven’t forgotten it. I want to learn from it.

In the future, I want to jump quicker to grace and tread slower to conclusions.

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When have you jumped too quickly to the wrong conclusion? Remember to stay curious! And give grace. Please share in the comments.

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Even After You Stop Looking, Joy Can Still Find You

A Tough Day at the Hospital

We were leaving the hospital after a long, exhausting day. My uncle had had a medical emergency earlier that morning, and I’d spent the day with him. But by 7pm, we knew he was stable, safely settled into a room with wonderful care from the nursing staff.

It was time for us to go home.

We stepped out into the cool evening air, slowly emerging from the heavy, emotional fog of the hospital. My mind was still clouded, processing the day and weeks ahead.

But then something caught my eye.

The Elusive Donut Truck

There, parked just outside the hospital, was a pop of color against the fading light. It stopped me cold. My friend Tifani’s donut truck!

I had been trying to track down her truck for months—Butterfly Bliss Sweet Treats—following her schedule on Facebook, hoping to find the right time to support her locally-owned business.

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But somehow, our paths had never crossed. Until now, here it was, waiting for me when I wasn’t even looking.

The timing was poetic. Even though I’d given up the search (at least temporarily), I’d still found what I wanted.

Mini Donuts and Meaningful Moments

Tifani and her husband Josh were as surprised to see us as we were to see them. We didn’t stay long—just enough time for a quick catch-up and to indulge in an order of their delicious cookies ‘n cream mini donuts.

It was a taste of heaven in more ways than one after our difficult day.

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That brief moment of connection was a powerful reminder: even on hard days, trust that joy can still find you, sometimes when you least expect it.


If you’re local to north Alabama, track down Butterfly Bliss Sweet Treats yourself. Tifani’s donuts are amazing!

Share your thoughts in the comments.


Why Am I Memorizing These Things?

“If I had to summarize the entirety of an enlightened person’s life in a few words, it would be complete acceptance of what is. As we accept what is, our minds are relaxed and composed while the world changes rapidly around us.”
– Sunim Haemin, from The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down

The Weight of Distance

I am sitting at my kitchen table, with the greeting card in one hand and my pen in another. As I write down a birthday wish, I carefully measure each word I choose. I keep it intentionally short, hoping my brevity will make my message more likely to be read, more likely to be heard in the heart I’m hoping to reach.

I sign my name and lick the envelope closed.

Then I break. I crumble to the floor in a heap and wail.

I want to be in person to deliver this birthday wish, just as I want to be in person for ballgames, for Christmas gatherings, for an ordinary occasional picnic in the park.

But these things are no longer an option.

An Unexpected Theme in Memory

I stay on the floor a few minutes. I feel the weight of all I’m missing by this distance. But I can’t linger here forever, so I force myself up.

I check what’s next on my to-do list: “Memory practice.” I look up my list of words to review today.

And for the first time, I notice a theme among the poems and quotes I’m memorizing. It’s not a theme I consciously chose at the beginning of this year (if so, it would have been Curiosity, my One Word of the Year), but oddly enough, or curiously enough, perhaps this unconscious theme has been choosing me.

For example, this week’s words are:

“There is one thing in life that you can always rely on: life being as it is.”
– Charlotte Joko Beck

Last week’s words were:

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the life that is waiting for us.”
– Joseph Campbell

I’m still curious. I glance back at other quotes I’ve been memorizing.

Two months ago I began memorizing:

“Hope is definitely not the same thing as optimism. It is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out.”
– Vaclav Havel

And in February, I’d chosen:

“Accept—then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy.”
– Eckhart Tolle

Choosing Acceptance, Again and Again

Yes. There is definitely a theme weaving through these pieces: Choose acceptance.

I know I’ve been resisting, struggling to accept what life has placed before me, clinging to things I wish were different. I still don’t want to believe how things have unraveled. Big things. And then smaller things that also changed, as they rippled out in the wake of the bigger things.

Yet the words on my memorization list urge me forward, encouraging me to face the reality that is here, not the dream I had planned. Make the best of what is, not what could have been.

I turn again to the lines I’m committing to memory, words that almost feel like a plea:

“When you walk to the edge of all the light you have
and take that first step into the darkness of the unknown,
you must believe that one of two things will happen:
There will be something solid for you to stand upon,
or, you will be taught how to fly.”
– Patrick Overton

With these words echoing in my heart, I put on my shoes and walk outside to the mailbox as it waits for me. I place the birthday card inside the box, raise the small red flag, and send the card on its way with all my love into the darkness of the unknown, trusting that it, too, will land somewhere solid, into the places I can’t be.

And if it can’t land there, I trust that it will somehow learn to fly, just as I am having to learn. One day at a time. One quote at a time.

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