Share Four Somethings—February 2021

Here are my “four somethings” from February that I’m sharing at Heather’s.

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Something Loved

  • TRANSPARENT BOOK HOLDER

Book weight

clear book weight

If I’m eating lunch alone at home, I’ll also be reading something. If it’s a paper book, I want it to stay open without me holding it.

Enter this ingenious book weight. It’s made of clear acrylic and is heavy enough to hold down your pages. My daughter Jenna gave it to me a couple years ago. She got it on Amazon. Here’s an example if you want to see one.

It works best for small and medium-size books. If the book pages are too large, the weight won’t cover the edges, so while you can still read through it, the letters look slightly distorted at the edges.

I intentionally didn’t clean off my fingerprints before I made these photos so that the weight would show up better. But you can wash it off easily. I never use cookbooks anymore, but if I did, this would be great for them, too. Splatters could be washed off.

This is one of two types of book weights that I use often. I’ll share the other type later.

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Something Read 

  • HUMOR, SERIOUSLY

Humor, Seriously

Did you know we start laughing less around age 23? We don’t start laughing more again until retirement age, studies show.

I often consider myself too serious. That’s why I wanted to read this book, Humor, Seriously: Why Humor Is a Secret Weapon in Business and Life. And it helped. I’m looking for more laughter now, and we usually find what we’re looking for.

But please don’t ask me to tell a joke; it won’t be funny when I tell it. But the authors of this book say we don’t have to “be funny” to use humor. Just having a sense of humor is enough. Whew.

They encourage us to take this challenge: “I promise to laugh more. Even on Tuesday.”

Challenge accepted, even though today is Saturday (when it’s easier to laugh anyway).

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Something Treasured

  • A LITERAL WALK IN THE PARK

Kay and Lisa

I haven’t done much in-person socializing these cold months. As an introvert, I didn’t expect the lack to feel this bad.

But I’ve really missed not only my close friends and family, but also the peripheral friendships as well, those people you casually run into and have brief conversations with.

So I especially treasure the times I have with my friends when we can talk in person. Now that the weather is getting warmer, I hope those times will increase again. This week I took a long walk through Big Spring Park with my friend Kay to catch up on each other’s lives. It refreshed my soul.

I look forward to when we’ll have enough vaccines for us to meet inside again, too. Jeff is eligible now through his work, but there’s no vaccines to be had. I don’t know when my turn will come. 

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Something Ahead

  • PLAYTIME WITH THE GRANDS

My daughter Morgan sent me a snapchat of my granddaughter last weekend from their house. I hope to pick up this cutie and her sister in the next few days to bring them back to my house for more adventures with Granna.

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Then later in March we’ll have a drive-thru baby shower for our little grandson due in May. I haven’t been to a drive-thru shower yet. Have you? I’m not sure exactly how they work, but I’ll find out soon.

This is Jenna in front of their freshly painted mural in the nursery. They did a beautiful job painting something interesting and inspiring for the baby to see every day.

Jenna Mural


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What’s a favorite from your month in February? What are you looking forward to in March? Share in the comments.


Think First—5 Quotes About Bias {Bias Day 27}

“The recipe for perpetual ignorance is: be satisfied with your opinions and content with your knowledge.” 
—Elbert Hubbard

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“People can’t see what they can’t see unless someone helps them see it..”  
—Brian McLaren

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Think first. Talk less. Start today.

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“You don’t know what you don’t know.”
—Scott Adams (Dilbert)

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“Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.”
—Philippians 4:8 (The Message)


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Living (and Dying) with Our Biases During a Pandemic {Bias Day 26}
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When There’s Uncertainty

  • What’s the latest on coronavirus in schools?
  • Even after vaccinations, can we still be infected?
  • If I’ve been around a friend of a friend who was exposed, do I need to quarantine too?

So many questions. So much uncertainty. Over the past 12 months we’ve had to be mindful about even our normal daily activities.

It’s been draining.

But during these months of uncertainty, our biases have been working overtime filling in the gaps. 

We’ve looked at four more biases this week in the series, “I Just Can’t See It! How to Uncover Hidden Biases.” Let’s see how they’ve affected us as we continue to walk through a pandemic.

  • Conspiracy Bias
  • Confidence Bias
  • Normalcy Bias
  • Anchoring Bias

Our biases are mental shortcuts for our brains to make sense of life. But have our biases hurt us more than helped us?

Yes, they have. We’re not only living through a coronavirus epidemic, we’re also living through a misinformation epidemic.

Perhaps there should be a bias named for those who think they have no biases. It might be the largest group of all. 

Biases During a Pandemic  

Overcoming Our Biases During a Pandemic

Reflect on each of these biases. Can you awaken your awareness on one or all of these? How might they be affecting you? And others?

(1) Things You Need to Know About Conspiracy Theories {Bias 22}

CONSPIRACY THEORIES have tapped into our vulnerability to believe sinister stories to explain the pandemic.

Despite zero evidence for most of these theories, many people have fallen prey. But we’re all susceptible.

Conspiracy theories have made the pandemic even harder to fight. They’ve led people to be suspicious of scientists and ignore their advice. They’ve made others fearful of taking the vaccine. They’ve drawn people’s attention away from helping each other and instead further divided us along political party lines that have nothing to do with the virus itself.

Instead of coming together, we’ve been coming apart. 

To avoid falling for a conspiracy theory, we need to be vigilant about fact-checking our sources. And stay focused on the bigger picture of loving our neighbors (and our enemies) above all else.

(2) They’re So Confident, They Must Be Right—Confidence Bias {Bias 23}

CONFIDENCE BIAS draws our attention to the loudest voice in the room. We’re most likely to believe the person who is the most confident.

But there’s often a huge difference between the most confident and the most competent.

Without recognizing we have this bias, we may fall for confidence over competence. Instead of listening to the person who is the most sure about the cure for COVID-19, we need to listen to the person with the most expertise. Even if they’re humble about it. Maybe especially if they’re humble about it.

Because it’s a novel coronavirus, anyone who is overly confident with all the answers is likely to be wrong on several of them. 

(3) Think It’ll Never Happen? Is Your Head in the Sand?—Normalcy Bias {Bias 24}

NORMALCY BIAS is our tendency to ignore that we’re even in a pandemic. It took a second for our brains to accept what was going on (and some brains longer than others). Early on I often said, “I can’t believe this is really happening.”

Trouble accelerates when we can’t shake our denial, when we ignore the warning signs around us. Normalcy bias caused many to refuse to take precautionary measures against covid because this had never happened to them before, and thus shouldn’t be happening to them now.

To shake off our normalcy bias, we have to get brave and face the facts. Keeping our heads in the sand is appealing for a little while, but eventually it leaves us exposed.

“Americans put on blindfolds when they should have put on masks.”
– Nicholas A. Christakis, Apollo’s Arrow: The Profound and Enduring Impact of Coronavirus on the Way We Live 

(4) Beware Your Starting Point—Anchoring Bias {Bias 25}

ANCHORING BIAS is when we drop down an anchor on the information we first learned, and have trouble adding new information to it. This bias has also really hurt us during the pandemic.

We began the pandemic with very little information. The science was unclear. The data was minimal. Doctors made the best recommendations they could with the information they had, but they couldn’t know everything.

As months went by, they learned more and more. As more data came in, they updated the recommendations.

But people with the most anchoring bias had trouble believing any updates. They stuck with what they heard first, that there was no need to wear a mask unless you’re a healthcare professional.

They couldn’t pivot to the new information that masks were indeed effective and everyone should wear one. Thus they didn’t adapt their behaviors either.

And the virus continued to spread quickly, with many people getting the disease and losing their lives through no fault of their own.

Seeking to uncover our biases is important work. As we’re seeing during these treacherous times, our biases not only hurt us, but they can also prove fatal to others around us. 

May God give us vision to awaken from our biases and see the truth as much as we’re able as we care for each other. 

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As we wait for the pandemic to be over (and there is light at the end of this tunnel, thank you, God!), Donna gives us great advice on how to wait well.

“Waiting is not a waste of time. To the contrary, the secret to good self control, contentment in life and any level of success is embracing the ‘wait’. Waiting often proves providential; God never hurries, but is always on time with His answers.”

Read all of Donna’s here at her blog, Serenity in Suffering, then link up your own blog posts below. 

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Beware Your Starting Point—Anchoring Bias {Bias Day 25}

Beware your starting point - Anchoring Bias

What is anchoring bias?

Anchoring bias (or anchoring effect) is when we anchor our decisions too heavily on the first piece of information we receive.

It’s our tendency to use this initial information as our main point of reference, even if it’s inaccurate or irrelevant. It can cause us to jump to a bad conclusion and be blinded to other possibilities.

What’s an example of anchoring bias?

You’re shopping for a sweatshirt. The first one you see costs $700. The second one you see costs $70. It seems like a bargain in comparison, so you buy it, even though it also was over your budget.

Here’s an example given by Daniel Kahneman in his excellent book, Thinking, Fast and Slow.

“Supermarket shoppers encountered a sales promotion for Campbell’s soup at 10% off the regular price. On some days, a sign on the shelf said LIMIT OF 12 PER PERSON. On other days, the sign said NO LIMIT PER PERSON.

Shoppers purchased an average of 7 cans when the limit was in force, twice as many as they bought when the limit was removed.”

Another example: if you weren’t allowed to date until you were 16 years old, 16 becomes the anchor age you rely on for allowing your own children to date.

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Why are we susceptible to anchoring?

It’s not clear why we’re prone to anchor. Experts disagree why, but all agree that we are. And strongly. This bias is among the strongest of our mental biases.

Different factors may affect our persistent use with the anchoring bias.

  • Some studies say we’re more prone to anchoring when we’re sad; other studies suggest the opposite.
  • Some say that experts are more resistant to anchoring, yet even experts are susceptible to anchoring.
  • Conscientious people are more prone to it; extroverts are less likely to be affected.

Is anchoring bad?

Anchoring isn’t always bad. It can be helpful to have a starting point as an anchor, if it’s a good one.

But overall, anchoring bias clouds our decision making. And because it’s such a pervasive bias, it often connects with other biases.

For example, the planning fallacy. Once we become fixed on our anchor plan (say, a 3-month schedule to remodel a kitchen), we are slow to budge from it, even when new information becomes available to suggest it’s no longer reasonable.

Anchoring can work against us in multiple ways. (And can also be used as a tool for manipulation.)

  • We’re more likely to buy a $20,000 car if we’re first shown a $70,000 car instead of a $2,000 car.
  • Doctors can misdiagnose patients based on an initial impression of their symptoms.
  • Price tags “marked down” from a ridiculously high number to a lower number are more tempting.
  • The first number suggested in a salary negotiation influences all further negotiations.

How can we counter anchoring bias?

It’s unlikely to totally counter this one. It generally stays hidden in our subconscious. But here are some strategies we can use in our attempts to interrupt anchoring bias.

  • Slow down your decision. Seek more information. Play with reasons to counter the anchor number. 
  • Be aware of the bias. Don’t assume that the anchor number is the number you have to begin negotiations with. Think the opposite.
  • Drop your own anchor first. If you’re negotiating a house purchase, decide what your budget allows and work from that number, before you begin looking at houses.

What would Jesus think about anchoring?

Jesus is the one anchor we can rest securely on. He is the standard. All else revolves around him.

Humility, kindness, goodness—anything related to love—can start and end with Jesus, the solid anchor for our soul.

The anchor itself is an ancient symbol of hope. Our hope, our anchor, is based on God’s faithfulness and goodness. We can rely on him to keep us steady, regardless of the waves that come against us.

“We have this hope as an anchor for the soul, firm and secure.”
Hebrews 6:19


How have you seen this bias in your own life or relationships? Please share in the comments.

You are on Day 25 of the series: “How to Uncover Hidden Biases.”

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“Living (and Dying) with Our Biases During a Pandemic”


Think It’ll Never Happen? Is Your Head in the Sand?—Normalcy Bias {Bias Day 24}

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What is normalcy bias?

We recognize normalcy bias better by its more common name, “the ostrich effect,” or burying your head in the sand.

Normalcy bias is our tendency to deny the possibility of a disaster. It’s our inclination to stick with our “normal” way of thinking, even when we’re faced with undeniable proof that something bad is about to happen. It’s thinking that things in the future will occur like they have in the past (i.e., normal). Tomorrow will be just like today.

It’s our way of avoiding an unpleasant reality.

What’s an example of normalcy bias?

Did you know that before the Roman city of Pompeii was destroyed by the eruption of Mount Vesuvius in 79 AD, 16,000 people in the city watched it erupt for hours instead of evacuating?

  • Normalcy bias is refusing to evacuate when a hurricane is coming.
  • Normalcy bias is attempting to cross a flooded river in your car.
  • Normalcy bias is gathering with large crowds unmasked during a pandemic.

Normalcy bias is when we think: “It’s never happened to me before, so surely it won’t happen to me now.”

“It won’t be that bad; I can ride it out.”

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What makes us stick our heads in the sand?

Normalcy bias is not based on our logic.

It is a defense mechanism that takes over. Our brains tell us everything is normal. Don’t overreact. It’ll be okay. True disasters are rare. It prevents us from believing the seriousness of a situation.

The typical response pattern to a disaster is:

(1) Denial (this can’t be happening)
(2) Deliberation (I need to decide what to do)
(3) Decisive Moment (I must do it now)

When we see our friends ignoring the disaster, too? That nails it; we can stay in denial. We’re social beings. If others aren’t responding to the danger, we don’t want to be the ones who overreact.

Studies show that 70% of people respond initially to a disaster with normalcy bias. Another 15% of people go the opposite direction and panic (blame them for the toilet paper shortage in 2020). The remaining 15% of people can think and act clearly (thank God for them).

How can normalcy bias hurt us?

By keeping us in denial, normalcy bias prevents us from making our best decisions. It discourages us from taking needed action, whether it be gathering supplies, creating an evacuation plan, or avoiding crowds.

Once the disaster hits, it’s often too late to prepare.

Deniers are often the ones who cause the most trouble for first responders if the disaster does occur. Because they weren’t prepared, they’re most likely to need rescues and supplies, and may even lose their lives and bring others down with them. 

How can we avoid the normalcy bias?

We can’t avoid it altogether. But the quicker we move out of the Denial and Deliberation stages and into the Decisive Moment stage, the better.

Start by facing the facts. Even when given undeniable evidence, our brains can still take 8-10 seconds to absorb the information. After the initial shock, try to assess the situation with as clear a head as possible. 

Consider all your options. Gather available information. Make plans for a variety of possibilities. It’s usually better to overprepare than underprepare. Leave room for margin.

Focus on what you need to do, one step at a time. Take each action as soon as it’s needed to avoid analysis paralysis.

Communicate with others. Don’t undertake surviving a disaster alone if possible.

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How did Jesus handle normalcy bias among his disciples?

Jesus’s disciples asked him privately, “What will be the sign of your coming and of the end of the age?” (Matthew 24).

Jesus gave them warning signs to be watchful for, such as rumors of wars, betrayal, and false prophets. But even with those, he said the actual day would come as a surprise.

So he told them to stay prepared to take action. If in Judea, run for the hills. If in the fields, don’t go home for your coat.

And finally, he told them that if they remained faithful until then, they would be blessed.

Jesus wanted them to be alert for disaster, but to stay peaceful day to day. To give, to pray, to fast, to forgive. And to love. Above all, always, to love.

It’s the best advice for us, too. We can’t predict what disaster awaits around the next corner (just ask Texas), but we can deal with the one we are in today.

The pandemic isn’t a disaster I could have imagined a year ago. That I’d still be wearing a mask to go to Walmart? That I wouldn’t eat inside a restaurant for a year? That I likely won’t get to be at the hospital for my grandson’s birth in May?

My head was in the sand. But my normalcy bias has since disappeared. 

Yet even still, we can remain hopeful. Even in a pandemic.

And even in it, may we ever respond to each other with God, with love.


Are you prone to keep your head in the sand? What pulls you out? Please share in the comments.

You are on Day 24 of the series: “How to Uncover Hidden Biases.”

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“They’re So Confident, They Must Be Right”

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“Beware Your Starting Point”


7 Books I Recommend—February 2021

Books are the treasured wealth of the world and the fit inheritance of generations and nations.
—Henry David Thoreau
 

Below are 7 books I recommend from those I finished reading in February. See all my recommended books here.

7 Books I Recommend-Feb 2021

Nonfiction

1. Funny How Life Works
by Michael Jr.

Funny How Life Works video review

Michael Jr. is a clean comic. This book is a collection of his funny stories, but also of life lessons. I’m on the launch team for his book, which has been extra fun. The book will be available April 13. Preview it here

2. Charitable Writing
Cultivating Virtue Through Our Words
by Richard Hughes Gibson

Charitable Writing

This isn’t a book explaining how to write, but about why to write. It presents writing as a spiritual discipline for you and as a blessing for those you write for. Excellent. 

3. Invisible Women
Data Bias in a World Designed for Men
by Caroline Criado Perez

Invisible Women

If you’re a woman, you already know the world isn’t designed exactly for you: seat belts don’t fit you right, public transportation can work against you, medicine dosages aren’t adjusted for you, etc. This is an eye-opening book to explain lots of little things we may have noticed, but couldn’t quite articulate.

4. Difficult Conversations
How to Discuss What Matters Most
by Douglas Stone

Difficult Conversations

This book is 20 years old and I’m only now discovering it? It’s an incredible resource for how to improve your conversations. I’ve already had an opportunity to try it out (I discovered I need to look back at my notes). 

5. Humor, Seriously
Why Humor Is a Secret Weapon in Business and Life (and How Anyone Can Harness It. Even You.)
by Jennifer Aaker and Naomi Bagdonas 

Humor, Seriously

If you need to find more humor in your life, this is a book to help you uncover it. It’s not a funny book per se (although it does use humor all through it), but it reminds you to look for reasons to laugh. I needed this one after our year of 2020 and the first two months of 2021. 

6. Apollo’s Arrow
The Profound and Enduring Impact of Coronavirus on the Way We Live
by Nicholas A. Christakis

Apollo's Arrow

This book was written and published quickly about the worldwide pandemic that we’re living through. It’s full of fascinating statistics and explanations, while leaving room for ever-changing circumstances and updated knowledge. Fascinating. 

Fiction

7. 11/22/63
by Stephen King

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As you can guess from the title, this novel revolves around the assassination of President John F. Kennedy in 1963. But it also takes place in modern times. I won’t spoil the plot if you’re unfamiliar with it, but I thoroughly enjoyed it, despite it being SO long (850 pages). It isn’t scary or gory, which is the only reason I could read a Stephen King novel, although it is full of suspense. 

Reading Now

  • Irresistible
    Reclaiming the New that Jesus Unleashed for the World
    by Andy Stanley
  • Faith after Doubt
    Why Your Beliefs Stopped Working and What to Do about It
    by Brian D. McLaren
  • Journey to the Cross
    A 40-Day Lenten Devotional

    by Paul David Tripp
  • Staring at the Sun
    Overcoming the Terror of Death
    by Irvin D. Yalom
  • Chatter
    The Voice in Our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It
    by Ethan Kross
  • The Sum of Us
    What Racism Costs Everyone and How We Can Prosper Together
    by Heather McGhee

What good book are YOU reading this month? Please share in the comments.

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