We like to play dominoes at my house. Usually Mexican Train.
But some people use dominoes to create a chain. They line up hundreds of dominoes in elaborate patterns.
Predicting Each Other
Then with one slight nudge on only one domino, the whole chain is set in motion. You can predict its exact direction and outcome.
Sometimes we do that with each other, too.
With only one question, we predict everything about a person.
Do you love President Trump or do you detest him?
Depending on your answer to that question, we’ll predict how you’ll answer a whole array of other questions. We’ll label you right or left and be done.
Other one-question-only issues that can start the domino effect include:
- Believe Brett Kavanaugh or Christine Blasey Ford?
- Allow more people into our country or build a wall to keep them out?
- Stand or kneel for the National Anthem?
- Fox or CNN?
- Arm our teachers or keep guns out of the schools?
There seems to be a great divide.
And people on both sides claim the name of Jesus.
Lord, have mercy.
Trade in the Dominoes
I do believe with God that all things are possible.
But two years into this, I don’t see us closing the gap that divides us.
Instead, it just seems to widen.
Maybe we need to abandon our domino set of questions entirely.
And ask different kinds of questions instead. Ones that would help us understand each other clearer and less stereotypically. If we’ll really, really listen to each other’s answers.
- What are you afraid of?
- What do you need to feel safe?
- What do you need to be healthy?
- In what ways is your family hurting?
- What blessings can you share with others?
Because I still have to believe, deep down, that we’re all more alike than we are different.
At our foundation, we all want safe environments. We all want good health. We all want meaningful work and purpose and relationships. We all want to be treated with respect and for others to be treated with respect, too.
We agree on those things.
God, we need your help on all the rest.
Answer any or all of our three questions of the day:
(1) Is anyone in your family left-handed instead of right-handed? (Not a political question!)
(2) How closely do you follow politics?
(3) How can God use believers to bridge gaps between people instead of cause more division?
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What are your answers? Please share in the comments.
(1) We all happen to be right-handed in my immediate family.
(2) I follow politics very closely, more in the past two years than ever.
(3) Maybe actually serving each other in the name of Jesus with actions instead of trying to convince others with words that we are right and they are wrong?
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