The Curse of Knowledge
“Mom, you’re not always clear. If you know what you want, it’s okay to ask for that. Be specific.”
My daughter Jenna is right. Sometimes I don’t make myself clear to others.
When I already know what I mean in my head, my words can take a shortcut. We all do this occasionally. It’s called the “curse of knowledge” bias.
I assume others are at the same starting point about the situation as I am. So I leave out details. I forget to add, “and can you please call me?” after I say, “I am hurting.”
Wouldn’t everybody already know that?
No. Of course not. It’s too much (as well as impossible anyway) to ask of each other. None of us are mind readers.
Well, except one.
He Already Knows
God knows us inside and out. We don’t have to explain ourselves to him. Or justify ourselves. Or try to convince him of anything.
Because God made us out of love and sustains us out of love, he is always acting out of love for us already.
Love is God’s default position toward us.
Granted, we might get in our own way of receiving his love. Or other people may try to block it. Or life itself can make us doubt it.
But his knowledge of us and his love for us are always there.
Because of this, when we talk with God, we can pray with confidence that he needs no backstory. We may go into detail if WE need to talk it out for ourselves, but we don’t have to fill in every detail for God’s sake.
We don’t have to get our wording just right for him to understand. Or to persuade him to act.
He knows. He loves. He acts.
We may need to continue spelling it out for each other (wise advice, Jenna).
But we don’t have to spell it out for God.
Featured Post—“Help Me, Jesus”
Lois explains it all so well.
“We don’t have to reiterate to God what we’re fretting about. He already knows.”
It’s okay to simply say, “Help me, Jesus.”
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