If You Pray Well, You Live Well?

If you pray well, you live well.

I Ain’t Scared

I get uncomfortable. Anxious. Sometimes scared.

It’s nothing new. Through the years I’ve resisted it. I’ve accepted it. I’ve worked on it.

And I’ve prayed about it. A lot.

So when the pastor was asking for a public recitation of prayer one Sunday after preaching on Isaiah 54:17, I wanted to repeat his phrase with everybody else:

“I ain’t scared.”

He was using slang to give us attitude. He was using our togetherness to give us courage. And he was using it as prayer to give us faith.

But would it be true for me to say it? And if so, why don’t I say it more often?

I read another statement of affirmation on Monday:

“If you pray well, you live well.”

It was written by the Puritan author Richard Rogers in the 1500s in his Holy Helps for a Godly Life.

I want to believe it also is true. But is it? And if it is, why don’t we pray more often?

The Pains of Praying

Sometimes we just forget to pray. We get in doing-mode instead of pausing to talk things over with God first.

Other times we find it boring to pray. So we shut it off prematurely. We don’t have time for that.

And then there’s the biggie: Sometimes we don’t pray because we don’t think it works.

We haven’t seen God answer everything, so we stop praying for anything.

But Prayer…

In Holy Helps, Rogers addresses these pains. He suggests we need to recall more frequently the benefits we already have seen from prayer. To pray for the blessings still promised to come.

He encourages us to talk up God’s goodness to him, to ourselves, to others. To verbalize what we know. To see by God’s light in the dark.

And he reminds us that we are being heard. Indeed. God is listening. Our words aren’t trapped in our own heads. They go straight through to the heart of the Father.

Get the Gift

And when we do pray? We are changed. Maybe not dramatically. But we come out different on the other side of prayer than how we entered it.

  • We have more grace to accept and give forgiveness.
  • We have more determination to fight off the bad.
  • We have more hope to pursue the good.

And we’re more acquainted with God.

That Sunday morning I did choose to say this aloud with the congregation:

“I ain’t scared.”

I looked around at my fellow brothers and sisters also saying it. My husband beside me. My friend Tara in front of me. Her husband (also named Jeff) saying it, “I ain’t scared.”

In that moment, seeing big Jeff—a tall, strong man with his hands raised to the ceiling in praise the Father—I knew it:

Yes, we really are safe.

And in that moment, I wasn’t scared either.

Pray Well

I will likely continue to grapple with a certain level of anxiety and fear as long as I’m in the flesh. But I can also have great moments of peace in the midst of it.

I know that I’m surrounded by protection.

  • God hears me.
  • God loves me.
  • God is for me.

And he wants me to live well.

If you pray well, you live well, so they say.

Here’s to praying better.

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Is prayer your first option in crisis? In times of peace? Please share in the comments.

We’re almost finished reading Holy Helps for a Godly Life at Tim Challies’ blog.
More thoughts from it:


5 Links, Books, and Things I Love – July 2018

Did you do anything exciting in June? What are you looking forward to in July? We share once a month with Leigh, who recently just published her first novel (my review here)!

1 Second Everyday

[If you can’t see the 1 Second Everyday video, click here]

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5 Things Around the Web

1. How Much Money Do You Save by Cooking at Home?
by Priceonomics Data Studio

Save Money Cooking Home

Just how much money do you save by cooking at home? Researchers analyzed the true cost of cooking at home from scratch, compared to delivery from a restaurant or a meal kit service.

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2. Are There Contradictions in the Bible?
by Peter Enns

A different perspective on the nature of the Bible and inspiration. Something to think about.

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3. Study: Charts Change Hearts and Minds Better than Words Do
by Christopher Ingraham

How do you combat misperceptions? A surprising answer: charts.

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4. Read This Article!!!
by Julie Beck

How many exclamation points do you use when you’re really excited? (Hint, nowadays, probably more than one.)

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5. Sitting in Grandpa’s Chair Is a Serious Offense  

Did you have a chair like this in your house? My dad had a chair that no one else sat in (except when we felt really daring).

Sitting Grandpa's Chair

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5 Things about Reading, Writing, Listening

1. WRITING: 31+ Best Books on Writing for Copywriters, Storytellers, and Bloggers
by Henneke

I love this list. Some of my very favorite books are here (including Made to Stick by Chip and Dan Heath.)

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2. PODCAST: Internet a la Carte
from Planet Money

If you had to pay for things individually that you access online, how much would you spend to google something? To use Facebook? To shop online? A short but interesting look at how we value our online habits.

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3. PODCAST: The Secret to Making the Most of Your Limited Time  
from The Productivity Show

I like this strategy of timeblocking. Lots of time efficiency tips here (including doubling your time estimates—that’s a toughie!).

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4. BLOGGING: A Call for Plodding Bloggers
by Tim Challies

“So my message for my fellow bloggers is this: Plod on! Be content to be a plodding blogger and trust that God is glorifying himself and blessing his people through your faithfulness.”

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5. BOOKS: Seven Books I Recommend – June 2018     

I finished some great books this month. Everybody, Always by Bob Goff is an especially good read for loving others as God loves.

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5 Things I Love

1. Wear Orange

Like everybody else feels, mass shootings hurt my heart. My friend Kay and I have joined Moms Demand Action (and it’s not just for moms). We want to be more informed, make a difference, and stop feeling so helpless. #UseYourVoice

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2. Selfies…Ugh

I don’t take many selfies (I don’t like pictures of myself in general). But I do like to have pictures of Jeff and me together when we travel. So I’m trying to do better. We marked two firsts in June: Epcot for a day and New Orleans for a weekend.

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3. Cemeteries

Cemeteries are so intriguing. We walked through one in New Orleans, which was very different than the ones I’m used to in Alabama.

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4. Father’s Day

Jeff continues to be a great dad, no matter how old our girls get. He loves them; they love him. He got to enjoy time with both Morgan and Jenna around Father’s Day.

fathers day 2018

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5. Grandbaby…you knew a pic was coming

I was blessed with lots of time again in June with my sweet grandbaby (and with Morgan and Fuller). I can’t get enough moments with this precious girl.

grandbaby

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5 Things on the Blog

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What was a highlight from your June? What are you looking forward to in July? Please share in the comments.

previous Links and Books


On the Blog – June 2018

Summaries and links to blog posts for June 2018


7 Books I Recommend – June 2018

Here are 4 non-fiction and 3 fiction books I recommend from what I finished in June, including a 1-minute video review of a favorite.

Once a month we share our current reading list at Jennifer’s.

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Books I Recommend

NONFICTION

1. Everybody Always
Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People
by Bob Goff

Everybody Always

This book about Bob Goff’s crazy but true experiences of loving ALL kinds of people is very inspirational. One of my favorites this year! So it is the pick for my 1-minute video book review this month.

[click here if you can’t see the 1-minute video review]

My written review and quotes from Everybody, Always

2. I’m Still Here
Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness
by Austin Channing Brown

I'm Still Here

“I was too white for Black people, and too Black for white people.” Austin shares authentically and sometimes painfully about her experiences as a black woman in modern America. This is an important book for helping us understand racial reconciliation.

My review of I’m Still Here

3. In Search of Wisdom
A Monk, a Philosopher, and a Psychiatrist on What Matters Most
by by Matthieu Ricard, Christophe Andre, Alexandre Jollien

In Search of Wisdom

If three men sat around a table and discussed life, then someone transcribed their conversation, you’d get this book. These three are intelligent, philosophical, and deeply spiritual men. I enjoyed getting to eavesdrop on the conversation, even though it took me several months to finally read it all. It was worth it.

My review on Amazon here

4. Five Stars
The Communication Secrets to Get from Good to Great
by Carmine Gallo

Five Stars

Do you want to communicate better? This book zeroes in on modern-day communication skills and their importance. It’s well-written and well-organized, which is always a pleasure in a non-fiction book (and unfortunately, not a given). Easy to read and enjoyable stories.

FICTION

5. A Storied Life
by Leigh Kramer

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This debut novel by Leigh Kramer is a delightful story about a young art gallery owner, Olivia Frasier, whose grandmother is diagnosed with terminal cancer. The plot progresses with the grandmother’s illness and the arrival of hospice and tense family dynamics. It’s very good!

My review of A Storied Life

6. The Girl You Left Behind
by Jojo Moyes

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I like novels that switch timeframes. This one starts in World War 1 in occupied France, then moves to present-day London. The anchor is a painting, “The Girl You Left Behind.” It is a hard story in places, but a satisfying one.

7. The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time
by Mark Haddon

The Curious Incident of the Dog in Night-Time

After seeing PBS’s list of 100 favorite novels for The Great American Read, I decided to read more of them. This novel was a quirky look at the experience of an autistic teenage boy in England. (It’s also a great play, I hear.) I enjoyed the storyline and it increased my empathy for those struggling with mental disorders.

Reading Now

  • When
    The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing
    by Daniel H. Pink
  • Reframing the Soul
    How Words Transform Our Faith
    by Gregory Spencer
  • 21 Lessons for the 21st Century
    by Yuval Noah Harari
  • Inspired
    Slaying Giants, Walking on Water, and Loving the Bible Again
    by Rachel Held Evans
  • Give People Money
    How a Universal Basic Income Would End Poverty, Revolutionize Work, and Remake the World
    by Annie Lowrey
  • The Most Beautiful Thing I’ve Seen
    Opening Your Eyes to Wonder
    by Lisa Gungor
  • The Gift of Years
    Growing Older Gracefully
    by Joan D. Chittister
  • Wait
    The Art and Science of Delay
    by Frank Partnoy
  • What Truth Sounds Like
    Robert F. Kennedy, James Baldwin, and Our Unfinished Conversation About Race in America
    by Michael Eric Dyson

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What good book have you read this month? Please share in the comments.

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My books on Goodreads
More books I recommend


Cancer, Hospice, Decisions – “A Storied Life”

A Storied Life quote

He was ready to make the call.

We weren’t. But it was his decision.

When my father got his diagnosis for incurable lung cancer, he shortly decided to call in hospice.

He didn’t want to suffer needlessly through futile treatments just to prolong a painful existence. So his choice was to stay at home and receive hospice care.

Such was reality. It was a hard season for all of us.

You don’t often read stories like that in novels. But for her debut novel, A Storied Life, Leigh Kramer gives us a story like this. About real life.

Leigh writes about real life as she has experienced it. She was once a hospice social worker. She’s familiar with the world of loss and death that eventually visits every family. She writes with depth and gives us a main character with heart.

The leading lady in her novel is Olivia Frasier, a young professional who is ambivalent about her family of origin and her own life choices as an adult. She’s established herself in a career as the owner of her own art gallery, but you sense early on that it doesn’t satisfy her. She is unsettled.

The story progresses quickly to a dysfunctional family scene. Gram gathers the family to share her life-changing news of being diagnosed with terminal cancer. The family doesn’t want to accept it.

But after Gram’s proclamation comes a second curveball. She throws her granddaughter Olivia into a new and unrequested position: Power of Attorney for Healthcare.

As the novel progresses, we walk with Olivia through the ups and downs of hospice and healthcare as she explores this new role, her old role, and a new love interest.

“Fine. What have you always told me? To live a storied life. Am I doing that? What do you think?”

The story isn’t light-hearted, naturally. It reveals the difficult decisions and emotions that accompany the dynamics of a family in life and death situations. But it is satisfying. Through it all we discover how Olivia grows into a greater knowledge of herself, her career, and her relationships.

“Gram’s teaching came to mind. Authentic people told the truth, even when there was no guarantee.”

I enjoyed the story and was impressed at Leigh’s venture into novel writing. I’m not surprised that she did well though; Leigh is a voracious reader, and one often leads to the other. I look forward to future works from Leigh.

“Nothing was set in stone, but it didn’t need to be. I would live this out one step at a time. Part of the adventure of life was not knowing exactly what it held. That’s what kept the story fresh. Each chapter had the potential to break your heart or lift your spirits.”

My father only lived a few short weeks under hospice care. That chapter in his and our lives ended quicker than we expected or wanted.

But because it was on his own terms, we respected him for it. If we’re each so blessed, we, too, will live out our stories, including our death stories, with care and grace. One step at a time.

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Have you had experiences with hospice for yourself or a loved one? Please share in the comments.

You can read more from Leigh on her blog LeighKramer.com. Leigh is also the hostess of the monthly “What I’m Into” linkup, which I thoroughly enjoy participating in at the first of every month.

If you want to win a free signed annotated copy of A Storied Life, head over to Leigh’s Instagram. Giveaway ends June 27.

My thanks to Leigh Kramer
for the review copy of this book

 


Dinner for Dinos – Children’s Book

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This delightful new board book, Dinner for Dinos: Gulf, Guzzle, Chomp, Chew, will help children want to eat healthy foods without a battle.

It will appeal to young children on several levels (target audience is ages 4-8). The colorful illustrations draw the eye, and the delightful rhymes appeal to the ear. Even the youngest hands can handle and turn the pages.

The message of the book is laid out in descriptive action words. It promotes healthy eating without being preachy. A spirit of cooperation and thankfulness to God for the special meal makes this book a delightful addition to any children’s library.

I’m adding it to my collection of children’s books to read with my granddaughter. This is one we will enjoy reading together.

Thanks to BookLook Bloggers
for the review copy of this book.