Who Needs Your Stuff? The Cycle of Sharing

Cycle of Sharing

We’re prepping for a yard sale.

It’s time to redistribute the junk. Sell some; buy some; give some away. Shift its home. Round and round it goes.

A few years ago I was given a gift in a ziplock bag: the starter for Amish Friendship Bread. I accepted with enthusiasm because it was from a friend.

But I had serious doubts. I’m not a bread baker. I’m a bread eater.

Ten days of instructions were included. On the tenth10th day, I reluctantly began baking, mentally preparing for a disaster. But to my surprise, an hour later, I pulled out two beautiful loaves of bread.

One loaf to eat; one to give away. The neighbor next door had just been released from the hospital, and with four young kids at home, a loaf of freshly-baked bread would be welcomed.

I wonder how often I internally moan at a gift. When someone gives us something, we have to find a place for it, a use for it.

But sometimes those very gifts are ones we use to bless others.

I ended up making the bread several times. Each time I ate some. But I also had plenty to give away to someone different.

It’s the cycle of sharing. God starts it; we keep it going.

In times when we feel stressed, worn down, with nothing to give, the Lord sends a giver our way. Perhaps we can use their gift right away. Or perhaps it’s something we put in our closet and pull out later to bless others.

Either way, keep the cycle going.

  • When we’re the needy ones, receive.
  • When we see others in need, give.

Learn to do both. With grace and thanksgiving. Not reluctantly. Not with shame nor pride.

My yard sale items this weekend may go quickly or not at all. Either way, I won’t keep them myself. They’ve served me well.

Now they need to bless someone else.

Father, help us receive with grace the gifts you give us through others. Help us return gifts with equal grace to others in need. You provide both ways, and we thank you for your provision.

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What have you been given that you can share with others? Please share in the comments.


5 Ways to Get Home in the Rain

It Rains on Tuesdays

It was a Tuesday afternoon.

I’m often driving home on Tuesdays after spending a few days with my new grandbaby.

It rains on Tuesdays.

I fill the 3-hour drive with a couple hours of podcasts and a good hour of my favorite worship music (hello, Matt Maher and Cory Asbury).

It was raining particularly hard on this Tuesday. So hard I began to fret. I turned off the music. I concentrated on seeing.

But seeing wouldn’t come easy.

On I-65 the road is crowded with big trucks. I was behind an 18-wheeler in the pelting rain. I eased back a little from him, but not enough to lose his lights.

I needed him.

Isn’t that the way life is? When circumstances or relationships or illnesses begin pelting us, we temporarily lose vision. We can’t see the way. We’re not sure where the boundaries lines are on the road we’re traveling.

We need a light to follow.

5 Ways to Get Home in the Rain

5 Ways to Get Home in the Rain

  1. LOOK FOR A LIGHT

When you can’t see far into the future, look for a light close by. One light may be enough. Just for the next step in front of you. Maybe it’s a faithful friend. Or an encouraging scripture. Or a promise from God that keeps you on the path.

Find the light and focus.

  1. STAY IN YOUR LANE

Driving on the interstate that Tuesday, my main goal was to stay in my lane. I didn’t want to veer into traffic in other lanes or off the shoulder into the trees. I needed to follow the path that was already there.

Don’t let confusion paralyze you. When you don’t know what decision to make next, keep going the direction you’re headed unless God turns you around. Trust him to let you know if he wants you to turn right or left.

Until then, stay in your lane.

  1. SLOW IT DOWN

I couldn’t drive 70 mph in the rain that day. It was too dangerous.

Likewise, when your pathway gets foggy, slow down your walk. Don’t rush through the steps, pushing through life to get through to the other side. Take a breath and decrease your speed so you can pay closer attention to the details in front of you.

  1. KEEP THE RIGHT DISTANCE

When I got too close to the truck in front of me, I drowned in his splatter. But if I drifted too far behind, I lost his light. There was a balanced distance that was just right.

When you’re seeking help from others, keep a balanced distance there, too.

Don’t become so dependent on another person for wisdom that you’re consumed in their shadow. But don’t become a loner either and try to do life alone. Let Jesus guide you in healthy relationships to see you through.

  1. TURN ON YOUR LIGHTS

I immediately turned on my own car lights when the rain started. Not only did I need to see better myself, but I also needed to be seen. I didn’t need to disappear in the rain and have others bump into me.

When your own problems seem overwhelming, it’s easy to tend toward isolation. But don’t disappear under the weight of your circumstances. Let others know you’re here. Let them see you. Get vulnerable and be helped.

The Rain Will Stop

I experienced something new that afternoon in the rain.

The harder the rain fell, I noticed a change in the truck’s lights in front of me. No longer a solid stream, they became flashers. And the car’s light beside him, too. And the one in front of him.

How have I been driving this many years and never before noticed flashers in the rain?

But it made a difference. It was easier to see in front of me with their flashing lights. I found my flashers and turned them on too for others behind me.

I knew we were all in this together. Strangers on the road were becoming friends on the journey. God never leaves us alone.

We all wanted to get home, wherever home was.

And eventually, as it always does, the rain stopped. The sun came out. The cars sped on.

And I made it home Tuesday night.

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Have you ever had to watch the lights instead of the road? Please share in the comments.

 


5 Links, Books, and Things I Love – August 2018

Did you do anything exciting in July? What are you looking forward to in August? We share once a month with Leigh.

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[If you can’t see the 1 Second Everyday video, click here]

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5 Things Around the Web

1. Let Precious Moments Pass You By
by Greg Morse at Desiring God

Where’s my camera? Shouldn’t I be taking pictures of this? Sometimes, no. Here’s why.

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2. Yes, There Is Such A Thing As An ‘Introvert Hangover’
by Shawna Courter

Do you ever get introvert hangovers? I do. Read about it here.

And here are 17 signs that you have one.

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3. Why Does Every Soccer Player Do This?
by David Gendelman

It’s not just soccer players. It’s us, too. Why do our hands immediately go the top of our heads when we’re frustrated with ourselves?

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Carlos Sanchez of Uruguay.CreditJoe Klamar/Agence France-Presse — Getty Images

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4. What Does “I’m Tired” Really Mean
by Paige Wyant

Here are 22 things people with fibromyalgia really mean when they say “I’m tired.” I don’t have fibromyalgia. But I have friends who do. This is helpful.

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5. ‘Downton Abbey’ Movie Is Happening

This makes me happy! Anyone else?

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5 Things about Reading, Writing, Listening

1. 12 Podcasts for Summer Listening
at Christianity Today

If you’re looking for something entertaining, faith-sparking or brain-engaging, here are 12 recommendations to listen to. Most of them are new to me.

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2. Why It’s So Hard to Stop Reading Books You Don’t Even Like
by Katie Heaney

This is hard for me. I’ll stick with a bad book too long before I’ll give up on it.

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3. The Most Difficult Languages To Learn For English Speakers

I’m still struggling to learn Spanish, and it’s the easiest.

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4. Summer Reading List
from Barack Obama

I love to see what others are reading. Here’s a list recommended for summer reading by former President Obama.

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5. Nine Books I Recommend – July 2018     

I finished reading several fantastic books (nonfiction and fiction) in July.

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5 Things I Love

1. Is It Already Fall?

Not according to the calendar or the weather. But it’s “autumn mix” candy corn time. I couldn’t resist.

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2. Do the Math

From our 50+ years of friendship, we 4 Corners have birthed 9 babies, adopted 1, and buried 2. We’ve married off 6, and they’ve had 5. On this day we are celebrating a bridal shower for a 7th marriage coming soon. We’ve definitely run the gamut of emotions over a lifetime. This time, joy.

4 Corners

Kathy, Julie, Alicia, Lisa

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3. Special Photos

My oldest daughter Morgan and our granddaughter spent the weekend with us. My youngest daughter Jenna took some great 6-month photos. And snapped one with me, too. Even though I wasn’t dressed for the occasion, I’m glad to have the picture.

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4. Everyday Moments

Posed photos are awesome. But random photos are also important to catch the ordinary days. Jenna and I spent a couple days at Morgan’s house in July. I so treasure the time with all my girls. (The baby usually stays in the stroller; rare moment here.)

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5. ~1952

I so love old pictures, too. This one resurfaced recently. My mother is the girl wiping her eye in the back row (she was a teen), and my grandmother is the tallest lady on the front row (why did those genes skip me?)

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5 Things on the Blog

  • Do You Have to Know? 
    Do we really have to know for sure? Can we idolize our need to be right?
  • Is Prayer Enough? 
    They need help. We say, “I’ll be praying for you.” Is that enough?
  • Your “Righteous” Anger
    How often are you offended? Are you irritated too frequently? Overly sensitive? Are Christians viewed as perpetually angry people?
  • Why They Listen to You
    What are they listening for? Are you saying that? “They look to us for wisdom, for courage…”
  • If You Pray Well, You Live Well?
    He said, “If you pray well, you live well.” If it’s true, why don’t we pray better?

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What was a highlight from your July? What are you looking forward to in August? Please share in the comments.

previous Links and Books


On the Blog – July 2018

Summaries and links to blog posts for July 2018


9 Books I Recommend – July 2018

Here are 7 non-fiction and 2 fiction books I recommend from what I finished reading in July, including a 1-minute video review of a favorite.

Once a month we share our current reading list at Jennifer’s.

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Books I Recommend

NONFICTION

1. When
The Scientific Secrets of Perfect Timing
by Daniel H. Pink

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Great book. We often think about what we do or why we do things. But we don’t always give enough attention to when. Like all of his books, Dan Pink delves into research and science to get behind the timing of things we do. Always engaging, always relevant. I highly recommend this one.

[Click here if you can’t see the 1-minute video about When]

2. The Sun Does Shine
How I Found Life and Freedom on Death Row
by Anthony Ray Hinton

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I wish everyone could read this book. Beautifully written and moving. Anthony Ray Hinton tells his story about being wrongly accused of multiple murders and sitting on death row for almost 30 years in an Alabama prison. He shares of his despairs, his hopes, his friendships. And finally of his release through the help of gifted attorney Bryan Stevenson and the Equal Justice Initiative (also read Stevenson’s Just Mercy—it will change you).

3. The Gift of Years
Growing Older Gracefully
by Joan D. Chittister

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Sometimes I don’t want to get any older. I’d rather stay right where I am. But this book helps show the advantages of growing older. Chittister really does make it more palatable—almost inviting—through her emphasis on growing older gracefully. A very encouraging read.

4. Give People Money
How a Universal Basic Income Would End Poverty, Revolutionize Work, and Remake the World
by Annie Lowrey

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I’m not sure what to think. That’s why I wanted to read this. I’m still not sure what to think about giving everyone a basic income. But at least I have a framework now. Lowrey does a great job explaining the ins and outs, the good and bad, of a UBI (universal basic income). This is a great primer to start learning about a topic we’re sure to hear about again and again in the upcoming years.

5. Wait
The Art and Science of Delay
by Frank Partnoy

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A perfect pairing with When (see #1). This book reminds us that we don’t always need to act immediately. Sometimes we need to hold back and wait. For everyone’s good. It will really make you think twice about why we often rush into things, and other times, not. Very interesting.

6. What Truth Sounds Like
Robert F. Kennedy, James Baldwin, and Our Unfinished Conversation About Race in America
by Michael Eric Dyson

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I had to read this one slowly. I’m glad I did. Dyson’s word choices feel very deliberate to ensure you get what he’s saying about relationships between blacks and whites in the past 50 years. This book is painful but advantageous to get a historied view of racism and the way we talk about it.

7. The Most Beautiful Thing I’ve Seen
Opening Your Eyes to Wonder
by Lisa Gungor

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Singer and wife to musician Michael Gungor, Lisa Gungor writes about her journey through faith, loss of faith, and renewed faith. When her daughter, Lucie, was born with Down’s Syndrome, everything changed again.

FICTION

8. Turtles All the Way Down
by John Green

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A set of teenage girls stumble onto solving a mystery of a disappeared millionaire. Trigger warning: If you have OCD tendencies, this book might get under your skin. The main character deals with obsessive thoughts about catching a disease from bacteria. Another moving story by John Green, author of The Fault in Our Stars.

9. The President Is Missing
by James Patterson and Bill Clinton

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This new novel co-written by Patterson and Clinton is about a modern American President faced with serious cyberterrorism. The scariest thing is realizing that some of these things could actually happen. Well-written and the plot moves along quickly.

Reading Now

  • God of Tomorrow
    How to Overcome the Fears of Today and Renew Your Hope for the Future
    by Caleb W. Kaltenbach
  • Reframing the Soul
    How Words Transform Our Faith
    by Gregory Spencer
  • 21 Lessons for the 21st Century
    by Yuval Noah Harari
  • Inspired
    Slaying Giants, Walking on Water, and Loving the Bible Again
    by Rachel Held Evans
  • Prayer
    40 Days of Practice
    by Justin McRoberts

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What good book have you read this month? Please share in the comments.

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My books on Goodreads
More books I recommend


Learn It, But Live It {Resources for Matthew 5}

We end this week.

For the past four months, our Hide His Word community through the Do Not Depart blog has been memorizing Matthew 5:1-19. You know the passage:

  • Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God. . .
  • You are the salt of the earth. . . 
  • Let your light shine before others. . .

But now we’ve reached the final verse in our memory challenge.

Yet the challenge continues.

Learning words is one thing.

Actually, it’s the easier thing. Living it out is another thing altogether.

So as we continue to solidify the words in our brains even in the weeks to come, we’ll also keep praying for them to sink into our hearts. Into our hands. Into our relationships.

For free printable resources to memorize Matthew 5, click here.

If you want to do a quick study of your own through this section of the Sermon on the Mount, below is an index of articles we published on Matthew 5 at Do Not Depart this spring/summer.

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The first disciples had no idea what they were about to hear on that mountain. Do we?

Are you poor? Do you feed on God’s grace as a regular staple in your spiritual diet?

How does Jesus flip our views of strength? Memorize Matthew 5:4-5 to see how mourning and meekness are blessed.

What are you hungry for? Find satisfaction in showing mercy.

How do you see God? What does that mean?

Blessed are the persecuted. Really? Who? And how?

How can we be reviled today? What did Jesus say about it?

Why did Jesus say to rejoice in persecutions? Can anything good come from pain?

Jesus said that believers are salty. What does that mean? And are we?

You aren’t light because you’re so brilliant. It’s because of Jesus inside of you. He is the light shining through.

Don’t waste your light. Someone needs it to see by.

What good works is God calling you to do this week? When you do them, you bring Him honor.

Jesus was here on purpose. Are we?

Not a jot or a tittle would pass away. What did Jesus mean? Memorize Matthew 5:18 with us and discover.

You’re not invisible. What you do and say matters to more people than just yourself. Memorize Matthew 5:19 and see why.

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Do you have a favorite Beatitude (see the list of Beatitudes here)? Or a favorite scripture you’re applying to your life in this season? Please share in the comments.