Because You’re Not Perfect Either

Some days, I forget.
I expect more from myself than I can give.
And more of others, too.
I get grumpy when things go wrong.
As if perfection is ever attainable.

Then I remember:

I’m not perfect.

Neither is my partner.
Nor my friend.
My boss.
My child.
My parent.
My neighbor.
My coworker.

But I am human.
And so are they.

That gives me room to laugh.
And play.
Apologize,
Pivot.
Heal.
Forgive.
Mess up.
Live.
Love.

We’re all carrying invisible loads:
A worry that vibrates inside our bones,
A regret for conversations past,
A hope we’re barely clinging to.

So be kind to fellow humans.
To your coworker.
Your neighbor.
Your parent.
Your child.
Your boss.
Your friend.
Your partner.

And most of all, be kind to yourself.
You deserve it.

Tomorrow, we may forget again.
We may get frustrated, impatient, tired.
That’s okay.
Just begin again.
Start another ripple of kindness.

Because kindness is always possible.
It’s always within reach.
Even for the imperfect.

How often are you intentionally kind to yourself?

Share your thoughts in the comments.


Double the Insight: Why It Works to Read Fiction and Nonfiction Together
{Nonfiction November Week 3}

If you’re a reader, you probably have a favorite: fiction or nonfiction. Some of us love escaping into stories; others seek facts and insights.

But what if real understanding happens when you don’t choose between them, but read both?

Reading fiction and nonfiction together can deepen your perspective of both worlds. One stirs emotion; the other sharpens perspective.

Below are a few reasons why this pairing works for me—and three book pairings from what I’ve read this year.

1. Fiction Opens Your Heart; Nonfiction Opens Your Mind

Okay, maybe it’s not quite that simple (fiction and nonfiction can both open hearts and minds). Still, books we read for stories often help us feel something, while books we read for information often help us think something.

Try these two together.

Book covers of Here One Moment and Fluke

Fiction: Here One Moment by Liane Moriarty

The plot centers around a mysterious passenger aboard a flight who walks down the aisle predicting deaths. The story shows you the human side of how each person reacts to the news, and the ripple effect it creates in their lives.

Nonfiction: Fluke: Chance, Chaos, and Why Everything We Do Matters by Brian Klaas

This fascinating look at chaos theory and randomness shows how tiny moments can have huge consequences. It’s a real-life counterpart to Moriarty’s fictional story of ripple effects.

The fiction and nonfiction together help you feel the fragility of life as well as understand why even small choices matter.

2. Together, They Give You a More Complete Picture

Fiction fleshes out a concept without having to explain it. You see it for yourself as it unfolds in a story. With nonfiction you get a full explanation with details and facts and often even possible solutions.

Book covers of The Color Purple and We Have Never Been Woke

Fiction: The Color Purple by Alice Walker

Set in the early 1900s, this classic novel follows Celie, an African American woman, as she navigates trauma, resilience, and self-discovery in the American South.

Nonfiction: We Have Never Been Woke: The Cultural Contradictions of a New Elite by Musa al-Gharbi

This well-researched book is a thought-provoking look at how modern social justice movements intersect with class, culture, and power structures.

Read together, these two books offer a clearer picture of both historical and modern struggles over identity, race, and progress.

3. When Nonfiction Gets Heavy, Fiction Offers an Escape

Honestly, sometimes nonfiction can feel like homework, especially when the topics are intense or the science is dense. That’s where fiction provides a welcome release. Having both genres in your stack lets you match your reading mood.

Book covers of There Are Rivers in the Sky and Belonging

Fiction: There Are Rivers in the Sky by Elif Shafak

This sweeping novel sucks you in over several centuries and continents, connecting four people linked by water, memory, and the ancient Epic of Gilgamesh.

Nonfiction: Returning Home to Our Bodies by Abigail Rose Clarke

This book invites self-reflection as you reconnect with their own body as part of nature—through somatics, social awareness, and imagination.

When you’re ready to go deep, pick up the nonfiction. But when you need to come up for air, reach for the novel.

The Best of Both Worlds

Pairing genres can keep your reading life fresh. Switching back and forth between fiction and nonfiction keeps your brain active and your heart engaged. It doesn’t have to be either/or.

When you need a change of pace, try adding some of both to your stack.


Share your thoughts in the comments.

More pairings here:

It’s Week 3 of Nonfiction November: Book Pairings. Find more pairings (and add your own) at Liz’s blog, Adventures in Reading, Running, and Working from Home.

Nonfiction November Week 3


November Book Roundup: 8 Worthwhile Reads from Memoir to Mystery
—November 2025 Book Recommendations

“That’s the thing about books. They let you travel without moving your feet.”
― Jhumpa Lahiri

November has been overflowing with reading—fitting, since it’s Nonfiction November! Between my book club picks, a heartwarming memoir, and novels I didn’t want to put down, this month’s stack felt satisfying.

Whether you’re in the mood to learn, reflect, or escape, here are six nonfiction books and two novels that captured my own attention and heart.

[See previously recommended books here]

NONFICTION

1. Being Henry
The Fonz . . . and Beyond
by Henry Winkler

Being Henry

If you grew up watching Happy Days like I did, Being Henry feels like catching up with an old friend. This memoir is delightful! Winkler’s honesty and humility are endearing. Listening to his narration for the audioversion is icing on the cake.

2. The Art of Gathering *
How We Meet and Why It Matters
by Priya Parker

The Art of Gathering

Priya Parker will make you excited to a host a gathering. My book club just finished reading this together. We collected many wonderful ideas about how to make our individual gatherings more meaningful. See one gathering we experimented with here.

* Asterisked books from Daniel Pink’s Favorite Books list; you can find it here.

3. Traffic
Why We Drive the Way We Do and What It Says About Us
by Tom Vanderbilt

Traffic

This book fascinated me from beginning to end about how we drive. It explores topics like why you should become a late merger, why dangerous roads are safer, why the other lane always seems faster, driving in a parking lot, and much more. It’s changed how I think (and drive) when I’m on the road.

4. The Gift of Therapy
An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients
by Irvin D. Yalom

The Gift of Therapy

Even if you’re not a therapist (I’m not, yet aren’t we all sort of one?), you’ll appreciate Irvin Yalom’s insights on how to be a better therapist and a better patient. His empathy for clients is obvious through his real-life examples. This book is an interesting one just as one human being interacting with another.

5. Moving On Doesn’t Mean Letting Go
A Modern Guide to Navigating Loss
by Gina Moffa

Moving On Doesn't Mean Letting Go

Not only do I love the content of this book, but I also love Gina Moffa’s tone. She is so gentle and kind. She offers such practical guidance for navigating grief at your own pace—without pressure or the false promise of “moving on.”

6. Joyspan
The Art and Science of Thriving in Life’s Second Half
by Kerry Burnight

Joyspan

Growing older can feel a bit scary. But this book is a refreshing antidote to the fear-based talk we typically hear. It offers lots of practical—and hopeful!—messages that older years can be full of purpose and joy.

[Read my full review of Joyspan here]

FICTION

7. Golden Girl
by Elin Hilderbrand

Golden Girl

Even though I had to wait a while to get this 3-year-old book from my library, it was worth it. Hilderbrand tells this story with such charm and mystery about a family in Nantucket whose author mom was killed in a hit-and-run accident.

8. Broken Country
by Clare Leslie Hall

Broken Country

“The farmer is dead. He is dead, and all anyone wants to know is who killed him.” This engrossing novel is a haunting mix of love story and unfolding mystery. It kept me wanting to read one more chapter.

WHAT I’M READING NOW

  • The Dreaming Way
    Courting the Wisdom of Dreams
    by Toko-pa Turner
  • Dear America
    Notes of an Undocumented Citizen
    by Jose Antonio Vargas
  • Growing Old
    Notes on Aging with Something like Grace
    by Elizabeth Marshall Thomas
  • My Friends
    by Fredrik Backman
  • The Kite Runner
    by Khaled Hosseini

Have you read a good book lately? I’d love to hear in the comments.

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5 Reasons to “Do” the Book Instead of Just Reading It (+ 5 Book Picks)
{Nonfiction November Week 2}

Week 2 of Nonfiction November is about Choosing Nonfiction. Here are a couple questions I often ask when I decide on a nonfiction book:

  • Can I do something with this book besides just read it?
  • How can I experience this for myself, too?

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(Disclaimer: I also love novels! But I read them for escape, for fun, and for entertainment. If it turns out to prompt action, too, well, that’s just bonus.)

5 Reasons to Do a Book Instead of Just Reading It

Here are 5 reasons why I find doing a book to be beneficial—and a book suggestion for each.

1. YOU UNDERSTAND BETTER WHEN YOU PRACTICE.

Reading about something is one thing. Doing it is another. To get better at basketball, for example, you don’t just read about plays and strategies; you pick up a ball and play.

“Doing” a book works the same way to me. Answer the journal prompts. Try the exercises. Experience the game, when possible.

My book club recently finished Priya Parker’s book, The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters.

The Art of Gathering

But instead of only reading it, we are trying to individually experiment with Parker’s ideas in our own gatherings. It’s been interesting to try new strategies in how we meet with others.

2. YOU DISCOVER BLIND SPOTS.

My friend showed me how to do something. It looked easy. Until I tried it myself. Sometimes you don’t know what you don’t know until you actually try it yourself.

Here’s a book that is perfect for this if you want to discover your blind spots: Seek: How Curiosity Can Transform Your Life and Change the World by Scott Shigeoka.

Seek How Curiosity Can Transform Your Life and Change the World

While reading about curiosity is one form of practicing curiosity, it’s more beneficial if you take the material outside the book to see where you can improve.

Shigeoka suggests practical tips, like acknowledge small bids for attention, take a “brave pause,” or ask yourself key questions before taking action.

While we want to learn from others’ mistakes, the strongest lessons still come when we experience our own.

3. DOING MAKES IT STICK.

We retain what we do longer than what we simply read. Books that get us out of our heads and into our bodies make knowledge stick around better.

This book did it for me: Democracy in Retrograde: How to Make Changes Big and Small in Our Country and in Our Lives by Sami Sage and Emily Amick.

Democracy in Retrograde

Some of its practical suggestions include:

  • Audit your news consumption
  • Create a civic calendar
  • Show up at local events
  • Join a nonprofit
  • Call your representatives
  • Celebrate small wins

At the book’s prompting, I finally downloaded the Five Calls app for calling Congress, and now I use it to keep up with my calls to representatives instead of starting every time from scratch.

4. DOING BUILDS CONFIDENCE.

This summer when I realized I was on my phone too often, I read this book for strategies: How to Break Up with Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life by Catherine Price.

Book cover of How to Break Up with Your Phone The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life by Catherine Price

In it, she instructs the reader to actually pull out their phone and do things like this:

  • Set a digital Sabbath
  • Assign a bedtime and wake-up time for your phone
  • Establish no-phone zones in your home
  • Unsubscribe instead of just delete unwanted emails

These are all actions I can do (well, some of the time anyway?), thus building my confidence (a little) that I can control my phone instead of my phone controlling me. This one is still a work in progress for me….

5. DOING TURNS KNOWLEDGE INTO WISDOM.

After watching the encouraging reels by James ‘Fish’ Gill on Instagram, I grabbed a copy of his book about relationships: How to Fall in Love with Humanity: 16 Life-Changing Practices for Radical Compassion. And I’m so glad I did.

How to Fall in Love with Humanity 16 life-changing practices for radical compassion by James'Fish' Gill

His insightful advice can improve relationships—but only if they’re practiced.

Here are some examples from his book, things you may already know but good reminders to practice them:

  • Share your experience, not your analysis
  • Listen to understand, not just to respond
  • Ask questions with curiosity, not assumption
  • Witness both the yearnings and the pains of others

Learning is rarely one-and-done. It takes time and repetition to go from head-knowledge to heart-wisdom. 

The Takeaway

Books aren’t only for your thinking—they’re also for your living.

The best nonfiction doesn’t just inform. It challenges you to act.

So read a book, then do it, and watch for the changes that follow.


Which book have you read recently that you could put into practice? Share your thoughts in the comments.

Read more about reading:

Find more posts on choosing nonfiction books at Frances’s blog, Volatile Rune, for week 2 of Nonfiction November.

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On the Blog – October 2025

Here are brief summaries and links to posts on the blog, Lisa notes, from October 2025.

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See previous months’ archives here


Seasons of Change: How Weddings, Trees, Books, and Rooms Remind Us to Grow
{Share 4 Somethings - October 2025}

Weddings, trees, books, rooms—they all told me the same story this month: things change, and that’s the point. Growth doesn’t mean erasing what used to be. It simply means building on the past’s foundation as new things unfold.

It’s like this quote I’ve been memorizing:

“I would love to live like a river flows, carried by the surprise of its own unfolding.”
― John O’Donohue

Each month I share 4 somethings that I have:

  1. Loved
  2. Learned
  3. Went well
  4. Let go of

And then I link up with Jenn.

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Something I loved

  • THE BRIDE THAT TIME BUILT 

Last weekend, we attended what I’m calling the final wedding—the last of our neighbor’s four kids to get married. Brooke wasn’t even born when we moved into the neighborhood in 2001. I remember staying with her older siblings the night she was born, while her parents dashed to the hospital. I remember my daughter Jenna giving Brooke ballet lessons in our basement. Brooke later was the flower girl in my daughter Morgan’s wedding.

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Me and Brooke, 2011

Fast-forward several years:

Now Brooke is dancing with her new husband at her own wedding.

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Time doesn’t just march on—it runs. I’m grateful for memories from the past as well as new memories we continue to make.

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ÂSomething I learned

  • THE TREES THAT TEACH US

Our book club of several years hosted a family cookout a few Sundays ago called “Branches & Burgers.” The book we had been reading was The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker (which I highly recommend, by the way), so we were very intentional about following a theme.

We asked everyone to send a photo of their favorite tree and bring a tree-related item for show-and-tell. We later walked around outside for a tree identification contest (I lost, even though it was my own backyard). The kids participated as much as the adults.

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It was a wonderfully surprising day. No matter how well you know a person (or your backyard) already, there is always more to learn.

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Something that went well

  • THE VOICES THAT LIFT US

The same book club took a field trip to hear Jen Hatmaker speak, alongside her boyfriend Tyler Merritt and friend Mary Kathryn Backstrom. The event, hosted by our local independent bookstore, was so nourishing—full of laughter, truth-telling, and community-building.

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It makes our next book choice an easy pick:

Jen Hatmaker’s newest memoir, Awake.

We’ll start it next week.

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Something I let go of

  • THE ROOM THAT REMEMBERS

After years of good intentions, we finally put in the work to redo our youngest daughter’s old bedroom. Once filled with her cow collection and childhood photos—including a professional photo with her pet duck—we’ve been using it as a playroom, but it felt chaotic to me.

But fresh paint, new carpet, and a few new bookshelves have transformed the room into a more joyful and inviting space for the next generation to spend time in.

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Letting go of the past doesn’t mean forgetting it—it just means moving over a bit to make room for what’s still growing.


What’s changing in your life this month?

Share your thoughts in the comments.

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