When You Think You Can’t Say No
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I can’t say no to that. To her. To him.
I have to say yes. Isn’t that what good Christians do?
We often chain ourselves to “yes” because we want to make everyone happy. We think we can’t refuse an opportunity.
But Leslie Newman reminds us in our featured post this week that it’s okay to flip our “I can’t say no” to “Actually, I can.” I can say no.
And once we say “I can,” we are freed to do the more specific things God has called us to do. We can release our need to please people because we want to please God.
When we learn to stop saying, “I can’t say no” to people, we can say, “Actually, I can” more often to God.
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“How to Release the Need to Please“
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I think Christian women are especially prone to the fallacy of perpetual “yes.” Somewhere along the way we have forgotten who IS really the Savior.
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Lisa, thank you so much for featuring my post! I love how you describe the difficulty of saying “no” as a Christian woman. We can be freed to wholeheartedly serve in the ways God has created us to serve Him, and sometimes that takes a “no” so we can say “yes” in the right place!
I so agree with Leslie’s comment! Also so important to remember we can only give as much as we have the energy to give. Saying no means saying yes to something else such as self-care.
Your post really hit home, Leslie. I still struggle a lot with people pleasing. Thank you! I’ll have to remember those three words. Love and blessings to you, Lisa and Leslie!
Saying No takes practice and thoughtfulness. And it’s an important skill to learn! Michael Hyatt says that when we say Yes to something, we’re also saying no to other things–things that might be equally important. If we’re not careful, we end up overbooked, stressed-out, and exhausted.