Saying Too Much?
Maybe you do this too.
You write something to share with others. Maybe for an email or Facebook post or your blog.
But then something nags at you. You wonder if you’re saying too much. Or too little. You question yourself.
- Is this too personal to post?
- Not personal enough?
- Does is sound like I’m bragging?
- Is my message too harsh?
- Too long?
- Too trite?
- Too boring?
It’s often hard to put into words exactly what we’re thinking. And not everything we think needs to be said out loud.
So how are we to decide what to share with others and what to keep to ourselves?
3 Questions to Ask Before You Share
Here are three questions we can ask ourselves to decide how much to share.
1. WILL IT HELP SOMEONE ELSE?
If your experience or information would help another person learn something, be comforted, avoid a mistake, grow closer to God, or just be pleasantly entertained for a few minutes, share it.
2. WILL IT HELP YOU TO SHARE IT?
Sometimes you need to confess or testify or say something personal for your own healing. If telling others will mend your soul (and won’t hurt others in the process), let it out.
3. WILL IT HONOR GOD?
Pray about your motives. And if you’re unsure how your words will come across, ask a trusted friend to read it first. Make it your goal to bring grace and reflect God’s goodness through your words.
Benefits of Sharing
Sharing our words with others can bring unexpected blessings.
When we give away our words, we can . . .
- Deepen relationships
- Invite conversations
- Clarify thoughts
- Validate feelings
- Witness to God’s faithfulness
- Promote community
- Strengthen love
- Extend grace
- Promp action
As Andrew Le Peau says in Write Better,
“Set your sights higher than finding your voice. Set them on making the world a better, truer, more beautiful place.
If we have something of value, we should be willing to share it.”
We never have to share all our thoughts with the world. That’s not helpful to others or to ourselves. But let’s do share something.
Share your something in words when you can. Brightening your corner of the world lightens it up for all of us.
Do you often second-guess what you write? How do you determine when to hit “send”? Please share your words in the comments.
Updated from the archives
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