Hidden hurts

When I broke my arm, I got a baby blue cast. Anyone who saw me, saw my cast. They knew I was injured. Friends—and even strangers—would ask, “What happened?” or “How can I help?”

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But not all my injuries have been so obvious. Actually, the longest-running and deepest injuries have been virtually invisible. And with invisible injuries, you’re less likely to get offers of help.

So I perked up when Pastor Mark announced yesterday that his sermon would be on “Healing Your Hidden Hurts.”

My mind did a quick search: what secret hurts am I still nursing that need healing?

I didn’t have to think long. I knew the one. It was relatively fresh with a friend. I’ve been working on it with God for a few months now since it first happened.

Was now the time to cut the cast off and start exercising the relationship again?

I came home and did the quick 10 minute test to identify my Apology Language that Pastor Mark had told us about. Maybe that’s what had been tripping me up—waiting on an apology that speaks to me.

I learned I’m most receptive to apologies that express regret. Ones that acknowledge the emotional pain they caused. They don’t have to be elaborate or promise restitution, but they need to take ownership of the wrong.

But when those apologies don’t come—and often they don’t—forgiveness still needs to.

I thought more about our sermon: inhale what you need and exhale what you don’t. Don’t hold your breath (i.e., don’t hold a grudge). Release what you don’t need.

  • I don’t need resentment.
  • I don’t bad feelings.
  • I don’t need a distanced relationship.

So I’m exhaling. Again. I’m releasing the hurt back into God’s hands, and he can do with it what he wants to. I can’t keep holding on to it myself.

Do I feel vulnerable without it? Well, yes. Cutting the cast off my broken part leaves me susceptible again to new hurts. No one will see I have a tender spot and be wary around it.

But until we remove our casts, baring our hearts, we can’t return to a full life again.

And a whole-hearted life is what Christ came to give us . . .

  • a spirit of abundance,
  • of deep breaths,
  • and of healed hurts—visible and invisible ones.

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See what your primary Apology Language is among these five:

  • Express Regret
  • Accept Responsibility
  • Make Restitution
  • Genuinely Repent
  • Request Forgiveness

When have you held on to a hidden hurt too long? What helped you finally release it? Please share in the comments.


Memorizing Isaiah 55:9

Monday, March 17, begins week 9 of memorizing Isaiah 55.

This week’s verse (March 17-March 23):

For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
so are my ways higher than your ways
and my thoughts than your thoughts.
Isaiah 55:9 (ESV)

Practice with first letters:

F a t h a h t t e,
s a m w h t y w
a m t t y t.

From The Message:

For as the sky soars high above earth,
so the way I work surpasses the way you work,
and the way I think is beyond the way you think.

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More tips on memorizing this verse at Do Not Depart.

What does this verse mean to you? Please share.



‘The Explicit Gospel’–Book review

“No man goes back to saltine crackers when he’s had filet mignon. And even this truth is further revelation of God’s grace, because it shows that he doesn’t need us; rather, he wants us.”
– Matt Chandler

What really is the good news that Christianity talks about?

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Matt Chandler wants to clarify both what it is and what it is not in his book The Explicit Gospel. It’s not being “good enough” or “avoiding bad enough” to deserve heaven, even though many believers, even those who’ve been to church all their lives, think it is.

“At vacation Bible school in a little Baptist church, I met the arch-nemesis of the gospel of Jesus Christ. This simple song about God hating liars created in me what it aimed to: a desire not to lie in order to win the affection of God. I would battle believing this false gospel for years to come without even knowing it.

“ . . . Very early on, it became clear to me that I wasn’t a good enough spiritual athlete to make the team. It became crystal clear, as I tried to do good, that I just didn’t have the legs for it.”

What Chandler makes explicit—and what the Bible makes explicit—is that the good news has everything to do with God and his goodness and nothing to do with ours.

“This world is not present, spinning and sailing in the universe, so that you and I might be saved or lost but so that God might be glorified in his infinite perfections. This is a revolutionary claim, I know. It jostles our hearts and unsettles us.”

So while he doesn’t break new ground in this book (the good news is over 2,000 years old, after all), he does a good job of reminding us of the basics. Because we even forget those.

And the basics include that we’re not here as some “missing link in God’s emotional experience.”

But we are here to reflect back the glory of God as he transforms us more into his image. Chandler emphasizes that throughout his book (reminiscent of John Piper in his books as well—a huge plus for me).

“It is God who is deep in riches, God who is deep in wisdom, God who is deep in lovingkindness, and God who is deep in glory. Not us. This is the message of the Bible.”

If you like personal stories, you’ll find them in The Explicit Gospel as well. Chandler includes many anecdotes to drive home his points (he’s actually a little too verbose for me, a little too folksy—but that’s just my idiosyncrasy. Plus, I listened to the audio book last year, so I’d already heard the stories.)

He also spends a good bit of time on the “gospel on the ground” versus the “gospel in the air.” “If the danger of focusing too long on the gospel on the ground is essentially sectarianism, the danger of focusing too long on the gospel in the air is definitely syncretism.” That might be helpful to some, but it wasn’t necessarily to me.

But personal preferences aside, the basics are laid out clearly. And while we may stretch after deeper theology (nothing wrong with that—I do that too; it’s good), the basics are enough—trusting in God’s goodness and not our own. That’s good news for all of us.

Here are some favorite quotes:

“We each may be saved as an individual life, but we are not saved to an individual life.”

“If you add to or subtract from the cross, even if it is to factor in biblically mandated religious practices like prayer and evangelism, you rob God of his glory and Christ of his sufficiency.”

“The spiritual power in the gospel is denied when we augment or adjust the gospel into no gospel at all. When we doubt the message alone is the power of God for salvation, we start adding or subtracting, trusting our own powers of persuasion or presentation.”

“The essential problem of all mankind is not a lack of resources but a lack of holiness.”

“We must abandon the idea that there is condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus! We must abandon the idea that our sins pile up on some scale that will earn God’s punishment when tipped, as if Christ didn’t take this wrath from us already on the cross.”

“The marker of those who understand the gospel of Jesus Christ is that, when they stumble and fall, when they screw up, they run to God and not from him, because they clearly understand that their acceptance before God is not predicated upon their behavior but on the righteous life of Jesus Christ and his sacrificial death.”

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Thanks to Crossway for the review copy of this book.


Memorizing Isaiah 55:8

Monday, March 10, begins week 8 of memorizing Isaiah 55.

This week’s verse (March 10-16):

For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways, declares the LORD.
Isaiah 55:8 (ESV)

Practice with first letters:

F m t a n y t,
n a y w m w, d t L.

From The Message:

“I don’t think the way you think.
The way you work isn’t the way I work.” GOD’s Decree.

Hiding-Isaiah-55-in-my-heart

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More tips on memorizing this verse at Do Not Depart.

What does this verse mean to you? Please share.


Goings on in March ’14 – Daybook

Outside my window . . . happy faces regardless of the temperature (unlike me—bring on the heat!)

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I am thinking . . . that what we give up at Lent is usually given back in a revised, improved form

I am praying . . . about Jenna’s mission trip to Guatemala tomorrow

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. . . and my f-i-l’s heart surgery next month

. . . and Lindsey’s steep and continual decline from a strong, healthy boy to total paralysis in a year (still undiagnosed)

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I am listening . . . to my new (to me) favorite podcast NPR TED Radio Hour—an interesting combination of various TED talks combined into 50-minute episodes

I am watching . . . American Idol this season (I skipped last year), even though it makes me cry every episode—both because of the beauty of voice and because someone always gets sent home

I am looking forward to . . . seeing my oldest daughter this weekend

I am thankful . . . for updates on how to pray for Ukraine, Russia, and Crimea, from Caleb, a missionary to Ukraine who is currently stateside

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I am resolving . . . to be more compassionate to myself (it’s Step 3 of 12 this year) so I’ll be more compassionate to others

I am creating . . . a collection of pictures of the 4 Corners—my 3 oldest friends and me

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I am going . . . to Gulf Shores with them soon (again!, evidence of God’s grace)

stuff-the-secret-lives-of-everyday-thingsI am reading . . . a fascinating little book, Stuff: The Secret Lives of Everyday Things, (a free Kindle loan with Amazon Prime), on the gazillions of resources it takes to make even simple products, like a newspaper or a hamburger or a t-shirt

I am realizing . . . this about my t-shirts:

“The greatest environmental impacts associated with my T-shirt arose in my own laundry room: washing and drying the shirt just once demanded one-tenth as much energy as manufacturing it in the first place.”
– John C. Ryan and Alan Durning

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I am discovering . . . I actually like The Scarlet Pimpernel—I’m thankful the TBR Pile challenge motivated me to finally read it—and maybe I’ll even watch one of its movies when I finish the book

I am studying . . . even more in Isaiah 55 since it’s the book club selection for March for Do Not Depart in addition to being the chapter we’re memorizing

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One of my favorite things . . . is traveling with Jeff—last week I tagged along on his business trip to Cape Canaveral (where it was warm) (pic of random man I snuck up on)

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A picture to share . . . you’ve already met Chris if you read this on Wednesday (he’s in the middle here); he got this picture yesterday. And if you’re an Auburn football fan (or Carolina Panthers) you’ll recognize Tre Mason and Cam Newton (he’s back in school this semester to complete his degree). War Eagle, y’all!

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What are some of your upcoming plans for March?

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