Where do you go to church?

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“Richard Halverson writes, ‘When the Greeks got the gospel, they turned it into a philosophy; when the Romans got it, they turned it into a government; when the Europeans got it, they turned it into a culture; and when the Americans got it, they turned it into a business.’”
– quoted in Reimagining Church

“Where do you go to church?”

I don’t like the question. I haven’t for awhile.

I know what people mean when they ask; I still ask it of others myself. We’re asking what building do you worship in on Sundays, who do you serve with, what doctrines do you hold to, are we more alike or different in our beliefs.

And I can give the short answer to that question with no cringing.

But if you want a fuller answer . . .

I have multiple “churches.” I fellowship with many communities of believers in Jesus.

Yes, one is in the same building every Sunday morning.

But another is in a booth at Hardee’s on Saturday mornings and at lunch at Buena Vista now and again. Another is in the clothing room at Manna House on Wednesday afternoons, another is in my bedroom every night with Jeff, another around a different kitchen table or couch every month with my extended family.

All these combined make up church. They are the called-out believers I gather with.

And they also include you, friends I’ve never seen in person but whom I’ve grown to know and love in Christ online. We’re all in the same Kingdom.

No, church isn’t a building. But neither is it just a home. It’s in both and all and far more—phones and cars and restaurants and beaches and keyboards and backyards.

Jesus goes with us as we meet with others in ALL those places.

My view of church continues to evolve. So in reading Frank Viola’s Reimagining Church, I’m stretched yet again.

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Viola writes to challenge our thinking of institutional church—he believes it no longer reflects God’s original intent. He proposes an organic approach—meeting in homes—like the earliest church did.

But perhaps even Viola’s image is too confining. I wrote more notes in the margin of this book than I have in awhile. Things like: “I doubt that was the reason” and “Yes, but on an everyday basis” and “Is this the only option???”

I don’t think Viola would mind the banter. Actually, I think he’d welcome it. Because we both care about the main thing: Jesus is Lord, and the church is to revolve around him.

“The church, therefore, should not be confused with an organization, a denomination, a movement, or a leadership structure. The church is the people of God, the very bride of Jesus Christ.”
– Frank Viola

He points out that the chief metaphor for the church in the New Testament is the family. He describes six aspects of what that means: the members take care of one another; they spend time together; they show one another affection; they grow; they share responsibility; and they reflect the Triune God in their relationships.

He gives lots of specifics of how this can look (and has looked in his experiences with house churches), and how he thinks it should not look (he prefers no clergy/laity distinctions, for example). Yet he remains humble about it: “I acknowledge that I could be completely wrong in my assessments, and I am open to standing corrected. But I only ask that those who make such critiques first experience for themselves what they are setting out to critique.”

He doesn’t deny God’s power to work in any situation: “Make no mistake about it: God has used and is using the institutional church. Because of His mercy, the Lord will work through any structure as long as He can find hearts in it that are truly open to Him.”

And he’s not afraid of tipping over sacred cows.

“Therefore, a pressing need today is the rediscovery of biblical language and ideas. We need to rethink our entire concept of church and discover it afresh through the lens of Jesus and the apostles. Because of common misteaching, we have many deeply buried assumptions that are in need of excavation and examination. Many of us have been mistaught that ‘church’ means a building, a denomination, or a worship service. And that a ‘minister’ is a special class of Christian.”

Occasionally I smile at the truth of his examples:

“ . . . you’ll have to go against the harsh grain of what one writer calls ‘the seven last words of the church’ (We never did it that way before).”

And even though he loses me in places, in the end he stills circles around Christ as the center. So regardless of the minor points we disagree on, we are still united.

So where do I go to church?
Well, it’s a long story. . . .

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Getting kids to serve

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Who wants a lazy kid? Nobody. But what can we do to help them better love and serve others?

We’re looking today at four big ways to serve at Do Not Depart.

Given with the proper attitude, all service is worship to God if it touches another soul with his love.

I’d love for you to join me there and share we YOU have learned!

Read the rest here: “I want my kids to serve!”

Let the Children Come - monthly feature on helping children to abide in God's Word via DoNotDepart.com

What advice do you have on helping kids serve?
What has worked for you? Not worked?


Sign up to memorize John 15

Memorize John 15 with Do Not Depart

We’re ramping up to memorize John 15 together!

It’s a rich chapter of all words by Jesus. And even if you don’t want to memorize that many words, we still invite you to join us in looking at two verses per week.

Sign up now at Do Not Depart, and receive an email every two weeks with three or four verses, beginning June 2 (download the schedule here). If you want interaction with community, join our Facebook group where we’ll be sharing about the verses each week.

If memorizing a whole chapter sounds intimidating to you, remember it’s still just one to two verses per week—it just happens they’re all connected and flow together, which actually makes it easier! Here are some tips to get you started on memorizing a chapter.

Downloadable resources are also available at the registration page in 5 different versions this time (!)—ESV, KJV, NIV, NASB, NKJV—but memorize in whichever translation you prefer.

If you’d like to help us spread the word, we’d appreciate a tweet or a shout-out on your favorite social media. Thanks!

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If you have questions, let me know!

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Listening to dementia – “I’m Still Here”

I read I’m Still Here four years ago to learn more about my mom’s Alzheimer’s. I’m reposting my original review today for those dealing with their own loved ones going through dementia.


When you’re talking with a family member or friend who has a memory problem, hear this:
Don’t test them. Please.

I'm Still Here by John Zeisel Ph.D. That’s what I heard in I’m Still Here: A New Philosophy of Alzheimer’s Care. And that’s what I learned with my own mom. 

Unless you’re questioning for a medical evaluation, why make someone with dementia feel even worse about himself than he already does?

Give them the answers for free instead.

Instead of saying, “Do you remember me? Do you know why I’m here?” (maybe they do, maybe they don’t), say, “Hi, Mom! It’s your daughter Lisa. I’m here to visit with you.”

“Don’t test” is the fourth of the Five Rules of Communication from author John Zeisel, Ph.D.:

“4.  Don’t test!
For a person living with Alzheimer’s, from the very beginning of the illness, posing such questions feels increasingly like a test of memory they are sure to fail.

…Every test is a reminder of failings and losses. Every test increases the person’s feelings of inadequacy.

Why do we test? We test to make ourselves feel better. We want to know that we exist in the person’s mind as we have always existed.

…If we are more interested in the relationship and the person’s enjoyment, we can give him the answers rather than ask questions. This achieves the same results while decreasing anxiety and agitation.”

The other 4 rules are:

1.  Hear and respond to the other person’s “reality.”
2.  Be honest.
3.  Always address the person directly.
5.  Don’t say “don’t”; divert and redirect instead.

Zeisel puts a very human face on this disease. He centers on how to stay connected in a loving relationship with the person living with Alzheimer’s.

His final chapter “Being in the Present Moment” highlights two gifts that you receive and can give to those with Alzheimer’s (and to anyone else!):

Mindfulness and Compassion

Through compassionately being present, focus on skills and capacities that don’t fade with the disease, such as emotions, the response to touch, facial expressions, music.

And learn to diminish the 4 A’s of Alzheimer’s Disease that are often only secondary symptoms anyway: apathy, anxiety, agitation, and aggression.

Like people with Alzheimer’s do, learn to live in the “point of time” rather than just the “line of time.”

THE LINE OF TIME
Past —> Present Moment —> 
Future
We are always moving from past to future.

THE POINT OF TIME
Past —> Present Moment <— Future
The present moment represents all moments.

As Zeisel says, an Alzheimer’s diagnosis doesn’t have to be seen as an Alzheimer’s sentence.

“Throughout the more than decade-long progress of the disease, the person is crying out, ‘I’m still here.’ We all need to start hearing that cry before it fades away completely.”

I began I’m Still Here when my mother was alive. She died before I finished it. I debated reopening it.

I’m glad I did.

Because Alzheimer’s is surely not finished with me yet. Or you. We already know many with it, and many more to come. Let’s be present with them through it.

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For more, read this excellent series, “Adventures in Elder Care” by my blogging friend Barbara on caring for aging parents.


Ready for your second chance?

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found in tornado debris

The story isn’t over after all.

I told you here about meeting Chasady as we dug through her tornado debris a week and a half ago. But what I didn’t tell you was the blunder I made before we said good-bye.

Here’s what happened. . . .

I felt bad we couldn’t find more of her personal belongings. I felt worse that I was leaving for my comfy home while she was going to some temporary shelter.

I said I’d like to give her a gift, one I thought was in my pocket.

But it wasn’t in my pocket, not right nor left, not front nor back. Empty, save a tube of Vaseline, my truck key, and a Kleenex.

I apologized and felt the worst yet. How could I have not been better prepared? And why did I make it worse by offering—out loud even—something I didn’t have to give?

Chasady was kind about it, and we moved on.

But my ill-preparedness stuck with me. Running into her at the trailer park again was unlikely. I’d misused my only opportunity.

I did see Chasady briefly a few days later when she dropped by the work tent to tell us she was meeting with FEMA. She was in, out, and gone.

But God specializes in donating do-overs.
It’s called grace.

And I got mine.

Last Saturday I was working again at the trailer park when I looked up to see Chasady and her cousin Rose. We hugged and she told me their living conditions were still uncertain. It was my second chance! This time I was prepared to not only give her my originally planned gift, but even more.

It still wasn’t much. But it was something: It was grace to them.

And it was grace to me, too.

It was my do-over.

It was God saying, “Watch me for second chances.” Be prepared to act and be courageous to use them when they arrive.

No matter how large or small we mess up—and will in the future—God can redeem our deficiencies. He wants us more successful in loving each other than we do ourselves. And he’s powerful enough to make it happen if we’ll ask and receive.

If we’re not ready this time, maybe next. Just watch for it. Be prepared for your second chance.

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Perhaps my story with sweet Chasady isn’t over yet? I don’t know what God has next; I pray I’m ready.

When have you been given a second chance to love better?
How have you benefited from someone else’s second chance to love you?

Please share.