A year from homeless

It’s been almost a year now.

We’d known the couple for several years. We used to eat breakfast with them on Saturdays now and again. Outside under the bridge. It wasn’t at their camp, but it was the camp where a neighboring church brought eggs, biscuits, and juice. All were invited. Their own camp was a little further down the road, a little deeper in the woods, but still within walking distance.

We’d had conversations and prayers and laughter together. We’d sit together occasionally at Outdoor Church at Manna House.

But a year ago, we helped them move out of the woods. Into an apartment! It was a big deal. They’d lived inside before, of course, but it had been several years.

People had donated a bed and pots and food. And Fran sent a Bible. We stood in a circle in their new living room and prayed before we walked away, wondering how long it would last.

It’s lasted almost a year. And it’s still going strong.

I asked the wife a couple Saturdays ago at Outdoor Church, “Is there anything you miss about living outside, anything at all?” I thought she might miss the open air or constant sounds of birds or the camaraderie of communal living.

But she was adamant and quick with her answer: “Nothing! Not a thing!” She’s been there, done that, and doesn’t want to go back.

So I pray she never has to. Some people are homeless by choice; others by default due to addictions or mental disease or bad luck. Homelessness is always complex and it’s never easy.

But breaking free of homelessness isn’t easy either.

Yet my friends may have done it. It makes me happy to see they’ve survived this first year.

May they be blessed with many more to come.

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Any anniversaries you’re celebrating this month? Please share in the comments.


5 ways to really sympathize in a sympathy card

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After my parents died a few years ago, going to the mailbox became a highlight of my day. I treasured every expression of kindness I received there.

In this age of Facebook condolences (which are still great—keep those up, too!), I hope sending sympathy cards never becomes a dying art.

Here are 5 ways you can help someone through a loss by simply mailing a card.

1. MAKE IT PERSONAL

Write something by hand, even if it’s just restating the stamped message (i.e., I’m sorry for your loss). A personal touch makes a card special. I received these notes on a card from 6th graders we had taught in Bible class. They’re priceless.

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2. SHARE A MEMORY

If you knew the deceased, tell about an experience you shared together. It may be brand new to their loved one. They would love to hear it.

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3. SPREAD THE WORD

If you share the same faith, write out a comforting Bible verse in your card. My friend Louise sent me numerous cards and on every one, she included a scripture that was special to her and would be special to me. Keep a list of scriptures for such a time as this.

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4. SHOW SOME LOVE

If you mean it, sign your card: “Love, ___.” Your friend won’t think you’re sappy; he/she will appreciate your sentiment. Feeling loved is the most comforting gift they can receive from you.

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5. MAIL IT ANY TIME

Don’t think you missed the moment if you haven’t sent a card in the first week or two. You haven’t. There’s a very long open window to send a sympathy card. Sometimes the card that arrives much later is valued even more because it’s the only one in a lonely mailbox after weeks or months of drought.

If you’ve been blessed by receiving cards in the mail, you know what I’m talking about.

If you’re one of the blessed ones who already sends those cards, may God bless you doubly for doing so.

And if you’re one who thinks about it, but never quite gets around to it, buy a box of cards, a book of stamps, and start a new habit.

You won’t regret it.

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Who in your life is exceptionally good at sending cards? How are you at it? Please share in the comments.

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Who gets the last word?

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The sun sets.

Car 1. Wham! Glass shatters. Quick, grab the purse. In and out.
Car 2. Wham! Glass shatters. Another purse—get it and go.
Car 3. Wham! Glass shatters. It looks like an iPad. Take it and get out of here.

They’re gone. We’re still inside. We’ve been learning “Last Word” for our upcoming Easter services. Tenors, sing the lead. Altos, this isn’t too high for you. Sopranos, you’ve got it there.

Verse 1
The storm rises from the deep
And rages around me
But I will remember

When doubt wars within my heart
The battle almost lost
I will remember

Finished. Out we go. I crank my car. But from the corner of my eye, I see shiny. I look to my right. My passenger-side window is jagged around the edges—the rest is a curtain of glass sparkling in the seat beside me.

I immediately look on the floorboard for my purse.

Of course. It’s missing.

I turn off the car. I’m not finished here.

Verse 2
Your voice that calmed the violent sea
Speaks courage over me
So I will remember

The words that wake the sun to rise
Are breaking through my night
And I will remember

Dump the purses. Where’s the wallet? Pull out the cash. Don’t worry with the change. Bills, bills.

The other purse now. Hurry. How much cash?

The iPad. Unzip the cover. Is it new?

A Bible??? It’s only a Bible? Are you kidding me?

It starts to rain. . . .

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. . . but the sun rises.

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Your word stands through the ages
Your voice shatters the darkness
In You we are more than conquerors

You speak and strongholds surrender
Your name overcomes the enemy
In You we are more than conquerors

The phone rings in the morning. “I’ve found a Bible in my driveway with your name.” Sherry drives over, relieved, elated. The words will go home with her.

Sherry walks this neighborhood because maybe there’s more. This is where they had been.

Four dumpsters are ahead. She only notices one. She dives in. And success! She recovers Sheila’s purse. And my purse.

Returned to me are my photos, my calendar, my favorite pen. Even my credit cards, my driver’s license, and most importantly, my library card.

Almost everything except no cash. No problem.

The mystery remaining is why was the Bible tossed in a driveway by itself instead of in a dumpster with the purses?

Chorus
You have the last word
It is finished
You have the last word
It is finished
My fear is silenced in Your love
My hope is endless

His voice still speaks.
His Son still shatters darkness.
And I will remember.

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[If you can’t see the video “Last Word,” watch here]

Have you ever had your purse or wallet stolen? What happened? Any mysteries still unsolved? Let’s talk in the comments.


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5 ways to listen better

 

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How well will you listen to the next person headed your way?

Listening to others is a practical form of dying to ourselves. Who needs your listening ear today?

  • Someone who isn’t being heard
  • Someone who is sick
  • Someone who is different than you
  • Someone who is needy
  • Someone who is angry
  • Someone who just loves to talk

Any faces come to mind? Are you groaning inside? I am.

5 Ways to Listen Better . . .

Read the rest here

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“Pray, Write, Grow” – Book review

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If you’re a writer, you’ll like Ed’s book. And if you’re a pray-er, you’ll like Ed’s book. If you’re both? You’ll love Ed’s book.

You don’t often get advice for both in one place. But here is a place: Pray, Write, Grow by Ed Cyzewski.

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“If you want to improve your prayer life, try writing.  If you want to improve your writing life, try praying.  The two require many of the same practices, disciplines, and virtues.”

Both require a “lifestyle of observation and self-reflection.” And while neither praying nor writing are “safe” practices, Cyzewski encourages you to take leaps of faith into both, and helps you see potential benefits that follow.

Pray, Write, Grow includes advice on how to create space (physical and spiritual) for praying and writing, how to explore new ideas, what to do with wounds you uncover, how community can help you, and more.

“What we pray about often provides something to write about, and what we write about often provides something to pray about.”

In the back of the book, Cyzewski includes two Quick Start Guides, one for prayer and one for writing, for some simple ways to break through common challenges as well as an extensive list of helpful books and websites.

The book is short. But don’t equate that with “lite.” It’s packed full of inspiration and doable practices to enhance your individual prayers and writings.

Chapters include:

  • Chapter 1 – Creating Space to Pray and Write
  • Chapter 2 – Learning to Be Present
  • Chapter 3 – Do You Want to Be Made Well?
  • Chapter 4 – Breaking Through with Self-Awareness
  • Chapter 5 – Discernment through Prayer and Writing
  • Chapter 6 – We Pray and Write by Faith
  • Chapter 7 – Getting Started (Writing and Prayer Quick Start Guides)

“We pray, write, and grow because we were made to experience abundant life and to share that abundant life with others. If we try to bottle it up for ourselves, we’ll miss out on the greatest joys of prayer and creativity. We all have something to offer others.”

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The last I checked, Pray, Write, Grow is on sale at Amazon for only $1.99. If you want it, get it now.

Thanks to Ed Cyzewski for a free review copy of this book.