Is There a Better Way to Be Christian?

Christianity is not dying.

But it needs to change.

If that thought frightens you, so might Brian McLaren’s new book.

But if you like the thought of Christianity continuing to grow and expand in ways that reflect more of God’s character, then you might find The Great Spiritual Migration quite encouraging.

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What kind of changes in Christianity? McLaren speaks of three migrations toward a “better way to be Christian”:

  1. Spiritual Migration
    From a system of beliefs to a way of life
  1. Theological Migration
    From a violent God of domination to a nonviolent God of liberation
  1. Missional Migration
    From organized religion to organizing religion

All of these changes revolve around a central trait of who God is: God is love. And none of these changes take place alone. As Brian says,

“I discovered at a young age that although you can learn beliefs in isolation, you can’t learn love apart from a community.”

He asks us to imagine what churches might be like if instead of focusing on showing up at certain buildings and supporting certain political or economic ideologies, churches focused on:

“teaching people to live a life of love, from the heart, for God, for all people (no exceptions), and for all creation.”

He points out that Jesus said “Follow me” eighty-seven times in the four Gospels. Following Jesus means living lives of love.

And following Jesus means being willing to change if some of our Christian ways aren’t so Christian after all.

“If you face the dark sides of our Christian past, you will feel discomfort—even deep anger and heartbreak—but experiencing short-term discomfort is far better than living in long-term ignorance, deception, or denial.”

Whether individual or church-wide:

“Whenever I find myself in conversations about ‘saving the church,’ I can’t help but recall Jesus’s words: if you want to save your life, you will lose it, but if you lose your life for my sake, you will find it. …Could it be that the Spirit of God is calling the church to stop trying to save itself, and instead to join God in saving the world?”

You may or may not agree with all Brian’s thoughts about ways the church needs to grow. But likely we’d all agree that refusing to grow at all is too costly.

“The journey of salvation and liberation is long, the risks and dangers are many, and the costs are high. Anyone who is tempted to turn back in fear is free to do so. But if there are costs to change, there are also costs to resisting change. Both costs are worth counting, as C. S. Lewis so aptly said:

It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for it to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And we cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.”

What would change look like? Here’s one way to picture it:

“If you want to see the future of Christianity as a great spiritual migration, don’t look at a church building. Go look in the mirror and look at your neighbor. God’s message of love is sent into the world in human envelopes. If you want to see a great spiritual migration begin, then let it start right in your body. Let your life be a foothold of liberation. . . .”

“Repeating sixth grade six more times won’t teach you what you’ll learn in seventh through twelfth grades, so it’s time now to grow up and move on in liberation.”

Our individual paths with Jesus may not look identical, but our goals can be the same: to keep moving in the same direction, toward God, toward each other, toward love.

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What changes have you seen, or want to see, in your church? In your own Christianity? Please share in the comments.

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Did Your 2016 Problems Go Away?

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What problems did you start the year with? Do you still have them? Did any new problems pop up along the way?

I ended 2015 with the problem of undiagnosed abdominal pain. I had been to doctors, gone through scans, had MRIs, and taken medicines, but still no diagnosis.

And no relief.

One Word: Welcome

So at the end of last year, I chose the word “Welcome as my new One Word to focus on in 2016.

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post-surgery gift from Jenna and Trey, January 31, 2016

When we can no longer deny our pain, we can’t fix our problems, and we don’t want to constantly complain about them, there’s one thing left to do: Intentionally accept them.

  • That doesn’t mean settle.
  • That doesn’t mean we don’t continue to work for solutions.
  • That doesn’t mean don’t cry out to God for help.

For the past 12 months, I’ve been taking my scaredy-cat self and asking God to help me welcome my problems, physical or otherwise.

Instead of fighting against them, I wanted to intentionally accept what God allowed to happen.

  • Daily (well, most days) I used meditation practices to stay in the now.
  • Weekly, I used the Welcoming Prayer to affirm my intention to God and myself.
  • And monthly (with the outline of Brené Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection), I focused on a different attribute to welcome, and something different to let go of. (See all twelve here.)

Like, welcome self-compassion and let go of perfectionism. Welcome resiliency and let go of powerlessness. Welcome uncertainty and let go of needing to know.

Did it work?

How do you define success? At the end of January, I was finally advised to have my gall bladder removed. I did. It helped.

But ridding ourselves of one problem at a time is never a complete answer. It’s our attitudes about all our problems that have to change.

It’s a spiritual encounter with grace that finally transforms us.

Even when our circumstances don’t change.

My attitudes did make a slight shift this year.

  • Some struggles I’m holding looser.
  • I’m learning it creates less suffering when I surrender to God earlier rather than later.
  • His presence is even more obvious—and valuable—to me than before.

I still have a long way to go (thankfully, with much less abdominal pain).

But having a journey ahead is fine with me (well, most days).

I’m even learning to welcome it.

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Did you choose One Word for 2016? Have you thought of One Word for 2017? Please share in the comments.


Do You Have a Word—And An Audience?

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I check the pockets before I put my shorts in the washing machine. I pull out a business card. Oh yeah. Pastor Xavier gave it to me on a Saturday morning at Outdoor Church, inviting me to visit his own church some Sunday.

He’s 50. He’s been drug-free since his teen years when he tried weed, not knowing it was laced with PCP and heroin. It left him messed up for months.

He made a deal with God then. If God would fix him, he’d devote his life to him.

They’ve both kept their word so far.

On this Saturday, Pastor Xavier and I were also talking to John (his real name), my friend from King’s Banquet. John and I met two years ago and our spirits clicked.

John was sharing his own story. Pastor Xavier thought others should hear it, too.

John said he didn’t have a platform and Pastor Xavier said he could have one at his church. His church was flexible. It wasn’t so regimented that others couldn’t speak there.

John wouldn’t commit because he tries hard to be a man of his word, and he wasn’t sure when he could make it. His regular church counted on his presence.

We appreciated his honesty. A person of his word—with a word—is a valuable thing.

I don’t know if John ever made it to Pastor Xavier’s church or not.

I’ve since heard that John has cancer. Terminal. Only a few months left.

I don’t want him to leave us.

I hope I see him at least once more before he goes.

  • To hear his latest story.
  • To hear of his faith in God.
  • To hear what he hopes will happen next.

I take Pastor Xavier’s business card and read the words on it one more time.

Words. They matter.

Because underneath each word is a person.

And every person matters.

  • Whether it’s a pastor who speaks words to a seated congregation every Sunday.
  • Or a wandering homeless man dying of cancer who speaks words to whoever is willing to listen.
  • Or a friend or neighbor or family member in the room next door who has something to say and something to hear.

Everybody has a word. Everybody deserves an audience.

Speak one. Hear one. Be a witness.

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Who has listened to you lately? Who needs you to hear them? Please share in the comments.


Links, Books, and Other Things I Love – December 2016

Here are favorites from November and what I’m looking forward to in December. We share once a month at Leigh’s.

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Around the Web

• The Happiest People Don’t Let Their Minds Wander
A recent Harvard study says stray thoughts are directly related to unhappiness. Those with constantly wandering minds were less likely to be happy than those able to focus on the tasks at hand.

• How Burglars Break Into Homes
They asked 86 burglars how they broke into homes. Interesting comments on what they said were the biggest deterrents, what didn’t stop them, and how you can protect your home.

12 Different Gifts to Give This Year
Our friend Linda Stoll details creative and meaningful goodies for those on our shopping lists. My favorites are #4, 7, and 12.

• 2016 Word of the Year – “Xenophobia
From Dictionary.com: This year, some of the most prominent news stories have centered around fear of the “other.” Because our users’ interest in this overarching theme emerges so starkly for one specific word in our trending lookup data, xenophobia is Dictionary.com’s 2016 Word of the Year.

Definition: “fear or hatred of foreigners, people from different cultures, or strangers.”

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On Reading

• Top 20 Fiction Books of 2016 (so far)
I’ve only read one on this list, Underground Airlines, so I can’t vouch for it personally. But several of these look interesting.

• One Way To Bridge The Political Divide: Read The Book That’s Not For You
What we lack in diversity among friends, we can at least read about it.

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Strangers in Their Own Land by Arlie Russell Hochschild is about Tea Party conservatives in Louisiana. Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates is about what it means to be black in America.
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• 10 Books Every Christian Teenager Should Read by Tim Challies
Of the seven of these ten that I’ve read myself, I also recommend them. And not just for teens.

Ten Books I Recommend
I have read all ten of these books so I know they’re good.

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• Currently Reading

  1. The Sparrow
    by Mary Doria Russell
  2. Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging
    by Sebastian Junger
  3. Habit: The 95% of Behavior Marketers Ignore
    by Neale Martin
  4. Beauty Will Save the World: Rediscovering the Allure and Mystery of Christianity
    by Brian Zahnd
  5. The Great Spiritual Migration
    by Brian D. McLaren

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Things I Love

 Meeting a Friend in Jail

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Julie, Lisa, Ashley at Main Street Cafe

Well, not really in jail. And we weren’t handcuffed. When I was a child, this small building was both the town hall and the city jail. I never went inside. But now it’s a quaint Southern restaurant. And I’ll go in. I was blessed to meet my online friend Ashley (now my real life friend!), who was spending a few days with her good friend Julie, who happens to be one of my 4 Corner friends. Ashley is an amazing young wonder on fire for God. She’s in between mission trips to the Philippines.

Kali’s 23rd Birthday

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If our daughter Kali had lived, she would have turned 23 years old this year. We never miss her any less with each passing year.

Marking Time

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The main campus of our church has outgrown its facilities. So a local unused high school building will be turned into a new church building. We met there to see the plans a few weeks ago. Each family took an octagon and wrote the story of how they came into the church family. Then placed it on the timeline.  A beautiful testimony of God’s goodness through the years!

Warm Thanksgiving

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We celebrated Thanksgiving Day with my in-laws, spending much of it outside. Unusually warm, this fall has been so pleasant for people like me who are always cold otherwise. But alas, it ends this week. Brrr….

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On the Blog

5 Things I Learned at the Enneagram Conference
What number are you?

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• No Pride in Giving, No Shame in Taking
The line Saturday morning was long and talkative. When we have, we give. And when we need, we receive. There should be no pride or shame on either end.

• Scared of the Dark…Or the Light? 
When we create something, we often want to hide it. Why are we afraid of the light?

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What was one of your highlights from November? What are you looking forward to in December? Please share in the comments.

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Ten Books I Recommend – November 2016

Here are ten great books I’ve recently finished that you might like, too. Every month we share our reading lists at Jennifer’s.

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Nonfiction

1. Pursuing Health in an Anxious Age
by Bob Cutillo MD

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A meaningful Christian book about our bodies in an age where we obsess about them or else treat them with abandon.

My book review here of Pursuing Health in an Anxious Age

2. The Bridge to Brilliance
How One Principal in a Tough Community Is Inspiring the World
by Nadia Lopez

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A hopeful story about a tough inner city school in Brooklyn, NY, and the principal there who is changing lives.

3. A Force for Good
The Dalai Lama’s Vision for Our World
by Daniel Goleman

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Beautiful and practical advice from one of the world’s most compassionate people—the Dalai Lama—on how we can each make positive changes in our world, right where we are.

4. How to Be Here
A Guide to Creating a Life Worth Living
by Rob Bell

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God has us all here for a reason—this book encourages you to find that purpose and do something about it.

5. Stumbling on Happiness
by Daniel Todd Gilbert

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A most fascinating book on study after study about what really makes people happy—and what doesn’t.

6. Search Inside Yourself
by Chade-Meng Tan

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From one of Google’s earliest engineers, this is an inspiring look at how to be more mindful in our everyday lives.

7. Love Warrior
by Glennon Doyle Melton

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An authentic and engrossing memoir about facing pain head-on instead of running from it.

Fiction

8. Before the Fall
by Noah Hawley

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Jeff and I both loved this mesmerizing novel about a small plane crash off Martha’s Vineyard and the story of the passengers’ lives before and after.

9. Underground Airlines
by Ben H. Winters

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What if the Civil War never happened, and the states actually did divide into basically two countries? This novel set in modern times gives a haunting look at what might have been.

10. The Crossover
by Kwame Alexander

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This Newbery Medal winner is told in verse (and I liked it!) about a young basketball player, his twin brother, and their ex-professional basketball player father.

Reading Now

  • The Sparrow
    by Mary Doria Russell
  • Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging
    by Sebastian Junger
  • Habit: The 95% of Behavior Marketers Ignore
    by Neale Martin
  • Beauty Will Save the World: Rediscovering the Allure and Mystery of Christianity
    by Brian Zahnd
  • The Prophet
    by Kahlil Gibran
  • The Great Spiritual Migration
    by Brian D. McLaren

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What are you reading this month? Please share here.

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