On the Blog – August 2018

Summaries and links to blog posts for August 2018

 


When You’re the Minority

Being in the majority feels comfortable. But it also can be detrimental.

White Specks

Jeff and I looked around us that Sunday night. Where was our generation?

We were among the oldest in the room.

(It still feels like a new phenomenon to us, but more people are younger than us than are older than us. The median age in American is 37.8 years old.)

But we also were among the whitest. The comedy club was featuring Black Christian comedians this Sunday night (including KevOnStage, who is hilarious) and many (mainly younger) people were arriving to enjoy them.

Two nights later, we showed up at a community prayer vigil. While our age blended in easier, our color still did not.

There is comfort in being the majority. You don’t stand out. Eyes don’t turn your way.

But as the minority in a room, there can be discomfort. Like a white speck on black velvet, you might feel you should be picked off. Taken away for not fitting in.

Youngest, Oldest, Different

I was always the youngest in my class. My mom kicked me out of the house early; she sent me to first grade when I was 5 years old instead of waiting until 6. That meant I was always last to get my driver’s permit, last to get my driver’s license, last to be able to vote.

Now I’m on the other side. In my choir, I’m among the oldest. It sometimes feels awkward. I don’t want to stand out.

In some ways we are all a minority. There is no one else exactly like us. With our exact experiences. Our exact circle of friends. Our exact tendencies.

But in a practical context, majority/minority come in bigger groupings: race, gender, religion, etc.

Being a true minority in this country is a feeling I have not known.

(By 2045, statisticians predict America will become minority white: 49.9% white, 24.6% Hispanics, 13.1% blacks, 7.8% Asians, and 3.8% multiracial populations.

Already there are more nonwhite children than white children under the age of 10.)

I’ve lived most of my life as a member of a majority group. As a white, middle-class, cisgender, married American, I’ve grown accustomed to comfort. I can choose to be invisible in a crowd. Or if I prefer, I can use my voice and be heard.

Yet being in the majority can also be a detriment.

As the majority, we can be blind.

  • We can unconsciously (or consciously?) ignore the struggles of those around us.
  • We can lack compassion for those who haven’t been born with the advantages we take for granted.
  • We can use and misuse power over the marginalized without even realizing it.

Break the Bubble

If we’re not the minority, let’s pop our bubbles of sameness and notice those around us. See the colors. Celebrate the differences. Use our privilege for others’ advantage. Demystify the other by becoming the other.

And if we are the minority, let’s continue to share our stories. Be ourselves. Speak out.

It’s how we grow more alike, more in knowledge of each other. We’ll also grow more in compassion. In kindness. In grace.

The more we learn how to love, the more people we’ll discover to love.

On both our night at the comedy club and our night at the prayer vigil, Jeff and I listened and learned and broadened our perspective.

But we also laughed and talked and prayed. As one community. We saw friends we already knew, and met new friends.

Comfort is overrated. Color is different, but love is the same.

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How often are you the minority in the room? Please share in the comments.


5 Books I Recommend – August 2018

Here are 4 non-fiction books and 1 fiction book I recommend from what I finished reading in August, including a 1-minute video review of a favorite.

Once a month we share our current reading list at Jennifer’s.

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Books I Recommend

NONFICTION

1. The Secret Lives of Introverts
Inside Our Hidden World
by Jenn Granneman

The Secret Lives of Introverts

Are you a social introvert? Or a thinking introvert? I learned a lot about introverts in this enlightening book. Jenn Granneman has done her homework. If you don’t have time for the book, read some of her blog posts at Introvert, Dear. So good.

[Click here if you can’t see the 1-minute review about The Secret Lives of Introverts]

2. Inspired
Slaying Giants, Walking on Water, and Loving the Bible Again
by Rachel Held Evans

Inspired

This is an interesting take on Rachel’s journey with the Bible. Her questionings didn’t erase her faith in God, but rather they increased her faith. This isn’t my favorite book of Rachel’s due to her style choices this time: it was written in many different formats—poetry, script, prose, retellings, etc. (Notably, so are the writing in the Bible itself.) But this book is still valuable reading.

My full review here of Inspired

3. Prayer
40 Days of Practice
by Justin McRoberts

Prayer-Forty Days of Practice

Sit with a one-sentence prayer. Gaze at artwork about it. Pray it throughout the day. This small book is more about what you do with it instead of what it offers you. It gives you seeds which you can plant on your own in your prayers with God.

My full review here of Prayer

4. The Desert and the Sea
977 Days Captive on the Somali Pirate Coast
by Michael Scott Moore

The Desert and the Sea

A true pirate story. Ironically, Michael Scott Moore was an American journalist in Somalia writing about pirates, when he was kidnapped by pirates in 2012. For the next 2½ years, he was kept on sea and on land by Somali pirates. He tells a compelling story of his life during those years and shortly after his rescue. Highly recommend.

FICTION

5. Lincoln in the Bardo
by George Saunders

Lincoln in the Bardo

After five minutes in this book, I stopped reading and googled it instead. What is this book? I didn’t realize it was an experimental novel. It’s written almost like a play, with many voices, fictional and historical, alternately speaking during one night in a cemetery in February, 1862, where President Abraham Lincoln had just buried his eleven-year-old son Willie. I’m glad I stuck it out; it’s a weird but fascinating tale.

READING NOW

  • Station Eleven
    by Emily St. John Mandel
  • The Handmaid’s Tale
    by Margaret Atwood
  • How to Be a Perfect Christian (a satire)
    Your Comprehensive Guide to Flawless Spiritual Living
    by The Babylon Bee
  • Raise Your Voice
    Why We Stay Silent and How to Speak Up
    by Kathy Khang
  • Bring Me a Vision
    A Story of Redeeming Hope
    by Pam Ecrement
  • Resist and Persist
    Faith and the Fight for Equality
    By Erin Wathen
  • God of Tomorrow
    How to Overcome the Fears of Today and Renew Your Hope for the Future
    by Caleb W. Kaltenbach
  • Reframing the Soul
    How Words Transform Our Faith
    by Gregory Spencer 

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What good book have you read this month? Please share in the comments.

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More books I recommend


Read the Bible Differently – Review of “Inspired”

Inspired by Rachel Held Evans

I grew up reading the Bible. King James Version at first. Then a daring move to New International Version in my teens.

I wasn’t sure what it all meant. Scriptures can be confusing. But I listened to the thoughts of my parents, my teachers, my friends.

I kept growing.

I kept reading the Bible. I still do. And I still listen to others’ interpretations.

But now I know that others don’t understand all the Bible either.

It’s not as easy to decode as some make it out to be. None of us have it nailed down. We do the best we can with what we’ve learned, with what we’ve seen, with what we’ve experienced.

That’s what Rachel Held Evans does, too, just like the rest of us.

She’s gotten bad press the past few years for how she interprets the Bible. But she loves the words and she loves God. Even though she wrestles with the words, like many of us, it’s in the Bible that we learn the stories about Jesus. And ultimately, about ourselves.

Rachel’s latest book, Inspired, is all about the Bible. About her love for it. She shares her wranglings, her quests, her discoveries. I recognize many of my own in hers.

“With Scripture, we’ve not been invited to an academic fraternity; we’ve been invited to a wrestling match. We’ve been invited to a dynamic, centuries-long conversation with God and God’s people that has been unfolding since creation, one story at a time. If we’re lucky, it will leave us with a limp.”

This book is different from her other books. It’s a collection of genres instead of a simple narrative. In one chapter she’s retelling a favorite Bible story. In another chapter she writes a poem. Yet another may be a memoir moment. Or an exegesis of a biblical text. I admit it’s not my favorite book of hers (I prefer her straight narratives). But it’s still worth reading.

Rachel doesn’t ask us to agree or disagree with her in this book. She’s just sharing where she’s been and where she is now. And like the rest of us, who knows where she’ll be next?

“I’m still learning, still getting things wrong. But sometimes God knows the kind of deliverance you need the most is deliverance from your own comfort.

Quotes

Here are some of my favorite quotes from the book. The first quote is long, but it’s one I love the most.

Jesus didn’t just ‘come to die.’ Jesus came to live—to teach, to heal, to tell stories, to protest, to turn over tables, to touch people who weren’t supposed to be touched and eat with people who weren’t supposed to be eaten with, to break bread, to pour wine, to wash feet, to face temptation, to tick off the authorities, to fulfill Scripture, to forgive, to announce the start of a brand new kingdom, to show us what that kingdom is like, to show us what God is like, to love his enemies to the point of death at their hands, and to beat death by rising from the grave.

Jesus did not simply die to save us from our sins, Jesus lived to save us from our sins. His life and teachings show us the way to liberation. But you can’t fit all that on a bumper sticker.”

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“So perhaps a better question than, ‘Do I believe in miracles?’ is, ‘Am I acting like I do?’ Am I including the people who are typically excluded? Am I feeding the hungry and caring for the sick? Am I holding the hands of the homeless and offering help to addicts?”

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“To demand that the Bible meet our demands is to put ourselves and our own interests at the center of the story, which is one of the first traps we must to learn to avoid if we are to engage the Bible with integrity or care.”

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“But their assurances, however sincerely intended, proved empty when, as a young adult, I started asking those questions for myself.

. . . Instead of bolstering my confidence in the Bible, its most strident defenders inadvertently weakened it.”

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“The gospel means that every small story is part of a sweeping story, every ordinary life part of an extraordinary movement. God is busy making all things new, and life, death, and resurrection of Jesus has opened that work to everyone who wants in on it. The church is not a group of people who believe all the same things; the church is a group of people caught up in the same story, with Jesus at the center.”

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“These questions loosened my grip on the text and gave me permission to love the Bible for what it is, not what I want it to be.”

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How’s your relationship with the Bible? At what age did you first begin reading it? Please share in the comments.

My thanks to Net Galley
for the review copy of this book.


Why You Should Let One Thing Lead to Another

Why You Should Let One Thing Lead to Another - LisaNotes

Rotten

Uncut, the watermelon sat on my counter for awhile. I would finally cut it, slice it into cubes, and eat on its deliciousness for days to come.

Except when I put the blade it, the cut let out a poof! Strange. I peeked delicately inside the watermelon instead of slashing in further.

It was rotten.

I put the whole thing in a plastic grocery bag. I placed it back on the kitchen counter. I’d take it to the outside trash later.

Except I forgot.

The next thing I know?

All my floors are mopped, the bar stools are showered down, even my bedroom dresser is cleaned and the bathtub is spotless.

How did this happen?

I only know this:

One thing always leads to another.

Sticky Begets Sticky

Hours after I’d cut into the rotten watermelon, we left the house for a dinner. When we returned, we discovered it had leaked out of the bag.

Watermelon juice was everywhere.

Graciously, Jeff offered to clean it up. I went to bed.

But the next morning, I walked into the kitchen. My foot stuck to the floor. The mess was larger than we knew.

Sticky begets sticky.

When we have a mess in our lives, we often attempt a quick cleanup. And sometimes that works. It’s no big deal.

Other times, a quick cover-up job is inadequate. We think the swift wipe-down is enough for now, to keep us from noticing the sticky spots. The urgency disappears. We can live with it. We settle.

Until we step in it again.

Problems can go deeper than we want to face. They can paralyze us. The cleanup required seems overwhelming.

Please, God?

We need more than ourselves.

Don’t Settle

The first step?

Ask for his help. Don’t go it alone.

Seeking God in our messes is always the right thing. Our messes can push us into new levels of faith, deeper levels of dependency on him.

Then let one thing lead to another.

Throw out the rotten watermelon. Get it out of your house. Grab a mop. Clean the counters. Wipe down the chairs.

Once we get rolling, God longs for us to keep the momentum going. He doesn’t want us to stop pursuing him just because one mess is cleaned up.

“Wherever there is true grace . . . there is a desire for more grace.”
– Matthew Henry

He wants us to continue walking with him. This step. Then the next one. Then the next one after that.

Clean Soul

Once I mopped away the watermelon juice from my kitchen floor, I decided I might as well mop the bathrooms, too. Then I noticed the tub was dirty, so I cleaned it, too. Next, the piles on my bedroom dresser were more noticeable, so I cleared the stuff away.

Before I realized it, the whole house had been cleaned.

One thing leads to another, if we let it.

And why should we let one thing lead to another?

“To have found God and still to pursue Him is the soul’s paradox of love.”
– A.W. Tozer

Because God always has more for us.

  • More love.
  • More goodness.
  • More grace.

When momentum is rolling in the right direction, don’t stop it.

Just as sticky begets sticky, so grace begets grace.

Don’t settle for less.
Do the next thing.
Receive the next grace.

The next thing you know, your whole soul will feel clean.

“Christ’s love is greater than anyone can ever know, but I pray that you will be able to know that love. Then you can be filled with everything God has for you.”
Ephesians 3:19 (ERV)

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cut watermelon

The next watermelon was delicious!

What’s a mess you’ve had to clean up lately, literally or figuratively?
Do you tend to jump right in? Or first stand back to assess the situation?
Please share in the comments


A Book to Pray Through

Why We Think the Prayer Book Is Important

Prayer: Forty Days of Practice

“May love be stronger in me than the fear of the pain that comes with caring.”

This isn’t a traditional book about prayer. It is a book of praying.

Simple prayers. Maybe one sentence. Maybe two. They are broad and poetic and illustrated.

“May I cease to be annoyed that others are not as I wish they were, since I am not as I wish I was.”

Prayer: Forty Days of Practice contains four parts:

  • 40 guided prayers
  • 40 contemplative images
  • 7 reflections on the nature and practice of prayer
  • 7 practices from the historical tradition of prayer

There is no particular start and finish (but I did pray through it in the order given).

“May I have the eyes to see this as a good world in need of restoration rather than a bad world and an obstacle to my personal peace and rest.”

It’s more about the time you spend outside of the book, rather than inside the book. It encourages you to actually pray instead of just reading about prayer. It invites you to do.

“May my good works be a fruit of my life rather than justification of it.”

If your expectations are adjusted accordingly, this book is well done for what it is. As the authors say, “This book is not ‘content.’ The ongoing conversation between you and God is content.”

“May I never grow tired of starting over or helping others do the same. My hope is always in renewal and resurrection.”

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Is it easier for you to read about prayer, to talk about prayer, or to actually pray? Let’s talk about it here.

My thanks to NetGalley
for the review copy of this book