Is It Okay to Do Nothing?

I’m noticing two waves of thought concerning our quarantine time.

(1) Be productive!
Now is the time to clean out those closets. Learn a new language. Repaint the house.

Or,

(2) Take a break!
Read for fun. Sleep later each morning. Go for leisurely walks.

Which is your approach?

Okay to do nothing

Some of you may not have a choice. Depending on your job and life season—you’re homeschooling kids or you’re working twice as hard as a nurse, etc.—your life may have sped up without you getting to decide.

But for many of us, our time schedule is more under our control than ever before. With many of our outside obligations removed, we are the master of our time at home.

What ‘should’ we do with our extra time?

Over the Christmas break I typically do a jigsaw puzzle. It’s a special treat for me. I actually lose track of time when I’m doing a puzzle (and it always surprises me when this happens). So I limit puzzles to that one time a year. Because even though I enjoy it in the moment, it feels wasteful in itself.

But I didn’t buy a new puzzle last Christmas. (At least not grown-up puzzles. I did 5-piece puzzles with my granddaughter instead. Even more fun!)

So I had no new puzzles in the house when quarantine hit. My choices now on the shelves at Walmart were only two boxes. 

Apparently after buying up food and toilet paper, shoppers bought out puzzles and games. Puzzlemakers can’t keep up with the demand. 

SIDE NOTE:
Here’s an interesting list from Walmart’s CEO of hot items in the quarantine.

    • Week 1: Hand sanitizers, soaps and disinfectants
    • Week 2: Toilet paper
    • Week 3 and 4: Spiral hams and baking yeast (for Easter)
    • Now in Week 5: Hair clippers and hair dye (Feeling shaggy yet? I keep eyeing my scissors)

I bought one of the two boxes left. But instead of one large puzzle (which I wanted), this box had 4 tiny puzzles (150 pieces), 4 small ones (300 pieces), and 4 medium ones (500 pieces).

But unless it’s Saturday or Sunday afternoon, I still feel guilty doing puzzles. Why?

In Celeste Headlee’s new book, Do Nothing: How to Break Away from Overworking, Overdoing, and Underliving, she says:

“We are members of the cult of efficiency, and we’re killing ourselves with productivity.”

Headlee had no idea when she wrote this book how much we were going to need it this year. When I first read it in January, I didn’t agree with everything. But maybe I need to read it again since the arrival of COVID-19.

Too often we overestimate the value of useful things we put into the world.

During normal “work hours,” I feel I should be productive doing things that matter, not something like putting a puzzle together. I don’t want to be lazy. I have negative thoughts about idleness.

I need to redefine my attitudes about idleness.

“Improvement is healthy, but not every moment of your day should be leveraged in an attempt to make you a better person.

If you’re searching for the fastest way to learn guitar because you also have to squeeze in yoga and keto cooking recipes and homemade charcoal facial peels, you have left no time to simply be the person you are.

You are leaving no space for rest and contentment.” 
– Celeste Headlee

Especially now, our attitudes of “improvement” can work against us.

While we do still need to do certain things every day—routines are more helpful than ever—we also need to let some things go.

We need to release the pressure on ourselves to “do” more, and instead accept the gift of time to “be” more.

When I’m working on a puzzle, I’m simply “being.”

“Research shows you can lift your mood simply by taking a walk; no need to track your steps. I’d like to inspire a new consideration of leisure and a new appreciation for idleness. Idleness in this sense does not mean inactivity, but instead nonproductive activity.” 
– Celeste Headlee

In this season of a global pandemic, I’m giving myself permission to invest more in leisure. To throw off self-inflicted pressure to be productive. To grab a blanket and a favorite book instead. To trust that God will prompt me to do what needs doing, but will also enjoy our extra time together doing nothing.

I’m still pacing myself with my puzzles. I only have twelve, after all, and we don’t know how long this quarantine will last. So far I’ve finished four. And I’m itching to start a fifth. When I do a puzzle, it’s my version of doing nothing.

And I enjoy it.

It’s okay to do nothing sometimes. If we lose touch with our being, our doing is wasted. Less doing can produce better being.

So just be. Schedule it in, if you must. See what happens.

It will be okay.


Do you struggle with doing nothing, or does it come easy to you? Please share in the comments.

My thanks to NetGalley
for the review copy of this book


Are You More Discouraged or Afraid? – Grace & Truth Link-up

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Discouraged or Afraid?

They are two different emotions, discouragement and fear. It’s likely you’ve had a dose of both in the past month.

We can become discouraged when our plans are continuously blocked. And become afraid when we or our loved ones seem in danger.

When faced with either of these emotions, it’s helpful to examine our foundation for hope.

  • What are we believing in?
  • Where does our trust lie?
  • What makes us feel safe?

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As our featured post today, consider Beth Steffaniak’s questions at her post here, “How Much Do You Trust God in Time of Crisis?”

Beth asks us to evaluate ourselves on ten statements, including these three:

3. Even though God may not remove the trials in my life, I’m still confident that He is with and protecting me (Isaiah 43:2).

5. When I feel weak, I take that as my cue to turn my weaknesses over to Jesus for His power to work through them perfectly (2 Corinthians 12:9-10).

8. When troubles come, I consistently remind myself that God is using these times to strengthen my trust in Him (2 Corinthians 1:8-9).

I encourage you to read Beth’s post to find your own weak links to pray about. As she says, “the need to encourage myself (yourself too) in the Lord has never been more needed.”

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Just One at a Time

How can you, as one person, respond to the massive trouble in the world?

One person at a time.

Keep your relationships strong for the other side. Isolation will end. Relationships don’t have to.

Reach one at a time

Just One?

We can feel disconnected because we’re missing our normal hangouts of work, church, social activities, etc. 

What can you do to make a difference now when the problem is so large?

This is God’s specialty. He knows how to turn hopeless scenarios into extraordinary miracles.

And as God did in the past, He can also do today, using one person at a time.

Here are some things you can do today . . . 

Read it all here, Reach One at a Time for the Other Side


I’m writing today at Do Not Depart. Will you join me there for how we can reach out, one at a time?


Congratulate Yourself – Thanks for How You’re Helping

Congratulate yourself.

There are a lot of ways to help people through this crisis. Don’t underestimate your way.

Congratulate yourself

Maybe you’re a healthcare worker. You’re stepping in the middle of it every time you go to work, risking your own life so others can breathe. We thank you. We applaud you.

Maybe you’re stocking the shelves at Walmart. Or filling prescriptions at CVS. Or making pizzas at Pizza hut. We thank you. We applaud you.

Maybe you’re still teaching a class of children, in a way you weren’t trained for. You make lesson plans, check up on students, field phone calls from weary parents. We thank you. We applaud you.

Maybe you’re feeding the hungry. You bag groceries at the food banks and put them in car trunks when people drive by. We thank you. We applaud you.

Maybe you’re curating encouraging articles online. You share information on Facebook, tweet helpful posts on Twitter, sends Marco Polo videos and participate in FaceTime chats with friends and families. We thank you. We applaud you.

Maybe you’re still going into work or working from home to earn a paycheck and keep your business in business. You’re also homeschooling your kids and keeping everyone clothed and fed. We thank you. We applaud you.

Or maybe you’re staying home, day in and day out. You’re only going out for food and necessities. You’re keeping distance and washing hands and wearing masks. You’re getting out of bed each morning and trying to sleep every night. You are our heroes, too. We thank you. We applaud you.

Whatever you are doing—and NOT doing—to keep our globe a safer place, we thank you. We applaud you. Don’t underestimate your contribution, whether it’s treating a patient or whether it’s staying in your house. Both of these, and all those in between, are valuable.

Thank God for the breath in your lungs. Pray for those struggling outwardly. Be compassionate to those struggling inwardly.

Congratulate yourself for making it through another day.


Thank YOU for the contributions you are making! Each are important. Please share your thoughts in the comments.


Mercy Is the Way Through – Grace & Truth Link-Up

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How Are You Coping?

We cope differently.

Some try not to think about it. Others want to stay up-to-date informed. Some refuse to think negatively. Others cry it out daily.

But here’s the thing. When someone handles this differently than you, try not to judge them for it.

Just accept it. Remind yourself this is what works for them.

They’re doing the best they can.

Just like we’re doing the best we can.

Maybe in a few weeks, if we discover our coping mechanisms aren’t healthy (or more likely, if our housemates point it out to us!), we can put forth a herculean effort to change, beg for the Spirit’s help, and recalibrate.

But in the meantime, be gentle on yourself. And be gentle on others.

Ask God for mercy. Mercy for yourself. And mercy to give to others.

Mercy is the way through.

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Linda Stoll reminds us that our thoughts and emotions we’re having are “perfectly normal, understandable, and completely valid given what we are journeying through.”

Read Linda’s post here to see how God empowers us, infuses us with love, and gives us sanity.

“You’re Not Alone if You’re a Bit Fearful . . . or You’re Freaking Out” 

Linda’s gentle and wise words always help me feel better.

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1. Follow your hosts on their blogs and/or social media channels, if you’d like.

2. Share 1 or 2 of your most recent CHRISTIAN LIVING posts. (No DIY, crafts, recipes, or inappropriate articles.)

3. Visit and comment on 1 or 2 other links. Be an encourager. Please don’t link and run.

4. All links are randomly sorted. Link early or late. The playing field is even.

To Be Featured:

5. Post the button or link back to one of our hosts. It encourages new participants. (Not mandatory to participate, but required to be featured.)

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6. Every host will feature and promote one blog every week. 

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You are invited to the Inlinkz link party!

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What is your coping style? Please share your thoughts in the comments. 


7 Gifts of Menopause

I remember a change in my mother in her mid-life years. She spoke up more for herself. She became more assertive. It was a good thing to see. 

They say that in mid-life a woman finds it harder to repress pain and anger. Cheryl Bridges Johns writes that,

“Women begin to take note of the disparity in power, injustice in society, betrayal in relationships, and disappointments that they once were willing to overlook.”

I don’t know if that can be attributed to a change in hormones or not. But whatever the cause, I have seen it happen again and again as women get older.

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In Johns’ new book, Seven Transforming Gifts of Menopause, she makes a case for women to use this phase of life to transform into a new way of being in the world, to use this “sacred space to discover a deeper, more mature relationship with God.”

She says there are seven developmental tasks for each woman to face, revealing seven gifts of menopause:

  1. The Gift of Uncovering
    Uncovering the repressed and hidden parts of your life
  2. The Gift of Anger
    Getting in touch with your anger
  3. The Gift of Authentic Self
    Recovering your authentic self
  4. The Gift of Expanded Time
    Living in expanded time
  5. The Gift of Spiritual Freedom
    Claiming your spiritual freedom
  6. The Gift of Vision
    Embracing a holy vision (calling)
  7. The Gift of Courage
    Returning to your courageous dragon self

To receive these gifts, Johns says to lean into the storm and get in touch with your body. Feel your feelings. Remember your memories. Grieve your losses.

And don’t do it alone. Do it with friends. Do it with God.

Using the seven gifts of menopause prepares you for the second half of life as “a person with the courage, strength, and power needed to face a future that may look quite uncertain.”

Claim the gift of spiritual freedom. It comes with “an enlarged vision of God.” And an enlarged vision of yourself.

I saw it happen with my mother. I hope I’ll see it happen with myself, too. 


My thanks to Net Galley
for the review copy of this book