If you’ve been married one day or 50 years, what do you wish you’d known on your wedding day?
I started with a limp at my and Jeff’s wedding. Not physically, but emotionally.
My first marriage had crashed after a few years when my first husband walked out and found love elsewhere.
I wasn’t sure I would recover.
Through tears and years and more than a few missteps, my heart was finally sewn back together. God’s care was thick, rich, and welcome.
I was okay being alone.
Then God brought Jeff.
On our wedding day, I knew a lot more than I had on my first. I had learned from my first marriage that marriage could bring intense pain, lingering insecurities, and even a touch of cynicism.
But when I married Jeff, I wanted a fresh start. I didn’t want to bring my old baggage into a new relationship.
Through Jeff’s diligent patience and crazy love for me, then and now, I eventually learned more and more to let go of distrust, cynicism, and even fierce independence.
I did know on our wedding day that things would not be perfect. Life had already proven that.
But what I didn’t know was that even in its imperfection, there is a love that would allow me to be more myself, more known, than I ever had been before.
Learning to be vulnerable after being hurt can be a tricky business. You have to relearn again who you can trust. And who you can’t. We often get it wrong and pay a price.
But this time around, even when I didn’t always feel “safe” (I have a strong fear vein, y’all), I was safe.
I didn’t know it then. I know it now. Well, I’m still growing into knowing it more fully, that I can be me. Totally me.
And still be loved.
What do you wish you had known on your wedding day?
As our featured writer this week, Karen shares 10 things about marriage she wished she had known on Day 1.
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“10 THINGS I WISH I’D KNOWN ON MY WEDDING DAY”
by Karen ‘Girl’ Friday
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