What words do you like to hear?
We all love hearing, “I love you.”
But sometimes we need to hear it said another way. To make it more real. To make it more genuine. To make it more personal.
And we need to say it in other ways to the people we love.
I’m leaving for the beach in a few days with my 4 Corners friends. Jeff is excited for me. He wants me to go.
And of course I’m looking forward to it, too.
But there’s something I need to say about it to Jeff.
“You’re still my favorite beach partner.”
It’s a different way of saying, “I love you.”
It’s one of 7 things on this list by Leigh Newman of ways to verbalize our love.
#1 “I’d rather be spending time with you.”
While we may not use these exact words, we can rephrase them into our own words to those we are in relationship with, whether a partner or co-worker or friend.
7 Things Your Partner Wants to Hear Every Day
See how many of these you’ve said this week, or have heard said to you, from Leigh Newman’s list. (Make variations to match your circumstances.)
- “I’d rather be spending time with you.”
Even when you have other things to do, tell your loved one they are still first in your heart.
- “The best thing about how you play Monopoly is that you let the kids win.”
Give roundabout affirmations to help erase your partner’s insecurities.
- “I was hoping that’d be you.”
Instead of being irritated when your friend calls, let them know you’re glad to hear from them.
- “What’s your rose, honey?”
Use Michelle Obama’s dinnertime ritual to ask your kids to describe their rose of the day (happiest moment) and thorn (most upsetting).
- “Let me help you find that guitar pick.”
Even if you don’t find it, let your partner know you’re helping look for what they’ve lost.
- “Plain Crest toothpaste in a tube!”
Text each other little pleasures in your day that you know you share.
- “I sleep so much better with you.”
Even though a night without snoring may sound pleasant, let your hubby know you still prefer having them beside you all night.
We all long to feel special to the ones closest to us. And to express likewise to them.
Being more specific with our gratitude makes a difference.
Sometimes it’s hard to believe the big message of love if it’s not backed up with daily little doses of love. Concrete examples about why we love someone are always welcomed.
You never know which one of these statements of detailed love may be the very thing someone needs to hear today.
When I call Jeff this week from the beach, some of the things I hope to say are, “I’m so happy to hear your voice!” (#3) and “I’d be sleeping so much better if you were beside me” (#7).
Sappy words? Maybe.
But appreciated words? Definitely.
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Which statement would you most like to hear? Which are your most likely to say? Please share in the comments.
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