6 Books I Recommend + 6 Books Recommended to Me—November 2022

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“We read books to find out who we are.
– Ursula K. Le Guin

We may read alone.

But we aren’t alone in choosing the books we read. Or in talking about the books once we’ve finished reading them.

One of the advantages of #NonfictionNovember is hearing about the great variety of nonfiction books available. As you read about the best of the best from other bloggers, you jot down the titles you’d like to try, too.

For Week 5 of Nonfiction November, I’m sharing not only 6 books I recommend from what I finished this month, but also 6 books that were recommended to me. See more recommendation posts at Jaymi’s blog, The OC BookGirl.

Here are 6 books I recommend from what I finished reading this month.

[See previously recommended books here]

6 Books I Recommend November 2022

NONFICTION

1. Good Inside
A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be
by Becky Kennedy

Good Inside

This is far more than a parenting book. It’s a book for every relationship, whether with a child or an adult. Dr. Becky gives great advice to look for the good inside each of ourselves. 

2. The Fire Next Time
by James Baldwin

The Fire Next Time

For years I’ve read quotes from James Baldwin’s writing, but now I’ve finally read a complete work. I’m glad I did. Even though we’ve come a long way fighting racism in this country, Baldwin’s truths from 1963 show how far we still have to go.

3. Bright-Sided
How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America
by Barbara Ehrenreich

Bright-Sided

Wow. This book really underscores so many thoughts I have about the harm of toxic positivity in our culture. I can’t speak for other countries, but we Americans overdo our zealousness to “deny reality, submit cheerfully to misfortune, and blame only ourselves for our fate.” 

4. The Body Keeps the Score
Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
by Bessel van der Kolk

The Body Keeps the Score

I didn’t like this book as much as I’d anticipated. But it’s still worth recommending. Van der Kolk has made amazing progress through the years in helping people find hope again after surviving horrific traumas. 

FICTION

5. Necessary Lies
by Diane Chamberlain

Necessary Lies

In this novel set fifty years ago, 15-year-old Ivy Hart works on a tobacco farm. When she’s assigned a new social worker—the first job for young Jane Forrester—secrets begin to unravel. Such a heart-rending story. 

6. Sing You Home
by Jodi Picoult

Sing You Home

Jodi Picoult dives straight into the ethical and legal dilemmas surrounding pregnancy and family in modern times. Music teacher Zoe Baxter saves her fertilized eggs when she and her husband can’t get pregnant, but they later divorce. The plot gets more complicated as the book unfolds.

WHAT I’M READING NOW

  • This Chair Rocks
    A Manifesto Against Ageism
    by Ashton Applewhite
  • No Time Like the Present
    by Jack Kornfield
  • How to Keep House While Drowning
    A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing
    by K. C. Davis
  • Learning Humility
    A Year of Searching for a Vanishing Virtue
    by Richard J. Foster
  • True Biz
    by Sara Nović

6 BOOKS RECOMMENDED BY OTHERS

I’ll be following up on MANY recommendations this month from fellow nonfiction readers. Here are 6 of those books I’ll be looking into. Have you read any of these? Would you would recommend them, too?


What good book do YOU recommend? Please share in the comments.

More books I recommend

sharing at these linkups


Share Four Somethings—November 2022
—Grace & Truth Linkup

Near the end of each month, I share four somethings at Heather’s.

Plus my latest One Second Everyday monthly video . . . 

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Something Loved

  • COACH CADILLAC

We’re Auburn University fans in my household (War Eagle!). But our football team has had a rough few years. This year we fired our head football coach midseason, and hired Carnell “Cadillac” Williams as our interim coach. He was an outstanding and beloved Auburn football player himself from 2001-2005, who played for the NFL from 2005-2011. He’s humble, enthusiastic, and loves the guys who play for him. And they love him back, as do we fans.

Tomorrow is Auburn’s big rivalry game against the University of Alabama for the Iron Bowl. Alabama is a 21 point favorite to win. But win or lose, Auburn has been totally reenergized by Coach Cadillac. 

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Something Gleaned 

  • NONFICTION NOVEMBER

November is a fun month for bloggers who favor nonfiction books. Each week we’ve been sharing favorite books around a different theme. I’ve collected lots of new recommendations from other nonfiction readers, and shared a few of my own. 

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Something Braved

  • GOT MY REAL ID

For domestic airflights after May 3, 2023, Americans need a driver’s license compliant with REAL ID (or another acceptable form of ID). I’ve delayed getting my STAR ID (that’s what it’s called in Alabama) for awhile because it seemed like a lot of work.

But November is when my license expires anyway, so I finally gathered all the documents I needed and headed to the DMV. My wait was very short, and the process was very smooth. And now it’s over.

If I had known it would be so simple, I wouldn’t have put it off so long. 

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Something Achieved

  • 60 CIRCLES AROUND THE SUN

Today is a milestone birthday for me! One of my best friends is cooking dinner for Jeff and me tonight. She has promised we’ll also play Bananagrams. That’s my kind of celebration. 

What has been a highlight of your November?

Share in the comments.

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Featured Post for Grace & Truth Linkup

Maybe you’re traveling this week for Thanksgiving. Are you ready yet to be back home? It’s nice going out, but I do love returning home to my safe nest.

Jerralea reminds us in our featured post this week to view the Lord as our home. “In addition to a dwelling with a door you can close shutting out the world, you have a Father to go to for comfort and rest.”

Read all of Jerralea’s post here at her blog, then add your own links below.

Thankful for Home


Review the rules here about adding your most recent Christian Living posts and how to be the Featured Post. Visit all four hosts social media here or websites here: Maree Dee, Lisa notes, Lauren Sparks, Tammy Kennington.

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Fill Out the One Word Survey + November One Word Linkup

One Word Linkup

Share Your One Word Update

Link your One Word blog post below. Share an update about your One Word in the comments.

Almost There

You’ve almost reached the end of the year with your One Word!

Is there anything more you’d like to do with your word before the year ends? Catch us up with a current update as well as any last-minute plans you’d like to accomplish. Link up a blog post or share in the comments.

Take the Survey

Will you take this short survey about your experience with our One Word 2022 community?

It will help with planning for 2023. All answers are anonymous.

The November linkup will remain open from Tuesday, November 22, through Wednesday, November 30.

The final linkup for One Word 2022 will be on Thursday, December 22.

Remember to add discussion in our One Word Facebook group if you’re online there. Each link here will be shared there throughout the month.

Sign ups will begin soon for NEW people to join our One Word 2023 group! 


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How These 5 Books Changed Me

How these 5 books changed me

Some books won’t let us go. They challenge our thinking. They make us turn around and do differently.

“Worldview Changers” is the category for week 4 of Nonfiction November. Join Rebekah at She Seeks Nonfiction to see more worldview changing books.

Week 4 Nonfiction November

5 Worldview-Changing Books

Here are fives books I read this year that changed me.

1. Self-Compassion
The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
by Kristin Neff

• A new thought it made me think:

Our culture has incorrectly focused too much on self-esteem. That focus made us fall into the traps of self-righteousness, prejudice, narcissism, self-absorption, etc. A healthier mindset is to focus on self-compassion.

• A quote I like:

“We can recognize that weakness and imperfection are part of the shared human experience. We can feel more connected to our fellow life travelers who are just as flawed and vulnerable as we are. At the same time, we can let go of the need to feel better than others.”

• An action it motivated me to take:

When you’re having difficult feelings, try one (or all) of these three things:

  1. Give yourself kindness and care.
  2. Remind yourself that pain is part of the shared human experience.
  3. Hold your thoughts and emotions in mindfulness awareness.

2. Do the Work!
An Antiracist Activity Book
by Kate Schatz and W. Kamau Bell

• A new thought it made me think:

Racism is prejudice plus power. Instead of defining racism as a person who hates a person of a different race, Bell says racism is when one group has the power to carry out systematic discrimination by (a) the institutional policies and practices of the society, and (b) by shaping the cultural beliefs and values that support those racist policies and practices.

• A quote I like:

“You might call these things ‘microaggressions,’ but honestly? Can we just drop the ‘micro’? That makes it sound almost cute. Death by a thousand papercuts is still pretty aggressive. A microaggression is just racism that didn’t get me killed.”

• An action it motivated me to take:

Put my privilege to good use in multiple ways, including using my voice among white people to speak out against white supremacy, to listen and believe Black people when they share their experiences, to support Black-owned businesses when possible, and to continue reading books by BIPOC authors.

3. The Sleep Solution
Why Your Sleep Is Broken and How to Fix It
by W. Chris Winter

• A new thought it made me think:

Even if I don’t actually sleep all night, resting even without sleeping is still good for me. I don’t have to be asleep to still feel relaxed and comfortable, taking a needed break from the stresses of the day.

• A quote I like:

“For many people who struggle with their sleep, you can almost think of their nightly angst as a mini-PTSD episode….Don’t make your sleep disturbances a defining characteristic in your life. The hour or two it takes you to fall asleep is not that big of a deal. Believe this. Free yourself.”

• An action it motivated me to take:

Put my phone further away from me during the night so I won’t be tempted to listen to podcasts when I can’t sleep. Stop looking at the clock when I do wake up in the middle of the night. Accept that it’s ok if I’m awake part of the night.

4. Immortal Diamond
The Search for Our True Self
by Richard Rohr

• A new thought it made me think:

Dying before we die is an important practice. As some roles are stripped away, I’m more aware that who I am in God remains. I am still complete. The goodness of God fills all the gaps of the universe, without discrimination or preference.

• A quote I like:

“Remember that resurrection is not woundedness denied, forgotten, or even totally healed. It is always woundedness transformed. You still carry your scars forever, as both message and trophy. They still ‘hurt’ in a way, which keeps you mindful and humble, but they no longer allow you to hurt other people. Pain transformed is no longer pain transmitted.”

• An action it motivated me to take:

Watch and participate as God—through love—fills in the gaps. Know that after each little death, resurrection will follow.

5. The Power of Regret
How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward
by Daniel H. Pink

• A new thought it made me think:

Being aware of my regrets brings benefits. Ultimately it can strengthen my sense of meaning and connectedness, if used properly.

• A quote I like:

“When relationships come apart, whether by intent or inattention, what stands in the way of bringing them back together are feelings of awkwardness. …Yet those concerns are almost always misplaced. But more often—much more often, in fact—we overestimate how awkward we’ll feel and underestimate how much others will welcome our overtures.
So, this simple problem has an even simpler solution. Shove aside the awkwardness.”

• An action it motivated me to take:

Ask myself which I’ll regret more: inaction or action (we typically regret inactions more than actions). Use my thinking to prompt my doing in the direction of my deepest values.


What book has changed you this year? Share in the comments.


It Is Safe to Hope for the Next Season
—Grace & Truth Linkup

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I take a quick glance at my flower beds. They’re dismal. The cold weather choked the life and beauty out of each blossom, each stem.

But after reading Donna’s post about the promise of new life, I am reminded anew that the appearance of death isn’t always what it seems.

Frost is here now, yes. Winter is indeed coming. 

But after a season of rest over the next few months, the hosta will again send up new shoots from the ground. The rose bush will break out in tiny pink buds. The azalea will turn from brown to explosive red.

The breath of God, of Love, will restore beauty.

It is safe for me to hope for what the next season will bring, even as I experience the chill in this one.

Read all of Donna’s post at her blog, then link up your own blog posts below.

New Life Amidst the Ruins

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Release Your Perspective as the Only One

“It didn’t work.”

I hear the nurse mutter this under her breath. I am just now waking up from the sweet sedation of anesthesia.

I get my bearings. I’m back in the recovery room. I’m in a hospital gown.  My routine colonoscopy is over. I’m happy about that.

But she’s saying it didn’t work? I went through all that horrible prep for nothing? How could it not have worked?

My emotions plummet straight down.

Some things are out of our control. We can’t stop a rainy day. We can’t stop life from changing. We can’t perform our own colonoscopies.

This year I’ve been working on the RELEASE of things I can’t control (Release is my One Word 2022). For November I’m trying to release my perspective as the only one, the right one.

But when the nurse says, “It didn’t work,” I can only see from one perspective: mine.

I find my voice. I ask her, “My colonoscopy didn’t work?”

The colonoscopy went fine. She says she was talking about her ipad. It’s her ipad that wasn’t working.

Oh!

Seeing things from her perspective instead of my own makes me very happy.

It doesn’t always work this way, of course. Sometimes seeing someone else’s perspective can be painful. It can increase our angst or reveal our inadequacies or prove we were wrong.

But even if temporarily painful in the moment, broadening our viewpoint is almost always helpful in the long run.

So I continue to work on releasing the fallacy that my perspective is always the clear one, the true one. Maybe sometimes it is, but many times my perspective is formed in the leftover fog of life’s anesthesia.

There are many angles in any given situation. I only see from my limited perspective.

But by opening up to the perspectives of others, I can expand my own.

Things aren’t always about me. They’re also about someone else. Or their ipad.

I’m glad to know that.


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