I sneak her a little box of chocolates (these are just for you!) because I think every woman needs chocolate, right? I bought one for myself too. I tell her it’s one of my weaknesses. Little things you share when you spend time together.
Her family and mine have been friends for a couple years. They’ve been in a pit even longer. Once you get too deep, it’s hard to climb back up. So we help as we can. Not big things to us. Bigger to them.
One day we’re on a Walmart run. The mom and I look at baby things; the dad and toddler slip off elsewhere. We converge at the checkout.
And he gives me this.
And she buys me a Hershey’s candy bar. I want to say no! You don’t need to do anything for me. You can’t afford it.
But sometimes when you can’t pay back, you desperately want to say thanks.
And you can let yourself be thanked.
Most of our friendships work like this: You treat me to dinner. I treat you to dinner. I buy you a birthday gift. You buy one for me. Round and round we go.
Until we can’t.
When the thing is too big to repay in kind, we need to give up trying to repay and just say thank you.
It works incredibly well.
Let’s let go of the guilt when we can’t repay. And let’s release the debt we hold over others. We can’t afford either one.
God doesn’t work on a merit system.
His preferred method is grace.
Grace given. Grace received. Thank you very much.
It’s his idea. He started it. He’ll finish it. We get to enjoy it all in between.
So for my card I say thank you very much. I’ll keep it.
And the chocolate, I eat every bite.
It’s all grace.
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Is it harder for you to receive grace or to give it? Please share in the comments.
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