My Facebook Anger
Oh no. Did she really share that? I follow her link to the latest hot article.
I’m disappointed that my friend would “like” something so wrong. (Because aren’t we always right?) How could she believe these political “lies”?
- Should I say something?
- Let it go?
- Counter with a different article?
Are these dilemmas happening more and more with you, too?
Granted, I do love a good conversation about politics. Ask my husband (who does not always enjoy it). Daddy taught us growing up around the Sunday lunch table to talk about hard topics, controversial topics, as we ate our roast and potatoes (except me; I ate ham). Grab an opinion and throw it out there. Heat the discussion, then cool it back down when Mama brought out the chocolate chip pie.
But something is different this past year.
These days when I’m online on Facebook or Twitter or reading blogs, I get angry inside. Not just at the words. Sadly, I also can get angry at the person sharing the words.
And I don’t like that feeling.
I don’t want to dislike any of my friends and family. I don’t want to dread seeing them in person because we disagree online. The election may be over, but our divisions aren’t.
Unfollow a Friend
Quit reading their online stuff.
Here’s what I’m doing:
- Unfollow on Facebook
- Mute on Twitter
- Hit delete on blog posts
And here’s what I am NOT doing:
- I don’t stop talking to them in person
- And most importantly, I don’t lose their friendship
[FYI, when you unfollow someone, they don’t know it. They are still your friend on Facebook. They can still read your posts, and you can go to their page and read their posts. You just won’t see their posts in your newsfeed. You can re-follow them anytime; they never know that either.
Remember the End Goal
Is this the coward’s way out? Am I avoiding confrontations that need to happen? Am I too immature to handle the awkwardness?
Maybe. I’m not sure.
But when the hard conversations really need to be had—and perhaps several of them do—I want to have those talks in person, not online.
What my friend is believing and what I am believing on a particular policy issue may be different right now. But we don’t have to be angry at each other about it. Likely we’ll realize later we both were believing wrong anyway.
Because what I ultimately want to happen is this: My friend and I will keep loving each other. God has us in each other’s lives for a reason. I want to stick around to honor that.
If that means I temporarily miss a few Facebook posts, okay.
Hopefully one day I’ll grow up enough to read her links and not feel upset at our widely different opinions.
But until I can get there, I have to keep first things first.
- Love each other.
- Forgive each other.
- Grow with each other.
Unfollow a friend on Facebook to keep a friend in real life? It may not be the best solution. But for now, it’s the best one I can handle.
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What prompts you to unfollow someone on Facebook? To unfriend them? Please share in the comments.
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