What Do You Do?
“So, what do you? Where do you work?”
These are typical questions we ask new people we meet. I understand it. I’ve asked these questions of others.
I just don’t know how to answer these questions myself.
When my daughters were in the house, the answer was easy: I homeschool. People knew what it meant, that I was purposed, that my time was occupied with family.
But in 2007 Morgan graduated from our homeschool and left for Auburn University. I was down to one student. Then in 2012, Jenna also graduated and moved to Auburn. Jeff and I were left at home as empty-nesters.
Now what? How was I to answer the questions: What do you do? Where do you work?
I didn’t know.
When You Can’t Nail It Down
I knew I was happy still being at home. I was still involved in the lives of my daughters, driving back and forth to Auburn to visit. I was involved with church. I became even more involved in my community to volunteer here and there. In 2018 I became a grandmother and was regularly involved with our new two granddaughters. I was learning new things about myself, about others, and about God.
And then this pandemic struck, and all my volunteer activities disappeared.
And once again, I was mostly at home. Still happy at home, granted. (Being an introvert is a handy quality during a pandemic!)
But once again I was left with no direct answer to the questions: What do you do? Where do you work?
The truth is I do lots of little things, here and there, online and in person. I can’t nail it down to a one-word title or to an office address.
This is what I know:
I know I am here by God’s choice. I know I am here for a purpose. I know God delights in WHO I am, more than in WHAT I do or WHERE I do it.
If that’s good enough for God, it’s enough for me.
That’s the only answer I need.
When I read Patti’s post last week, I understood. I get what she was saying about being an empty-nester.
“While other empty nest women may be returning to college or embarking on a second career, it’s okay that I’m not. All of us have different callings—there is no single right way to live out these post-raising children years.”
I definitely agree. And her conclusion? I doubly agree.
“We women need to extend grace to one another and not condemn each other for doing something different than we ourselves do—after all, different doesn’t mean wrong!”
Whether empty-nester or college student, married or single, paid employee or not, I encourage you to read Patti’s post, too, at PatriciaGardner.com. She’s a new blogger in our community. Give her a hearty welcome. I look forward to hearing more from her.
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