Share Four Somethings—May 2023

Near the end of each month, I share four somethings at Jennifer’s linkup that I’m loving, reading, learning, and eating. 

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What I’m Loving

  • BLACKOUT CURTAINS

We’ve had only blinds on our bedroom windows for over 20 years. Last year an incredibly bright street light was installed that shone right in our bedroom window. This year we finally put up blackout curtains. We should have done it years ago. It’s been fantastic these past few months.

We were at the beach last week on vacation, which was wonderful, but the bedroom there had a bright light shining right into our room every night.

On the morning we were packing up to leave and return home, I checked the drawers to make sure we’d gotten all our stuff. What did I find?

This portable set of blackout curtains we could have used. Oh, well. 

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What I’m Reading 

  • KEEP THE MEMORIES, LOSE THE STUFF

I don’t have tons of clutter, but I do have some. Periodically I like to read books about decluttering to keep my clutter in check.

This book by Matt Paxton is a very helpful one, both for practical ideas and for philosophical ones: Keep the Memories, Lose the Stuff: Declutter, Downsize, and Move Forward with Your Life.

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What I’m Learning

  • DECLUTTERING HACKS

Some suggestions from Keep the Memories, Lose the Stuff on reducing clutter are:

“If you know you’ll use it within one month (unless it’s a seasonal item), keep it. Not six months, one year, or two years. One month. If you won’t use it within one month, the odds are you won’t use it at all.” 

“When you find an item in the attic that you bought hoping one day you’d use it, remember that it was a stepping-stone to the person you are today. When you got it, you needed it. Even if you never used it once. Now you are ready to move on, because you’ve grown.” 

Create a Maybe Pile for items you’re not sure about getting rid of. It offers breathing room when the going gets too tough to make snap decisions about what to keep and what to discard. Wait a few weeks, and see how much easier it is to empty the Maybe Pile then. 

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What I’m Eating

  • A BIT HEALTHIER FOODS

After our beach vacation of yummy but junky food, I came home determined to eat a little healthier. I’ve done fairly well, for me. I’ve swapped my daily biscuit and syrup for toast and oatmeal; my Diet Coke for sparkling water; my two cookies a day for just one. At least until the weekend. (I’m obviously not going too extreme with it.) 


What’s something you’re learning or loving this month?  

Share your thoughts in the comments.


Be a One Word Photo Sleuth
{One Word 2023 May Linkup}

Link all of your One Word blog posts below. Share an update about your One Word in the comments.

Do you have a phone? Or a camera? Then you are equipped for this month’s One Word challenge!

Be a One Word photo sleuth. Look all around you for objects, people, places, etc. that remind you of your One Word. Snap a photo with your phone or camera. Include yourself in one of the photos if possible!

The more you look for your word, the more you’ll find it.

So this month, stay aware. And share. We’d love to see what you find.

If you blog, link a post below with ANY updates about your One Word, or link a post with photos about your word. You can also share updates with our One Word Facebook group or with our Instagram group @onewordcommunity. 

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Here are five things I found last week with my One Word this year: HUMAN.

1. MY AND JEFF’S FOOTPRINTS IN THE SAND (and please explain to me why the photo makes the footprints look more like a cast instead of an imprint!)

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2. MY NEW T-SHIRT!

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3. SEEN ON INSTAGRAM ON MOTHER’S DAY

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4. A QUOTE I READ

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5. ONE OF MY FAVORITE LITTLE HUMANS

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Next month’s One Word linkup will open on Friday, June 23 (every One Word linkup in 2023 will open on the 23rd).

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Sign Up for a Summer Memory Challenge – Matthew 6:25-34
—Grace & Truth Linkup

If you find yourself needing to derail anxious thoughts, think on better things, or stay present in this moment, you’re invited to . 

Beginning June 5, a group of us will memorize Jesus’s message from Matthew 6:25-34 about anxiety. 

Matthew 6:34

We’ll go slow—one verse per week—but we’ll be steady. See the full schedule here. 

You’re also invited to join our private Facebook group, Hide His Word. It’s for anyone who likes to memorize scripture (not just this Matthew 6 challenge but any verses) and wants extra camaraderie.  

So if you want some help to keep life into perspective, sign up now to receive the weekly email reminder for 10 weeks, plus links to all our free resources to memorize Matthew 6:25-34, such as 3×5 cards, one-page texts, journal pages, etc.

Sign up today for our summer challenge.

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How do you do laundry? Wash/dry/put away all in the same day? Or do you leave a load in the washer and unfolded clothes on the couch for days on end?

But what about the laundry of life? Do you have unhealthy relationships or patterns of thinking or unhealed wounds that also need putting away?

Read all of Katherine’s post at Candidly Christian on putting away all types of laundry, then link up your own blog posts below.

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If You’re a Mind Reader. . .

It’s a beautiful Monday afternoon at the beach. My husband Jeff and I have toes in the sand and the sound of crashing waves in our ears here at Panama City Beach, Florida.

I look up from the book I’m reading (because of course I’m reading a book on the beach) when a young woman near us stands up. She is quickly spraying sunscreen on her body as she watches her friends jump into the water ahead of her.

I’m glancing at her from my beach chair, wondering if she realizes that the sunscreen will all wash off if she jumps immediately into the water without giving it time to sink in.

I’m also seeing her struggle to spray the sunscreen on her back.

That’s when I hear Jeff say, “It’s so hard for me not to go over there and help her.”

I know Jeff likes to serve people. He’s one of those natural helpers who is quick to notice when someone needs a hand; he often offers his. (For example, we were eating breakfast at Hardee’s one morning when someone’s car stalled in the road in front of us. Jeff immediately ran to the road to help move the car out of traffic.)

I, on the other hand, need time to think things through. While I’m also glad to help, it takes me a minute to figure out what help I could offer that would be of use to someone, with the least amount of awkwardness from either of us. By the time I compose a logical solution, the moment has often passed. (Somebody like Jeff has already stepped in and the problem is over.)

But offering to help a stranger on the beach spread her sunscreen? That’s a bit much, even for Jeff.

And I say so out loud to him, using the most measured, calm voice available to me in the moment.

“Um, I know you like to help, but I don’t think that’s a good idea.”

And to further drive the point home, I add, “Plus, her sunscreen will all wash off in a minute anyway.”

At that point Jeff replies, “What???”

He looks at me. He looks where I’m looking. And roars into laughter.

While I had been watching the sunscreen woman, Jeff had been watching a 75-year-old woman in front of us struggling to fold up her beach chair while holding her book.

It was this older woman with her chair that Jeff had wanted to help, NOT the younger woman with her sunscreen.

As he explains it to me, I also laugh out loud at our hilarious (and potentially dangerous) miscommunication.

Doesn’t this happen between humans all the time? One person assumes the other person is talking about subject A, when in reality they are talking about subject B.

Confusion ensues. Sometimes feelings get hurt. Or wives get suspicious.

Why? Because we didn’t use enough words or signals to more fully explain ourselves, but relied on our mind reading skills instead.

My goal this month with my One Word Human has been to focus on the human mind, specifically to (1) learn new things and (2) ask more for advice.

But after my miscommunication with Jeff this week, I’m adding a third category: (3) communicate more clearly.

We may think we are mind readers. But bridging the gap from one human mind to another human mind isn’t as simple as we assume.

Don’t try to read minds. Make the mental path more visible instead.

It’s a good human thing to do.

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Is More for Me, Less for We? A Look at Poverty, by America
—Grace & Truth Linkup

Day to Day

I was in Dollar General with my friend. She needed to pick up a few essentials.

As I walked alongside her, I noticed she wasn’t shopping smart. Instead of buying the cheaper twin pack of macaroni and cheese, she was getting the single box, which was more costly per unit. She repeated this error picking up a small pack of toilet paper instead of the larger economy size.

I didn’t understand it at the time.

But now I do. It wasn’t that she was being frivolous with her money; it was that was all she had. She didn’t have enough money to buy things in bulk.

She only had enough money for her urgent needs. She could only afford one thing at a time, even if it wasn’t economically wise.

That’s only one small example of how poor people get entrapped into staying poor.

America Causes Poverty?

For many larger examples of the sources of poverty, read Matthew Desmond’s newest book, Poverty, by America.

Look closer at the title. Is Desmond insinuating that we richer Americans are part of the problem in keeping poorer Americans poor?

Yes, exactly.

And it’s devastating—but enlightening—to read in detail how we’re doing it, often unaware of it.

For instance, Desmond writes,

“By one estimate, simply collecting unpaid federal income taxes from the top 1 percent of households would bring in some $175 billion a year. We could just about fill the entire poverty gap in America if the richest among us simply paid all the taxes they owed.”

I’m far from being in the top 1% of households. I pay my full taxes owed. I’m not on welfare. I don’t collect food stamps. My housing isn’t subsidized by the government.

But does that mean I am not benefiting from government handouts myself?

Desmond says that the average rich and middle-class family draws on the same number of government benefits as the average poor family.

Who’s on the Dole?

How am I benefiting from government aid? Here are a few ways:

  • I benefited when my husband got health insurance from his job. Health insurance is one of the single largest tax breaks issued by the federal government.
  • I benefited when I could deduct mortgage interest on my income taxes.
  • I benefited when I receive free checking accounts at my bank because the accounts are subsidized by billions of dollars in overdraft fees.

I’m not saying those things are wrong to accept. But I am saying (or rather Desmond is saying it), “We’re all on the dole.“

Virtually all Americans, rich or poor, benefit from some form of public aid. “Today, the biggest beneficiaries of federal aid are affluent families.”

And the more the rich receive, the less available there is for the poor.

“Decade after decade, the poverty rate has remained flat even as federal relief has surged. How could this be? — Part of the answer, I learned, lies in the fact that a fair amount of government aid earmarked for the poor never reaches them.”

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Be a Poverty Abolitionist

“This is who we are: the richest country on earth, with more poverty than any other advanced democracy.”

So what can we do about it?

Desmond calls on us to become poverty abolitionists.

“We are connected, members of a shared nation and a shared economy, where the advantages of the rich often come at the expense of the poor. But that arrangement is not inevitable or permanent. It was made by human hands and can be unmade by them.

We can fashion a new society, starting with our own lives. Where we decide to work and live, what we buy, how we vote, and where we put our energies as citizens all have consequences for poor families. Becoming a poverty abolitionist, then, entails conducting an audit of our lives, personalizing poverty by examining all the ways we are connected to the problem—and to the solution.“

Specifically, here are just a few suggestions that Desmond gives in Poverty, by America.

  • Make friends with those who are poor, not just to help them (although do that too if you’re able), but for genuine connection; you’ll become more familiar with their struggles along the way.
  • Allow the IRS to crack down on corporations and individuals who cheat on their taxes. (Desmond says, “Studies have shown that most Americans pay 90 percent of the taxes they owe, but the ultra-rich pay only 75 percent.“)
  • Be aware of not only the environmental impact of your purchases, but also the poverty impact.
  • Investigate what a fair minimum wage should be and then vote for legislators who are supportive.
  • Develop a mindset of alleviating poverty instead of overlooking it.
  • Make it less complicated and confusing for those who need aid to receive it. 

Desmond concludes his book with this:

“Every person, every company, every institution that has a role in perpetuating poverty also has a role in ameliorating it. The end of poverty is something to stand for, to march for, to sacrifice for. . . .

The citizens of the richest nation in the world can and should finally put an end to it. We don’t need to outsmart this problem. We need to outhate it.”

Poverty, by America isn’t a how-to book on solving poverty, but it is a compelling book on recognizing the problems. And encouraging us to do better.


Share your thoughts in the comments.

Thanks to NetGalley + Crown
for the review copy of this book

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Mother’s Day isn’t all smiles and roses for many women.

If you are one of the women like me who struggle on Mother’s Day for a variety of reasons, I encourage you to read Maree’s post on how we can feel more than one thing at a time, both joy and sadness.

Read Maree’s post at her blog, then link your own blog post below.

“Sometimes Mother’s Day Hurts”


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The Way You Always Do It

It’s Saturday afternoon and I’m sitting on my porch swing reading a library book. I’m trying to finish it. It’s due next week and it’s not renewable.

Even though our library has stopped charging overdue fines, I still don’t want to be late returning my books. For over 50 years I’ve been checking out books and trying to get them back in on time. I don’t want to change now.

But I lay the book down now because my cellphone is ringing.

It’s not the ringtone I want to hear, though.

I’d spent time last Monday working with my friend V and her new phone. We have an arrangement where she calls me weekly to let me know if she needs anything since she doesn’t drive.

And she always calls using the Messenger app.

The app normally works fine for our calls, except when V accidentally logs out of Messenger, forgets her password, and can’t get back in. Calling me directly from her Phone app would be far more reliable.

So on Monday I programmed my cell number into her phone, and starred it as a favorite for her. Standing together inside her apartment, I called her so she could practice answering it. Then I had her practice pushing the green phone icon and calling me.

She got it right every time. Whew. It will be a new habit for her, but she can do it.

We all use our phones in different ways. When I look at my own phone bill, I’m amused at how differently Jeff and I communicate with our phones. I have lots of text messages, but few actual phone calls. Jeff has fewer text messages, but more phone calls. We both like it that way.

But as my phone is ringing this Saturday from V, it’s the old tone.

She’s still calling me from Messenger.

Oh well.

If it works for V (at least for now), it’s fine with me. Sometimes we don’t need to change our ways if they’re still working, even if the new way might be easier.

We chat. She tells me she loves her new phone. I don’t question her about not calling me this time from the Phone app. We’ll address it again later if the need arises. For now, she’s happy doing it her old way.

We hang up and I return to reading my book on the porch. I should be finished before next Saturday.

And I will return the book to the library on time, just the way I’ve always done it.

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Are there habits you keep because it’s how you’ve always done it (and they’re still working)? Share in the comments.

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