When women resign from church

Women’s roles in the church – it’s a touchy topic.

Today’s excerpt is from The Resignation of Eve, a book that can be a tough read.  It’s compiled from interviews with women in a variety of circumstances and with a variety of beliefs.

Regardless of your position on what women should or shouldn’t do in the church, conversations about this topic are important to talk about, to listen to, to read about, and to think through.

And to change your mind about as needed.

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Excerpt from The Resignation of Eve:

Let me ask my male readers this question: when was the last time the word allow was used to describe what you could do in church for no other reason than that you are a man?

. . . The worst thing is that millions of women have resigned.

Some women have resigned from Christianity, some have resigned from God, but many have simply developed a more insidious form of resignation, the invisible resignation that people develop when they’ve given up hope.

This kind of resignation leads a woman to appear to be present when she actually left the building years ago.

. . . One of the most alarming trends taking place in the church today is that long-term insiders like Laura and Tom are looking at options other than conventional church to satisfy their spiritual hunger.

By the time leaders like these two veteran missionaries begin asking why the church is so slow on the uptake regarding women, you can be sure that multiple thousands of the less committed have already left the building.

What’s interesting is that many of these church dropouts are not Kingdom dropouts.

Like Laura and Tom, these “revolutionaries,” as George Barna calls them, often invent new ways to express themselves spiritually, even self-funding their spiritual enterprises while keeping their day jobs.

When the church loses leaders like Laura, that’s what I call eating the principal.

– Jim Henderson

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My book review here of The Resignation of Eve

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Drop the pride – it’s all grace

Narrowing down quotes from Jesus + Nothing = Everything isn’t easy.

Maybe I should start here?

“The hard work of Christian growth, therefore, is to think less of ourselves and our performance and more of Jesus and his performance for us. Ironically, when we focus mostly on our need to get better, we actually get worse. We become neurotic and self-absorbed. Preoccupation with our effort instead of with God’s effort for us makes us increasingly self-centered and morbidly introspective.”
– Tullian Tchividjian

Or here?

“Christian growth, in other words, doesn’t happen by first behaving better, but by believing better—believing in bigger, deeper, brighter ways what Christ has already secured for sinners. Realizing this has changed the entire way I read the Bible. …Our hard work, therefore, means coming to a greater understanding of his work.”

This book is overflowing with insights about relying on Jesus’s finished work instead of our own imperfect work.

So pardon today’s post being longer than normal; this is as short as I could make it. Enjoy!

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Excerpt from Jesus + Nothing = Everything

We know it’s wrong to worship immorality, like everybody out in the world seems to be doing; we find it harder to see that it’s just as wrong to worship morality, like everybody in the church seems to be doing.

In our bones, we know that God hates unrighteous “bad” works; we’re not nearly so convinced that he hates self-righteous “good” works just as much, if not more.

In fact, the most dangerous thing that can happen to you is that you become proud of your obedience.

. . . In fact, most of us convince ourselves that we’re actually honoring Jesus with our rules and regulations, that we’re paying attention to him and pleasing him more than ever.

But all the while, we’re only demonstrating that we believe in ourselves much more than we do in Jesus. Our default faith mode is to trust, above all things, our own ability to create a safe, controllable, predictable world.

. . . The biggest lie about grace that Satan wants the church to buy is the idea that it’s dangerous and therefore needs to be kept in check. By believing that lie, we not only prove we don’t understand grace, but we violate gospel advancement in our lives and in the church by perpetuating our own slavery.

The truth is, disobedience happens not when we think too much of grace, but when we think too little of it.


. . . The gospel liberates us to be okay with not being okay. We know we’re not—though we try very hard to convince other people we are. But the gospel tells us, “Relax, it is finished.”

Because of the gospel, we have nothing to prove or protect. We can stop pretending. The gospel frees us from trying to impress people, to prove ourselves to people, to make people think we’re something that we’re not.

. . . When you understand that your significance and identity and purpose and direction are all anchored in Christ, you don’t have to win—you’re free to lose. And nothing in this broken world can beat a person who isn’t afraid to lose!

. . . rules and regulations and standards and behavior modification are not the heart of Christianity. . . . the primary goal of the gospel is to bring about mortal resurrection, not moral reformation. Christianity is not the move from vice to virtue, but rather the move from virtue to grace.

. . . Pascal expressed it well when he said that we should make people wish the gospel were true, then show them that it is.


Christian growth does not happen by working hard to get something we don’t have. Rather, Christian growth happens by working hard to daily swim in the reality of what we do have.

Believing again and again the gospel of God’s free justifying grace every day—and resting in his verdict—is the hard work we’re called to.

I think of it this way: the hard work of Christian growth consists primarily in being daily grasped by the fact that God’s love for us isn’t conditioned by anything we do or don’t do.

Sanctification is the hard work of giving up our efforts at self-justification.

Those efforts are what we’re all naturally inclined to do, and it’s what makes the sanctification process so grueling and counterintuitive.

. . . Second Peter 3:18 succinctly describes growth by saying, “But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.” Growth always happens “in grace.”

In other words, the truest measure of our growth is not our behavior (otherwise the Pharisees would have been the godliest people on the planet); it’s our grasp of grace—a grasp which involves coming to deeper and deeper terms with the unconditionality of God’s love.

It’s also growth in “the knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.” This doesn’t simply mean learning facts about Jesus. It means growing in our love for Christ because of what he has already earned and secured for us and then living in a more vital awareness of that grace.

Our main problem in the Christian life is not that we don’t try hard enough to be good, but that we haven’t believed the gospel and received its finished reality into all parts of our life.
– Tullian Tchividjian

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Life is dessert – “one thousand gifts”

These paragraphs from one thousand gifts show you how ordinary moments deserve your full attention. “Life is dessert . . . don’t wolf it down.”

An important message is in this beautifully told story by Ann Voskamp. She still has me counting . . . # 1196 + . You, too?

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Excerpt from one thousand gifts

When did I stop thinking life was dessert?

I push back from the table. Push away from regrets. They need something to drink. I clatter out the stainless steel glasses. Pour out the cold milk and think of the strangers walking briskly, blithely along to Emmaus, oblivious to the God-skin before their eyes. Only in the slowing, the sitting down at the table, when His hands held the bread and the thanks fell from His tongue, do the open-eyed, the wide-eyed, see the Face they face (Luke 24:13-35). The fast have spiritually slow hearts.

I carry the cups back to the table.

My drained, empty body has stopped and my soul has caught up and if I give thanks here, Whom might I recognize? I pass two cups down to the end of the table. It takes a full twenty minutes after your stomach is full for your brain to register satiation. How long does it take your soul to realize that your life is full? The slower the living, the greater the sense of fullness and satisfaction. The body and soul can synchronize. This moment I enter. …and I don’t reach forward and I don’t reach back and I weigh the moment down with full attention here.

Life is dessert — too brief to hurry. You don’t wolf it down.
– Ann Voskamp

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My review here of one thousand gifts.

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Give a compliment to glorify God

We cheat God of glory he’s due when we’re stingy with our compliments to others.

Practicing Affirmation is an excellent book explaining why AND how to affirm others to the glory of God.

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Excerpt from Practicing Affirmation

Good affirmations are God-centered, pointing to the image of God in a person.

The only commendable attributes in people were given to them. Everything is from God, through God, and to God so that in all things—including the commendable qualities in people—he might get the glory (Romans 11:35-36).

I remember being dismayed at the well-intended remarks of a seminary official at a large convocation who was about to thank a number of persons for their efforts. His intention and spirit were good.

But he prefaced his thank-yous by saying, “The apostle Paul was always thanking people.”

Well, no, the apostle Paul wasn’t. You will not find Paul doing such a thing in the Scriptures. He didn’t thank people for things; he thanked God for people.

Paul’s practice is, “I thank God for you.”

Yes, the person is refreshed by the expression of gratitude, but God gets the glory.

We are wise to give God-centered thank-yous and God-centered affirmations.

We’ve all heard of robbing Peter to pay Paul. We’ve also heard of robbing God by not paying tithes. I am suggesting that we rob God of praise by not pointing out his reflection in the people he has knit together in his image.
– Sam Crabtree

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When plans change

But all things should be done decently and in order.
1 Corinthians 14:40

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The church had a plan.

Plans are good. God can work through plans.

     But sometimes . . .

The second service began yesterday like the first. Song #1. Song #2. And now Song #3.

We sang the bridge of Beautiful Exchange.

Holy are You God
Holy is Your name
With everything I’ve got
My heart will sing how I love You

We sang it again, adding all parts.
And sang it again, full force.

Each time, something deeper seemed to be happening.

So we kept going, worshiping and praying and listening to others share more of God’s truths in fresh ways, ways unplanned. It was obvious the Spirit of the Lord was present, and also obvious that the official order of worship had changed for this service.

     But there was something else.

Something also important. Something that would make room for this kind of thing (and other new things) to happen again.

It was how the church responded to the difference. And was allowed to respond.

Pastor Mark acknowledged what was going on. That maybe it was a little unusual for many. Maybe a bit awkward even.

But instead of squashing it and saying we’re sorry we veered from today’s plan and we promise to never make anyone uncomfortable again, he took the opportunity to teach about it. To say that it’s okay. That it’s actually biblical.

     To explain that order and freedom can coexist.

Oh my. Yes!

It’s not either order or freedom.
It can be both.

When things don’t go as we scheduled or as we are used to, perhaps that’s how God planned it all along.

Sometimes he asks us to ease up from our own plans so we can finally work his instead.

He doesn’t imply don’t make plans. Rather hold those plans loosely. Stay open to change. Give the Spirit room to breathe in ways we couldn’t have planned or imagined.

That’s what happened yesterday.

And that’s what can happen in small or big ways every week, in every life, when we follow him instead of demanding he follow us.

After Pastor Mark finished talking, the church worshiped a little longer in song. I glanced at the clock. Instead of our usual 20 minutes to sing, it’d already been an hour. The good plan had changed into an even better one.

Yes, do things decently and in order (1 Corinthians 14:40).
But also yes, where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom (2 Corinthians 3:17).
Those aren’t opposites; they are partners.

The tighter we hold on to God, the looser we grip our own plans.
And the more we follow him, the freer we are.

Whether it’s in a job. Within a relationship.

Or through a regularly-scheduled worship service on an irregular Sunday morning.

Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.
2 Corinthians 3:17

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Is it painful to you when plans change?

When have you let go of your own plan to discover God had a better one?


The Divine Conspiracy – Spiritual life now

In Dallas Willard’s The Divine Conspiracy, he tells us our spiritual life is now, already begun, and will continue on and on.

This world lost a spiritual giant when he died May 8, 2013. But we know he lives on. Read more quotes from Willard and a book review of The Divine Conspiracy.

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Excerpt from The Divine Conspiracy

Because we are spiritual beings, it is for our good, individually and collectively, to live our lives in interactive dependence upon God and under his kingdom rule.

Every kind of life, from the cabbage to the water buffalo, lives from a certain world that is suited to it. It is called to that world by what it is. There alone is where its well-being lies. Cut off from its special world it languishes and eventually dies.

This is how the call to spirituality comes to us.

We ought to be spiritual in every aspect of our lives because our world is the spiritual one.

It is what we are suited to.

Thus Paul, from his profound grasp of human existence, counsels us, “To fill your mind with the visible, the ‘flesh,’ is death, but to fill your mind with the spirit is life and peace” (Rom. 8:6).

As we increasingly integrate our life into the spiritual world of God, our life increasingly takes on the substance of the eternal.

We are destined for a time when our life will be entirely sustained from spiritual realities and no longer dependent in any way upon the physical. Our dying, or “mortal” condition, will have been exchanged for an undying one and death absorbed in victory.
– Dallas Willard

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