Say It More: “I Don’t Know” (And My One Word for 2018)

One Word?

Have you picked One Word for 2018? Or made any New Year resolutions?

Deciding what to work on for a new year can be confusing. (See 3 Steps to Choose One Word.) There are so many good things to choose from. How do we know which things will be helpful when we don’t know what the year will deliver?

It’s a mystery.

None of us knows the exact tools we’ll need for 2018.

It can be uncomfortable at best. We don’t want to be unprepared, be caught looking stupid, or miss out on good opportunities.

But at its worst, the mystery can even feel dangerous. We’re vulnerable to the unknown. If we misread warning signs or aren’t ready for new challenges, will our destinies be changed forever?

Anxiety about the future can put pressure on us to learn more, to try harder, to have more self-discipline in 2018 than we did in 2017.

Who can live joyfully under such anxiety?

My One Word 2018: Mystery

Instead of fighting the unknown, I want to team up with it. I’m choosing “Mystery” as my One Word for 2018.

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How can I practice Mystery this year?

I’m starting with this: “I don’t know.”

I want to say “I don’t know” more often, not to dumb down what I do know, but to acknowledge there is more that I don’t know. And to make peace with that.

2 Things I Don’t Know for Sure

  • GOD

God is too big for my brain. While we can know many things about God—he is grace, he is beauty, he is love—we know so little. His ways, his thoughts, are beyond our understanding. We shine our brightest when we don’t put words in his mouth, but just let his words come out of ours.

Knowing that he loves me and that I love him is enough. Christ himself is the mystery I know.

“…The mystery in a nutshell is just this: Christ is in you, therefore you can look forward to sharing in God’s glory. It’s that simple. That is the substance of our Message.”
Colossians 1:27

  • WHY

I also don’t know why most things happen. Why do some healthy people get cancer and some abusers live to 100? Why can one woman never conceive a child while another woman has a dozen kids? Why does God seem to wait so long to answer some prayers yet answer others so quickly?

I don’t know why. Nor do I have to explain it.

“Just as you’ll never understand the mystery of life forming in a pregnant woman, so you’ll never understand the mystery at work in all that God does.”
Ecclesiastes 11:5

My Asks

So as I practice Mystery as a spiritual discipline in 2018, I ask God for:

  • More peace in the unknown (which is basically all of life)
  • Less fear about having less control
  • Greater hold on God and less dependency on me
  • More freedom to follow the mysteries

God will let me know what I need to know, when I need to know it.

Life Is a Mystery

I’ll still make plans. Even though I don’t have all the details to work with. The outcomes are up to God, not me.

And I’ll still strive to learn more. Even though information isn’t the end goal. More knowledge is a marvel but not a salvation.

I’ll accept that life is a mystery. A beautiful one. Sometimes a startling one. But in the end, always a good one when Love leads the way.

And everything else?
I don’t know.
I don’t have to.

“Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own.”
Proverbs 3:5

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What about you? Are you a mystery lover already (not me)? Or do you like to know as much as you can (that’s me)? Are you choosing one word this year? Please share in the comments.

Want more? Here’s a short article on Embracing Mystery at Spirituality and Practice.

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Five Links, Books, and Things I Love – January 2018

That was so 2017. Now it’s 2018!

Here are favorites from December and what I’m looking forward to in January. We share once a month at Leigh’s.

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[If you can’t see the 1 Second Everyday video, click here]

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5 Things Around the Web

1. Celebrate World Introvert Day, January 2
by Jenn Granneman

For us introverts, we celebrate surviving another set of holidays surrounded by people and activity.

“The idea is that introverts set aside this time to recharge after the busy, tiring holiday season. It’s also a day to bring awareness to introversion and remind the world that being an introvert is something awesome, not shameful.”

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2. Clear to Neutral: The One Habit That Stops You From Procrastinating
by Thanh Pham

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“The main idea behind Clearing to Neutral is you set yourself up for success. Anytime you finish your activity, do a little routine where you set it up so the next time you start, there is no friction. In other words, you set up your environment for next time.”

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3. The Most Mispronounced Words of 2017
by Christina Kline, CNN

“Here is Babbel’s list of the top 10 mispronounced words in 2017, complete with how to say them so you don’t keep butchering them.”

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4. How to Love Visiting Church Members in the Hospital
by Timothy Raymond

This isn’t just for pastors. And not just for visiting fellow “church members.”

“Hospital visitation is a unique opportunity for pastors to demonstrate Christian love and speak gospel words into the minds and hearts of those who, due to the circumstances, may be unusually attentive.”

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5. 2017 Politics, GIF-Wrapped
by Brenna Williams

Regardless of your politics, these should just make you smile. We all need that from 2017, yes?

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5 Things about Books

1. The 2018 Reading Challenge
at Modern Mrs. Darcy

It’s just 12 books. I love the practicality and intention of this challenge.

“On our list, we won’t ask you to read a book that’s periwinkle blue, or that’s by an author who shares your name, or that has a vegetable in the title. Instead, we’re focusing on twelve categories that have delivered best-of-the-year reading experiences to thousands of readers over the years.”

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2. 10 Best Books I Read in 2017
by Emily Freeman

I’ll be returning to this list in 2018 to track down some of these books.

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3. Easy Bible Reading Challenge – 31 Days in Proverbs
at DoNotDepart

Here’s a reading challenge any of us can do. Read 1 chapter of Proverbs every day. Be finished by the end of January. Download a free packet.

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4. My Own Favorite Books of 2017

  • Some are about healing the divisions in our country.
  • Some are about God and faith.
  • Some are memoirs of real-life people and meaning.

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5. Want to Read More in 2018? Here’s how. 

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5 Things I Love

1. Nurture App

Morgan has used this pregnancy tracker for our baby Riley. I downloaded it, too. It’s been fun seeing the development of the baby along the way. And now we’re in the final countdown!

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2. Christmas with My Daughters

We did Christmas at several places this year, but our immediate family went to Morgan’s house this year since she couldn’t come to us.

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Jenna, Morgan (and baby Riley), Lisa

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3. And the Men

It was fun having everyone together again, including all the husbands!

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Fuller, Jeff, Trey

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4. Steak Tradition

For Christmas with Jeff’s family, we always have grilled steak and twice-baked potatoes. It was a blustery day but the men did their part well.

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Steve, Trey, Jeff

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5. Boardgames Anyone?

We broke out my (very) old Clue game at Morgan’s house. My daughters have learned all my tricks now. I no longer can dominate. I need some updated strategies.

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5 Things on the Blog

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What was one of your highlights from December? What are you looking forward to in January? Please share in the comments.

previous Links and Books


On the Blog – December 2017

Summaries and links to blog posts for December 2017


31-Days Proverbs Reading Challenge

Interested in a short Bible reading challenge to start off 2018?

Here’s a 31-day challenge from DoNotDepart.

Read one chapter of Proverbs every day in January.

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You can download a complete packet for free. With it, you can journal, keep track of notes, write down study insights, etc.

You can also join the DoNotDepart community Facebook group to discuss what you’re learning.

Get all the details here.

And if you want to read the whole Bible in 2 years (1 year is too quick for me), here is a 2-year Bible reading plan that I use over and over.

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Do you like a reading plan? What works for you? Please share in the comments.


5 Relationship Tools to Carry into 2018

Relationship Tools from Favorite Blog Posts 2017

Have any of your friendships been bruised in 2017? It’s been a tumultuous year. It’s uncovered differences we either were unaware of or that we had buried.

What are some practical steps we can take to recover relationships?

Here are five favorite relationship lessons from stories in 2017 that I want to carry into 2018.

1. Embrace the Page You’re On

I didn’t hear the actual sound. The gun shot. But I knew what it meant.

Another story ended? Or not?

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2. Just Say You’re Sorry

Julie said, “I’m sorry” to Anna. She wasn’t supposed to. But when she did, I saw Jesus in her. I want to see more of Jesus in me.

Maybe I need to say “I’m sorry” more often.

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3. Don’t Take This Personally

He was rude to me. I was offended.

Do we make life too much about us? Everyone is the star in their own movie. What if we didn’t take it personally?

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4. Unfollow a Friend to Keep a Friend

Should I say something? My friend linked an article on Facebook that is the opposite of what I believe. Do these dilemmas happen to you, too?

If we get angry on Facebook, should we speak up? Or get off? Or just unfollow?

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5. Assume the Best

It was definitely a bark. A dog in the library? No, it was a woman.

We rarely know the whole story. How can we learn to give others the benefit of the doubt? Five ways to assume the best.

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What did you learn in 2017? What do you want to do better in 2018? Please share your comments here.


6 Books I Recommend – December 2017

Here are 6 books I recommend from what I read in December. Once a month we share our current reading lists at Jennifer’s.

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Books I Recommend

1. The Better Angels of Our Nature
Why Violence Has Declined
by Steven Pinker

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Believe it or not, statistics show that the world is getting less violent, not more. This book is lengthy and detailed, but so worth the months it took me to read it. It’s one of my favorite 10 books of 2017.

2. Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine
by Gail Honeyman

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This is the story of a plain-Jane young woman who works in an office by day, and keeps to herself at night. Little by little, the story unfolds about the horrific past she has survived. The book picks up speed once you get past the first few chapters and reels you in to caring about Eleanor.

3. The Gatekeepers
How the White House Chiefs of Staff Define Every Presidency
by Chris Whipple

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Such an interesting look back on history through the eyes of the former Chiefs of Staff for the modern Presidents of the U.S. The story proceeds in a chronological fashion from both Republican and Democratic Presidents and the behind-the-scenes workings of government and personalities.

4. Building a StoryBrand
Clarify Your Message So Customers Will Listen
by Donald Miller

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This might be classified as a business book, but it’s really a book about communicating well. You can use it to apply to any area of your life, not just promoting a business brand. It’s another one of my top 10 books of 2017.

5. Ordering Our Affections
Advent 

by Dr. Melissa McCrory Hatcher

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Read more here on Ordering Our Affections: Advent

This compact Advent devotional is different. It gives you scriptures readings as you would expect, but it also gives you space to stop and breathe, suggestions to look at a specific painting or listen to a suggested hymn, you write a letter to a loved one, etc. I found these distinctions breathed new life into my devotional time for Advent.

6. Come, Let Us Adore Him
A Daily Advent Devotional
by Paul David Tripp

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My review here of Come, Let Us Adore Him

This is another short devotional book that is wonderful for Advent. I don’t always appreciate his repetitiveness, but as is typical for Tripp, he does make me think more about God in all his beauty and glory.

Reading Now

  • The Knowledge Illusion
    Why We Never Think Alone
    by Steven Sloman
  • Homo Deus
    A Brief History of Tomorrow
    by Yuval Noah Harari
  • What Unites Us
    Reflections on Patriotism
    by Dan Rather
  • The Daniel Dilemma
    How to Stand Firm and Love Well in a Culture of Compromise
    by Chris Hodges
  • The Trespasser
    by Tana French
  • Blessed Are the Misfits
    Great News for Believers Who Are Introverts, Spiritual Strugglers, or Just Feel Like They’re Missing Something
    by Brant Hansen
  • American Grace
    How Religion Divides and Unites Us
    by Robert D. Putnam

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What good book have you read this month? Please share in the comments.

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