Whether you’re deciding what to cook for dinner or when to plan a beach trip or should you buy a new car, there are processes to help you. I’ve been reading several in Chip Heath and Dan Heath’s book Decisive.
One strategy they recommend is: Attain some distance before deciding. (It’s the “A” of their WRAP strategy.) Don’t base your decision on short-term emotions only (well, maybe on supper plans you can; time does matter there).
How? Use 10/10/10.
It’s three questions you ask yourself (and it’s also a book by Suzy Welch, its inventor). It puts your decision in three different time frames:
- How will I feel about it 10 minutes from now?
- How about 10 months from now?
- How about 10 years from now?
I’m currently trying to decide about a mission trip this fall to Guatemala.
- In the heat of the moment, if I say, “Yes!” I’ll be excited, but also a little anxious about details to work through.
- In ten months from now, if I decided yes to go, I’ll have had a new experience with God that I’ll still be working through and some new friends as well. If I decided not to go, no change except more money in the bank.
- And ten years from now? It’ll either be a memory of something I recommend (or not!), or I won’t even remember it was an option.
I have more prayer and conversations ahead before I make a final decision, but this framework of putting things into perspective does help.
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What helps you make decisions? Have you tried this approach before? I’d love to hear.
- God is present now
- Is your “to-do” list holy?