The ladies at Manna House had cooked and boxed the meals already. They were ready to be delivered. I had a shopping cart of 50 of them to load into the back of my car Wednesday afternoon. It rarely takes long. I can do it alone if no one is around to help.
I used to think being self-sufficient was the nice thing. Do it myself. Don’t let anyone help. It might inconvenience them.
But if someone asks if I need help, I’ve discovered a better answer than my typical “No thanks—I can do it myself.”
When three young volunteers asked if they could help me Wednesday, I gave the better answer.
I’m learning now to say, “Yes, thank you! I’d appreciate your help.”
It seems the greater gift. Because it’s not only about me.
I asked the three men where they were from. One was from Oregon. Another from Arizona. And the third from Mexico.
And yet they all ended up as friends and co-workers in Alabama, volunteering at Manna House, loading the car of a native Alabamian so I could carry the food to others.
I could have loaded my car just fine without their help.
But I would have missed out on their joy of friendship. And they would have missed out on the blessing of helping another.
Saying “Yes, I’d love your help” was a gift all the way around. I’m glad I’m learning to unwrap it.
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Do you overvalue self-sufficiency too? How do you break yourself of the “I can do it myself” habit? Please share in the comments.
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