I heard my friend had a “Karen” moment. Ugh.
While it was a vague incident with no one person harmed, it still harmed the reputation of the Black community in general, which hurts a lot of people collectively.
Including, well, all of us.
Oppressive words and actions are bad for everybody, regardless of which side of them you’re on.
So I was troubled.
When other people do things we don’t think are right (according to us), what do we do?
- Should we say something?
- How far does our responsibility extend to confront it?
- When is it better to just forgive and forget?
7 Healing Steps for Relationships
I just finished reading The Four Laws of Love, a book on relationships (marriage in particular, but much of it can apply to any relationship). My daughter Jenna read it first, then loaned it to me.
Here are 7 steps mentioned by the author Jimmy Evans when issues arise in relationships.
1. Take responsibility for your own behavior
2. Do not return sin for sin
3. Admit your faults
5. Speak the truth in love
6. Pray for each other
7. Seek healthy friends and fellowship
These steps helped me clarify my own motivations concerning my friend’s Karen moment.
And they also reminded me I have blind spots too. I say things and think things that harm other people.
I want others to give me grace. And I also want others to confront me about my issues so I can grow.
We all need to keep learning from our weaknesses. To become more aware. To repent. To change.
And to do it surrounded by love.
Are you having more trouble making decisions these days? Joanne Viola mentions these:
- How do we know we are making the right decision?
- Essential or non-essential?
- Mask or no mask?
- Three feet, six feet, or ten feet?
- In person or online?
- Vacation or not?
- Hybrid, remote, or homeschool?
We’re also questioning the decisions that other people make, which can be dangerous.
Joanne concludes this:
“As we weigh options and seek God to help us make right and good decisions, let’s trust that He is guiding each one of us. The decision may look differently for each of us, but it may still be the right one for each.”
Read all of her wonderful post here at her blog, JoanneViola.com. Her words can help us all be a little less judgmental and a lot more gracious toward each other.
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