7 Gifts of Menopause

I remember a change in my mother in her mid-life years. She spoke up more for herself. She became more assertive. It was a good thing to see. 

They say that in mid-life a woman finds it harder to repress pain and anger. Cheryl Bridges Johns writes that,

“Women begin to take note of the disparity in power, injustice in society, betrayal in relationships, and disappointments that they once were willing to overlook.”

I don’t know if that can be attributed to a change in hormones or not. But whatever the cause, I have seen it happen again and again as women get older.

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In Johns’ new book, Seven Transforming Gifts of Menopause, she makes a case for women to use this phase of life to transform into a new way of being in the world, to use this “sacred space to discover a deeper, more mature relationship with God.”

She says there are seven developmental tasks for each woman to face, revealing seven gifts of menopause:

  1. The Gift of Uncovering
    Uncovering the repressed and hidden parts of your life
  2. The Gift of Anger
    Getting in touch with your anger
  3. The Gift of Authentic Self
    Recovering your authentic self
  4. The Gift of Expanded Time
    Living in expanded time
  5. The Gift of Spiritual Freedom
    Claiming your spiritual freedom
  6. The Gift of Vision
    Embracing a holy vision (calling)
  7. The Gift of Courage
    Returning to your courageous dragon self

To receive these gifts, Johns says to lean into the storm and get in touch with your body. Feel your feelings. Remember your memories. Grieve your losses.

And don’t do it alone. Do it with friends. Do it with God.

Using the seven gifts of menopause prepares you for the second half of life as “a person with the courage, strength, and power needed to face a future that may look quite uncertain.”

Claim the gift of spiritual freedom. It comes with “an enlarged vision of God.” And an enlarged vision of yourself.

I saw it happen with my mother. I hope I’ll see it happen with myself, too. 

My thanks to Net Galley
for the review copy of this book

9 thoughts on “7 Gifts of Menopause

  1. Laurie

    I am already past that phase of life. I don’t remember feeling especially angry but I think I am more willing to speak my mind now and I don’t need the approval of others as much as I once did, which is a good thing. I don’t know if it was the physical changes I went through or just the accumulated wisdom over the years. I like to think it was the latter! 🙂

  2. Diane@worthbeyondrubies

    Been through this phase of life and while there was no “returning” to my “dragon self”, there was definitely courage that came with it and I am quite comfortable with myself now where I always needed to have people around before. I’ve grown to enjoy the alone time when I get it! Also, I had always been too timid to speak up for myself. Oh did that ever change! I have to keep it in check otherwise anger (another new one for me) can easily seep in. Thank you for sharing this book with us and thank you for linking up @worthbeyondrubies

  3. Jean Wise

    This discussion is so needed. I thrived after menopause in ways I didn’t expect. One of the best gifts was less depression – which for me the hormones influenced quite a bit. We need to get this news out to our daughters and others. The second half of life is full of gifts.

  4. Laura Thomas

    Sounds like a fascinating read… I feel like we need all the encouragement we can get in this mysterious menopausal season of life! 😬Thanks for sharing, Lisa. Stopping by from #graceandtruth

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