Thanksgiving Isn’t Over – Stay Unbusy

One Complaint Leads to Another

Last week’s Sunday worship was warming. We praised God for his goodness. We sang songs and felt deep gratitude to God for who he is, for what he’s done.

We were taking the attitude of gratitude home with us.

Until the amen.

We were dismissed. Unfortunately, my attitude of thanksgiving dismissed itself, too. The friend beside me was questioning why it had to be so cold in the sanctuary. Yes, I agreed, why? I’m freezing.

One verbal complaint led to more mental complaints. Many of them centered around time.

  • Why is it taking so long to find Jeff in the crowd?
  • What time will we ever get to eat lunch today?
  • I need more time this afternoon to get things done.

It’s hard to keep a grateful heart when I feel pressed for time.

Do You Have Enough Time?

I struggle to be content with time. I have more things I want to do than time available to do them.

“If you feel ‘crunched for time,’ then you are. It’s as simple as that.“
– Andy Draft

I want more time. I need more time. Yes?

But this week of Thanksgiving—this life of thanksgiving—tells me otherwise.

It whispers, “Enough.”

I’ve always had enough. Now is enough, too. So why do I think there won’t be enough time in the future to accomplish what God wants to accomplish through me?

I want to trade my attitude of crunched for an attitude of enough.

Changing Attitudes

We had read Colossians 3:15-17 that morning in church. It said,

  • Let peace rule.
    And be thankful.
  • Let the Word dwell.
    And give thanks.

To let peace rule and to let the Word dwell—which prompts giving thanks—I need to change my discontentment with time.

“Most of us feel some level of time famine. We do not think we have enough time for all the things we feel the need to do. We feel like we are starving for time. These feelings have serious consequences.”

That’s what Andy Dragt says in his new book Unbusy, that it’s not about doing more things but about doing the right things.

He says design the flow of your time so you’re free to spend as much time as it takes to achieve the important things.

But how can we arrange our time to accomplish the big things?

Dragt suggests we bring more structure, not less. Because “the opposite of structure is not freedom; it’s chaos.” And that takes deliberate intention.

“It takes work to design and live out an unbusy life.“

We have to define our values, purpose and priorities. Then plan our daily actions and routines around those goals.

Yet remain flexible within those routines.

“Be like water, and find a way to flow around the obstacles that come your way. There will be times when you need to shift into dramatically different rhythms and patterns to deal with what comes your way.”

I know my battle with time isn’t over. I still lust for more. But by being thankful for the time that I do have, my heart is more peaceful.

My attitude about time is an important part of how I spend it.

I want to foster the habit of being unbusy. Because of this: I want to live in the season of thanksgiving not only this week, but every week.

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Do you feel you have enough time? Or do you always want more? Please share your battles and successes with time in the comments. I need to hear.

(If you have Kindle Unlimited, you can read Unbusy for free.)

My thanks to SpeakEasy
for the review copy of Unbusy


6 Books I Recommend – November 2019

“One of the paradoxes of writing is that when you write nonfiction everyone tries to prove that it’s wrong, and when you publish fiction, everyone tries to see the truth in it.”
– Scarlet Thomas

Every month I share the best of what I’ve finished reading. Here are books I recommend from November. See all my recommended books here.

And to complete the Nonfiction November challenge, I also include a roundup of books recommended to me from other participants this month.

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Books I Recommend

Nonfiction

1. A Thousand Lives
The Untold Story of Hope, Deception, and Survival at Jonestown

by Julia Scheeres

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If I didn’t know this really happened, I’d say it’s unbelievable. Jim Jones took his cult members from the United States to live in a commune in Guyana in the 1970s.

By 1978, Jones had such a grip on them, he convinced the adults to commit suicide as a group. (And the more than 300 kids? The adults gave them the cyanide first, then took it themselves.) 918 people died.

It’s an atrocious, horrible story. But well-written and well-documented by Julia Scheeres.

No time for the book? Here’s an interesting article about it instead.

“Jonestown: Government inaction haunts 41 years after grisly deaths”

2. The Complete Enneagram
27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge

by Beatrice Chestnut

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There are lots of books on the Enneagram out there (here’s a list of my 3 favorites). But this is one of the most thorough books.

Chestnut goes into detail on the three subtypes of each of the nine types, for a total of 27 types to learn about.

(Can a book be too thorough? This book left me more confused about which type to identify with.)

3. Something Needs to Change
A Call to Make Your Life Count in a World of Urgent Need
by David Platt

Something Needs to Change

This book is a travel diary. That makes it different from Platt’s other books. However, the message is the same: believe in Jesus and share his love with others.

The setting is a week-long mission trip to the Himalayas. Platt keeps a record of and shares with the reader about who he meets along the way, their struggles, and his struggles with their struggles.

The book is easy to read and moves quickly, as Platt travels through the mountains. I don’t agree 100% with Platt’s theology, but I love his heart for others and for God.

4. Unbusy
How to Leverage the Physics of Flow to Accomplish More of What Truly Matters and Feel Less Busy at the Same Time

by Andy Dragt

Unbusy

This is a short book about time management from the perspective of flow. It went a little long for my taste covering rivers and trees and the Constructal Law.

But I did gain from it about values, purposes, and priorities.

And Dragt affirmed my use of calendars. He is a big believer on freeing up your time by getting predictable about everything you can.

My review of Unbusy here.

Fiction

5. Washington Black
by Esi Edugyan

Washington Black

The story begins on a sugar plantation in Barbados with an 11-year-old slave, Washington Black. His life takes a big turn when he meets the master’s brother, Titch, an inventor and abolitionist.

You go a lot of tender places on this journey with Wash. Hard truths but also sweet graces are in this novel.

This book has won many awards, and I understand why.

6. A Place for Us
by Fatima Farheen Mirza

A Place for Us

This novel begins at the wedding of an Indian couple in America. You immediately feel the tension between the bride’s brother and the rest of the family.

The story progresses back and forth through time to deliver the backstory, bringing you back to the wedding. And eventually catches up, progressing a few years beyond the time of the wedding.

It’s a sweet story of hardships and struggles among each family member as they interact with each other and the broader community as Muslims in America.

Reading Now

  • The Alice Network
    by Kate Quinn
  • What Is a Girl Worth?
    My Story of Breaking the Silence and Exposing the Truth about Larry Nassar and USA Gymnastics
    by Rachael Denhollander
  • Blessed Broken Given
    How Your Story Becomes Sacred in the Hands of Jesus
    by Glenn Packiam
  • Millenneagram
    The Enneagram Guide for Discovering Your Truest, Baddest Self
    by Hannah Paasch
  • Thinking, Fast and Slow
    by Daniel Kahneman
  • Introverts in the Church
    Finding Our Place in an Extroverted Culture
    by Adam S. McHugh
  • Outer Order, Inner Calm
    Declutter and Organize to Make More Room for Happiness
    by Gretchen Rubin

Books Recommended to Me

These are books I have NOT read. But I’ve added them to my TBR list from other Nonfiction November bloggers for our final week of #NonficNov (this week’s linkup is hosted by Rennie). Any comments on which I should read?

  • The Library Book
    by Susan Orlean
    Recommended by Bryan
  • Why You Should Read Children’s Books, Even Though You Are So Old and Wise
    by Katherine Rundell
    Recommended by Jade
  • Black Klansman: Race, Hate, and the Undercover Investigation of a Lifetime
    by Ron Stallworth
    Recommended by Tina
  • Merton: An Enneagram Profile
    by Suzanne Zuercher
    Recommended by Emma

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What good book are YOU reading this month? Please share in the comments.

Want more book recommendations? I posted these this month:

My books on Goodreads
More books I recommend

sharing with Modern Mrs. Darcy


Which Shape Should I Be? – Book for Toddlers

Which Shape Should I Be? is just the right size boardbook for toddler hands to hold and turn pages.

And it uses just the right size words and concepts to match.

Which Shape Should I Be

Each page explores a shape, clearly defined, then invites you to interact by finding the shape in the accompanying picture. The images are brightly colored in bold shapes of activities that children can relate to.

The ending is delightful as well:

God shapes every girl and boy
with love so wondrously
Because He knows the best shape
for each one of us to be!

“I will praise you because I have been remarkably and wondrously made.”
Psalm 139:14

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My thanks to B&H/LifeWay Bloggers
for the review copy of this book


Keep Empty Spaces

“Without margin, each of us would have great difficulty guaranteeing availability. Instead, when God calls, He gets the busy signal.”
– Richard Swenson

Keep Empty Spaces

E—Empty Spaces

Have you ever felt closed in? Perhaps you do when you open a kitchen junk drawer or an overflowing bedroom closet.

When things are too crowded together, there’s no breathing space.

While God may be in stuff, our belongings, our collections, he is also the glue that keeps all our empty spaces connected.

Try This

Look for holes today. Empty spots. Blank spaces.

  • Maybe it’s a vacant spot on a shelf.
  • Or an empty photo frame.
  • Or an unfilled glass sitting by the sink.

Imagine God breathing in the empty spaces. View them as open areas where God is sitting with you, wanting you to luxuriate in a little extra breathing room, a spaciousness that he fills with himself.

Take a few deep breaths and notice the space around you where your exhale goes. God is in the unfulfilled spaces as much as he is in the things he created around them.

Thank him for the margins in your life, for the gaps that allow you to move about.

Sit with him in the empty spaces for a few more minutes, then return to your day.

Further Reading

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Where do you see an empty space in your environment? Are you comfortable with it? How is God there? Please share in the comments.

Next in the series:

Index: See all 26 ways to encounter God here.

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updated from the archives


3 Reasons You Don’t Read Nonfiction and Why You Should Anyway

Look at why you don’t read nonfiction books. And see how you can change your mind.

Here are LOTS of my favorite, 5-star nonfiction books.

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Why You Hate Nonfiction

I love a fun novel. Fiction books can pull me deep into a story, wanting to read on and on. They also can be educational and insightful in their own ways.

As a result, many fiction readers avoid nonfiction books. They’ve found what they love in fiction; why read anything else? Plus . . .

(1) They often think nonfiction books are boring.

They fell asleep studying a high school chemistry text and why repeat that? They don’t want to read a scientific summary of dull data or a detailed description of an event that happened centuries ago. They want a story that entertains, not a sermon that lectures.

(2) Nonfiction books also have a reputation for being too long.

Being assigned to read long passages of text for work or school in short periods of time make us restless. Authors can attempt to tell everything they know about a topic, interesting or not, relevant or not. Readers grow tired before the writer does.

(3) A third reason people often dislike nonfiction books is they can present opposing views.

Opinions, philosophies, and theology differ from person and person. We aren’t keen on spending time listening to opposing ones, even a short article shared by a Facebook friend on the other side of the aisle.

So why bother with nonfiction at all?

3 Ways to Try Nonfiction

Here are 3 reasons and ways to give nonfiction another try, even if you prefer fiction.

(1) Explore WHAT types of nonfiction books to read.

Boring textbooks are only one style of nonfiction books. If you haven’t read a nonfiction book since school days, experiment with the different styles of new books available. Modern marketing and ease of publication have steered many older and new authors to write in more engaging styles, use more relevant illustrations, and speak in everyday language instead of only ivory tower prose. See Dreyer’s English: An Utterly Correct Guide to Clarity and Style by Benjamin Dreyer as an example. It’s a wonderfully delightful book on, of all things, grammar.

Also, many nonfiction books are told with a strong narrative thread. They are plot-driven and present their facts in story form. If you prefer novels, find a nonfiction book that reads like one. Barbara Demick’s book, Nothing to Envy: Ordinary Lives in North Korea, is a fascinating story that exposes you to another culture but through a strong narrative voice. Or try The Sun Does Shine: How I Found Life and Freedom on Death Row by Anthony Ray Hinton about his death sentence for a crime he didn’t commit.

Another advantage of nonfiction books is they are often compiled by a variety of authors in one edition. Try In Search of Wisdom: A Monk, a Philosopher, and a Psychiatrist on What Matters Most by Matthieu Ricard, Christophe André, and Alexandre Jollien. You will enjoy hearing different voices in conversation around a single topic.

Or read a book by one author but on a variety of topics. Try Bob Goff’s book Everybody, Always: Becoming Love in a World Full of Setbacks and Difficult People. It is a new story in every chapter about Goff’s life experiences, and is sure to entertain and inspire you to love better.

And if you actually are into charts and graphs? Nonfiction will offer your a treasure trove of options to feed your information addiction. Try Steven Pinker’s Enlightenment Now: The Case for Reason, Science, Humanism, and Progress. It contains 75 graphs, but it is fascinating information. (It’s also Bill Gates’ favorite book.)

(2) Experiment with HOW you read nonfiction books.

With a novel, you start at the beginning and read in a straight line until you get to the end. But with a nonfiction book, you often have options.

You don’t always have to start at the beginning. Pick a favorite chapter and read that one first. Or only that one. Start at the end to get the conclusion, then start over at the beginning.

Slow down for new material; quickly scan or skip material you already know. Try skipping around in James Clear’s Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones (but you will want to read it all eventually, trust me!).

Also experiment with time or page limits. For tough books, commit to only 5 minutes a day. Or 5 pages. You’ll be surprised how good it feels to make daily progress, even if it is slow. You will eventually finish as long as you continue forward. When I was reading Tears We Cannot Stop: A Sermon to White America by Michael Eric Dyson, I committed to reading 5 pages a day. And it was so worth it.

(3) Examine WHY you read nonfiction books.

While your purposes for reading nonfiction may overlap with fiction, there are also distinctions. With nonfiction, you’re more likely to be searching for facts, for truth, for knowledge that can help you going forward (even if it’s about events already past). Try Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data, and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are by Seth Stephens-Davidowitz.

But nonfiction can be beneficial in the spiritual dimension as well. By exposing you to more knowledge—even if it’s knowledge you’re having to doublecheck—you are also exposed to seeing another side of yourself that you may not have seen before. Try Scot McKnight’s The Blue Parakeet: Rethinking How You Read the Bible. Or Barbara Brown Taylor’s Leaving Church: A Memoir of Faith. You don’t have to agree with everything to still learn something.

Whether it’s in a memoir or a book about space or theology itself, look for the beauty and goodness of humanity, inviting you into wonder and awe of our world, such as in Paul W. Brand’s The Gift of Pain: Why We Hurt & What We Can Do About It (previously titled The Gift Nobody Wants, the title I prefer).

On the flip side, also stay aware of invitations to use YOU to make a difference in places that need change and light. Try Just Mercy: A Story of Justice and Redemption by Bryan Stevenson. Or I Am Malala: The Story of the Girl Who Stood Up for Education and Was Shot by the Taliban by Malala Yousafzai.

While you can’t trust any nonfiction to be 100% accurate, it can still expose you to different perspectives to consider and test. Let nonfiction stretch you into questioning previously-held beliefs—whether about science or religion or history—so you can refine how you see yourself, other people, and your world through a more precise and possibly more compassionate lens. Try The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion by Jonathan Haidt. Or I Think You’re Wrong (but I’m Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversations by Beth A. Silvers and Sarah Stewart Holland.

From the Head to the Heart

Maybe you still won’t fall in love with nonfiction like I have.

But by adding a few nonfiction books on your nightstand (and keep reading your novels, too), you might see nonfiction is not as bad as you think.

Not only will you learn new facts, new truths, and new people, but you also may learn more about yourself as well.

Fiction may touch the heart head-on, but nonfiction can reach your heart, too. It just takes a different path: through your head.

Don’t miss the touch, however it reaches you.

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Do you prefer fiction or nonfiction? What’s a favorite nonfiction book you can recommend? Please share in the comments.

Read more:


Is God Good? 3 Ways to Find God’s Goodness

We can’t share about God’s goodness if we don’t see it.

Do you know how God has been good to YOU?

On any given day, we can see bad things happen around us. We wonder why God isn’t rushing in to remove all obstacles or heal all sicknesses, even though He can.

When we don’t understand what is happening, we can be quick to jump to wrong conclusions.

But what if instead of jumping to blame, we jump instead to grace?

3 Ways to Find the Good in God

Read them all here.

Is God Good

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I’m writing today at Do Not Depart about finding the goodness of God.

Will you join me there?