The Questions I Ask Myself
The title of my own post makes me uncomfortable:
Can You Let Go of How You Want Life to Be, and Accept It as It Is?
For me, it begs the questions:
- If you accept life as it is, are you implying that everything is fine as it is?
- If you accept life as it is, are you giving up on changing bad situations into good situations?
- If you accept life as it is, are you admitting that nothing can improve?
If there are things I don’t like about life (and there are things I don’t like, such as, mass shootings, religious infighting, racial inequity, relationship conflicts, debilitating illnesses, on and on…), isn’t it counterproductive to “accept” them?
The Answers I’m Finding
No. Acceptance is not counterproductive.
In my year of Release, I’m learning more and more that I need to let go of my discontent that life isn’t fully how I want it to be right now.
I need to stop fighting against accepting things as they are.
I can never make things better if I’m not first willing to accept them as they are. Even if I don’t like them.
- Before we can apologize, we must accept we’re wrong.
- Before we can heal, we must acknowledge the wound.
- Before we can grow, we must recognize we’re stunted.
Trying to change the future before we understand the present doesn’t work well.
And we often get too far ahead of ourselves in our rush for improvement. When our thoughts drift too far into the future, we’re wise to acknowledge them, notice them, but then return again to the present moment. Without avoidance. Without suppression. Without denial.
Facing reality is the necessary first step. This is what acceptance is. This is the foundation. Until we know where we are, where we’re starting, as accurately as our minds can allow, we can’t map out proper directions to get where we want to end up.
And then, based on this knowledge, we can more clearly pursue God’s wisdom and more accurately understand God’s guidance to set goals and take action:
- to restore relationships,
- to make the world safer for everybody, and
- ultimately to grow into more loving human beings.
It still won’t be easy. And it might not even be successful, especially if it involves other people and things out of our control.
But it’s a path worth pursuing.
Face it first. Move forward second.
How do you handle facing reality? Share your thoughts in the comments.
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