Cut Down the Tree?
I didn’t want the tree cut down, of course. I never do.
But last fall when I finally understood the damage the tree’s roots could cause, I agreed. [The story is here: When It’s More Than an Empty Hole.]
And now that it’s spring, I’m glad we made the decision.
The daylilies that had previously been under the tree’s shade have bloomed more this year than they have in years. One clump bloomed for the first time in ages. The marigolds we planted are actually looking healthy and thriving when in years past they would quickly wilt and die there.
The flowers no longer have to compete with the roots of the water oak tree.
They no longer are in the shade.
They’re getting full light again.
We All Need Light
Sometimes I feel like too many needs are competing for my limited resources, too. Occasionally in my mental and spiritual life I need to get rid of a harmful tree that is sucking the life out of everything around it.
Sometimes projects and even relationships have served their purpose in this season. And while they may not have to be totally cut down and taken away, they can be gently pruned back and given less attention, so that other priorities may be given more attention.
I don’t thrive in the dark. I need to be able to spread out in the light for optimum growth.
I’ve had a decision to make the past few months to either accept a difficult circumstance in the light, or try to distract myself from it and shove my feelings about it into the dark.
Every morning I have to decide anew: face it. Every morning I say to myself, This is really happening. Even though it eats up a lot of my emotional reserves to confront it, it would eat up more to ignore it.
Because I know this: the decisions I make today can affect the outcomes I’ll face tomorrow.
Uncomfortable feelings don’t need to stay hidden in the dark.
Even sadness and pain deserve an audience in the light.
Grief Work Is Sacred
Our grief work is sacred. I’m trying to tend to mine with the compassion that God shows to each daylily and marigold in my front yard that no longer have to fight the thirsty tree for the resources they need.
I am allowed to feel what I feel without trying to ignore it, beat it into submission, or distract myself from it. God gave me emotions for a reason.
And I’m trusting God to give me wisdom to learn from my emotions and to make the right decisions, one day at a time.
Working through my pain instead of trying to skirt around it is a daily decision. I don’t always handle it properly.
But the more I practice making this decision, the easier it should become.
Just like our decision to cut down the water oak last fall paid off this spring, my prayer is that the decisions I make in this season will pay off for good in another season down the road.
Lois Flowers had a gardening decision to make, too. In our featured post, she reminds us of this truth:
“The decisions we make today affect what things will look like in five or 10 years. This applies to life in general, as well as to gardening.”
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