Yes, we sell ourselves short a lot of times, sometimes consciously and probably even more tiems unconsciously. It’s hard to see what we can’t see. This book has been really helpful in steering me to take a closer look under the hood.

That’s brilliant to grade your day AND to look back to realize that no day got an F. Too often I forget to look back and see how the evidence has been gathering up.

I actually got randomly chosen to spend a one-on-one hour on zoom this week with the author of this book, Nir Eyal. It was incredible getting to ask him questions, and watching how adeptly he asked questions of me to help me uncover my own limiting beliefs. It was a conversation I’ll continue revisiting for a long time to come.

wow what a powerful sentence this is. I have been listening to the labels I call myself and asking if they are true. I have discovered some old narratives that are no longer true or never have been.

and you example of if your whole day was ruined – When I was working fulltime and having a discouraging day I would make myself “grade” the day. First of all it made me smile then it invited me to review the whole day seeing that there were many good things. Some days then moved up and I would say B+ or A- but I don’t think I ever graded one an F even on terrible days. Silly? probably but helped me shift my mindset.

Well, gulp, I confess it didn’t even cross my mind for ME to clean up the spill in the elevator. So I appreciate your comment here; it adds even more questions for me to consider about my mindset! Thanks, Willow.

Oh, those university studies sound so intriguing to me too, Jennifer! I would have gotten in trouble alongside you. My father was quite a questioner so he set an example for me to question things. And yes, sometimes it can get us into trouble. 🙂

Yes, I have a lot of old tapes that play through my head from years ago. When I’m aware, I can catch them and question if they’re valid or not. But many often lurk underneath awareness. I hope I’ve gotten better at it as I’ve aged, but who knows? ha. Hope you’re doing well, friend!

I tested this out last night with my husband. All day I’d been regretting an email I sent a friend; I was afraid it might have sounded rude when I didn’t mean it that way at all. I finally asked my husband to look at it, and he immediately set my mind at ease, assuring me there was nothing at all rude about it. It was all in my head. I should have asked his opinion sooner. 🙂

Thanks, Linda. I think if we could make less assumptions about what the other person is thinking–and just ask instead–we’d probably have less struggles. I know I can make up some crazy stories in my head at times. 🙂