Comments on: Why Do You Ask? {Mantra 25}

By: Lois Flowers

Lois Flowers — Sat, 26 Feb 2022 17:26:10 +0000

Lisa, these questions are so helpful as I look for ways to listen to my college girl more deeply. I especially love, “Why do you ask?” It reduces the chance for wrong assumptions (mine) and reveals the heart behind the question (hers).

By: Maryleigh

Maryleigh — Fri, 25 Feb 2022 18:18:04 +0000

How I need to learn to listen below the surface! What a powerful word, “Why” is in learning to listen! As a literalist, that is a tool I need to add to my communication box! And, thank you, Lisa! I am so blessed by the post high-light! Shalom, my friend!

By: Anita Ojeda

Anita Ojeda — Fri, 25 Feb 2022 17:37:25 +0000

Oh, this is another good one, Lisa! I need to remember to use this one more often instead of just assuming I know why someone asked something. I’ve also used it a time or two when someone asked me an impertinent question ;).

By: Calvonia

Calvonia — Fri, 25 Feb 2022 16:57:03 +0000

I love this mantra. Recently someone coached me to prompt the talker during casual conversation, “Tell me more”. Today you coach me to ask more Why’s. I need this. It will prevent me from assuming, which we know is dangerous.

By: Jerralea Winn Miller

Jerralea Winn Miller — Fri, 25 Feb 2022 16:23:47 +0000

I tease my husband all the time because he is always asking “why” questions. But I really do not do it that well myself. I’ll need to focus on asking “why do you ask,” of everyone else. I ask my husband that question and he just says “because I want to know!” LOL.

By: Lisa Blair

Lisa Blair — Fri, 25 Feb 2022 14:06:32 +0000

This is a great question and reason to press in deeper, Lisa, “By asking, ‘Why do you ask?’ we move a step closer to the heart of the other person. The conversation may turn to the real reason they’ve chosen this topic to talk about.”

By: Lynn

Lynn — Fri, 25 Feb 2022 13:12:35 +0000

Great “why” questions, Lisa. I read Hugh’s book some time ago, and his guidance is timeless!

By: Joanne Viola

Joanne Viola — Fri, 25 Feb 2022 12:38:37 +0000

Lisa, I like each one of these ‘why’ questions. Each one, in a different way, will give room for open conversation and better listening. And I, too, enjoyed Maryleigh’s post when I read it earlier this week.