Comments on: Want to Talk About the Debate? How to Talk Beyond Your Bubble https://lisanotes.com/talk-beyond-your-bubble/ on Life and Love Tue, 27 Oct 2020 16:14:53 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.4.8 By: LisaNotes https://lisanotes.com/talk-beyond-your-bubble/#comment-311127 Tue, 06 Oct 2020 20:58:47 +0000 https://www.lisanotes.com/?p=23672#comment-311127 In reply to Bev @ Walking Well With God.

Sounds like you handled that conversation with such grace, Bev! I love talking to people like you. 🙂 I’ve recently been thinking through the AHEN approach for myself: When ANGRY, look for the HURT to find the unmet EXPECTATION of a NEED. I’m glad you popped by too, friend.

]]> By: LisaNotes https://lisanotes.com/talk-beyond-your-bubble/#comment-311125 Tue, 06 Oct 2020 20:54:02 +0000 https://www.lisanotes.com/?p=23672#comment-311125 In reply to mariel.

I had to take this advice to heart about NOT engaging someone this weekend. I had to remind myself (actually my daughter reminded me, thank you!) that it’s important to have boundaries. She pointed me to a friend’s post who had set healthy boundaries in this area and it really helped me say “no more” to a conversation that was getting nowhere. Sometimes our best efforts to be cordial aren’t reciprocated. 😉 And I don’t need to be tempted unnecessarily myself to let things get out of hand!

]]> By: LisaNotes https://lisanotes.com/talk-beyond-your-bubble/#comment-311122 Tue, 06 Oct 2020 20:49:17 +0000 https://www.lisanotes.com/?p=23672#comment-311122 In reply to Karen Friday.

Well, I feel like I’ve failed since I published this post. 🙂 I’ve had two different discussions (one in person and one online) that didn’t go as smoothly as I would have liked. Nothing horrible, but I would have preferred better. I’m still a work in progress.

]]> By: Bev @ Walking Well With God https://lisanotes.com/talk-beyond-your-bubble/#comment-310893 Mon, 05 Oct 2020 20:29:42 +0000 https://www.lisanotes.com/?p=23672#comment-310893 Lisa,
I like the author’s suggestion of “digging under the anger.” I was having a political discussion with a friend. We have differing opinions. I sensed her anger starting to escalate. Instead of becoming defensive, I continued to ask more questions. What surfaced was a hidden fear about the future. This provided the perfect door for me to walk through to guide the discussion to where our confidence and comfort about the future comes from – from Jesus and not a polital figure. What ensued was a really deep discussion about faith. You never know where a potential argument might lead you. So glad I popped by…
Blessings,
Bev xx

]]> By: mariel https://lisanotes.com/talk-beyond-your-bubble/#comment-310851 Mon, 05 Oct 2020 14:13:26 +0000 https://www.lisanotes.com/?p=23672#comment-310851 yes, just because you CAN have dialogue doesn’t mean you must! There are definitely some people who can disagree well and some who cannot. we must be discerning who it is we are choosing to discuss certain topics with! 😉 great, timely post. thank you for sharing!

]]> By: Karen Friday https://lisanotes.com/talk-beyond-your-bubble/#comment-310561 Sat, 03 Oct 2020 13:33:37 +0000 https://www.lisanotes.com/?p=23672#comment-310561 Lisa, thanks for sharing your story of your Sunday lunches and your dad’s love of fiery discussions. This book sounds like such fresh insight. We have lost all sense of discussing things in a cival way…along with common courtesy, social maners, and so on.

I like the thoughts that we don’t have to always have dialogue with others we disagree with and to “stay engaged in a positive direction. I try to dig underneath the anger (theirs and mine!)”

]]> By: LisaNotes https://lisanotes.com/talk-beyond-your-bubble/#comment-310423 Fri, 02 Oct 2020 19:28:52 +0000 https://www.lisanotes.com/?p=23672#comment-310423 In reply to Donna.

Yes, the “respectful” ingredient in discussions is often what’s missing, and what makes them turn ugly. 🙁 I like to learn things as well and if we only talk to those who think like we do, we miss out on those learning opportunities (even though I’m still more comfortable talking about things I agree with than things I don’t! ha). I appreciate your attitude and I believe we could have some healthy dialogues ourselves. 😉

]]> By: LisaNotes https://lisanotes.com/talk-beyond-your-bubble/#comment-310416 Fri, 02 Oct 2020 19:21:02 +0000 https://www.lisanotes.com/?p=23672#comment-310416 In reply to Lauren Renee Sparks.

It was hard to narrow down which quotes to share. Lots more good stuff in this book!

]]> By: LisaNotes https://lisanotes.com/talk-beyond-your-bubble/#comment-310409 Fri, 02 Oct 2020 19:14:27 +0000 https://www.lisanotes.com/?p=23672#comment-310409 In reply to Joanne Viola.

I mainly have these conversations lately only with those very closest to me, and mostly those who are on the same page. Times are definitely shaky right now and I don’t want to add to the firestorm. 🙁

]]> By: LisaNotes https://lisanotes.com/talk-beyond-your-bubble/#comment-310406 Fri, 02 Oct 2020 19:10:43 +0000 https://www.lisanotes.com/?p=23672#comment-310406 In reply to Mary Geisen.

Sometimes I have more of my dad in me than I like. ha. He loved a good discussion. Yes, the book Beyond Your Bubble has principles that apply to any area of disagreement. The examples they used in the book were on abortion, climate change, politics, etc., but we each could add our own individual areas.

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