Comments on: It’s Retirement Time – But I’ll Keep Working the Lessons

By: Lynn D. Morrissey

Lynn D. Morrissey — Wed, 22 Jun 2022 15:09:57 +0000

Lisa, somehow, I’d missed this post! Congratulations to both you and Jeff on this milestone!! I think when Michael “retired” four years ago this Dec., I superimposed my own fears/discomfort of “coming home full-time” when I left my career to raise Sheridan onto him. I had a huge, extremely responsible nonprofit job that I both loved and hated (Dickens’s “the best of times; the worst of times” scenario). It was a tough transition, but God comforted me and showed me there is a whole other world outside the business world, and as He had before (when I didn’t want to leave my home in the first place to go to work!), He would give me purpose back at home. Michael had a huge nonprofit, executive job, as well, and he was so good at what he did and so needed by that agency. I really thought he would miss it and be lost without it. I *presumed* he’d be bored out of his mind! That was not the case at all. He didn’t miss a beat in doing projects, helping others (on a less perhaps visible scale), and serving on a nonprofit board and at church. AND I’ve loved having him home. It’s delightful.

From my perspective, too, I think I was selfish in fearing that my own little world and preferences (alone at home) would be upturned. I had been the Queen of my Castle when Sheridan entered school. But because Mike has always had such a laid-back, kind personality, he has never objected, as an example, to my long “quiet times,” etc. My only regret is that exactly 2 yrs ago today (6.22.20), I was slammed w/ vertigo, and it has changed absolutely EVERYTHING about my daily existence and dependence upon him. I do feel burdensome. We’d planned travelling abroad again and all those fun things couples can finally do, and that may not materialize if God doesn’t heal me. Still, I encourage him and Sheridan to go… then COVID. so we shall see.

WOW. SORRY! As usual, I digress big time, but this is a great post of yours and judging by the comments, a much-needed one. I know that you and Jeff are savoring every day together! Congrats again!

xo
L

By: Maureen

Maureen — Mon, 09 May 2022 19:14:00 +0000

Congratulations to Jeff’s retirement! That’s a milestone and an achievement. I can relate to your story because my hubby is similar to you. Always ahead and always about future planning. I am similar to your hubby. Live and love the present. Don’t worry about the past nor the future!! I am sure everything will work out fine. They always do. So kudos!

Maureen | http://www.littlemisscasual.com

By: Tamar Strauss-Benjamin

Tamar Strauss-Benjamin — Mon, 09 May 2022 12:37:15 +0000

Congrats on his retirement!!

By: Tea With Jennifer

Tea With Jennifer — Mon, 09 May 2022 05:26:07 +0000

We keep learning in our marriages Lisa even in retirement, don’t we!
Blessings,
Jennifer

By: JeanWise

JeanWise — Sun, 08 May 2022 20:07:17 +0000

First of all congrats to Jeff. I retired first, adjusted, then Bill retired two years later, more adjustment. Each time took time but worked. It helps me to have an office I can go to and he usually respects that. Funny thing is we both are now working part-time. What is great though about retirement – we choose to work and are blessed to know we can quit if we feel it no longer fits – a freedom we didn’t have in younger years. May may surprises and joys await you both!

By: Karen Friday

Karen Friday — Sat, 07 May 2022 21:29:23 +0000

Lisa, like so many couples about retirement or other issues, the way we approach things is often different as night and day. Even in the preparation phase. I pray the coming days prove to be a blessing to you both and your families.

By: Joanne Viola

Joanne Viola — Sat, 07 May 2022 11:56:39 +0000

Congratulations in reaching this milestone! We’re not quite there yet but … will be sooner rather than later 🙂 Your thoughts made me realize how much we need the Lord to navigate every stage of life. And retirement will be no different. So very grateful He leads us step by step. And I’m grateful for people like you, who share the lessons they are learning along the way. Have a Happy Mother’s Day, Lisa!

By: Lois Flowers

Lois Flowers — Sat, 07 May 2022 01:02:31 +0000

Oh Lisa … thank you for this glimpse of what is a ways down the road for me and Randy but will be here before we know it, I’m sure. I can definitely benefit from your realization: “It’s not my job to regulate Jeff’s expectations.” Just lately I have found myself trying to “help” with some issues Randy is facing at work, and I’m realizing yet again that he’s a grown man who will figure it all out in his own way. Basic Relationship 101 is a repeating course, for sure. Happy Retirement to you both!

By: Michele Morin

Michele Morin — Fri, 06 May 2022 13:40:22 +0000

Taking notes…
This is in my near future!

By: Barb Hegreberg

Barb Hegreberg — Wed, 04 May 2022 22:47:24 +0000

I have a similar fear of retirement. What will we do to occupy our time? How soon will we be on each other’s nerves?

Then I think, “this like any other phase of our lives needs to be covered in prayer”.

I’ll be praying for your changes too! ?