I don’t like to cry in public. Maybe a single a tear or two is comfortable. But I don’t like to have a full-on breakdown in a crowd.
It feels so out-of-control.
But when I’m home? And especially if I’m home alone? I let the tears fall as they please.
Tears are cathartic. They cleanse our souls and heal our hearts and reboot our emotions once our eyes empty them out.
Tears aren’t just for women though. Or for children. Seeing a grown man cry is powerfully moving, although more rare.
This below is written by a man, a tender man, a super-intelligent man. If you listen to The Liturgist podcast or Ask Science Mike, you already know Mike McHargue and what an extraordinary human being he is.
Mike says in his book, You’re a Miracle (and a Pain in the A**),
“One week, when she asked me what stopped me from crying, I paused for a moment, and then told her the truth: ‘I’m afraid that if I start, I will never stop.’
I think that’s how lots of people feel about their feelings. We’re afraid that if we get sad, angry, or afraid, those feelings will overwhelm us, and we’ll shatter.
But that’s not how feelings work. Our feelings aren’t here to break us. They’re here to help us—even heal us.
Our feelings can be powerful, especially when we repress them for years or decades. But when we let our feelings happen in response to events in our lives, they don’t crash over us like a tsunami. No, they wash over us like the kind of warm, gentle waves I played in as a kid on Florida’s Gulf Coast beaches. Feelings are meant to have a wave action. They naturally progress, crest, and recede.”
2020 steamrolled onto our planet with a furor, packing quite a punch of strong emotions. I’ve cried a lot the past few months. About continuing racial inequalities. About spiking covid cases. About once-again frustrating political tensions leading up to an election.
It’s not over yet.
I need my tears. God gives them to me on purpose, for my good. I’ll use them.
How about you?
Have you had lots of emotions in 2020, too? Do you cry easily? Or hardly ever? Share in the comments.
My thanks to Net Galley
for the review copy of I’m a Miracle
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