Comments on: How to Stop Being So Negative {Bias Day 4}

By: Richella J Parham

Richella J Parham — Thu, 11 Feb 2021 14:32:34 +0000

This is such an insightful post! And an insightful series, for that matter. I write some in Mythical Me: Finding Freedom from Constant Comparison about how I’ve especially applied a negativity bias to the way I see myself. A negativity bias can really skew the way we see the world! Thanks for the helpful tips.

By: Barb Hegreberg

Barb Hegreberg — Sun, 07 Feb 2021 16:29:00 +0000

I’m loving this series. I’m reading in reverse order.

By: Theresa Boedeker

Theresa Boedeker — Thu, 04 Feb 2021 20:54:08 +0000

I am naturally optimistic. And when I hear people be negative, I often find the positive in the situation and will present it to them. (This may not always be helpful because I might not be affirming their feelings or helping them be heard. And so I am working on this. Really listening to see if their is something deeper behind their negative comments.) But often it helps them see at least one positive thing about their situation. My trouble comes when those closest to me are negative. I tend to rush to solve the problem, which is really theirs to solve, or I take it personally. This is something I have been trying to remind myself of for the past year or so. To not take it personally. Their negativity is not mine to solve or hold onto for them. My assignment: “As we strive to love all people—even the negative ones—may we remember to not take their negativity personal

By: Martha Jane Orlando

Martha Jane Orlando — Thu, 04 Feb 2021 17:59:45 +0000

This really made me reflect on my own attitudes, Lisa. I’m not a negative person, but that doesn’t mean negative thoughts never arise. I’ll be especially conscious of those moments when they do appear, and redirect my attitude.
Blessings!

By: CraftAtticResources

CraftAtticResources — Thu, 04 Feb 2021 15:56:48 +0000

I stopped to read your post because letting go of the negative has been a goal this past year and one I’ve found needs continuous work but the relief and the reward has been worth it.

At the heart of it for me is learning to forgive and move on reminding myself that I bear the burden for carrying the negativity. Most of the negative feelings I carry rarely impact the people I’m feeling frustrated about in the long run. The person who annoyed you that morning likely doesn’t care because they have no idea who you are yet here I am spending precious limited moments of my life dwelling on them and I’m learning to let it go.

By: Beth Steffaniak

Beth Steffaniak — Thu, 04 Feb 2021 15:51:27 +0000

Love this, Lisa! It is something I have to work at every day or I easily slip into negativity and discouragement. I don’t think of myself as a pessimist but more of a realist. But moving toward the problem constantly keeps me focused on the negative. I’m trying to pray more about any complaints I have rather than focusing on them with others. It’s been very helpful in kicking the negativity habit! Thanks for your wise and encouraging words here today! Pinning!

By: Carlie

Carlie — Thu, 04 Feb 2021 14:52:56 +0000

Love this, Lisa! My favorite negativity shield is Philippians 4:8. Now, if I could only choose to use it more often. 🙂

By: Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

Andrew Budek-Schmeisser — Thu, 04 Feb 2021 14:49:19 +0000

I’ve been attacked by hummingbirds
three times, in years gone by,
and now I view the little turds
with a jaundiced eye.
I overlook the ones who flit
around, give no offense,
but won’t forgive, no, not a bit,
and when I see ’em I get tense
expecting sharp and jabbing beak
to again impale my throat,
and thus I find that which I seek,
to cast an angry vote
and somehow feel a glow of pride
in being oh-so-justified.

By: Michele Morin

Michele Morin — Thu, 04 Feb 2021 12:52:38 +0000

Negativity is my default, and I spin it as an eye for improvement, but we all know what’s behind it… ?

By: Anita Ojeda

Anita Ojeda — Thu, 04 Feb 2021 12:30:02 +0000

Once again, Lisa, this is soooo good! I ama 85% upbeat person, but lack of sleep will really bring out my negativity. I also got bought I had pretty decent self-talk—until I realized it was at the expense of other people ?. I am training myself to have positive inner thoughts about others—Not compare myself to others in my head.